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When a woman disrespects you she is very much aware of what she is doing.

She is not confused. She is not having a bad day.
She is testing your resolve as a man. She wants to know your weakness.
She wants to see what she can get away with.

Every woman tests the man she is with. The test comes in different forms. Disrespect. Emotional
withdrawal. Pushing boundaries she knows should not be pushed.

All of it is data collection.

A man who consistently fails those tests sets the tone for the entire relationship. He has shown her where the ceiling of acceptable behavior is.
And she will live at that ceiling for as long as he allows it.

The man who passes those tests consistently becomes the man she respects.
The man who fails them consistently becomes the man she manages.

You set the tone with every response.
Every single time. Without exception.

Normalize withdrawing completely from anyone not reciprocating your energy. It is not pride.
It is self-care.

At what point should a man decide that the testing has crossed into genuine disrespect and act accordingly?

This is the 21st century. I am more concerned about unbelting, and attacking my ogbono soup with dried catfish, shrimps, faint snails, panla fish, goat meat, and afo anu.

Time for other things no dey

chatinent:
This is the 21st century. I am more concerned about unbelting, and attacking my ogbono soup with dried catfish, shrimps, faint snails, panla fish, goat meat, and afo anu.

Time for other things no dey

You no plan to marry or stay with woman for house?

OP, nice write-up. Interestingly, it's not just women, and it's not just people in a form of relationships.

Human beings generally try certain things to see what your buuhsheet threshold is, and if they see you take a very large amount of crap, then they'll always give you a trailer load of crap.

Be firm and strict about how you want to be treated. Respect for me, is non-negotiable.

marcusverum:
When a woman disrespects you she is very much aware of what she is doing.

She is not confused. She is not having a bad day.
She is testing your resolve as a man. She wants to know your weakness.
She wants to see what she can get away with.

Every woman tests the man she is with. The test comes in different forms. Disrespect. Emotional
withdrawal. Pushing boundaries she knows should not be pushed.

All of it is data collection.

A man who consistently fails those tests sets the tone for the entire relationship. He has shown her where the ceiling of acceptable behavior is.
And she will live at that ceiling for as long as he allows it.

The man who passes those tests consistently becomes the man she respects.
The man who fails them consistently becomes the man she manages.

You set the tone with every response.
Every single time. Without exception.

Normalize withdrawing completely from anyone not reciprocating your energy. It is not pride.
It is self-care.

At what point should a man decide that the testing has crossed into genuine disrespect and act accordingly?

I have learnt to ignore disrespect. Its the best medicine for "them".

Just yesterday I came across a video of a woman who's apparently been complaining about how her husband has been too good to her... According to her, she wants an aggressive man who'll physically assault her and manhandle her in the other room...😂😂😂

She'd even deny him his conjugal rights with hopes that he'll force himself onto her, but unfortunately for her, the man would just peacefully go to sleep without putting up a fight, infuriating her even more...😂😂😂... At one point she even started suspecting him of having extramarital affairs, only to constantly go through his phone and find nothing.

I'm done defending my gender...😂😂😂

Whumen are diabolical

Trust whumen at your own peril

Correct. And this applies everywhere.
Your employer. Your friends. Your family. Your woman. Everyone probes for your limit. The moment they find it they park there permanently. This is why boundaries are not about relationships alone. They are about how you move through the world. A man with no threshold invites everyone to cross it.
Decide what you will not accept. Hold that line without explanation. Consistency is the only thing people respect.

Stephen0mozzy:
You no plan to marry or stay with woman for house?

OP, nice write-up. Interestingly, it's not just women, and it's not just people in a form of relationships.

Human beings generally try certain things to see what your buuhsheet threshold is, and if they see you take a very large level of crap, then they'll always give you a trailer load of crap.

Be firm and strict about how you want to be treated. Respect for me, is non-negotiable.

Nobody should be surprised by this.

Women do not want a pushover. They want a man with edge. A man who is completely unbothered, impossible to provoke and always in control is attractive until he becomes predictable. Then he feels like furniture.

