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“Dinner dates are for familiarisation, not for starvation” – Apostle Johnson Suleman tells women

Senior pastor of Omega Fire Ministries, Apostle Johnson Suleman has sparked reactions online after sharing relationship advice for men and women planning to go on dinner dates.

Speaking during a sermon in a viral video, the clergyman described dinner dates as an opportunity for familiarisation rather than a solution to hunger, urging women to avoid embarrassing themselves by ordering takeaway food.

“Going out on a dinner date is a platform for familiarisation. It’s not a cure for starvation. What are you doing carrying takeaway? Don’t you have respect for yourself?” [/b]he said.

Suleman advised women to eat before leaving home and ensure they have enough money to pay for whatever they order in case the man decides not to foot the bill.

He also cautioned men against taking women to restaurants they cannot afford, saying it is embarrassing to complain about prices after inviting someone out.

[b]“Eat very well from home. Have money in your bag to order what you can pay for in case he doesn’t pay. And you as a brother, don’t take someone on a dinner date to a place you know you can’t afford.

By the time you get there, you start behaving like a possessed person. They tell you water is ₦2,000 and you start shouting,” he added.

His comments have generated mixed reactions online. While many agreed with his advice on financial preparedness and dating etiquette, others argued that couples should simply communicate their expectations before going out.

One user wrote, “This is one of the best dating advice I’ve heard in a while.”

Another added, “Some ladies will still carry takeaway no matter what.”

“Going out on a dinner date is an opportunity to get familiar with each other, not a cure for starvation. What exactly are you doing with a takeaway on a dinner date? As a lady, eat well before going on a dinner date and go with your own money. As a man, take a woman to a… pic.twitter.com/n1Cd21IhDf

— CHUKS 🍥 (@ChuksEricE) July 11, 2026

😂😂😂 Ride on Sir.

The fact that it has to be said sef. I'm taking you out on a dinner date, you chop dey order takeaway. Na so you be?

Fine girl you go pay for your takeaway.

Alot of women commented on this video and said why must a man ask a woman out in the first place if he doesn't have money, despite the pastor's explanation.

I have said it several times before, Nigeria girls don't see themselves as broke. They don't see anything wrong with themselves when they are broke, they believe the guy they are with is the cause of their brokeness.

One man somewhere is hustling right now and saving money he'll spend and impress on a girl he just met. My condolences to you.

See their faces like ostrich laughing from the front of their face.


Naija is a disgraceful country

But nothing wrong in using one stone to kill 2 birds.

is this the gospel he should be preaching??

If any man deserves an award for abandoning ladies in restaurants it should be me.

Once you order unnecessarily I will ask for the rest room, the rest is history.

I took you out on a date probably a first date and you order food of 12k and still you didn't finish it. You eat the meat half way and drop it even when it is sweet.

You drink bottle water half way and leave the rest there instead of taking it along.

The last girl I left was at Kilimanjaro restaurant. She didn't even have transport let alone the money for the bill.

The manager called me and told the to hold her phone till she comes to pay.
Two later I took another girl there this time around they asked me to pay at the counter.

I am still dating the last girl I took there cos she only ordered with her senses.

Like this boy. He took a girl out, she came with her friend to eat free food. He couldn't even afford to buy food for himself. Just sat there like chicken way rain beat while they eat to their satisfaction. I'm sure they even ordered take away.

Can these guys face sermon and leave worldly discourse?

Sheuns:
Can these guys face sermon and leave worldly discourse?

There is nothing "worldly" about this. Relationships are part of Christianity cos Christian go on dates too, so if you don't like his message, don't listen to it. Even the Bible warns against gluttony so a pastor can choose to educate women in his church on modest behaviour, it is within his duties as a shepherd.

In dinner dates, business date, networking dates, etc, i prefer just water.

Its a thing of courtesy.

Some will want to use it to eat the food they have never tasted.

This issue ehn- a lot of Naija babes will fall your hand when you take them out. Most ladies don't realize that their first test with a man who intends to settle down with them is at the dinner table.

A man invites you for dinner, you see it as an opportunity to eat all you can, then the same guy starts ghosting you cos he doesn't see a future with a glutton, then you wonder why.

