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"I Have Right To My Privacy"— Man Sends Back Girlfriend For Visiting Unannounced - Romance (2) - Nairaland

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Poll: Should you announce before visiting your boyfriend or girlfriend?

Yes, I will call before going. 70% (17 votes)
No, I will show up unannounced. 29% (7 votes)
This poll has ended

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Re: "I Have Right To My Privacy"— Man Sends Back Girlfriend For Visiting Unannounced by omooba969(m): 9:33pm On Jun 12
Very good!
Re: "I Have Right To My Privacy"— Man Sends Back Girlfriend For Visiting Unannounced by omooba969(m): 9:36pm On Jun 12
HenryStarlife:
smiley This doesn’t look like a man in the first place, that’s just an unemployed misogynist.
Pick me spotted. cool
Re: "I Have Right To My Privacy"— Man Sends Back Girlfriend For Visiting Unannounced by omooba969(m): 9:40pm On Jun 12
SmartMaster001:
That's own standard. Whatever rocks his boat.
But Oga see how you dey peep for window as she dey go?? I no wan hear say you regret losing a good woman if she decides to end the relationship oo.
Lol 😂, did you just say 'good woman'? grin
Re: "I Have Right To My Privacy"— Man Sends Back Girlfriend For Visiting Unannounced by Konjiboii: 9:42pm On Jun 12
Not going to lie I have done this before, at the time I was financially down and needed space to just reason my life, having babe at that time was financially draining, I was managing my little change eating beans and drinking garri, didn't need a babe that will insist on sharwama and parfait and when I say I don't have the funds she will act like I am less of a man, even though she might not say I will see myself as a lesser man. If only women know what men deal with mentally ehn. Relationship no mean say everyday go dey rosy.
Re: "I Have Right To My Privacy"— Man Sends Back Girlfriend For Visiting Unannounced by happney65: 9:44pm On Jun 12
I support it 100 percent. Why she go dey come my house without informing me? What if I just want to be left alone and I don't want to see anybody

Because we are dating doesn't give you any chance to come to my house unannounced. It does NOT

When it's not a case of life and death

Rubbish
Re: "I Have Right To My Privacy"— Man Sends Back Girlfriend For Visiting Unannounced by MaziObinnaokija: 9:47pm On Jun 12
Who be the READY MADE camera man undecided?
CONTENT CREATOR angry cheesy
Re: "I Have Right To My Privacy"— Man Sends Back Girlfriend For Visiting Unannounced by udeh3(m): 9:47pm On Jun 12
If you're not ready for relationship, just remain single. I don't understand the privacy issue for someone you're planning future with

This is a major red flag for me
Re: "I Have Right To My Privacy"— Man Sends Back Girlfriend For Visiting Unannounced by Mariangeles(f): 9:48pm On Jun 12
omooba969:
Very good!
How is that "very good", omooba?

Are you that mean?
Re: "I Have Right To My Privacy"— Man Sends Back Girlfriend For Visiting Unannounced by Funkyswagzz(m): 9:50pm On Jun 12
brain54:
That man doesn't love, respect or value that woman...


If I'm that woman that's the last time I will step my foot in his place.


I'd do same as a man. How can I pay you a surprise visit and you begin to quote law and constitution. I would leave without even saying anything but you would beg me to come again!
This is what she does every time and the guy wants her to stop it. Her behaviour gives a feeling she just want to catch him off guard. Why would a woman constantly monitor a guy she loves. Don't you think it's obsession rather than love?
Re: "I Have Right To My Privacy"— Man Sends Back Girlfriend For Visiting Unannounced by Demigod22: 9:51pm On Jun 12
While growing up, the sweetest part of Christmas was when counting the days your relatives will return to the village from the city. That euphoria was Lovely, I guess that's why I will always prefer someone telling me she's coming instead of coming unannounced.

