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Sonnobax15:

Sweetest truth.

But majority of these modern Nigerian bannies aren't wired to be at the giving end.

Now, imagine being with a banny who sees that gifting her man a gift oh his birthday as something that she must be reminded of . But when it comes to her own uselex birthday, she'd be expected the same man to pull all strings just to make her happy

Nigerian bannies go just make relationship tire you as a guyman.

Dpsychologist:
When it's her birthday you are to spend on her. When it's your birthday, she will be asking you what do you have for her or where are you taking her to.

fattprince:
One day I left my babe at home to collect phone. I left her with my siblings. But as it would happen I returned very late, and she was angry that she would not talk to me after I apologized and explained to her why I was late. I had to go outside to meet my sister to know if she had eaten, as I've eaten from where I went to collect the phone. I was told she hasn't eaten, I thought that's why she was angry so I went back to her to ask her what she would like to eat, she still didn't reply. But one of my sisters suggests I give her money to buy snacks for my babe, I gave her the money she went to buy the snacks. So I started trying to patronise my babe again but she just wouldn't talk. I was not feeling too well due to boil I had, then my sister came back and gave her the snack which she thanked her for on top say na me drop money o. As I saw she was not going to succumb, I left her lied down turning my back( as I was not feeling sick, I wanted to sleep then I know she wouldn't be angry by morning) but the way i turned my back she thought I was angry so she immediately pulled me back and ask if i was angry, i told her i wasn't that the boil is really inconveniencing me and i just want to sleep off. Next thing she did was offering me out of the snack (just two pack of that WAO cake) she cut out of it and put it in my mouth. I was so happy even though I bought it for her, and she offered me because she thought I haven't eaten and she heard when I told my sister all I had on me was #400 to buy the 2 snacks for her.

Ihebu4chelsea:
what sort of story is this?

fattprince:
One day I left my babe at home to collect phone. I left her with my siblings. But as it would happen I returned very late, and she was angry that she would not talk to me after I apologized and explained to her why I was late. I had to go outside to meet my sister to know if she had eaten, as I've eaten from where I went to collect the phone. I was told she hasn't eaten, I thought that's why she was angry so I went back to her to ask her what she would like to eat, she still didn't reply. But one of my sisters suggests I give her money to buy snacks for my babe, I gave her the money she went to buy the snacks. So I started trying to patronise my babe again but she just wouldn't talk. I was not feeling too well due to boil I had, then my sister came back and gave her the snack which she thanked her for on top say na me drop money o. As I saw she was not going to succumb, I left her lied down turning my back( as I was not feeling sick, I wanted to sleep then I know she wouldn't be angry by morning) but the way i turned my back she thought I was angry so she immediately pulled me back and ask if i was angry, i told her i wasn't that the boil is really inconveniencing me and i just want to sleep off. Next thing she did was offering me out of the snack (just two pack of that WAO cake) she cut out of it and put it in my mouth. I was so happy even though I bought it for her, and she offered me because she thought I haven't eaten and she heard when I told my sister all I had on me was #400 to buy the 2 snacks for her.

fattprince:
One day I left my babe at home to collect phone. I left her with my siblings. But as it would happen I returned very late, and she was angry that she would not talk to me after I apologized and explained to her why I was late. I had to go outside to meet my sister to know if she had eaten, as I've eaten from where I went to collect the phone. I was told she hasn't eaten, I thought that's why she was angry so I went back to her to ask her what she would like to eat, she still didn't reply. But one of my sisters suggests I give her money to buy snacks for my babe, I gave her the money she went to buy the snacks. So I started trying to patronise my babe again but she just wouldn't talk. I was not feeling too well due to boil I had, then my sister came back and gave her the snack which she thanked her for on top say na me drop money o. As I saw she was not going to succumb, I left her lied down turning my back( as I was not feeling sick, I wanted to sleep then I know she wouldn't be angry by morning) but the way i turned my back she thought I was angry so she immediately pulled me back and ask if i was angry, i told her i wasn't that the boil is really inconveniencing me and i just want to sleep off. Next thing she did was offering me out of the snack (just two pack of that WAO cake) she cut out of it and put it in my mouth. I was so happy even though I bought it for her, and she offered me because she thought I haven't eaten and she heard when I told my sister all I had on me was #400 to buy the 2 snacks for her.

