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“Virginity doesn't make someone a wife material” – Chiwetalu Agu shares deep advice on choosing a life partner

Veteran Nollywood actor Chiwetalu Agu has shared his thoughts on relationships and marriage, advising people not to choose partners based solely on virginity or physical qualities.

In a message shared on X (formerly Twitter), the actor noted that while virginity may represent purity, it does not automatically determine a person’s character, loyalty or ability to build a successful marriage.

Chiwetalu Agu stressed that people should take time to understand their partners before marriage, noting that character, kindness, respect and emotional maturity are the qualities that truly matter in a lasting relationship.

“Keeping your virginity does not automatically make you wife material. Don’t marry a woman simply because she is a virgin, and the same thing applies to men. Virginity signifies purity, not loyalty, good character, emotional intelligence or emotional maturity.

“For the sake of your life, peace, happiness and sanity, choose someone whose character has been tested and proven. Marry someone who genuinely connects with you, someone who is kind, respectful, loving and emotionally mature,” he said.

The actor added that finding a partner who is both a virgin and loyal, respectful, loving, emotionally mature and God-fearing is a blessing, but maintained that character is the foundation of every lasting marriage.

His message has since generated conversations online, with many agreeing that lasting relationships are built on character, compatibility and emotional maturity rather than a single quality.

“Being a virgin does not automatically make someone wife material. Don’t marry a woman simply because she’s a virgin, and the same applies to men. Virginity signifies purity, not good character, emotional intelligence, or emotional maturity.”

— Nollywood veteran, Chief Chiwetalu… pic.twitter.com/hGSsMZ4r9E

— CHUKS 🍥 (@ChuksEricE) July 12, 2026

Don't just look for virgin for a wife. Get a woman with good character, manners and respect for a wife. Because virginity ends in one night but good character, manners and respect is needed forever.

The same rhetorics

Nobody ever said being sealed alone was wifey material
We all said that's the first pointer not the whole
Heck
So u mean by test of character
She's been runned thru
Interesting

Marrying a virgin doesn't guaranty anything.

but that doesn't mean as a man you should settle for Towtow way dem don pound life comot sote e don resemble Oshiomhole.

My comment applies to both males and females.

A virgin with a bad character is better than a non-virgin with a bad character.

A virgin with good character is the best.

I don't mind getting married to a good girl who is no longer a virgin. But people should stop talking down on virginity as if virginity is not a great achievement. Virginity is a great achievement. I failed to keep my own virginity but I will not talk down on those who managed to keep theirs.

People should stop talking as if all virgins have bad characters and as if people that are no longer virgins have good characters. If you cannot identify a virgin with a good character, you cannot identify a non-virgin with a good character. As there are vagins with bad characters, there are non-virgins with bad characters. As there are non-vagins with good characters, there are vagins with good characters.

Virginity is one of the reliable signs of self-control. If you see a healthy adult who is still a virgin, give the person his or her flower.

Inasmuch as he is right. Marry a virgin and avoid girls with body counts otherwise you become foolish to pay for something other men enjoyed back to back

Goo0dHardDick:
Inasmuch as he is right. Marry a virgin and avoid girls with body counts otherwise you become foolish to pay for something other men enjoyed back to back

This man 🤣 I agree 💯
It's funny cos no one ever equated virginity to good character just like non virgin doesn't also make her good but if faced with two women with good qualities, one is sealed and the other ran through we all know what any reasonable man would choose cos in reality a girl with higher body count is recipe for disaster. If you like be Johnny Sins she go still remember all the different patterns of knacking prowess from the various different sizes, and different energies she's absorbed into hers over those stretching periods. I no like wahala abeg

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Nawa oooo you guys can talk

papiSNEH:
Marrying a virgin doesn't guaranty anything.

but that doesn't mean as a man you should settle for Towtow way dem don pound life comot sote e don resemble Oshiomhole.

I agree with Chiwetalu 100%
Virginity of a girl is not proof of character.. she might be into indecent stuffs, just not sex.
It's the kind hearted and principled ones that can give a man marital bliss.

Baba dn talk am finish...
Bt as for me,I can't even marry a virgin grl bcuz I don't want to experience wat I passed through the day I disvirgin a grl back in sec school.
The drama 2much

Start with a virgin, while not forgetting other qualities. Do not marry a borehole!

immortalcrown:
My comment applies to both males and females.

