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Re: Should I Agree With No Sex Before Marriage With My Non Virgin Girlfriend by esnbrutality:
1st...

Are you really serious about marrying her?

2nd..

With all these conditions, just know that in marriage, she will still use sex to condition you.

3rd...

If you want your leverage...tell her that she must be pregnant before you commence marriage rites. Dont trust these GIRls nowadays. Good girls dey but LIONs full street.

4th..

If you dont establish your wants and boundaries now, you will be in a depression and you will start running from your home, instead of happily running home to see your wife.


5th

Do not let any woman CONDITION you..love her sincerely but treat her shortcomings effectively. Dont beat her ooo..just let her know , who is Boss.

6th.....
Do Blood compatibility tests, so you know your blood group and types are compatible for child birth. You dont need to give birth to a sickle cell child and bring suffering into their lives and stress on yours.

7th...

Do STD tests. If she is infected and its treatable it doesnt mean anything as women carry alot of STDs because of their exposed body parts. If her hygiene is top notch, lucky you. ..but do the tests. Even you yourself should do tests and clean your body, before ypu blame village people if vhild bearing is delayed due to infection.

8th

Any woman that claims "whatever" to deny you sex before marriage DOESN'T love YOU, as you LOVE her. If a woman LOVES you truly, she will smash you senselessly and makessure to do everything to enter marriage.

Take care

Nuff Said
Re: Should I Agree With No Sex Before Marriage With My Non Virgin Girlfriend by ayo2008: 12:57pm On Jun 16
uyams:
Please 🙏 nairalanders I need advice
When we started talking newly, she told me she was a virgin, during the cause of our intimate chat's,she said she has never had sex but was abused by a youth copper attached to her secondary school.I didnt buy the story but I had to play along.

I want to marry her by August/September, .But my problem is she said no sex till after marriage,we involve in deep romance and even go fully unclad but she wont allow penetration, I threatened it would be an issue for us but she doesnt care, who has experienced such? , how do I handle this?
Is she playing a good girl card for me while living another version elsewhere? I dont know anything about her apart from the one she show's me and told me?

I have been exposed to many alpha male teaching online's that I I'm confused weather I should apply here all play along and wait till after our wedding

Note: I have bent many rule's including marrying a Non-virgine and marrying outside my hometown just for her, why can't she reciprocate
SAY NO TO PRE-MARITAL SEX....WHY THE RUSH? YOU GO HAVE SEX TIRE WHEN U MARRY...GOD HATES FORNICATION .
Re: Should I Agree With No Sex Before Marriage With My Non Virgin Girlfriend by IbileIfe: 1:00pm On Jun 16
Please, go for a fertility and STDs tests before marriage.

Almighty God saved me more than 22 years ago when I wanted to have sex with a beautiful girlfriend.
On the very day I made up my mind to do it, I met her on her way to a WHO medical centre in Yaba, Lagos. So, I escorted her.
She had medical diagnosis that showed that she had syphilis!
She confessed that she was having sex with other guys on and off campus.
I advised her to let them know to stop the spread of the contagious disease.
Then I left her.

She later said I abandoned her.
I said I had to leave, because she was promiscuous without my knowledge and I thanked Almighty God I delayed having sex with her.
Re: Should I Agree With No Sex Before Marriage With My Non Virgin Girlfriend by kingthreat(m): 1:00pm On Jun 16
If she's being celibate for religious reasons, then respect that. If that's not the case, then it's fishy.
If at the end you agree, let her know that during marriage you will not be sex-starved ooo.
Re: Should I Agree With No Sex Before Marriage With My Non Virgin Girlfriend by bonetalk(m): 1:00pm On Jun 16
uyams:
Please 🙏 nairalanders I need advice
When we started talking newly, she told me she was a virgin, during the cause of our intimate chat's,she said she has never had sex but was abused by a youth copper attached to her secondary school.I didnt buy the story but I had to play along.

I want to marry her by August/September, .But my problem is she said no sex till after marriage,we involve in deep romance and even go fully unclad but she wont allow penetration, I threatened it would be an issue for us but she doesnt care, who has experienced such? , how do I handle this?
Is she playing a good girl card for me while living another version elsewhere? I dont know anything about her apart from the one she show's me and told me?