fattprince:
One day I left my babe at home to collect phone. I left her with my siblings. But as it would happen I returned very late, and she was angry that she would not talk to me after I apologized and explained to her why I was late. I had to go outside to meet my sister to know if she had eaten, as I've eaten from where I went to collect the phone. I was told she hasn't eaten, I thought that's why she was angry so I went back to her to ask her what she would like to eat, she still didn't reply. But one of my sisters suggests I give her money to buy snacks for my babe, I gave her the money she went to buy the snacks. So I started trying to patronise my babe again but she just wouldn't talk. I was not feeling too well due to boil I had, then my sister came back and gave her the snack which she thanked her for on top say na me drop money o. As I saw she was not going to succumb, I left her lied down turning my back( as I was not feeling sick, I wanted to sleep then I know she wouldn't be angry by morning) but the way i turned my back she thought I was angry so she immediately pulled me back and ask if i was angry, i told her i wasn't that the boil is really inconveniencing me and i just want to sleep off. Next thing she did was offering me out of the snack (just two pack of that WAO cake) she cut out of it and put it in my mouth. I was so happy even though I bought it for her, and she offered me because she thought I haven't eaten and she heard when I told my sister all I had on me was #400 to buy the 2 snacks for her.

fattprince:
One day I left my babe at home to collect phone. I left her with my siblings. But as it would happen I returned very late, and she was angry that she would not talk to me after I apologized and explained to her why I was late. I had to go outside to meet my sister to know if she had eaten, as I've eaten from where I went to collect the phone. I was told she hasn't eaten, I thought that's why she was angry so I went back to her to ask her what she would like to eat, she still didn't reply. But one of my sisters suggests I give her money to buy snacks for my babe, I gave her the money she went to buy the snacks. So I started trying to patronise my babe again but she just wouldn't talk. I was not feeling too well due to boil I had, then my sister came back and gave her the snack which she thanked her for on top say na me drop money o. As I saw she was not going to succumb, I left her lied down turning my back( as I was not feeling sick, I wanted to sleep then I know she wouldn't be angry by morning) but the way i turned my back she thought I was angry so she immediately pulled me back and ask if i was angry, i told her i wasn't that the boil is really inconveniencing me and i just want to sleep off. Next thing she did was offering me out of the snack (just two pack of that WAO cake) she cut out of it and put it in my mouth. I was so happy even though I bought it for her, and she offered me because she thought I haven't eaten and she heard when I told my sister all I had on me was #400 to buy the 2 snacks for her.

Dpsychologist:
A recent discussion online in a relationship group exposed something many people rarely talk about.

Many men are so accustomed to spending money, planning dates, buying gifts, paying bills, and making sacrifices for women that the moment a woman does something thoughtful for them, it becomes a memory they never forget.

Think about that for a second.

A woman receives money and gifts regularly, and nobody thinks twice about it. A man receives a birthday gift from a woman once, and he remembers it for years.

One man said a woman once gifted him ₦30,000 on his birthday. The money itself was not life changing and probably could not even last long in his account, but years later he still remembers the gesture like it happened yesterday.

Another said no woman had ever taken him on a date before. His dream date was not a luxury restaurant or a five star hotel. He said a movie ticket and popcorn would have been enough to make his day.

Several others admitted that a simple suya date, shawarma outing, haircut appointment, shirt from a boutique, or even buying them a drink would genuinely make them happy.

Why?

This is because many men are raised with the belief that their value comes from what they can provide. Society expects them to spend, protect, solve problems, and carry burdens. Very few people ever ask what they need emotionally or financially .

