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I'm so happy I got married 12 years ago.

Scary to imagine still being in the dating pool by this time.

God forbid.

In 2011 of so, while dating my wife, when I bought her a Samsung mini laptop (N75,000.00), she refused to accept it. In fact, we had an issue over it. She was angry that I got her something that costly.

When she finally accepted it (the next day), she went straight to her mum to show her. Her mum rang me, asking me how I got the money to buy such an expensive item for her.

Toolegit123:
Good evening everyone.

Lately, so I decided it was high time I tried my luck with other ladies since my fiancee broke up with me. I must really confess, it has been hectic after meeting a couple of single ladies.

The first lady, a lady of 27 years was the first one I encountered and she was introduced to me by my cousin. M After texting and chatting on Whatsapp for a week, we decided to finally meet. We booked a date and I paid for her transport. On the day of our date, I noticed she wasn't paying attention to everything I was saying and that really killed the vibes I was expecting from our first date. Funny and awkward thing was that she didn't even spend more than 20 minutes on the date and I was the only one asking all the questions. After she left, I only called her to make sure she got home safely and afterward, I didn't bother to call or text her because that wasn't the kind of relationship I wanted.

Then, what actually buried the whole thing was that, even after everything, I was trying to build up a relationship with her even though I wasn't really feeling the vibes. The question that dug the final grave was--"Since the day I left your place, you haven't sent me any money for food and upkeep".

At first, I kept quiet for a while and then replied her--"haven't you been eating before we met?". That was when hell was let lose. The insults I received on that day from her were so much and annoying that the only way I thought I could pay her back was to block her ASAP.

This lady was someone who had her own hairdressing saloon business and I thought I could build something meaningful with her. But to my greatest surprise, she wasn't different from the hungry, younger ladies out there.

I don't think I will commence on my mission on the dating pool from now on because it seems most of these ladies nowadays are hungry and only looking for men who will bail them out of their poverty

So single guys in the house, has anyone of you had a similar experience with single ladies?

Brother let me give you an advice.
Seems you are doing well for yourself
The next work leave you get, go to benin republic Togo or Cameroon(more preferable they speak English).. they have very very cheap hotels decent guest in for about 5000 naira or even less for a day.
Enjoy the ambience of the country. Meet their women , oga if you don't find your missing rib in any of dis African country ? Calculate all you spent with proof and I will refund you your money for wasting your time..
My wife is from Guinea Bissau , she's highly educated, and she worship the ground that I walk on.. I provide for her and she appreciates every single dalasi I give to her.
She doesn't nag.
Shes family oriented.
Her family treat me like a biological son without me trying to impress them.
Nigerian women will stain your white with their entitlement mentality.
There are still some good ones left , but they don't come in the type of body that you want.
I wish you good luck my guy

Merry100:
In the past, I blamed these little internet keyboard warriors for being unnecessarily insensitive to women. But now that I know better, I no longer blame them.

Many people, especially women in societies where dependence is encouraged, end up living in the shadow of who they truly are because they are not aligned with their true identity and purpose. Many are unaware that building your life entirely on dependence on others can become a thief of purpose.

Ladies, whatever truly belongs to you; whether earned through your purpose or received from others; doesn't have to come with shame, humiliation, or the loss of your dignity. It can in fact come with honour.

Even that beggar you see by the roadside is not necessarily living in poverty simply because he was born poor. He remains in that condition because he has not yet discovered his true identity and purpose. The moment he aligns with that purpose, the garment of poverty will be torn away.

Have you ever wondered why love seems to thrive in many developed countries? In those countries, some women even marry average or unemployed men, and many of these marriages still work to some extent, at least while they last. But in many African societies, relationships often feel more broken. Many women feel men are villains, and many men feel women are villains. So much confusion.

There is a deeper reason behind this, and it is not even about the marriage rules or the economy. I can't break everything down right now, but my advice to everyone is to become aware of who you are.

