My Girlfriend Wants Me To Stop Talking To My Female Coursemates. Am I Wrong? - Romance (2)

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Yes 21% (19 votes)

No 78% (71 votes)

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Re: My Girlfriend Wants Me To Stop Talking To My Female Coursemates. Am I Wrong? by mrvitalis(m): 7:37pm On Jul 06

Agree if she would stop talking to her male course mates too

Re: My Girlfriend Wants Me To Stop Talking To My Female Coursemates. Am I Wrong? by AllBlack: 7:43pm On Jul 06*

Meritjoshua:
She insists that if I truly love her

You go prove taya. Where does it stop?

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Re: My Girlfriend Wants Me To Stop Talking To My Female Coursemates. Am I Wrong? by GUNITGuy: 7:51pm On Jul 06

Caging caging caging it's just the beginning
Next when she noticed you seems promising is to
Isolate you from your male friends
Followed by your Family ....
Then she manipulates you completely to her own selfish goal ...
By weaponizing sex and emotional needs
Before you know it you're fighting battles in many front without allies

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Re: My Girlfriend Wants Me To Stop Talking To My Female Coursemates. Am I Wrong? by Zouzer: 7:51pm On Jul 06

What is wrong with men these days? How would you allow a woman set terms for you?

Anyway, you should set the same conditions for her. If she accepts it, only then, should you accept hers. It's should be mutual, not this one sided crap

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Re: My Girlfriend Wants Me To Stop Talking To My Female Coursemates. Am I Wrong? by LordReed(m): 8:00pm On Jul 06

Meritjoshua:
Good day, Nairalanders.

I'm a student in a Nigerian university. I've been dating my girlfriend for a little over a year. We attend the same school but we're in different departments.

The problem started this semester because most of my group assignments and presentations involve female coursemates. We have a WhatsApp group, and sometimes we stay after lectures to work on assignments together.

Recently, my girlfriend said she doesn't like how close I seem to them. She asked me to stop chatting with any female classmate unless it's "absolutely necessary." She even suggested I should only work with male students whenever possible.

I explained that university doesn't work that way. Sometimes you're randomly assigned to groups, and refusing to work with people because they're women would make me look immature and could even affect my grades.

She insists that if I truly love her, I should create boundaries. I agree that boundaries are important, but I also feel she's asking for something unrealistic.

We've argued about it several times now, and it's beginning to affect our relationship.

Nairalanders, am I being insensitive, or is my girlfriend being insecure? How would you handle this situation if you were in my shoes?

Unless she has reason to suspect you are cheating she's being unreasonable. Hope you are not using school work to perform under g moves o!

Re: My Girlfriend Wants Me To Stop Talking To My Female Coursemates. Am I Wrong? by bentenny(m): 8:01pm On Jul 06

The moment I hear 'if you love.....'
That's first class manipulation...

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Re: My Girlfriend Wants Me To Stop Talking To My Female Coursemates. Am I Wrong? by WatchYourSix: 8:02pm On Jul 06

Meritjoshua:
thanks for the advice, but imagine finishing uni without experiencing any relationship, it doesn't actually make sense. even though the goal is to put academics over everything, building social, platonic and even sexually relationship in school is perfectly fine.

U might not believe me, u might think i’m just exaggerating the situation …..but shes cheating on you…..
May be u are thinking its love thats making her over react, making unreasonable demand …… noooo…

guy Shes projecting are own pattern on you….. she knows how she’s behaving with her course mate….. thats why shes assuming same with you…

Check am well … u go find out shes cheating around with one of two guys……. No say I no warn you oooo

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Re: My Girlfriend Wants Me To Stop Talking To My Female Coursemates. Am I Wrong? by tiswell(m): 8:11pm On Jul 06

Meritjoshua:
I'm already thinking of flinging her away

Go ahead baba,go ahead.

They send am to finish your future before it starts

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Re: My Girlfriend Wants Me To Stop Talking To My Female Coursemates. Am I Wrong? by Dedonrukky: 8:12pm On Jul 06

If I were you, I will put the girl friend aside and face my studies which is my future. Be wise.

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Re: My Girlfriend Wants Me To Stop Talking To My Female Coursemates. Am I Wrong? by ElevationD: 8:13pm On Jul 06

Acid in the making. Violence mode activated by your girlfriend. Be careful.

RUUNNNNNN!

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Re: My Girlfriend Wants Me To Stop Talking To My Female Coursemates. Am I Wrong? by turawaa(m): 8:13pm On Jul 06

You are us to help you Choose between your Education or Your "soon to be dump" relationship

Re: My Girlfriend Wants Me To Stop Talking To My Female Coursemates. Am I Wrong? by Dijita: 8:30pm On Jul 06*

Young man,
It is ok to love your girlfriend and even spoil her sometimes if she deserve it. A woman that behave like royalty should be treated like a queen. However, if she behave like you know what, give her the same treatment.