I have been exposed to many alpha male teaching online's that I I'm confused weather I should apply here all play along and wait till after our wedding

Note: I have bent many rule's including marrying a Non-virgine and marrying outside my hometown just for her, why can't she reciprocate
Bro, this is not the right place to seek for such advice,
you will be misled
Re: Should I Agree With No Sex Before Marriage With My Non Virgin Girlfriend by esnbrutality: 1:01pm On Jun 16
In Summary, she doesn't love you, as you LOVE her. Simple grin

uyams:
Please 🙏 nairalanders I need advice
When we started talking newly, she told me she was a virgin, during the cause of our intimate chat's,she said she has never had sex but was abused by a youth copper attached to her secondary school.I didnt buy the story but I had to play along.

I want to marry her by August/September, .But my problem is she said no sex till after marriage,we involve in deep romance and even go fully unclad but she wont allow penetration, I threatened it would be an issue for us but she doesnt care, who has experienced such? , how do I handle this?
Is she playing a good girl card for me while living another version elsewhere? I dont know anything about her apart from the one she show's me and told me?

I have been exposed to many alpha male teaching online's that I I'm confused weather I should apply here all play along and wait till after our wedding

Note: I have bent many rule's including marrying a Non-virgine and marrying outside my hometown just for her, why can't she reciprocate
Re: Should I Agree With No Sex Before Marriage With My Non Virgin Girlfriend by izombie(m): 1:01pm On Jun 16
If i tell you how many times these girls don tell me say somebody forced themselves to disvirgin i for don become billionaire.
Re: Should I Agree With No Sex Before Marriage With My Non Virgin Girlfriend by kenchop: 1:02pm On Jun 16
Be sure she's not getting the sex elsewhere. Don't go sleeping on a bike bro.
Re: Should I Agree With No Sex Before Marriage With My Non Virgin Girlfriend by Food4Thought: 1:03pm On Jun 16
You dey play with the future of your marriage.
You guys should know your sexual abilities.
Make sure you knack her well before marriage.
Re: Should I Agree With No Sex Before Marriage With My Non Virgin Girlfriend by SonOfDSoil01: 1:03pm On Jun 16
NOGRUDGES:
When una marry you sure say you go get her kpekus?

una never marry she dey hoard kpekus, when una marry unko, na to monopolize am permanently to your detriment grin grin grin
😂😂😂😂 it’s the hoard for me……this one off me grin

Re: Should I Agree With No Sex Before Marriage With My Non Virgin Girlfriend by Majdddd: 1:06pm On Jun 16
At the end what if she's not a virgin
Re: Should I Agree With No Sex Before Marriage With My Non Virgin Girlfriend by terrezo2002(m): 1:06pm On Jun 16
Imagine she is your daughter and then one man was promising her wedding, but she must have sex first. She said no sex until after wedding and the man says No, it has to be done now unless they will have issues. Then you find out. What will you do?
Support the man or support your daughter
Re: Should I Agree With No Sex Before Marriage With My Non Virgin Girlfriend by Didi2d(m): 1:06pm On Jun 16
From experience, baba no agree o. I would have advice you to call off the relationship sef. That might just be a sign of chronic pretender.
But based on say I no no the lady in person and I don't really know her character make I no talk too much.
But make I ask, is she a spiritual person? Like confirm and proven born again or she just felt you guys should wait till marriage?
Re: Should I Agree With No Sex Before Marriage With My Non Virgin Girlfriend by Wealthoptulent(m): 1:07pm On Jun 16
NOGRUDGES:
When una marry you sure say you go get her kpekus?

una never marry she dey hoard kpekus, when una marry unko, na to monopolize am permanently to your detriment grin grin grin
HE WILL BE BAck on new THREAD.. CHAKAM i don save him name

Re: Should I Agree With No Sex Before Marriage With My Non Virgin Girlfriend by qualitymart: 1:07pm On Jun 16
uyams:
Please 🙏 nairalanders I need advice
When we started talking newly, she told me she was a virgin, during the cause of our intimate chat's,she said she has never had sex but was abused by a youth copper attached to her secondary school.I didnt buy the story but I had to play along.

I want to marry her by August/September, .But my problem is she said no sex till after marriage,we involve in deep romance and even go fully unclad but she wont allow penetration, I threatened it would be an issue for us but she doesnt care, who has experienced such? , how do I handle this?
Is she playing a good girl card for me while living another version elsewhere? I dont know anything about her apart from the one she show's me and told me?