My girlfriend did it once after I have repeatedly told her that I don't like surprise visits. Inform me first. She was returning from school and decided to show up unannounced, I was angry but I didn't send her back. When she left that evening, I used one hour to lecture her about understanding someone's feelings and decisions. Till date, I will still insist she called before coming. It is the anticipation of your coming that gladdens my heart, when you come I easily get bored.
Re: "I Have Right To My Privacy"— Man Sends Back Girlfriend For Visiting Unannounced by Lumig:
This na man. He sets the tone and standard before he gets too entangled and the mouth of the pig begins to enter the garden . Let other men learn from this
Re: "I Have Right To My Privacy"— Man Sends Back Girlfriend For Visiting Unannounced by LordIsaac(m): 9:52pm On Jun 12
It's a simple thing; they should sit and talk about it.
Re: "I Have Right To My Privacy"— Man Sends Back Girlfriend For Visiting Unannounced by Mariangeles(f): 9:55pm On Jun 12
Lumig:
This na man. He sets the standard before he gets too entangled. Let other men learn from this
Don't try that with a woman you're not willing to lose.
Re: "I Have Right To My Privacy"— Man Sends Back Girlfriend For Visiting Unannounced by Lumig: 9:55pm On Jun 12
God bless you
fykes:
Men should set boundaries and know its not your place to deal and tolerate a woman's insecurities.

Boundaries are a healthy sign of self respect and confidence.
Re: "I Have Right To My Privacy"— Man Sends Back Girlfriend For Visiting Unannounced by 420Explorer: 9:57pm On Jun 12
[quote author=EmmyMaestro post=139683606] are waking up in 2026. By 2030, the hoeflation will inevitably reduce value of women. Now less men are getting married. Those clowns are still believing the lies that they are the prize.
Re: "I Have Right To My Privacy"— Man Sends Back Girlfriend For Visiting Unannounced by correctguy101(m): 9:58pm On Jun 12
HenryStarlife:
smiley This doesn’t look like a man in the first place, that’s just an unemployed misogynist.
E no geh how you wan do am. Misogynistic or not. Crazy or not. Man na man. Or na animal you see there because of all those hairs for the boy face?

Abegi
Re: "I Have Right To My Privacy"— Man Sends Back Girlfriend For Visiting Unannounced by Solofresh2: 9:59pm On Jun 12
One thing I believe in and know is that, for me to date you and have you as my girlfriend,we are one.You can come around anytime you want.Because I believe for you to come around without me paying a dime for your T fare, it's something.
I love my privacy too but for a lady that loves me and for my mother,I don't have a problem with them coming around my space or privacy
Re: "I Have Right To My Privacy"— Man Sends Back Girlfriend For Visiting Unannounced by correctguy101(m): 10:00pm On Jun 12
MarketDispatch:
How can you give someone spare key to you apartment and still be telling the person to call if you are home? What is the purpose of spare key? Why will I have spare key and be calling?
Awonda o...

Or his brain dey pain am.

Who knows if na Al these useless content creators...
Re: "I Have Right To My Privacy"— Man Sends Back Girlfriend For Visiting Unannounced by Heffalump(m): 10:04pm On Jun 12
brain54:
I'm a man and personally if I block a girl I'm dating from entering my home...
It means I do not love or value her. I don't even respect her. Simple.
There is a way I would convey my feelings to her if I'm unsatisfied about her sudden appearance. They are ways to handle such... respectfully.
People think differently I agree. But if I stand at my door and prevent you from entering just know that it's time for you to move on even if I haven't told you so orally.
It's even difficult for me to threat someone I'm not dating that way!
He is a man with standards. Remember he has Warned and cautioned her several times, but she keeps repeating the habit. This shows that the moment they both get married the woman will be uncontrollable.
He's a man of principles.
Re: "I Have Right To My Privacy"— Man Sends Back Girlfriend For Visiting Unannounced by Mandate1: 10:06pm On Jun 12
brain54:
That man doesn't love, respect or value that woman...


If I'm that woman that's the last time I will step my foot in his place.