I used to think the world was created unfairly and that not everyone would be able to live peacefully or in abundance, or even provide for their basic needs. But I discovered I was wrong. The mystery of life is that there is sufficient provision for everyone. We are not each other's enemies. Poverty in Africa has a hidden source. Africans need to wake up and break free.

How can I like this reply more than once?

Toolegit123:
Good evening everyone.

Lately, so I decided it was high time I tried my luck with other ladies since my fiancee broke up with me. I must really confess, it has been hectic after meeting a couple of single ladies.

The first lady, a lady of 27 years was the first one I encountered and she was introduced to me by my cousin. M After texting and chatting on Whatsapp for a week, we decided to finally meet. We booked a date and I paid for her transport. On the day of our date, I noticed she wasn't paying attention to everything I was saying and that really killed the vibes I was expecting from our first date. Funny and awkward thing was that she didn't even spend more than 20 minutes on the date and I was the only one asking all the questions. After she left, I only called her to make sure she got home safely and afterward, I didn't bother to call or text her because that wasn't the kind of relationship I wanted.

Then, what actually buried the whole thing was that, even after everything, I was trying to build up a relationship with her even though I wasn't really feeling the vibes. The question that dug the final grave was--"Since the day I left your place, you haven't sent me any money for food and upkeep".

At first, I kept quiet for a while and then replied her--"haven't you been eating before we met?". That was when hell was let lose. The insults I received on that day from her were so much and annoying that the only way I thought I could pay her back was to block her ASAP.

This lady was someone who had her own hairdressing saloon business and I thought I could build something meaningful with her. But to my greatest surprise, she wasn't different from the hungry, younger ladies out there.

I don't think I will commence on my mission on the dating pool from now on because it seems most of these ladies nowadays are hungry and only looking for men who will bail them out of their poverty

So single guys in the house, has anyone of you had a similar experience with single ladies?

Average single hairdressers are like that, and they don't stay with one man.

Bullman:
Nigerian women will stain your white with their entitlement mentality.
There are still some good ones left , but they don't come in the type of body that you want.

^^^

oz4real83:
I had a similar experience some years ago when I was still single. The first date was mainly she ordering everything like somebody that hasn't eaten for ages. The vibes weren't there. She visited with a friend after the first date and started packing everything I had in the kitchen when she was about leaving🤣. Then she finally sent me a list of everything she needed in school, even up to her project expenses 🤣. I finally realized she has suddenly turned to an orphan since she met me🤣. Since the vibes weren't there, I just had to ignore her list and ended everything. The babe developed anger and bitterness for me ever since because I stopped picking her calls after the list 🤣.

Some decades ago while i was a single man,once i notice you're the hungry one,I'd keep most of my provisions,eggs,titus,noodles etc. I'd probably leave what i can afford and i was never wrong,once we were done gisting and Bleep,she'd raid me clean and say her goodbyes.
I only invited such when i need to pleasure myself,you'd be surprised that even the educated ones behave the same.

Bullman:
Brother let me give you an advice.
Seems you are doing well for yourself
The next work leave you get, go to benin republic Togo or Cameroon(more preferable they speak English).. they have very very cheap hotels decent guest in for about 5000 naira or even less for a day.
Enjoy the ambience of the country. Meet their women , oga if you don't find your missing rib in any of dis African country ? Calculate all you spent with proof and I will refund you your money for wasting your time..
My wife is from Guinea Bissau , she's highly educated, and she worship the ground that I walk on.. I provide for her and she appreciates every single dalasi I give to her.
She doesn't nag.
Shes family oriented.
Her family treat me like a biological son without me trying to impress them.
Nigerian women will stain your white with their entitlement mentality.
There are still some good ones left , but they don't come in the type of body that you want.
I wish you good luck my guy

Saw something similar to your submission few days back.

One should endeavor to travel abit, when sourcing for a spouse.

Women money is their money, men money our money.

TONYE001:
I'm so happy I got married 12 years ago.

Scary to imagine still being in the dating pool by this time.

God forbid.

