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FriendsAndFans:
She won't pick no matter what I try.

"Eneke the bird says that since men have learned to shoot without missing, he has learned to fly without perching"

Chinua Achebe

Wealthyonos:
Poor men mentality. Must you keep hitting on girls?

Mountbatten:
Men who are busy with their goals and working for their daily bread don't have time for these games.

Goo0dHardDick:
More reason why a sane man calls instead of wasting his time on her Dm whereby she's using him to play games and catch cruise

Mountbatten:
If most men knew how the ladies they're thirsting for are begging some other man who's lesser than them, they'll come to their senses.

favour32:
No serious man with resources text or WhatsApp a girl he met recently.


Call with confidence!

eazzzy1:
In today’s world, it is courteous to text to check if you could call. It is also important to be wary of the person’s communication preferences.

It’s best practices to tell the person what you would do when you get their number e.g I will call you or I will text you, if they prefer text over call, they would let you know. A lot of people prefer texting initially until they get comfortable with you, calls put people on the spot. You can atleast pause to think when responding to a text.

If you walk up to someone and get their number, that is sufficient show of confidence, texting or calling afterwards does not change anything.

essentialone:
The “interview text” trap is real.
Guy collects number → rushes home → starts with:
“Hi, how are you? What do you do? Where do you live? What’s your favorite color?” 😂

Bro, you just turned yourself into customer service.

Why calling wins:
1. Confidence signal → Texting is easy to ignore. Calling says “I’m serious, I’m not hiding behind a screen.”
2. Speed → 3 minutes on a call = you know if she’s interested, busy, or just collecting contacts. 3 days of texting = you’re still guessing.
3. Filters time-wasters fast → “Yes, let’s meet” / “No, I’m busy” / “I don’t do calls” = you have your answer. No energy wasted.

Texting vs Calling rule of thumb:
Text = Logistics, banter, “I’m outside”
Call = First real connection, planning a meetup, checking intent

She gave you her number on the road = she expects a move. If she won’t pick up or plan to meet, she was never going to anyway. You saved yourself weeks of “seen” messages.

Bottom line: Don’t audition for her attention over WhatsApp. Call, be direct, set the date. If it’s a yes, you win. If it’s a no, you win faster.