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Lady Laments Decline In Male Attention, Sparks Reactions Online

A Nigerian lady has gone viral after expressing concern that men no longer approach her the way they used to.

In a video shared online, the lady said she had noticed a significant decline in the number of men who stop to compliment or try to strike up conversations with her while she is out.

According to her, she previously received frequent remarks from admirers, but now finds herself walking past people without anyone approaching her.

She wondered whether the experience was unique to her or whether other women had noticed a similar change, jokingly adding that the situation was “not right.”

“Is it just me or what. Nobody is chyking me again. Before I will just be walking I will be hearing ‘excuse me fine girl can I to talk to you. Hello pretty I want to talk to you’. But now nobody is chyking me. I’ll just be walking like that straight nobody will stop me. Is it just me or you people are also experiencing it. It’s not right o. It’s not good…” she lamented.

“Nobody is stopping me anymore. Before, I would just take a walk and men would stop me, compliment me, and ask for my contact. But now, I don’t experience that anymore.”

~ Lady cries out 😂 pic.twitter.com/oeWHbdG3N5

— Yobarnub 🦍 (@realyobarnub) June 30, 2026

Una never see anything yet.

We can't be facing Tinubu's gbas gbos and the same time have time to be tolerating rubbish from the same people who we want to help their lives by dating them


Right now,my chart of my WhatsApp Blocklist is being topped by bannies who think they can run their mouth senselessly and go scot free

Reasons I don't stress over women.

- There are way too many beautiful women out there.
- You don't reply my DM early enough.
- You play too hard-to-get.
- You give monotonous replies.
- I quickly move to another one.

I can't have scarcity mind set in the midst of abundance

Aside that toto wey your GF/partner don give numerous men before E reach your turn, which benefit you don get in dating?

What do I even know sef aside enlightening my fellow men nationwide with the good news of DNA test

She should try giving people compliments instead. Her mouth break? Sixseven, come with your many words of advice and pictures.

eepeepook:
She should try giving people compliments instead. Her mouth break? Sixseven, come with your many words of advice and pictures.

For some odd reasons, something started playing in my head here. It's "many men" and this is a topic about men again. Let's search for a post that fits her mind 👇

SixSeven:
There's nothing women do that's not to their favor. Women are very cold and calculating. They don't take any decisions that does not involve their survival. Even when Buchi who used to write about women and their liberation talked about polygamy as a way of marriage, it was still about the WOMAN. Always the woman. That's why women are not best friends as in laws. They know themselves too well. Always looking for control. And the man who is the price, prize and source is the resource.

Yesterday I read one Nairalander who said she married her husband thinking she would have fair children or light skinned children. I read that message and smh because in the man's mind he had no idea he was a launchpad to get what she really wanted. Women are always looking for a means of survival, don't pay attention to them. Watch what they do not what they say.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8YZJ3pohooM


If women loved themselves, they would easily produce the next president and Governor because they have the numbers but they never want to admit their own scam. Always looking at blaming men or not accepting responsibility for their own faults.

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SixSeven:
I also forgot to add, WOMEN ARE MANIPULATIVE. It only comes in different flavors. Your sisters, your wives, your mom, all of them. If you are married, women are watching you and your wife. Whether it's your sister or mother, they want to see that you are not being manipulated because they are masters of manipulation. You as the man may not see it, they as women see it. That's why they do not like themselves. This is why as a a man you should not tell women about themselves. Don't tell your mom everything about your house, don't tell your sister about your wife and vice versa. E get why. They will leave the message and filter the woman's part in it. They will use that info against the other women. Know how to draw boundaries. This is why MIL and wife relationship no de end. If you think your mom is the best, find out how she has treated her daughter in law. Even you sef go surprise. They are possessive and can smell the rat. Men use logic, women react with emotions.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j6o5cUsIhIo

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SixSeven:
While women h8 men that make advances at them, they don't like men who are also too tough and don't accept their advances.

Women reject the man who approaches too readily, yet they are equally displeased with the man who remains too self-contained to acknowledge their own advances.

In this paradox, a man should be careful after mrejecting a woman's advance because her rejection can lead to your ejection. She will frame you up without you knowing it's because of your tough stance. That one is more dangerous because you never see it coming but it's her payback for not being able to control you.

From time immemorial, women have always been used to get the strongest men. As a man, you should have principles. It will save you from trouble.

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SixSeven:
What is a man A man who will save his family at the expense of his own life. Yet they call him weak and patriachial. U never jam wahala, na den patriarchy go press rescue you.

https://www.tiktok.com/video/7601229392781511968

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SixSeven:
.. Thank you, I repost my previous comment.