A virgin with a bad character is better than a non-virgin with a bad character.

A virgin with good character is the best.

I don't mind getting married to a good girl who is no longer a virgin. But people should stop talking down on virginity as if virginity is not a great achievement. Virginity is a great achievement. I failed to keep my own virginity but I will not talk down on those who managed to keep theirs.

People should stop talking as if all virgins have bad characters and as if people that are no longer virgins have good characters. If you cannot identify a virgin with a good character, you cannot identify a non-virgin with a good character. As there are vagins with bad characters, there are non-virgins with bad characters. As there are non-vagins with good characters, there are vagins with good characters.

Virginity is one of the reliable signs of self-control. If you see a healthy adult who is still a virgin, give the person his or her flower.

Are you virgin boy yourself? He who comes to equity must come with clean hand.

Fiscus105:
Are you virgin boy yourself? He who comes to equity must come to clean hand.

Obviously, you didn't read my comment before responding to it.

Where is that boy that always advice men here on nairaland, to make such they marry a virgin

Lmao. Oga you dey yarn dust.

Iron Rule of Tomassi #6: Women are utterly incapable of loving a man in the way that a man expects to be loved.

Women love opportunistically, men love idealistically.

"A woman’s capacity to bond monogamously is inversely proportionate to the number of sexual partners she’s experienced prior to monogamy. Even one prior lover (or even unrequited obsession of hers) can be Alpha enough to upset that bonded monogamous balance." - Book 3, RM

"Women cannot appreciate the sacrifices men are expected to make." - Rational Male

"Experience teaches harsh, but it teaches best and the breadth of experience serves a man well. Whose insight is more beneficial, the man who’s sailed the world over or the man who’s never ventured beyond a lake?" - Book 1, RM

Men and women are not the same.

It doesn’t quite alright, but it is still a very good step in the RIGHT direction

"Invirginity" doesn't also make someone a wife material.
Is there even any singular thing that makes someone a wife material.

No, i want a baddie with sense and tats. Bonus point if she can blend my veggies. I cannot even date a virgin.

He's right
Choose purity over virginity

I will go for both character and virginity.

The thing is that women that are exposed to sex at early age mostly have bad character or possessed.

As u dey find woman with good character hopesay u sef Dey good character too

I agree. Virginity is a personal value, but it isn't a guarantee of a successful marriage. A lasting relationship is built on character, trust, respect, emotional maturity, communication, and shared values. If someone has good character and integrity, that's what you'll live with every day in marriage—not just their past. Ideally, both good character and sexual discipline are admirable, but if you have to choose, character is what sustains a home.

I was just thinking about this the other day.

Virginity does not always translate into good characters like submissiveness, respect, patience, tolerance, endurance, hardwork...

Virginity is overrated.

But that is not to say that one should go for a woman with a high body count.

It should be minimal.

One shouldn't expect a beautiful girl up to the age of 28 years not to have had a couple of relationships.

Pandora16:
I agree. Virginity is a personal value, but it isn't a guarantee of a successful marriage. A lasting relationship is built on character, trust, respect, emotional maturity, communication, and shared values. If someone has good character and integrity, that's what you'll live with every day in marriage—not just their past. Ideally, both good character and sexual discipline are admirable, but if you have to choose, character is what sustains a home.

To see a woman that is exposed to sex at early age with good character is scarce

Combination of decent and good character are very important.

I will go for both.

Pandora16:
I agree. Virginity is a personal value, but it isn't a guarantee of a successful marriage. A lasting relationship is built on character, trust, respect, emotional maturity, communication, and shared values. If someone has good character and integrity, that's what you'll live with every day in marriage—not just their past. Ideally, both good character and sexual discipline are admirable, but if you have to choose, character is what sustains a home.

You must not be a virgin but being used to sex or addicted as woman is very Bad.

Decent and good character are both important.

It is true. I met my wife intact, but lacking in wifey character.

I prefer my woman non-virgin and humanely, kind and hardworking.

Who virgin help!

Agreed but these days you never can tell

EmmyMaestro:
Don't just look for virgin for a wife. Get a woman with good character, manners and respect for a wife. Because virginity ends in one night but good character, manners and respect is needed forever.

A word on the marble. You've said it all. There's a lady i know who kept her virginity till age of 28 before she got married. She's a thorn on her husband's flesh today.