In 2011 of so, while dating my wife, when I bought her a Samsung mini laptop (N75,000.00), she refused to accept it. In fact, we had an issue over it. She was angry that I got her something that costly.

When she finally accepted it (the next day), she went straight to her mum to show her. Her mum rang me, asking me how I got the money to buy such an expensive item for her.

. You were lucky then bro. These days,if you like,buy a mansion for any woman you're dating, she'll still be inappropriative and be behaving as if she's entitled to it since you're dating her.

Bullman:
Brother let me give you an advice.
Seems you are doing well for yourself
The next work leave you get, go to benin republic Togo or Cameroon(more preferable they speak English).. they have very very cheap hotels decent guest in for about 5000 naira or even less for a day.
Enjoy the ambience of the country. Meet their women , oga if you don't find your missing rib in any of dis African country ? Calculate all you spent with proof and I will refund you your money for wasting your time..
My wife is from Guinea Bissau , she's highly educated, and she worship the ground that I walk on.. I provide for her and she appreciates every single dalasi I give to her.
She doesn't nag.
Shes family oriented.
Her family treat me like a biological son without me trying to impress them.
Nigerian women will stain your white with their entitlement mentality.
There are still some good ones left , but they don't come in the type of body that you want.
I wish you good luck my guy

. THANKS BRO🙏. I really appreciate.

Toolegit123:
Good evening everyone.

Lately, so I decided it was high time I tried my luck with other ladies since my fiancee broke up with me. I must really confess, it has been hectic after meeting a couple of single ladies.

The first lady, a lady of 27 years was the first one I encountered and she was introduced to me by my cousin. M After texting and chatting on Whatsapp for a week, we decided to finally meet. We booked a date and I paid for her transport. On the day of our date, I noticed she wasn't paying attention to everything I was saying and that really killed the vibes I was expecting from our first date. Funny and awkward thing was that she didn't even spend more than 20 minutes on the date and I was the only one asking all the questions. After she left, I only called her to make sure she got home safely and afterward, I didn't bother to call or text her because that wasn't the kind of relationship I wanted.

Then, what actually buried the whole thing was that, even after everything, I was trying to build up a relationship with her even though I wasn't really feeling the vibes. The question that dug the final grave was--"Since the day I left your place, you haven't sent me any money for food and upkeep".

At first, I kept quiet for a while and then replied her--"haven't you been eating before we met?". That was when hell was let lose. The insults I received on that day from her were so much and annoying that the only way I thought I could pay her back was to block her ASAP.

This lady was someone who had her own hairdressing saloon business and I thought I could build something meaningful with her. But to my greatest surprise, she wasn't different from the hungry, younger ladies out there.

I don't think I will commence on my mission on the dating pool from now on because it seems most of these ladies nowadays are hungry and only looking for men who will bail them out of their poverty

So single guys in the house, has anyone of you had a similar experience with single ladies?

All this billing billing girls up and down.....awon shatapari girls will be billing you as if you are dating them to gain a reward.....Any girl wey u see say she wan dey bill u, omo, sha werey ni blocking jor...especially if she is not adding anytin to the table.....Set awon hungry elephant.

TONYE001:
I'm so happy I got married 12 years ago.

Scary to imagine still being in the dating pool by this time.

God forbid.

In 2011 of so, while dating my wife, when I bought her a Samsung mini laptop (N75,000.00), she refused to accept it. In fact, we had an issue over it. She was angry that I got her something that costly.

When she finally accepted it (the next day), she went straight to her mum to show her. Her mum rang me, asking me how I got the money to buy such an expensive item for her.

Na wetin our eyes dey see bdis o....this Nigerian girls too craze gan o....one told me she lost her mom's 10k and she want me to assist her by sending her the 10k......someone i just met nd chattted with that day.....omo, every where first blur na so i sha werey blocking asap.....set awon reaper

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oz4real83:
I had a similar experience some years ago when I was still single. The first date was mainly she ordering everything like somebody that hasn't eaten for ages. The vibes weren't there. She visited with a friend after the first date and started packing everything I had in the kitchen when she was about leaving🤣. Then she finally sent me a list of everything she needed in school, even up to her project expenses 🤣. I finally realized she has suddenly turned to an orphan since she met me🤣. Since the vibes weren't there, I just had to ignore her list and ended everything. The babe developed anger and bitterness for me ever since because I stopped picking her calls after the list 🤣.

