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I am just tired of this my girls approach towards our relationship,this girl is good ,well behaved and has a good job shes doing at hand but the problem I have with her is that she barely picks my calls or reply chats don't get me wrong we talk so very well offline we can gist for long and all that but we are no longer together forget it she will never reply my chats or calls
I have complained a lot about this to her she will apologize but still continue now I think it either she doesn't really like me as I think or she just want to weaponise communication I just want to continue with the relationship for fun while a find someone else who is ready and prioritizes me for marriage ,I see poor communication as a huge red flag .

Goodmarlian:
I am just tired of this my girls approach towards our relationship,this girl is good ,well behaved and has a good job shes doing at hand but the problem I have with her is that she barely picks my calls or reply chats don't get me wrong we talk so very well offline we can gist for long and all that but we are no longer together forget it she will never reply my chats or calls
I have complained a lot about this to her she will apologize but still continue now I think it either she doesn't really like me as I think or she just want to weaponise communication I just want to continue with the relationship for fun while a find someone else who is ready and prioritizes me for marriage ,I see poor communication as a huge red flag .

How old are you and she , how old?

gerizzim:
How old are you and she , how old?

Why do you want to know our age,give your advice or forget it.

If you can be disciplined to give her a month break. Count it as a gain if she didn't get back to you, it saves you a lot.

the problem I have with her is that she barely picks my calls or reply chats don't get me wrong we talk so very well offline we can gist for long and all that but we are no longer together forget it she will never reply my chats or calls
I and she see all this as waste of precious time for people like us are always busy with our brain and not phone
guy you are the problem not the girl.

Redoil:
the problem I have with her is that she barely picks my calls or reply chats don't get me wrong we talk so very well offline we can gist for long and all that but we are no longer together forget it she will never reply my chats or calls
I and she see all this as waste of precious time for people like us are always busy with our brain and not phone
guy you are the problem not the girl.

And that is why you will probably remain lonely for the rest of your life,since you want to be busy all your life.

Understanding the person of your partner is a vital key to a successful relationship. Also, the nature of her work should not be disregarded in this subject matter. I've equally observed that in some relationships, it appear that the women are the ones yearning for attention of the men. While it is the other way round in some other relationships.
Lastly, does she always return other people's messages and calls while with you? This will give you the right judgement.

That means, if you stopped putting efforts communicating today, she’s never going to get back to you on either calls or texts?

You should try it out, if she doesn’t reach out to return the energy. You should move on!

Side notes:

Me personally, I don’t do calls or texts. I’m too lazy for it, drains my energy. But, I try to text back as much as I can, though I wouldn’t text you first. If we do see each other, the vibes are always there like it never left. Thats just about me. Maybe, she’s a little like me. I still try to change tho!✌🏼

She is an introvert. She is just recharging and needs her privacy.

However its a serious red flag if one of you should ever travel. The relationship will just fade off.

Secondly pregnancy amplifies the bad character of a woman. Worse is when she gives birth. Put that into consideration.

But all these na mere talk for a prayerful partner. Once God is involved in something psychology and science becomes very very blur.

So if you wanna proceed with that kind of lady then Prayer is very important. And a lot of patience. Backed with prayer ofcourse or else you are wasting your time!

Make she pick your calls or reply your chats when she dey with your co-boyfriends? . Why you wan spoil her business for her?

Bro, forget that banny. She's a gamer and as a sharp guy,you suppose code when banny no too rate you.

I'm one of those people who hate unnecessary phone calls and texts... Even my family members know that whenever they see my phone calls and texts, it's something imperative.

Thankfully, my husband has a very demanding job and doesn't need to be calling or texting me every minute throughout the day... His constant calls and texts would've suffocated me.

So my advice would be that you limit the calls and texts, get a life outside of your relationship and stop being overly available, make her miss you.

Samantha125:
I'm one of those people who hate unnecessary phone calls and texts... Even my family members know that whenever they see my phone calls and texts, it's something imperative.

Thankfully, my husband has a very demanding job and doesn't need to be calling or texting me every minute throughout the day... His constant calls and texts would've suffocated me.

