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Harddiskng:
“What is important to us as a family”, like what?

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Most women that I have seen use a maid for almost everything, just use them to converse their energy so they can grow fat and round

ariesbull:
- Chief Anayo Nwosu (Ojiakonaobi Nnewi) is a Corporate & Investment Banker based in Lagos

7 June 2026

pocohantas:
Most Nigerians are not armed robbers or prostitutes. I work legally and honourably.

pocohantas:
Most Nigerians are not armed robbers or prostitutes. I work legally and honourably.

WatchYourSix:
What is this one saying seff??

What do you mean by “You’re the one dictating their every move. They don’t get to choose their tasks, you assign them”

Do u do whateva u like when you working for someone?? Of course your employer assigns your task…
Baba... U are just desperate to justify your point… look for another issue to jump on

Esthered:
People can't relate and shouldn't be dignified with a response.

WatchYourSix:
What is this one saying seff??

What do you mean by “You’re the one dictating their every move. They don’t get to choose their tasks, you assign them”

Do u do whateva u like when you working for someone?? Of course your employer assigns your task…
Baba... U are just desperate to justify your point… look for another issue to jump on

Kaczynski:
That's slavery in the 90s. Modern day slavery is utterly different.

You’re overcompensating to mask the fact that you’re treating them like indentured servants basically dangling their future like a carrot on a stick. You’re ensuring they’re always within arm’s reach like a well-trained pet.

You’re the one dictating their every move. They don’t get to choose their tasks, you assign them like a prison warden.


Slavery isn’t just chains and whips, It’s about control. It’s about making someone dependent on you for their livelihood. It’s about treating human beings like resources to be exploited.

This isn’t a job. This is wage slavery with a side of paternalistic bs. You’re not their boss, you’re their warden.

chatinent:
Suitors prefer a wife (maid, mango seller, hair dresser, classic girl, literate, etc). It has nothing to do with being a maid. It's about being able to be a wife.

ariesbull:
- Chief Anayo Nwosu (Ojiakonaobi Nnewi) is a Corporate & Investment Banker based in Lagos

7 June 2026

Lamanii22:
I don't know why some people need maid if it isn't laziness or show off, I don't like the idea at all, my neighbor has a small girl working as a maid, I don't even know the last time that girl went to school, they'd send her on errand even at night, maybe I should even report this to the authority set....

Kaczynski:
That's slavery in the 90s. Modern day slavery is utterly different.

You’re overcompensating to mask the fact that you’re treating them like indentured servants basically dangling their future like a carrot on a stick. You’re ensuring they’re always within arm’s reach like a well-trained pet.

You’re the one dictating their every move. They don’t get to choose their tasks, you assign them like a prison warden.


Slavery isn’t just chains and whips, It’s about control. It’s about making someone dependent on you for their livelihood. It’s about treating human beings like resources to be exploited.

This isn’t a job. This is wage slavery with a side of paternalistic bs. You’re not their boss, you’re their warden.

tollyboy5:
➜If they’re not physically abusing her. Just let them be, but the aspect of her not going to school is something else. Do their own children go to school?

pocohantas:
I have had two house assistants (I rather not call them maid) and I ENJOYED it. I don't encourage using minors for domestic labour, but I employ adults. I also do not do live-in, and my decision to employ one had nothing to do with laziness or show-off. I simply conserved my time and energy for what is most important to us as a family. I would get another once I see a lady I connect with.

pocohantas:
I have had two house assistants (I rather not call them maid) and I ENJOYED it. I don't encourage using minors for domestic labour, but I employ adults. I also do not do live-in, and my decision to employ one had nothing to do with laziness or show-off. I simply conserved my time and energy for what is most important to us as a family. I would get another once I see a lady I connect with.

CodeTemplar:
what do you do for a living?

pocohantas:
Slavery: Slavery is the condition in which one human being is legally owned by another and forced to work without compensation.

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My house assistants work conditions;

1) My two house assistants were adults.

2) They signed a formal contract to work for/with me.

3) Work hours are 9am to 5pm, Mon-Fri, and on days where they worked beyond 6pm, they were paid for extra hours. Mostly days we bulk cooked or had a lot of deep cleaning to do.

4) They were entitled to breakfast and lunch.

5) They handled everything but cooking and caregiving. Errands, sweep, mop, market pickup (I have a shopper, they only pickup from her), iron clothes, clean general areas. They never washed or ironed adult clothes.

6) They were paid above minimum wage. 100k/month to be very specific. N40,000 biweekly. N20,000 was kept aside as their pension, payable with its accumulated interest upon resignation.

7) They both lived within walkable distance. Like a 15mins walk, so they didn't incur transportation cost.


What part of this arrangement was slavery? I am open to learning because this seems like a day job to me and legal domestic staffing have existed in different forms under different names.

MightySparrow:
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However, if you have female children train them for where they are going. No matter how affluent you are and what educational training your daughters have, whoever marries them marries a woman first and expects her to perform the domestic role of a woman. Anything else is addendum.

Apcshit:
Thunder fire the OP of this post

pocohantas:
Every child, male and female, would be trained to tend to themselves and environment.

pocohantas:
Every child, male and female, would be trained to tend to themselves and environment.

Auxtan:
The truth is most times bitter.

MightySparrow:
Agreed. In our society man marries down ( hypogamy) ; girl marries up( hypergamy). Any parents going against such philosophy is wasting the marriage of the daughters from under his roof.
A man can marry that doctor, lawyer, banker, engineer, pharmacist that lacks the training to manage her man.
She would be a Vashti in the palace while the other woman outside is the confidant, the 'real wife'. The delicately, sophisticated one is just a social status woma who would soon become a single mother, divorcee, separated and a career woman. Such woman is a ' strong woman' outwardly but crumbling inside.

Train the girl - child. Sex is no longer a thing to tie any man down. intimacy gadgets are now taking over.

Apcshit:
You just wrote rubbish
Congratulations

SeriouslySense:
what is the score then like 50% or Zero percent.