Ha she brought someone along 😂😂,come still add list.

Abeg DJ play me something light by that Nigerian artist wey I don forget.

I dey weave
I dey dodge
When I see trap
You want something light
But you order six wraps
Order meat pie
Order pizza
And you still pack take away for your sister
And your eyes on the plate of the next guy
1 litre coke, no pls I dont like the pet size
You dont have spag, oya pls help me get rice
If its not too much, oya add french fries
She say give me something light (something light)
Give me something light (something light)
Give me something light (something light)
I'm not really hungry, something light (come again)

😹😹😹

I once met a girl inside a kele, we exchanged numbers. That was on a Thursday. We decided we'd see on Sunday. By Saturday she called that she would like to ask for a favour. I said , ok

She said, If I can borrow her 10k, that she's a bit stranded. This was like 4 years ago. 10k still get small value.

I did not hold back. I schooled her properly. Cut the call and deleted her number. Men that indulges these ladies are the real problem. Why are you paying for pvssy and affection. No olosho she be?

You all can do better sha. Know your worth. Stop chasing after girl outside of your reach. It's either you improve yourself to make the high-end girls want you, or you settle for that girl that's all over you, but you don't seem to notice her. And because I said settle, does not mean she is less.

Na una dey use una hand find trouble

Una still dey do dating? Dating don cast since,na you never know.

mobi5592:
I once met a girl inside a kele, we exchanged numbers. That was on a Thursday. We decided we'd see on Sunday. By Saturday she called that she would like to ask for a favour. I said , ok

She said, If I can borrow her 10k, that she's a bit stranded. This was like 4 years ago. 10k still get small value.

I did not hold back. I schooled her properly. Cut the call and deleted her number. Men that indulges these ladies are the real problem. Why are you paying for pvssy and affection. No olosho she be?

You all can do better sha. Know your worth. Stop chasing after girl outside of your reach. It's either you improve yourself to make the high-end girls want you, or you settle for that girl that's all over you, but you don't seem to notice her. And because I said settle, does not mean she is less.

Na una dey use una hand find trouble

ravensckar:
You really be OG for the game.

Cooperate ladies are wolves in sheep clothing. If you lose guard, them go bill you so tey you go sell your property.

Most times when they gather at work and start bragging about how they are billing guys, I can't help but feel sorry for their supposed boyfriends.

Some guys life don scatter for woman hand. How an adult comfortably carries the responsibility of another adult in the name of dating beats my imagination.

#Picks_tooth

You again? Wetin be cooperate ladies? Na ladies wey dey cooperate with you abi wetin be that?

This desire to build something with a lady will destroy a lot of men.

I won't say more than that.

Bullman:
Brother let me give you an advice.
Seems you are doing well for yourself
The next work leave you get, go to benin republic Togo or Cameroon(more preferable they speak English).. they have very very cheap hotels decent guest in for about 5000 naira or even less for a day.
Enjoy the ambience of the country. Meet their women , oga if you don't find your missing rib in any of dis African country ? Calculate all you spent with proof and I will refund you your money for wasting your time..
My wife is from Guinea Bissau , she's highly educated, and she worship the ground that I walk on.. I provide for her and she appreciates every single dalasi I give to her.
She doesn't nag.
Shes family oriented.
Her family treat me like a biological son without me trying to impress them.
Nigerian women will stain your white with their entitlement mentality.
There are still some good ones left , but they don't come in the type of body that you want.
I wish you good luck my guy

Like x10. You said it all.