Many women do not realize how uncommon it is for men to receive thoughtful gestures.

Some men have spent years paying for dates, buying gifts, settling bills, sending transport money, and showing up for people. Yet nobody has ever thought to do something similar for them.

This is why what may seem small to a woman can feel massive to a man.

The gift is rarely the point but the effort is. The money is rarely the point. The thought is. Many men are not starving for luxury. They are starving for appreciation.

Perhaps one of the most misunderstood truths about relationships is that men are often easier to impress than people think. Not because their standards are low, but because genuine acts of care directed towards them are surprisingly rare.

A lot of men are carrying memories of simple gestures because those moments reminded them of something they do not experience often which is, "what it feels like to be appreciated instead of expected"

fattprince:
One day I left my babe at home to collect phone. I left her with my siblings. But as it would happen I returned very late, and she was angry that she would not talk to me after I apologized and explained to her why I was late. I had to go outside to meet my sister to know if she had eaten, as I've eaten from where I went to collect the phone. I was told she hasn't eaten, I thought that's why she was angry so I went back to her to ask her what she would like to eat, she still didn't reply. But one of my sisters suggests I give her money to buy snacks for my babe, I gave her the money she went to buy the snacks. So I started trying to patronise my babe again but she just wouldn't talk. I was not feeling too well due to boil I had, then my sister came back and gave her the snack which she thanked her for on top say na me drop money o. As I saw she was not going to succumb, I left her lied down turning my back( as I was not feeling sick, I wanted to sleep then I know she wouldn't be angry by morning) but the way i turned my back she thought I was angry so she immediately pulled me back and ask if i was angry, i told her i wasn't that the boil is really inconveniencing me and i just want to sleep off. Next thing she did was offering me out of the snack (just two pack of that WAO cake) she cut out of it and put it in my mouth. I was so happy even though I bought it for her, and she offered me because she thought I haven't eaten and she heard when I told my sister all I had on me was #400 to buy the 2 snacks for her.

elevated2:
In my opinion, it is more of a Nigerian/ West African thing. I might be wrong.
Back in the days it wasn't always like this.

The more you act like a man, you make a man take the back seat.

Never help a man too much, you will kill his hunting spirit.

a woman is a man who doesn't have to be a man.

a man is a woman who is not allowed to be a woman.

Back then, my mum had already started seeing her as my future wife. Everyone thought that was where my life was headed but life had other plans.

That relationship taught me a lesson I will never forget: money has a way of revealing people's true character. Some people change when you have money and some change when you don't.

I won't lie, that experience left a mark on me. For a long time, I stopped believing in love altogether.

Then I met Ivy.

Not just someone who listened to me but someone who genuinely understood me. The kind of woman who gives you peace without even trying. The kind that makes you feel safe, valued, and at home.

One day, I took her shopping. I picked out plenty of things for her but she only chose two items. They were expensive, but before I could even reach for my wallet, she paid for them herself.

When we got home, I surprised her by giving her three times the amount she spent. Why? Because she makes me happy.

I was the one who made our relationship public, not her. Ivy is naturally private. She's quiet, different and comfortable with a simple life.

While some people may want constant outings and attention, Ivy can be happy with fruits at home and good company.

She doesn't compete with other women. She doesn't compare herself to anyone. She's independent, hardworking and still carries herself with respect and humility.

Honestly, when you find a woman like that, you don't just love her... You become a better man because of her"

jeff1993:
So true ....

My Ex then raised the bench mark for any lady I will think of marrying in the future. Mehn that girl is a giver!!

She subscribes data for me without me asking, she credits me without me asking or even needing it. When I ask her she will say she did it cos she was doing hers then. There is no time sh is coming to my side that she won't either get food for me or get snacks we will eat. The fancy key holder she playfully got me as a birthday gift is one of the most treasured gift I have received in my life.

Sadly death took her away from me .... Justina anywhere u are, u will always be my number one. You made me know good women are indeed very rare.