I have been exposed to many alpha male teaching online's that I I'm confused weather I should apply here all play along and wait till after our wedding

Note: I have bent many rule's including marrying a Non-virgine and marrying outside my hometown just for her, why can't she reciprocate
1. Do a fertility test on her
2. Do all necessary STDs test on her
3. Ask her to provide evidence of a reported case when the corper abused her

If she pass the 3 aforementioned, go ahead but if not please think twice
Re: Should I Agree With No Sex Before Marriage With My Non Virgin Girlfriend by TemmyT002(m): 1:07pm On Jun 16
If you are 100 percent sure she is a virgin and not cheating on you
Re: Should I Agree With No Sex Before Marriage With My Non Virgin Girlfriend by MarketDispatch: 1:09pm On Jun 16
uyams:
Please 🙏 nairalanders I need advice
t for her, why can't she reciprocate
Anything you want to know is in her WhatsApp chats with whoever she's chatting with...mostly her bestie
Re: Should I Agree With No Sex Before Marriage With My Non Virgin Girlfriend by Didi2d(m): 1:09pm On Jun 16
izombie:
If i tell you how many times these girls don tell me say somebody forced themselves to disvirgin i for don become billionaire.
😆 🤣 😆 😆 😆 😆
This man abeg stop stop! You don make me burst laugh for where I dey now.
That why any girl wey don talk this kind thing, i no dey trust dem
Re: Should I Agree With No Sex Before Marriage With My Non Virgin Girlfriend by Didi2d(m): 1:10pm On Jun 16
izombie:
If i tell you how many times these girls don tell me say somebody forced themselves to disvirgin i for don become billionaire.
😆 🤣 😆 😆 😆 😆
This man abeg stop stop! You don make me burst laugh for where I dey now.
That why any girl wey don talk this kind thing, i no dey trust dem
Re: Should I Agree With No Sex Before Marriage With My Non Virgin Girlfriend by pocohantas(f): 1:13pm On Jun 16
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HopeNeverDies:
Lmao… I’m almost 30yo. One thing I’m certain of over the years in relationship scene is that “ Ladies only give Conditions to someone they don’t Love “

Forget bout being unclad together lol… if a girl is giving you conditions in a relationship, she’s most likely doesn’t rate you.
Naso. Naija men and their obsession with controlling women's vagina. Ladies only give conditions to who they don't love indeed. Yet same ladies are constantly shamed for sexual relations with the men they supposedly "loved".

The ones that didn't give you conditions in your almost 30yrs, take 🎤 and tell me what you have done for them.
Re: Should I Agree With No Sex Before Marriage With My Non Virgin Girlfriend by Nickymichy(m): 1:15pm On Jun 16
my take on issue of marriage is that, you can never be be too careful to make the right or wrong decision. Just do the right thing. Stay away from premarital sex and always pray for good home. Even with what I stated above, there's no guarantee that you will have a good marriage. If two people want there marriage to work,bit will work that's it
Re: Should I Agree With No Sex Before Marriage With My Non Virgin Girlfriend by 43Ronin: 1:16pm On Jun 16
Be like OP wan raise anoda man pikin as him first son/daughter. cheesy grin
Re: Should I Agree With No Sex Before Marriage With My Non Virgin Girlfriend by pepericozi: 1:17pm On Jun 16
You have not penetrated for once and you are saying *Non-virgin lady. Can you explain how you get to know that?
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Re: Should I Agree With No Sex Before Marriage With My Non Virgin Girlfriend by HopeNeverDies(m): 1:18pm On Jun 16
pocohantas:
I

Naso. Naija men and their obsession with controlling women's vagina. Ladies only give conditions to who they don't love indeed. Yet same ladies are constantly shamed for sexual relations with the men they supposedly "loved".