NotOfThisWorld:
Why did the leave 20-minutes into the date? The purpose of a date is to talk and get to know each other and ask questions. If she wasn't fully paying attention or she left 20-minutes, then she's not interested and you yourself should have the dignity to not contact her again. I'm assuming you didn't go to an eatery or restaurant and weren't eating, and perhaps this's why she left 20-minutes into it, otherwise if you were eating or waiting for food to come, I doubt she would've left.

You guys wont stop to amaze me...u guys level of fucckry is out of this planet... so u saying once food dey she go dey interested ... if "gluten" had a gender

Toolegit123:
Good evening everyone.

Lately, so I decided it was high time I tried my luck with other ladies since my fiancee broke up with me. I must really confess, it has been hectic after meeting a couple of single ladies.

The first lady, a lady of 27 years was the first one I encountered and she was introduced to me by my cousin. M After texting and chatting on Whatsapp for a week, we decided to finally meet. We booked a date and I paid for her transport. On the day of our date, I noticed she wasn't paying attention to everything I was saying and that really killed the vibes I was expecting from our first date. Funny and awkward thing was that she didn't even spend more than 20 minutes on the date and I was the only one asking all the questions. After she left, I only called her to make sure she got home safely and afterward, I didn't bother to call or text her because that wasn't the kind of relationship I wanted.

Then, what actually buried the whole thing was that, even after everything, I was trying to build up a relationship with her even though I wasn't really feeling the vibes. The question that dug the final grave was--"Since the day I left your place, you haven't sent me any money for food and upkeep".

At first, I kept quiet for a while and then replied her--"haven't you been eating before we met?". That was when hell was let lose. The insults I received on that day from her were so much and annoying that the only way I thought I could pay her back was to block her ASAP.

This lady was someone who had her own hairdressing saloon business and I thought I could build something meaningful with her. But to my greatest surprise, she wasn't different from the hungry, younger ladies out there.

I don't think I will commence on my mission on the dating pool from now on because it seems most of these ladies nowadays are hungry and only looking for men who will bail them out of their poverty

So single guys in the house, has anyone of you had a similar experience with single ladies?

She had her own hairdressing saloon and so you thought she doesn't collect upkeep from men??

You con dey engage am for chochocho talk talk

No be you even suppose send am tfare, since you both decided to meet... omo nairaland guys sef, make i sign off

The whole thing started wrongly when you sent the so called " transport money." Relationship should be mutual.

Toolegit123:
Exactly the same thing my elder bro told me. Anyways thank you bro.

Na bomb you dodge, no be bullet.

This I how I got my woman from Facebook. We met,on Facebook and now we have are married and I dont regret it.

I would chat up ladies daily on Facebook 10-20 daily, some would reply and I will kick off a conversation from there. As a Yoruba guy, my target were ladies living in states with disciplined ladies. I met ladies from Deeper life, CAC etc background. My goal is I want to get married to a lady that has never been touched before. I got serious with two and eventually ended up with my wife. Na my wife first spend on me as I dey so. And when you see my wife, youll wonder why she agreed to marry, EXTRA BEAUTIFUL DEY WORRY HER.

Just set your goals on the type of woman you want to marry and stay far from all these entitled/overused Lagos, Benin, Port Harcourt, Abuja girls. PEACE ✌️

Jozilinn:
IHa she brought someone along 😂😂,come still add list.

Abeg DJ play me something light by that Nigerian artist wey I don forget.

with the level of insecurity around, it is understandable why she brought someone along, it was her first time of visiting.

Wotowotoman:
You again? Wetin be cooperate ladies? Na ladies wey dey cooperate with you abi wetin be that?

I hope your account wasn't hacked? How come you didn't mention your favourite person POCO?

Corporate ladies in this context are those that work in corporate environment like offices et all.

Those ladies wey you go see, come think sey normal normal their job dey pay them pay well. Whereas, na relationship billing be their main hustle.

#Picks_tooth

Go and date 21 year old you girl,, you will give glory to God. I'm doing so current
30yrs against 21.


Omoooooo nah only God can help Man In this life