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Don't let the fact that you re married deter you from meeting the love of your life.

I will be going home this mth end and anytime I have discussion with my wife, it's always about bills, kids this kids that... Light problem, shop issues and all that. I actually also bring this up most time cuz what other things would we be discussing about?, Its just so normal to me.

Whenever I get home after mths of being away, it's just me yelling at my daughter for either being too loud or too quiet while fixing the washing machine or changing the carpets and cussing inside complaining that the house is too dusty. Y'kno the mundane stuffs of being a father.

On the flip side, I have this smally she resides in the north... She's 10years younger than I am. Some weeks back, nurse prescribed some drugs for her so she could be eating well cuz she complained of not having appetite for food.... We spoke ytd night, told me she's eating heavily now and in fact her breast has gotten much bigger, showed me bush meats she already got for me whenever I come visiting.

Suddenly I felt more alive and urge to hustle, engage more at work instead of just going to work pacing aroundlike a zombie waiting for time to just pass by and go home.
Life is really beautiful when you re present and respond to life in an organic way, as opposed to relying on culture, books as a guide to living your life. Allow yourself to fall in love no matter what or who you re... Either you re president, professor, married man/woman. Fûck the status, Always open your doors wide whenever love knocks.
In all this, I still love my wife and Thanks for your attention to this matter.

You sound so profound saying this.
I know you don't need a medal but you really deserve one.
Also I would like to ask an honest question. Have you ever tried to have a lovely discussion with your wife (family) other than the ones you stated in your post? Sometimes change needs to start from us, not the other way round. Besides smally knows you belong to someone else, if she doesn't keep it lovely and interesting then all the benefits might be cut off.... she's got what you want and you got what she needs
All in all I support what u say, anything that can make u come alive, bro do it, and do it well.

If you marry that smallie as a second wife or divorce your first before doing so, you will fall into the routine once again. The grass is not always greener on the other side. Enjoy.

Gaspardd:
Don't let the fact that you re married deter you from meeting the love of your life.

I will be going home this mth end and anytime I have discussion with my wife, it's always about bills, kids this kids that... Light problem, shop issues and all that. I actually also bring this up most time cuz what other things would we be discussing about?, Its just so normal to me.

Whenever I get home after mths of being away, it's just me yelling at my daughter for either being too loud or too quiet while fixing the washing machine or changing the carpets and cussing inside complaining that the house is too dusty. Y'kno the mundane stuffs of being a father.

On the flip side, I have this smally she resides in the north... She's 10years younger than I am. Some weeks back, nurse prescribed some drugs for her so she could be eating well cuz she complained of not having appetite for food.... We spoke ytd night, told me she's eating heavily now and in fact her breast has gotten much bigger, showed me bush meats she already got for me whenever I come visiting.

Suddenly I felt more alive and urge to hustle, engage more at work instead of just going to work pacing aroundlike a zombie waiting for time to just pass by and go home.
Life is really beautiful when you re present and respond to life in an organic way, as opposed to relying on culture, books as a guide to living your life. Allow yourself to fall in love no matter what or who you re... Either you re president, professor, married man/woman. Fûck the status, Always open your doors wide whenever love knocks.
In all this, I still love my wife and Thanks for your attention to this matter.

Everybody is better from outside. First all, you didn't marry your friend that's why you have nothing to talk about.

I live in the same city with my wife. While at work, I must call at least once a day to just gist or gossip, even though I'll still see her later in the evening. This is after almost 15 years of marriage.

By the way, the side chick's are usually sweeter until they become a wife.

Be thankful that at least, you and your wife are not quarreling and breaking each other's head. It could have been worse.

Dekadet:
You sound so profound saying this.
I know you don't need a medal but you really deserve one.
Also I would like to ask an honest question. Have you ever tried to have a lovely discussion with your wife (family) other than the ones you stated in your post? Sometimes change needs to start from us, not the other way round. Besides smally knows you belong to someone else, if she doesn't keep it lovely and interesting then all the benefits might be cut off.... she's got what you want and you got what she needs
All in all I support what u say, anything that can make u come alive, bro do it, and do it well.

Even when love making... It used to be 5mins thing... Climb up, eyes closed, then roll away... Till God knows when.

When I met smally, she came at me straight that I suck in bed. I asked her to rate me; she squeezed face and mumbled out 3/10.
I had to start taking things and things; soaking bitter leaf, ginger and cloves in kaikai drink. My energy improved and smally rated me 10/10.

Went home to replicate same to wifey, she became so bubbly that I had to point it out strongly... "Babe what's strong with you.. You were not like this nah, pls calm down." I don't know but we re not just used to being that way for a long time and it's just wierd to me, I had to shut it down.

Christ detest adultery, infact biblically, it's the only ground he proffered for divorce. It breaks my heart when men who are supposed to hold down the forth are the one trying to bring it down... Like the "no one" putting asunder to what God has joined together. Be safe out there and consider long term implications of your short term pleasurable actions... It's like wind, you can't catch it, like wants, insatiable.

I hope if your wife takes this kind of advice you will come crying, if she has another man.

Cheating has no excuse.... if the table turns around can you take it.... you breaking a woman's hrt it's not suppose to give u joy.

Men go home and make things right

eepeepook:
If you marry that smallie as a second wife or divorce your first before doing so, you will fall into the routine once again. The grass is not always greener on the other side. Enjoy.

Def I can't divorce my wife.. Never. But in response to what you said about falling into same routine... Thing is when I choose my wife, it was purely based on love, emotions and inexperience. Now if I have to choose, I have parameters or box I'll have to tick off before choosing a partner. Now I'm experienced. But then I ain't divorcing nobody

WantsandMore:
Christ detest adultery, infact biblically, it's the only ground he proffered for divorce. It breaks my heart when men who are supposed to hold down the forth are the one trying to bring it down... Like the "no one" putting asunder to what God has joined together. Be safe out there and consider long term implications of your short term pleasurable actions... It's like wind, you can't catch it, like wants, insatiable.

Yeah this is exactly what I'm talking about... If Christ have problem with it... That's his problem. Me I have no problem with it.

keemsleek:
I hope if your wife takes this kind of advice you will come crying, if she has another man.

Cheating has no excuse.... if the table turns around can you take it.... you breaking a woman's hrt it's not suppose to give u joy.

Men go home and make things right

Cheating is in our nature.... Both man and woman, that includes your wife too. You have to see the reality.

Gaspardd:
Cheating is in our nature.... Both man and woman, that includes your wife too. You have to see the reality.

Say your nature and not mine and other men who don't cheat. My wife won't cheat and the reality is I won't cheat and have another woman outside. If you have a good woman y cheat or destory your home. Good back home and make things tight sir.

Gaspardd:
Yeah this is exactly what I'm talking about... If Christ have problem with it... That's his problem. Me I have no problem with it.

May God have mercy on us .