₦airaland Forum

Meritjoshua:
Good day, Nairalanders.

I'm a student in a Nigerian university. I've been dating my girlfriend for a little over a year. We attend the same school but we're in different departments.

The problem started this semester because most of my group assignments and presentations involve female coursemates. We have a WhatsApp group, and sometimes we stay after lectures to work on assignments together.

Recently, my girlfriend said she doesn't like how close I seem to them. She asked me to stop chatting with any female classmate unless it's "absolutely necessary." She even suggested I should only work with male students whenever possible.

I explained that university doesn't work that way. Sometimes you're randomly assigned to groups, and refusing to work with people because they're women would make me look immature and could even affect my grades.

She insists that if I truly love her, I should create boundaries. I agree that boundaries are important, but I also feel she's asking for something unrealistic.

We've argued about it several times now, and it's beginning to affect our relationship.

Nairalanders, am I being insensitive, or is my girlfriend being insecure? How would you handle this situation if you were in my shoes?

Sonnobax15:

Na so school relationship dey sweet at first

Na the first battalion of carry-over go humble una

Nevertheless,bro, focus on your studies cuz that's the main reason you were sent to school. Funny enough,most of the relationships that are done in school don't usually go beyond the 4 corners of the school, especially after graduation. So what's the essence of wasting away your time on something that'll only be good at destroying your future

God will sure bless you for that advice.


Bro, discard that banny and focus on your studies. No be advice be this bro,. Na serious warning.

Sonnobax15:

Na so school relationship dey sweet at first

Na the first battalion of carry-over go humble una

Nevertheless,bro, focus on your studies cuz that's the main reason you were sent to school. Funny enough,most of the relationships that are done in school don't usually go beyond the 4 corners of the school, especially after graduation. So what's the essence of wasting away your time on something that'll only be good at destroying your future

Bro, discard that banny and focus on your studies. No be advice be this bro,. Na serious warning.

Meritjoshua:
Good day, Nairalanders.

I'm a student in a Nigerian university. I've been dating my girlfriend for a little over a year. We attend the same school but we're in different departments.

The problem started this semester because most of my group assignments and presentations involve female coursemates. We have a WhatsApp group, and sometimes we stay after lectures to work on assignments together.

Recently, my girlfriend said she doesn't like how close I seem to them. She asked me to stop chatting with any female classmate unless it's "absolutely necessary." She even suggested I should only work with male students whenever possible.

I explained that university doesn't work that way. Sometimes you're randomly assigned to groups, and refusing to work with people because they're women would make me look immature and could even affect my grades.

She insists that if I truly love her, I should create boundaries. I agree that boundaries are important, but I also feel she's asking for something unrealistic.

We've argued about it several times now, and it's beginning to affect our relationship.

Nairalanders, am I being insensitive, or is my girlfriend being insecure? How would you handle this situation if you were in my shoes?

Sonnobax15:

Na so school relationship dey sweet at first

Na the first battalion of carry-over go humble una

Nevertheless,bro, focus on your studies cuz that's the main reason you were sent to school. Funny enough,most of the relationships that are done in school don't usually go beyond the 4 corners of the school, especially after graduation. So what's the essence of wasting away your time on something that'll only be good at destroying your future

Bro, discard that banny and focus on your studies. No be advice be this bro,. Na serious warning.

VinnyBaba:
Relationship Drama.

The last time I was involved in such, Tafawa Shagari was Governor of Nigeria.

Nairalander248:
Why not concentrate with your books?

meobizy:
Awwnn, puppy love. She wants to see how much she can control you. So young, so naive. Both of you.

Enjoy the relationship while it lasts. One of you will get tired around the three-month mark.

Meritjoshua:
I'm already thinking of flinging her away

Meritjoshua:
thanks for the advice, but imagine finishing uni without experiencing any relationship, it doesn't actually make sense. even though the goal is to put academics over everything, building social, platonic and even sexually relationship in school is perfectly fine.

Meritjoshua:
thanks for the advice, but imagine finishing uni without experiencing any relationship, it doesn't actually make sense. even though the goal is to put academics over everything, building social, platonic and even sexually relationship in school is perfectly fine

Meritjoshua:
Good day, Nairalanders.

I'm a student in a Nigerian university. I've been dating my girlfriend for a little over a year. We attend the same school but we're in different departments.

The problem started this semester because most of my group assignments and presentations involve female coursemates. We have a WhatsApp group, and sometimes we stay after lectures to work on assignments together.

Recently, my girlfriend said she doesn't like how close I seem to them. She asked me to stop chatting with any female classmate unless it's "absolutely necessary." She even suggested I should only work with male students whenever possible.

I explained that university doesn't work that way. Sometimes you're randomly assigned to groups, and refusing to work with people because they're women would make me look immature and could even affect my grades.

She insists that if I truly love her, I should create boundaries. I agree that boundaries are important, but I also feel she's asking for something unrealistic.

We've argued about it several times now, and it's beginning to affect our relationship.

Nairalanders, am I being insensitive, or is my girlfriend being insecure? How would you handle this situation if you were in my shoes?

ayusco85:
Lol if you love her then nothing is too big to sacrifice as long as she will do same