This is not an endorsement of violence. It is an observation about polarity. A man who is too agreeable, too available and too peaceful removes all tension from a relationship. And women need tension to feel attraction.

The man is not doing anything wrong. But niceness without edge reads as weakness. And weakness, no matter how well dressed, does not hold a woman's attention.

Be good. But never be soft.

Samantha125:
Just yesterday I came across a video of a woman who's apparently been complaining about how her husband has been too good to her... According to her, she wants an aggressive man who'll physically assault her and manhandle her in the other room...😂😂😂

She'd even deny him his conjugal rights with hopes that he'll force himself onto her, but unfortunately for her, the man would just peacefully go to sleep without putting up a fight, infuriating her even more...😂😂😂... At one point she even started suspecting him of having extramarital affairs, only to constantly go through his phone and find nothing.

I'm done defending my gender...😂😂😂

Silence is the sharpest response to disrespect. Reacting gives them significance. Ignoring them confirms their irrelevance. A man who cannot be rattled cannot be controlled.
The moment you stop performing for their provocations, you remove their power completely.

RevolverOcelot:
I have learnt to ignore disrespect. Its the best medicine for "them".

This will only happen to an uninformed man

Gwam:
Whumen are diabolical

Trust whumen at your own peril

Exclude me from that tension, even though I know I'm stubborn and can be a piece of work, I love my peace, don't like unnecessary drama or violence, and I'm sensitive to being yelled at because even I don't like yelling at others... But I don't see anything wrong with the manhandling in the other room, it's thrilling and fun, but again, it's not for everyone...😋😋😋

marcusverum:
Nobody should be surprised by this.

Women do not want a pushover. They want a man with edge. A man who is completely unbothered, impossible to provoke and always in control is attractive until he becomes predictable. Then he feels like furniture.

This is not an endorsement of violence. It is an observation about polarity. A man who is too agreeable, too available and too peaceful removes all tension from a relationship. And women need tension to feel attraction.

The man is not doing anything wrong. But niceness without edge reads as weakness. And weakness, no matter how well dressed, does not hold a woman's attention.

Be good. But never be soft.

FOCUS ON YOUR MISSION NEVER ABANDON YOUR DREAMS FOR HER.......IF SHE HAS DREAMS TEACH HER HOW TO ACHIEVE HERS, LEAD HER NOT WITH CONTROL BUT WITH AUTHORITY LET HER BEAR IN MIND THAT THERE ARE CONSEQUENSES FOR EVERY ACTION AND SHE MUST SUBJECT HERSELF TO THE RULES OF ENGAGEMENT

marcusverum:
Nobody should be surprised by this.

Women do not want a pushover. They want a man with edge. A man who is completely unbothered, impossible to provoke and always in control is attractive until he becomes predictable. Then he feels like furniture.

This is not an endorsement of violence. It is an observation about polarity. A man who is too agreeable, too available and too peaceful removes all tension from a relationship. And women need tension to feel attraction.

The man is not doing anything wrong. But niceness without edge reads as weakness. And weakness, no matter how well dressed, does not hold a woman's attention.

Be good. But never be soft.

Even if they see the one that is not pushover, they will still complain. The whole thing still fall on the words that says that women don't know what they want. Anybody that tells you that he or she knows what a woman want is wasting his or her time

Interesting. the last paragraph says it all. hmmm. Cool of you.

Samantha125:
Exclude me from that tension, even though I know I'm stubborn and can be a piece of work, I love my peace, don't like unnecessary drama or violence, and I'm sensitive to being yelled at because even I don't like yelling at others... But I don't see anything wrong with the manhandling in the other room, it's thrilling and fun, but again, it's not for everyone...😋😋😋

You are right and that is the absolute truth.

quote author=nnamdi640 post=139949494] Even if they see the one that is not pushover, they will still complain. The whole thing still fall on the words that says that women don't know what they want. Anybody that tells you that he or she knows what a woman want is wasting his or her time[/quote]