The bad rap single women have on this forum is for me a disgrace to men because that baby mama and baby daddy nonsense is a sign of failed family upbringing. While people can lose their loved ones or divorce due to irreconcilable differences, men who leave their wives or did not consult the elders before marrying into a family are a big disgrace to men. Give me a man that has 3 wives above useless sissies who are comfortable with their women mothering their kids alone abandoned.

You people copied the thing the government used against the Blacks in US and left your culture. Now you are telling us about single moms 🤡 Nonsense

In some cultures, the brother married off his late bro's wife because women were never treated like Street Vendors and abandoned. I blame women too because western influence has deceived them with one yeye independence and fake patriarchy that we are having more kids without dads because of some strong head women.

Where is the honor our women once had?

Who are the men getting them pregnant and leaving them?

Who are the families allowing their daughters wore about?

You can't just blame the women. Men are the biggest culprits because let's assume women are moomoo as many of you claim, who are the moomoo men planting their seeds in her 🤡 Weak men. Clowns.... It was a ticking time bomb, Nigerians copied street lifestyle of America and the 'independent' life of Europe, then abandoned their own traditions and culture about marriage, family and childbirth, here is the result....


For women, at what age will you wake up

https://www.tiktok.com/video/7553103102446931231?

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SixSeven:
Death is the only constant thing in life that equals all human beings.

Tradition that feeds on fear will one day starve on truth because a home that threatens death cannot teach loyalty but fear. As much as I want to be ethical and tell you it's wrong for anyone to cheat, the reality is that life is not fair and we know who is affected the most. Some of these laws were written for inheritance, not for fairness. It's just like someone who says a man should live in his in-laws house when there are proverbs that warn against it. So if that his wife dies, what does her family do the man (widower)? Send him back? Customs and traditions protect the future first, even when the present bleeds. We all want order, that's why they had many of these things as deterrent to prevent people from the disruption of social order.

When a child is born, the mother is known but the father must be proven. Our people were not ready for confusion, no DNA so they came up with another proverb that only a mother knows the father! This is still true today if you watch paternity cases, despite DNA and advancement in tech. The elders punished where they were certain, not where guessing began because lineage fears confusion. Some of the judgment they served then is now called jungle justice. Bear in mind that we have a lot of traditional families and they didn't want a bastaaard to inherit the throne.

There is a popular case on Justice Funmi's show. You now understand why they say only a mother knows the father. If you listened to the woman alone, you would have made your own wrong conclusions and convicted the guy

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bfy9hr-zf_I

But when the guy came to give his story, you now understand the wisdom of our fathers that it's only an old foooool who judges by listening to one side alone

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pPjKmVkw-jU

I am just trying to remind women that the reality of their promiscuity is more dangerous than the reality for men. Call it unfair but that's the reality.

Have we thought of why parents focus on the girl child more than the boys? The womb is the doorway of ancestry, so it bears the heaviest lock. The best way mothers knew then was fear that's why they said if you slept with a boy you will die

What enters the house through the woman stays for generations. A man’s mistake shames him but a woman’s mistake reshapes the clan. That's why even if a man did OS, by the time he repents, he will find a virgin to marry. Same cannot be said of a woman. Call it double standards but its the reality of life. That's why I said there's ethics, there's reality of the morality and there's understanding of why we do things because....

A man’s doubt sleeps in his mind but a woman’s doubt sleeps in the child.
Everything is just to protect women from giving us children we are not sure who the father is or causing confusion by breaking social order

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SixSeven:
Only in Africa and parts of Asia that people still give birth. They have tried to throw in contraception but it doesn't work. Look at what she said, she wants to buy a house, property, things. She doesn't want to be a mother. They have succeeded in giving them 'rights' to say my body, my choice. I didn't come to earth to be a mother. Now they have fertility crisis and the cost of giving birth is not just expensive, the cost of living is so expensive that OF is the best alternative. She didn't mention children or anything like that because of she had any maternal instinct in her, she would know which has more honour and why prostitution is not the best option. What child will be happy to see his mom a pro? This is why you need to monitor women. I used to think it was absurd, but the older I get, I understand why there was always a reign on women, or else, they will destroy society completely. They give birth to the world, that's why men had to put some reign in our society was working.

Women are joining the work force to be like men and that is more effective than contraception. Deceive her with the career, tell her she can store her eggs, tell her there is IVF, waste her best years of fertility and when there is a crisis, sell medical solutions to them.

Once you are able to convince women that they don't need to carry a baby, the deal is done. Now they want us to be using science to have babies, sleeping with dolls and selling us all kind of solutions when God gave us free.
Don't take everything from the West, you're just a commodity to them.

Men are wiser now, eye don dey open.

The CORN-tree is already hard and your gender is not even making it easy when it comes to dating. No man wants to shoulder a grown woman’s responsibilities all in the name of relationship.