In all cases, even if she is the queen of England, you must have boundary. The moment any woman tells you if you love me blah blah. stop the conversation and let her understand that you will not be manipulated. You don't need to prove your love, She should interpret your actions the way she sees fit. If she feel you don't love her with your actions, she should move on. The same goes for you, if you don't feel love with her actions, moved on.
It is emotional manipulation for anyone to be asking you to prove your love for them. many foolish people men and women had gone to early grave and many have destroyed their future trying to proof their love.

As many have advised you, your education is the priority, once you are a solid man, you will have many options.

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Re: My Girlfriend Wants Me To Stop Talking To My Female Coursemates. Am I Wrong? by TheGift: 8:31pm On Jul 06

I want you to stop talking to your girlfriend.

Re: My Girlfriend Wants Me To Stop Talking To My Female Coursemates. Am I Wrong? by Lumig: 8:34pm On Jul 06

She's still testing the waters... When she sees the result she wants, she'll add your siblings and your mama to the list.
Watch and take caution while you can

Re: My Girlfriend Wants Me To Stop Talking To My Female Coursemates. Am I Wrong? by joeblala: 8:35pm On Jul 06

Kwantiniu, breakfast is loading

Re: My Girlfriend Wants Me To Stop Talking To My Female Coursemates. Am I Wrong? by kevwemike: 8:38pm On Jul 06

She will kill U one day

Re: My Girlfriend Wants Me To Stop Talking To My Female Coursemates. Am I Wrong? by Lumig: 8:40pm On Jul 06

You really understand this game well 😉

GUNITGuy:
Caging caging caging it's just the beginning
Next when she noticed you seems promising is to
Isolate you from your male friends
Followed by your Family ....
Then she manipulates you completely to her own selfish goal ...
By weaponizing sex and emotional needs
Before you know it you're fighting battles in many front without allies

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Re: My Girlfriend Wants Me To Stop Talking To My Female Coursemates. Am I Wrong? by Kajaard: 8:45pm On Jul 06

Meritjoshua:
thanks for the advice, but imagine finishing uni without experiencing any relationship, it doesn't actually make sense. even though the goal is to put academics over everything, building social, platonic and even sexually relationship in school is perfectly fine.

Na multiple carryovers go tell you. Continue.

Re: My Girlfriend Wants Me To Stop Talking To My Female Coursemates. Am I Wrong? by drstranged: 8:48pm On Jul 06

Meritjoshua:
thanks for the advice, but imagine finishing uni without experiencing any relationship, it doesn't actually make sense. even though the goal is to put academics over everything, building social, platonic and even sexually relationship in school is perfectly fine.

It's better to experience relationship when you're mature and ready for it so that even if it goes sour it won't affect you that much. Imagine if you invest your emotions into this relationship while you're still in school and it ends badly (which would definitely happen based on statistics), you'd become emotionally affected and that will extend to your academics and damage your future generally. You can keep female friends but don't invest yourself emotionally until you're mature enough to handle a relationship which would be when you're established as a man. See understand that the prime of a man is much older than that of a woman. So if you're still in school you should understand that you haven't reached your prime yet while the lady in question has already reached hers and even ready for marriage. So it creates an unbalanced equation between you and her.
Focus on achieving your goals and when you hit your prime, trust me it's even the girls that'd be chasing you. You'd now be at liberty to pick whichever one fits your criteria for a relationship.

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Re: My Girlfriend Wants Me To Stop Talking To My Female Coursemates. Am I Wrong? by Meteng: 8:48pm On Jul 06

If I tell you that that your girlfriend that wants you to stop talking to your female course mates, is actively bonking other guys outside you, love no go gree you believe

Re: My Girlfriend Wants Me To Stop Talking To My Female Coursemates. Am I Wrong? by OgbeniOja1: 8:58pm On Jul 06

How old are u? Please abandon that individual and focus on your studies. I can promise you that you won't end up with her in marriage. Even with her way of thinking I can predict she is below 23yrs old. Probably 18/19. Please no be woman u come school for. Untop free/cheap kppeakus u one affect your academic journey. Friends wey dey help I dey serious. Abeg use your head

Meritjoshua:
Good day, Nairalanders.

I'm a student in a Nigerian university. I've been dating my girlfriend for a little over a year. We attend the same school but we're in different departments.

The problem started this semester because most of my group assignments and presentations involve female coursemates. We have a WhatsApp group, and sometimes we stay after lectures to work on assignments together.

Recently, my girlfriend said she doesn't like how close I seem to them. She asked me to stop chatting with any female classmate unless it's "absolutely necessary." She even suggested I should only work with male students whenever possible.

I explained that university doesn't work that way. Sometimes you're randomly assigned to groups, and refusing to work with people because they're women would make me look immature and could even affect my grades.

She insists that if I truly love her, I should create boundaries. I agree that boundaries are important, but I also feel she's asking for something unrealistic.

We've argued about it several times now, and it's beginning to affect our relationship.