So my advice would be that you limit the calls and texts, get a life outside of your relationship and stop being overly available, make her miss you.

I am hundred percent sure he is cheating ,you think he is not aware? Don't worry my gender knows how to cope it's in our DNA since birth

His life, his choice... Get a life and stop being so clingy, it's unattractive.

Goodmarlian:
I am hundred percent sure he is cheating ,you think he is not aware? Don't worry my gender knows how to cope it's in our DNA since birth

Goodmarlian:
Why do you want to know our age,give your advice or forget it.

why are you always calling her? Don't you have anything important to focus on?

Sonnobax15:

Make she pick your calls or reply your chats when she dey with your co-boyfriends? . Why you wan spoil her business for her?

Bro, forget that banny. She's a gamer and as a sharp guy,you suppose code when banny no too rate you.

leave the Mumu. Them dey ask the girl age him dey get defensive. Him never see anything yet

Are you sure you're not bombarding her with unnecessary phone calls?

Goodmarlian:
I am just tired of this my girls approach towards our relationship,this girl is good ,well behaved and has a good job shes doing at hand but the problem I have with her is that she barely picks my calls or reply chats don't get me wrong we talk so very well offline we can gist for long and all that but we are no longer together forget it she will never reply my chats or calls
I have complained a lot about this to her she will apologize but still continue now I think it either she doesn't really like me as I think or she just want to weaponise communication I just want to continue with the relationship for fun while a find someone else who is ready and prioritizes me for marriage ,I see poor communication as a huge red flag .

if you Read my last post, you fit dump her. It happens to me too, at the end, it ended in tears for me. She finally admitted that she was deceiving me that she is in relationship, she open up to tell me that she is always on call with the guy that's why she can't take my calls, she said that even if they are not talking, but the phone calls must always be connected with the guy. After 11 good months of thinking i was in relationship with her, i plan getting married to her. She finally blocked me every.

Dreal1247:
Understanding the person of your partner is a vital key to a successful relationship. Also, the nature of her work should not be disregarded in this subject matter. I've equally observed that in some relationships, it appear that the women are the ones yearning for attention of the men. While it is the other way round in some other relationships.
Lastly, does she always return other people's messages and calls while with you? This will give you the right judgement.

this was how i was making excuses for her until Truth came out

Sonnobax15:

Make she pick your calls or reply your chats when she dey with your co-boyfriends? . Why you wan spoil her business for her?

Bro, forget that banny. She's a gamer and as a sharp guy,you suppose code when banny no too rate you.

bro, my own played with me for 11 months, similar to this guy Case, you can read my last post. She finally blocked me everywhere and confess that she have a boyfriend that is richer, that the guy always call her, even if they have nothing to say. The phone calls must be connected. I'm still weeping as it stands 😂

LUAN1:
bro, my own played with me for 11 months, similar to this guy Case, you can read my last post. She finally blocked me everywhere and confess that she have a boyfriend that is richer, that the guy always call her, even if they have nothing to say. The phone calls must be connected. I'm still weeping as it stands 😂

it hurts bro, I totally understand that. But sometimes, it's preferable to just accept the reality and of course with time,man will definitely heal and be wiser.

If I tell you wetin my own use my eyes see recently,you no go believe say na me wey dey form strong man for Nairaland Dem use shine like that 😊

Sonnobax15:
it hurts bro, I totally understand that. But sometimes, it's preferable to just accept the reality and of course with time,man will definitely heal and be wiser.

If I tell you wetin my own use my eyes see recently,you no go believe say na me wey dey form strong man for Nairaland Dem use shine like that 😊

i believe my own is the worst case in 21st century 😂. If I sit you down to narrate everything, you fit slap me 😂.

Goodmarlian:
I am just tired of this my girls approach towards our relationship,this girl is good ,well behaved and has a good job shes doing at hand but the problem I have with her is that she barely picks my calls or reply chats don't get me wrong we talk so very well offline we can gist for long and all that but we are no longer together forget it she will never reply my chats or calls
I have complained a lot about this to her she will apologize but still continue now I think it either she doesn't really like me as I think or she just want to weaponise communication I just want to continue with the relationship for fun while a find someone else who is ready and prioritizes me for marriage ,I see poor communication as a huge red flag .