I'd do same as a man. How can I pay you a surprise visit and you begin to quote law and constitution. I would leave without even saying anything but you would beg me to come again!
that guy is a cheat
Re: "I Have Right To My Privacy"— Man Sends Back Girlfriend For Visiting Unannounced by tollyboy5(m): 10:18pm On Jun 12
HenryStarlife:
smiley This doesn’t look like a man in the first place, that’s just an unemployed misogynist.
What’s your problem? He set his standard. That’s what rocks his boat.
If she’s not please she end the relationship.
Let’s learn to work with standards
Re: "I Have Right To My Privacy"— Man Sends Back Girlfriend For Visiting Unannounced by tollyboy5(m): 10:23pm On Jun 12
Diamond098454:
Still, he would have handled it differently.
I think he handled it the best way he could.
Re: "I Have Right To My Privacy"— Man Sends Back Girlfriend For Visiting Unannounced by Azazyel: 10:30pm On Jun 12
Content creators at it again. Always seeking attention
Re: "I Have Right To My Privacy"— Man Sends Back Girlfriend For Visiting Unannounced by gassbee: 10:32pm On Jun 12
Babe just leave dat disrespectful and serial cheat and pray for someone better
Re: "I Have Right To My Privacy"— Man Sends Back Girlfriend For Visiting Unannounced by Diamond098454(f): 10:34pm On Jun 12
No no no
I don't think so.
tollyboy5:
I think he handled it the best way he could.
Re: "I Have Right To My Privacy"— Man Sends Back Girlfriend For Visiting Unannounced by gassbee: 10:36pm On Jun 12
Dont ever let a man undervalue you
Re: "I Have Right To My Privacy"— Man Sends Back Girlfriend For Visiting Unannounced by omooba969(m): 10:51pm On Jun 12
Mariangeles:
How is that "very good", omooba?

Are you that mean?
People should learn to respect boundaries and personal space.
Re: "I Have Right To My Privacy"— Man Sends Back Girlfriend For Visiting Unannounced by Emeskhalifa(m): 10:56pm On Jun 12
brain54:
I'm a man and personally if I block a girl I'm dating from entering my home...


It means I do not love or value her. I don't even respect her. Simple.



There is a way I would convey my feelings to her if I'm unsatisfied about her sudden appearance. They are ways to handle such... respectfully.


People think differently I agree. But if I stand at my door and prevent you from entering just know that it's time for you to move on even if I haven't told you so orally.


It's even difficult for me to threat someone I'm not dating that way!
But you heard him said he has told her before to stop showing up unannounced
Re: "I Have Right To My Privacy"— Man Sends Back Girlfriend For Visiting Unannounced by Mattswaggz: 11:01pm On Jun 12
Diamond098454:
Still, he would have handled it differently.
Tell us the "differently" you're talking about. undecided .
Re: "I Have Right To My Privacy"— Man Sends Back Girlfriend For Visiting Unannounced by lightwind(m): 11:09pm On Jun 12
IGBO man my brother! my brother!


At least your house looks nice, beautiful, mature, rich guy...
Re: "I Have Right To My Privacy"— Man Sends Back Girlfriend For Visiting Unannounced by motymop: 11:25pm On Jun 12
The man is right

They are not married,c why should she be coming unannounced

I love that he is setting boundaries
Re: "I Have Right To My Privacy"— Man Sends Back Girlfriend For Visiting Unannounced by saintmm(m): 12:22am On Jun 13
Well, I don't know much about other things but I think not loving her is the least of things. The guy had told her before not to do it, so, doing it means do your worst and the man responded with action saying I can't cope with a woman that cannot respect my unharmful decision.
We are all wired differently and had experienced different things which shaped our current decision.
Besides, do you know the health condition of the lady, or the guy? Do you know if the guy is broke and has planned how to arrange himself before things balance again? All of a sudden a responsibility give you surprised visit? Are you sure the guy is not planning to go on a trip and never want to leave anyone behind in his apartment for peace of mind sake? Many reasons can make the guy act like that.
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