Sheuns:
Can these guys face sermon and leave worldly discourse?

you are among those that goes home with takeaways at dinner dates

The problem we have is something that men have been subconsciously fed with over the years

Some men in an attempt to create facade of wealth and affluence would want to impress the girl so he can quickly smash and go

The girl on her part seeing thru the man would want to "eat his money and clean mouth".

The one when vex me na when one girl go carry a squad of 6 to 7 hungry girls to go on a date as "security" who would order everything on the menu and add take away to chop the guy money

But men don dey wise up. Any girl when start to exhibit tendencies of a hungry girl, na to jump am pass sharply.

If you call a girl and you ask how she is, and she responds "I am not feeling fine", just cut the call, na billing wan start

Know this "girl when like you nor go stress you"

Girls make rule for guys they don't like and break rules for the ones they like

Na when girl like u, u go realize say them get transport fee to come your house, that they have data and credit on there fones and can buy gifts for their man

I go lie for you?

Gbamsolutely…..Eggsactly what it should be for and not a poverty/hunger alleviation programme

cyberbro:
There is nothing "worldly" about this. Relationships are part of Christianity cos Christian go on dates too, so if you don't like his message, don't listen to it. Even the Bible warns against gluttony so a pastor can choose to educate women in his church on modest behaviour, it is within his duties as a shepherd.

Dating is not part of Christianity, neither is relationship as you mentioned.

The bible clearly stated marriage and how you should go about it.

our ladies see Una life outside .see finish

Nigerian Women are something else, but blame it on the hardship of the country, some go on a date without even having as little as two hundred for transport. You expect the guy who asked you out to pay your transport to and fro plus the things you eat and drink. That's liability.

Sheuns:
Dating is not part of Christianity, neither is relationship as you mentioned.

The bible clearly stated marriage and how you should go about it.

Dating is not part of Christianity? So in your brain, you think Christians just meet in Church and go to the altar? Christians don't take each other out, they only meet in church abi? Ok, believe what you want. 😂😂

cunny88:
is this the gospel he should be preaching??

he want to spoil business for you abi

cunny88:
is this the gospel he should be preaching??

If he preaches to you now 'Repent, or you Perish' you start complaining he dey judge you.

I blame the men for this,I was arguing with my husband the other day about this,why ask a girl out on a date to a restaurant when you know it will pain you if she requests for takeaway? Simply ask her for a walk, sight seeing at the beach or even to a church, if she accepts no wahala,if she doesn’t you rest.

So many ladies decline on dates but you men keep buzzing their phones to accept,later you cry fowl, na you wan show yourself.

Sheuns:
Dating is not part of Christianity, neither is relationship as you mentioned.

The bible clearly stated marriage and how you should go about it.

The apostle didn't go out of context in anyway, the marriage you just mentioned doesn't fall from the sky, it begins from somewhere, the apostle made it clear that dinner dates is clearly for familiarisation and not to cure hunger. There are people who know the Bible far more than you ever do.

Ladies if a friend invites you on a date, except the location looks unfamiliar and shady, you don't need to go with your friend,
Guys if you are not ready to foot the bill of your girl, there's no point taking her to an expensive restaurant, you can take her to any affordable place, simple!!!

This advice is necessary

Sheuns:
Dating is not part of Christianity, neither is relationship as you mentioned.

The bible clearly stated marriage and how you should go about it.

Are you kidding me? Dating and courtship are interwoven depending on what's on your mind. However within biblical boundaries, it should not pass one year max. That's IF you love and fear God.

Normally, the two of us can share a bottle of wine or beverages with few snacks. It is not a feast.

In Nigeria it is for starvation. Anything date is for starvation, wether dinner date o, morning date or afternoon date, all is about starvation from one end or the party while the other just wants to fuk and move.

Food for the Nairaland feminists is ŕeady.

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ibroyal:
I blame the men for this,I was arguing with my husband the other day about this,why ask a girl out on a date to a restaurant when you know it will pain you if she requests for takeaway? Simply ask her for a walk, sight seeing at the beach or even to a church, if she accepts no wahala,if she doesn’t you rest.

So many ladies decline on dates but you men keep buzzing their phones to accept,later you cry fowl, na you wan show yourself.

Hahahaha,every time una dey blame men. My dear why the takeaway? They no get food for house?
If the lady wants to add a takeaway, she should be polite enough to tell the guy