Nairalanders, am I being insensitive, or is my girlfriend being insecure? How would you handle this situation if you were in my shoes?

Re: My Girlfriend Wants Me To Stop Talking To My Female Coursemates. Am I Wrong? by Demigod22: 8:58pm On Jul 06

Nonsense and ingredients. She's behaving as if she's not cheating on you. Check her phone, not only Whatsapp, check Snapchat, email and Instagram and see how she entertain other guys, zero boundaries, and she wants to turn you to remote zombie.

Re: My Girlfriend Wants Me To Stop Talking To My Female Coursemates. Am I Wrong? by Mcslize: 9:12pm On Jul 06

That's what they call toxic or narcissistic relationship. That's an unhealthy relationship.

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Re: My Girlfriend Wants Me To Stop Talking To My Female Coursemates. Am I Wrong? by JoeEeL(m): 9:15pm On Jul 06

Nairalander248:
Why not concentrate ~~with~~ on your books?

Re: My Girlfriend Wants Me To Stop Talking To My Female Coursemates. Am I Wrong? by Mcslize: 9:18pm On Jul 06

Meritjoshua:
I'm already thinking of flinging her away

Don't fling her away. Use the relationship as a learning curve. But don't allow it affect your academic.

Don't be emotionally commited. The moment you start falling in love, you will be 50 steps backward. Keep your emotions in check.

Don't yield to her demands if it doesn't suit you. Be resolute. Learn how to say No to some of her demands if it won't benefit you.

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Re: My Girlfriend Wants Me To Stop Talking To My Female Coursemates. Am I Wrong? by bluefilm: 9:19pm On Jul 06

Controlling biatch?

That's a red flag for sure

Re: My Girlfriend Wants Me To Stop Talking To My Female Coursemates. Am I Wrong? by JoeEeL(m): 9:21pm On Jul 06

You are the one to create rules in d relationship. Not her.

Never ever let a woman dictate the flow of d rlnshp. You are d man.

These are power games. If u cower, she can sense u are scared of losing her. Scarcity mindset*.

Your leverage is financial success and students rarely have that. Hence be prepared to go only for sex and not be too emotionally attached cos very few relationships last past school days.

Dont be too attached but young men are usually hard at hearing. We've all been there before. Nothign is special about any woman.

Re: My Girlfriend Wants Me To Stop Talking To My Female Coursemates. Am I Wrong? by Belurved1(m): 9:23pm On Jul 06

Both of you should focus on your studies, as they are your first priority.

Re: My Girlfriend Wants Me To Stop Talking To My Female Coursemates. Am I Wrong? by enemyofprogress: 9:28pm On Jul 06

The moment you allow her to have her way with you on your relationship with other girls, you're finished. Be a man and say no. If she wants to go, let her go. Na wetin dem dey take dead body do for mortuary? Be in charge of your relationship.

Re: My Girlfriend Wants Me To Stop Talking To My Female Coursemates. Am I Wrong? by oloriooko(m): 10:19pm On Jul 06

OP, the hand writing on the wall is in bold capital letters now oooo
I hope your are literate and can read
The choice is yours grin

Re: My Girlfriend Wants Me To Stop Talking To My Female Coursemates. Am I Wrong? by Goo0dHardDick: 10:20pm On Jul 06

Meritjoshua:
Good day, Nairalanders.

I'm a student in a Nigerian university. I've been dating my girlfriend for a little over a year. We attend the same school but we're in different departments.

The problem started this semester because most of my group assignments and presentations involve female coursemates. We have a WhatsApp group, and sometimes we stay after lectures to work on assignments together.

Recently, my girlfriend said she doesn't like how close I seem to them. She asked me to stop chatting with any female classmate unless it's "absolutely necessary." She even suggested I should only work with male students whenever possible.

I explained that university doesn't work that way. Sometimes you're randomly assigned to groups, and refusing to work with people because they're women would make me look immature and could even affect my grades.

She insists that if I truly love her, I should create boundaries. I agree that boundaries are important, but I also feel she's asking for something unrealistic.

We've argued about it several times now, and it's beginning to affect our relationship.

Nairalanders, am I being insensitive, or is my girlfriend being insecure? How would you handle this situation if you were in my shoes?

Your girlfriend is not serious.

Rule no 1. Don't ever listen nor do what a woman says, if you do, she loses respect for you and your value will reduce in her eyes because to a woman's psychology, if other women cannot come close to you then why on earth should she?

Verdict: double your female friends and hang out with them the more. This time let her be fully aware of it all. The competition and thought of other women wanting you is exactly what will make her to fight to have you even more. If you do otherwise and listen to her, congratulations you'll be dumped within a month.

Use your brain. Don't ever let that girl control you. If she succeeds and you stay away from your female friends then in her eyes you're a weak man without options and Balls to stand your ground.

Oga, tell her it's either she maintains and keep up with your female friends because they're your friends or she fork off. Say it blunt to her and watch her senses come back. Even if it doesn't, either way you win

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