Most of these girls are on survival mode looking for a guy who will fund their lifestyle and give them baby girl treatment. If you be guy you better wake up and take your life seriously, these bannies has nothing to offer except to always take from you. The more you give, the more they ask

If she's ready to give me brezz to sokc in will give her all the attention she needs

Look at her dried face like my abs. Damn!!🥱🥱

She's fading and getting old without realizing that. Make hay when the sun is shining and time waits for nobody ✨️

TheBreastSucker:
If she's ready to give me brezz to sokc in will give her all the attention she needs

See your life

Attention from men is a woman's oxygen.

To punish a woman, just withdraw your attention and watch her ego destroy! As a man, be ruthless and stingy with your Attention

This one is looking for men she'll use to boost her fragile ego so she can brag to her friends that there are lots of simps on her Dm begging to have her. Men are wiser now

You ladies are loosing value daily. If not for child birth sef,no man send una real papa again na

Simple how are you results to my gas is finished. May I have your phone number results to my house rent has expired. Every guy is respecting himself.

eepeepook:
She should try giving people compliments instead. Her mouth break? Sixseven, come with your many words of advice and pictures.

You will enjoy this if you never heard about it. Have you heard of Universe 25?

The Universe 25 mouse experiment explains why finding a good man feels impossible today. In that famous study, scientists gave mice a perfect world with unlimited food, water, and safety. However, this lack of struggle and extreme overcrowding completely destroyed their society. Today, modern digital dating has created a similar trap, causing a complete breakdown between men and women.

First, dating apps create an illusion of infinite choices, much like the endless resources in the mouse experiment. When mice had too many options, they stopped forming real bonds and grew stressed. Similarly, when humans scroll through endless profiles, people become disposable. This digital abundance causes choice fatigue, leading to superficial conversations, quick ghosting, and a marketplace where the quiet traits of a good partner are completely overlooked.

Second, the experiment led to the rise of "The Beautiful Ones" - male mice that completely gave up on fighting, mating, or interacting. They withdrew into isolated corners just to eat, sleep, and groom themselves. Today, millions of stable, kind men have become the human version of these mice. After facing constant rejection from dating algorithms, they have quietly checked out of the dating market. They have retreated into their own worlds, focusing strictly on their careers, gym routines, and solo hobbies. They are still out there, but they are invisible because they stopped pursuing.

Finally, when the male mice stopped acting like partners, the female mice isolated themselves too, causing the entire colony to go extinct. In the modern world, because online courtship has died, both men and women have retreated to their separate corners. To break this cycle, the search must move off the screen. High-quality men who have withdrawn from apps can only be found in real- world spaces that require effort, such as local hobby classes, sports leagues, or volunteer groups. They are just as tired of the digital noise, waiting to meet someone in real life.


https://www.tiktok.com/video/7634228804281552158

What are the lessons for men and women?

The collapse of Universe 25 shows that when an environment becomes unhealthy, the behaviors of both sexes change in ways that deeply hurt each other. For modern men to break out of this cycle, they must consciously reject the temptation to substitute real life with digital escapes like excessive pornography, video games, and social media. In the experiment, the male mice withdrew because dealing with the crowded community became too stressful, choosing instead to focus entirely on themselves. Modern men are doing the exact same thing by using digital dopamine loops to replace the hard work of real-world courtship, finance, and emotional vulnerability. To fix this, men must accept the stress of potential rejection, turn off their screens, and actively practice being present, reliable, and courageous in physical social spaces. They need to realize that shielding themselves from the discomfort of the modern dating market only cements their status as modern-day "Beautiful Ones," leaving them completely isolated.

At the same time, certain modern female behaviors are directly contributing to this male withdrawal. In the final stages of Universe 25, the female mice became hyper- aggressive, isolated themselves in high nests, and rejected the males entirely, which completely broke the natural desire of the males to protect and pursue. Today, the digital culture encourages women to adopt a hyper- defensive, highly critical posture online, often labeling average male awkwardness or basic courtship attempts as toxic or predatory. When men face a digital landscape where the penalty for making a mistake is public shame or instant cancellation, they decide that the stress of trying is simply not worth the risk. By treating the entire male population as a threat or demanding a flawless, hyper-wealthy partner, women inadvertently train good, average men to stay quiet and invisible to protect their own peace.

No body want pay your mother medical bills..or hear "i am not fine"

You are past your prime...

They were drunk before. And now that they are sober, their eyes now see clearly. Very simple something!