Bro let me give you the best advice you can ever get in your life, please leave the girl, if you know the sacrifices some girls do for who they love. You no go dey stress yourself. She dosent pick calls , she dosent reply to my text na for who girl no rate!!!😂😂😂. Dey there make some nairaland girls Dey tell u not too Dey clingy. Infact some girls love clingy guys that give them attention… Keep the time you are wasting now for the girl that love. You will see that you will not do too much!! If girl no rate you will hear excuse wey go won run u mad!!! 😂😂😂😂

LUAN1:
i believe my own is the worst case in 21st century 😂. If I sit you down to narrate everything, you fit slap me 😂.

Bro narrate aam make we learn make other no fall victim 😂😂😂

2special:
If you can be disciplined to give her a month break. Count it as a gain if she didn't get back to you, it saves you a lot.

Goodmarlian here's all you need to do. Nothing else

Hahaha🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

tunnyl:
She is an introvert. She is just recharging and needs her privacy.

However its a serious red flag if one of you should ever travel. The relationship will just fade off.

Secondly pregnancy amplifies the bad character of a woman. Worse is when she gives birth. Put that into consideration.

But all these na mere talk for a prayerful partner. Once God is involved in something psychology and science becomes very very blur.

So if you wanna proceed with that kind of lady then Prayer is very important. And a lot of patience. Backed with prayer ofcourse or else you are wasting your time!

Hahaha🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

LUAN1:
bro, my own played with me for 11 months, similar to this guy Case, you can read my last post. She finally blocked me everywhere and confess that she have a boyfriend that is richer, that the guy always call her, even if they have nothing to say. The phone calls must be connected. I'm still weeping as it stands 😂

Hahaha
I can't stop laughing

LUAN1:
i believe my own is the worst case in 21st century 😂. If I sit you down to narrate everything, you fit slap me 😂.

Samantha125:
I'm one of those people who hate unnecessary phone calls and texts... Even my family members know that whenever they see my phone calls and texts, it's something imperative.

Thankfully, my husband has a very demanding job and doesn't need to be calling or texting me every minute throughout the day... His constant calls and texts would've suffocated me.

So my advice would be that you limit the calls and texts, get a life outside of your relationship and stop being overly available, make her miss you.

Op If you follow this advice my brother you are dating yourself!!!… Person wey u won marry make uno disturb am with call or text aam. Infact some girls will not even allow you to call na dem go dey disturb you call if dem rate u. Op please move on, I hardly use 1 week with girls like this.. All this are flimsy excuse that you don’t want to be the foundation of your relationship… Any girl wey Dey act like say I Dey disturb her with call, no be me and her go continue the relationship, na disrespect of the highest order, if you don’t know

Onkoolos:
Op If you follow this advice my brother you are dating yourself!!!… Person wey u won marry make uno disturb am with call or text aam. Infact some girls will not even allow you to call na dem go dey disturb you call if dem rate u. Op please move on, I hardly use 1 week with girls like this.. All this are flimsy excuse that you don’t want to be the foundation of your relationship… Any girl wey Dey act like say I Dey disturb her with call, no be me and her go continue the relationship, na disrespect of the highest order, if you don’t know

the worst is the make excuse for any girl.. I used to make excuses for my own until she finally dumped me after 11 months of showing 100% seriousness and giving her good intentions

Diamond098454:
Hahaha
I can't stop laughing

it's a mix feelings, Laughing and weeping. It it was a terrible experience, that i have not experienced since I was born. I pray make my enemy nor experience am or mumu like me

Onkoolos:
Bro narrate aam make we learn make other no fall victim 😂😂😂

it will be a long episode, you can read my last thread to get only the Genesis of it 😂

LUAN1:
the worst is the make excuse for any girl.. I used to make excuses for my own until she finally dumped me after 11 months of showing 100% seriousness and giving her good intentions

good intention or no good intention ladies & money na 5&6 I heard a guy talking with his friends today that a lady left her guy after the guy had spent like 2M for her naim I reached there & said forget it there might be someone somewhere that had spent more than what the guy that spent 2M na highest bidder they will follow