The ones that didn't give you conditions in your almost 30yrs, take 🎤 and tell me what you have done for them.
Lmao…I’m a responsible nigga, I don’t jump from girls to girls… I dated a single girl throughout my university days, thou we aren’t together no more due to issues upon issues… I’m responsible lol… no smokes, no drugs , I do give my all so yeah I gave them my all… they didn’t give me conditions, neither of them… i was just saying coz I been in situations where girls give my guys conditions and that same girl was knackin about side nigga… lol
Re: Should I Agree With No Sex Before Marriage With My Non Virgin Girlfriend by pocohantas(f): 1:20pm On Jun 16
HopeNeverDies:
Lmao…I’m a responsible nigga, I don’t jump from girls to girls… I dated a single girl throughout my university days, thou we aren’t together no more due to issues upon issues… I’m responsible lol… no smokes, no drugs , I do give my all so yeah I gave them my all… they didn’t give me conditions, neither of them… i was just saying coz I been in situations where girls give my guys conditions and that same girl was knackin about side nigga… lol
You are not together anymore as ecpected. I hope your future wife is spreading it wide and not giving conditions to every guy she "rates" before you marry her. Una go just dey cap because of lack of acess to vagina.
Re: Should I Agree With No Sex Before Marriage With My Non Virgin Girlfriend by iykololo(m): 1:22pm On Jun 16
uyams:
Please 🙏 nairalanders I need advice
When we started talking newly, she told me she was a virgin, during the cause of our intimate chat's,she said she has never had sex but was abused by a youth copper attached to her secondary school.I didnt buy the story but I had to play along.

I want to marry her by August/September, .But my problem is she said no sex till after marriage,we involve in deep romance and even go fully unclad but she wont allow penetration, I threatened it would be an issue for us but she doesnt care, who has experienced such? , how do I handle this?
Is she playing a good girl card for me while living another version elsewhere? I dont know anything about her apart from the one she show's me and told me?

I have been exposed to many alpha male teaching online's that I I'm confused weather I should apply here all play along and wait till after our wedding

Note: I have bent many rule's including marrying a Non-virgine and marrying outside my hometown just for her, why can't she reciprocate
Keep your money too.
Re: Should I Agree With No Sex Before Marriage With My Non Virgin Girlfriend by Meteng: 1:22pm On Jun 16
WatchYourSix:
Shes just playing good girl card/script with you…... and I can tell u for free that women dont uphold rules and regulation for men they are really crazy about …. So baba.. that card is a smoke screen

Telling you another guy/ex is somewhere spreading the leg would be a fallacy, but baba, thats what happens more than 90% of the time when a sexually active woman says to another serious guy she doesn’t want sex until marriage…

Just open ur eyes shaa…. If a woman is trying to play good girl card… then shes likely covering something she doesnt want you to see
Na when him don marry the girl finish, make him jump inside borehole, him go shock. Na that time the girl go remind am say,” Shebi she tell you say one youth corper abuse am back then?” Make OP dey play
Re: Should I Agree With No Sex Before Marriage With My Non Virgin Girlfriend by nwakibie3(m): 1:23pm On Jun 16
Make Gehgeh no see this your post ooo
Re: Should I Agree With No Sex Before Marriage With My Non Virgin Girlfriend by GodHimself(m): 1:24pm On Jun 16
Don't agree.

uyams:
Please 🙏 nairalanders I need advice
When we started talking newly, she told me she was a virgin, during the cause of our intimate chat's,she said she has never had sex but was abused by a youth copper attached to her secondary school.I didnt buy the story but I had to play along.

I want to marry her by August/September, .But my problem is she said no sex till after marriage,we involve in deep romance and even go fully unclad but she wont allow penetration, I threatened it would be an issue for us but she doesnt care, who has experienced such? , how do I handle this?
Is she playing a good girl card for me while living another version elsewhere? I dont know anything about her apart from the one she show's me and told me?

I have been exposed to many alpha male teaching online's that I I'm confused weather I should apply here all play along and wait till after our wedding

Note: I have bent many rule's including marrying a Non-virgine and marrying outside my hometown just for her, why can't she reciprocate
Re: Should I Agree With No Sex Before Marriage With My Non Virgin Girlfriend by AKWATGOLD1(m): 1:24pm On Jun 16
Believe woman at your own detriment.
uyams:
Please 🙏 nairalanders I need advice
When we started talking newly, she told me she was a virgin, during the cause of our intimate chat's,she said she has never had sex but was abused by a youth copper attached to her secondary school.I didnt buy the story but I had to play along.

I want to marry her by August/September, .But my problem is she said no sex till after marriage,we involve in deep romance and even go fully unclad but she wont allow penetration, I threatened it would be an issue for us but she doesnt care, who has experienced such? , how do I handle this?
Is she playing a good girl card for me while living another version elsewhere? I dont know anything about her apart from the one she show's me and told me?

I have been exposed to many alpha male teaching online's that I I'm confused weather I should apply here all play along and wait till after our wedding

Note: I have bent many rule's including marrying a Non-virgine and marrying outside my hometown just for her, why can't she reciprocate
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