This is the reality most women face. At the prime of their youths, they're always hot and command men's attentions. Some of them would reject and even insult their male toasters and admirers at this point. They usually think that they have all the time on earth and would be attractive forever, forgetting that age is one thing that is not in favour of women. So, from the ages of 16 to 23 when they're in high demand, the majority of them would be so unserious with men until they hit the age of 30 when old age has drastically drained their beauty and sexual appeal, then they'll start disturbing God with prayers and fasting for a husband.
Wise girls take advantage of their youthful allure and hook their husbands early enough while the f00/ish ones and the so called feminists would keep wasting away until they have no more saps left in them.

Honestly, if I have daughters, I'll encourage them to get married from the age range of 16 to 23. Even if they are not done with schooling, I'll sponsor their educations from their husbands' houses.

[quote author=EmmyMaestro post=139876056]Lady Laments Decline In Male Attention, Sparks Reactions Online

A Nigerian lady has gone viral after expressing concern that men no longer approach her the way they used to.

In a video shared online, the lady said she had noticed a significant decline in the number of men who stop to compliment or try to strike up conversations with her while she is out.

According to her, she previously received frequent remarks from admirers, but now finds herself walking past people without anyone approaching her.

She wondered whether the experience was unique to her or whether other women had noticed a similar change, jokingly adding that the situation was “not right.”

“Is it just me or what. Nobody is chyking me again. Before I will just be walking I will be hearing ‘excuse me fine girl can I to talk to you. Hello pretty I want to talk to you’. But now nobody is chyking me. I’ll just be walking like that straight nobody will stop me. Is it just me or you people are also experiencing it. It’s not right o. It’s not good…” she lamented.

“Nobody is stopping me anymore. Before, I would just take a walk and men would stop me, compliment me, and ask for my contact. But now, I don’t experience that anymore.”

~ Lady cries out 😂 pic.twitter.com/oeWHbdG3N5

— Yobarnub 🦍 (@realyobarnub) June 30, 2026

gender..attention deficient detected

The present crop of men mostly have been enlightened and aware of the manipulative tendencies of women.
The coming years will be very interesting 👍



Simples still dey

Don't know how many Nigerian men cope. Dating sites are in a mess.

In West African countries, there is a lot of poverty but they don't go as hard as Nigerian Girls.

Even Dangote / Elon Musk wouldn't respond positively to a babe saying " I'm here to eat your money... Nothing more"

Not misogynistic, but they are jumping into DMs because of pix in foreign land. Chat once and you see how empty they are.

I wouldn't be surprised if the smart Nigerian ladies have same opinion about the guys too . Education is generally poor despite our "graduates"

NOTE - went to Canada, and I saw PLENTY of Nigerian ladies in Travel Mode hoping to snag Nigerian guys

They still have those rude requests pasted on their profiles thinking a man will leave better behaved, often more loving and less hungry foreigners for them

Haha sebi women no dey vote before. Na bad leaders affect una now

Did you know that in 2027, people will still vote Tinubu?

Ohh my country 😂

men no dey bother again. thats the truth. na just pay as u go them dey do once in a while . men dont benefit anything in relationship

You’re getting older. We’re going for younger ones now

How can you not be pretty and be looking for attention from who?

You're looking older. Men prefer younger ladies

This is true, the economy has impacted seriously against men.
Before now I visit joints and men will be checking out ladies and inviting them to join us in our table and we buy them food, drinks, fish, Suya etc but APC has damaged the country to a point we can no longer afford more than a bottle of beer for ourselves not to mention point and kill fish that is now meant only for the rich, so we just pretend not to notice the ladies even when the come around wearing tight fitted leggings that expose their Kpékus kpomo

[quote author=EmmyMaestro post=139876056]Lady Laments Decline In Male Attention, Sparks Reactions Online

A Nigerian lady has gone viral after expressing concern that men no longer approach her the way they used to.

In a video shared online, the lady said she had noticed a significant decline in the number of men who stop to compliment or try to strike up conversations with her while she is out.

According to her, she previously received frequent remarks from admirers, but now finds herself walking past people without anyone approaching her.

She wondered whether the experience was unique to her or whether other women had noticed a similar change, jokingly adding that the situation was “not right.”

“Is it just me or what. Nobody is chyking me again. Before I will just be walking I will be hearing ‘excuse me fine girl can I to talk to you. Hello pretty I want to talk to you’. But now nobody is chyking me. I’ll just be walking like that straight nobody will stop me. Is it just me or you people are also experiencing it. It’s not right o. It’s not good…” she lamented.

“Nobody is stopping me anymore. Before, I would just take a walk and men would stop me, compliment me, and ask for my contact. But now, I don’t experience that anymore.”

~ Lady cries out 😂 pic.twitter.com/oeWHbdG3N5

— Yobarnub 🦍 (@realyobarnub) June 30, 2026

can call to your brothers and father to station themselves at different sections of the road to be catcalling you