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They start all these after pressuring a man to get them pregnant, from there they become possessed by Satan, because they know a good man will not want to leave them after they are pregnant and they start having children.

Stephen0mozzy:
First off, it's not possible to disrespect a man you love. It only shows that una nor really know wetin this love thing be.

You can disrespect a man that you "tolerate", but you see the one you love, oh no o. Disrespect is what happens when love has died.

And as a man, I play with my woman and all that, I'd even dance for her (i nor sabi dance - so it's a really funny dance). But she knows how big I am on respect, really that's all I ask for in a relationship - if you can't give it to me, I bounce you. Yes, respect is reciprocal, so i reciprocate.

It is as if when they tell you a woman cannot love you, you don't get it.

Stephen0mozzy:
First off, it's not possible to disrespect a man you love. It only shows that una nor really know wetin this love thing be.

You can disrespect a man that you "tolerate", but you see the one you love, oh no o. Disrespect is what happens when love has died.

And as a man, I play with my woman and all that, I'd even dance for her (i nor sabi dance - so it's a really funny dance). But she knows how big I am on respect, really that's all I ask for in a relationship - if you can't give it to me, I bounce you. Yes, respect is reciprocal, so i reciprocate.

It is as if when they tell you a woman cannot love you, you don't get it.

Hezmatosky210:
But jokes apart eh, who cares if she does all these? Just give me my peace and let me be. If she likes let her to go to Kaduna or Kafanchan or even Israel or Lome without telling me, I don't bloody care
She likes let her face social media or begin to show bobbi on Facebook, that's left for her, I don't bloody care too
She doesn't answer my calls, no wahala, I won't pick hers either
Intimacy? Lol To hell with her o, na she send me go outside naw. I will be calling my side chiks with all impunity without minding if she's there or not.
Any leg she brings, she'll collect double. Then let's see who go tire
Yours faithfully

She can challenge you in public but she should give you peace? Did you read the post?

FreeStuffsNG:
It is so obvious that OP is not married. Talk is cheap.

Only a naive man will read all these and then copy and paste into his marriage. Smh.

It is just like those herbal medicine that they claim cure all sicknesses. If you are married and your wife does not exhibit one of these "symptoms" then just know you married a man.

A man is required to love his wife not to demand respect from her or make loving her dependenton whether she respects you....love her unconditional as Jesus loves his "Church" not the churches of nowadays ooh where cardinals are politicans

psalmsjob:
It is just like those herbal medicine that they claim cure all sicknesses. If you are married and your wife does not exhibit one of these "symptoms" then just know you married a man.

A man is required to love his wife not to demand respect from her or make loving her dependenton whether she respects you....love her unconditional as Jesus loves his "Church" not the churches of nowadays ooh where cardinals are politicans

You go dey tolerate n*nsens* in the name of marriage ooh....sha no realize your mistakes late.

FreeStuffsNG:
It is so obvious that OP is not married. Talk is cheap.

Only a naive man will read all these and then copy and paste into his marriage. Smh.

I wonder why some of you always like to assume and conclude that other people who do not normalize the evil you normalize are automatically unmarried or the fact that you have weakly normalize some nonsense in your lives and marriages that they have automatically become the standard for everyone else out there.

Nonsense write-up.
This should be in teenagers forum!

The bitter truth is that offline - because online, especially a forum like this, could be a leveler - as a man, if you've always felt disrespected by a woman/women, chances are that you either have a poor concept of respect or you hardly respect yourself. The same thing is applicable to a woman who has always felt unloved by a man/men; chances are that she either has a poor concept of love or she hardly loves herself.

In other words, work on yourself, which, of course, is harder for most people to do; thus, they would rather choose the easier way - bitterness/victim mentality. As a man, if you respect yourself enough, a woman who respects herself will become sufficient for you; just as a woman, if you love yourself enough, a man who loves himself will become sufficient for you.

All women do at least 6 of the 10 things mentioned here. Immediately you toast a woman, respect goes out the window, know this and know peace.

Stephen0mozzy:
First off, it's not possible to disrespect a man you love. It only shows that una nor really know wetin this love thing be.

You can disrespect a man that you "tolerate", but you see the one you love, oh no o. Disrespect is what happens when love has died.

And as a man, I play with my woman and all that, I'd even dance for her (i nor sabi dance - so it's a really funny dance). But she knows how big I am on respect, really that's all I ask for in a relationship - if you can't give it to me, I bounce you. Yes, respect is reciprocal, so i reciprocate.

People love because of certain attributes you have usually, let’s not deceive ourselves about unconditional love. Your woman could love you because of some attributes like providing financially, or being kind to her, at the same time she could still hate you for not providing enough, or not being in her life the exact way she wants. She could start disrespecting you because of this.

Some women want to also try to dominate their husband even though they love them. It feels a bit similar to a man who loves his wife but he knows what the other side chick brings to the table.

Know that you have won with your partner if you are contented with her, and she’s contented with you.

Hezmatosky210:
But jokes apart eh, who cares if she does all these? Just give me my peace and let me be. If she likes let her to go to Kaduna or Kafanchan or even Israel or Lome without telling me, I don't bloody care
She likes let her face social media or begin to show bobbi on Facebook, that's left for her, I don't bloody care too
She doesn't answer my calls, no wahala, I won't pick hers either
Intimacy? Lol To hell with her o, na she send me go outside naw. I will be calling my side chiks with all impunity without minding if she's there or not.
Any leg she brings, she'll collect double. Then let's see who go tire
Yours faithfully

I get the angle you are coming from, it’s the usual easy way out.

Trust me, it’s toxic. You don’t want that life for yourself in the long run, you deserve a beautiful home.

newnigeriannew:
They start all these after pressuring a man to get them pregnant, from there they become possessed by Satan, because they know a good man will not want to leave them after they are pregnant and they start having children.

It’s kinda scary, I’d still choose myself.

newnigeriannew:
They start all these after pressuring a man to get them pregnant, from there they become possessed by Satan, because they know a good man will not want to leave them after they are pregnant and they start having children.

Very underrated comment. The possession is real my guy, when they realise you a good man and will always want the best for your home.

A woman can only lose respect for a man who cannot thoroughly shift her womb.

TEYA:
It is as if when they tell you a woman cannot love you, you don't get it.

You're either saying ONLY men can love or there's nothing called love.

So which one is it?

Kolainvest:
People love because of certain attributes you have usually, let’s not deceive ourselves about unconditional love. Your woman could love you because of some attributes like providing financially, or being kind to her, at the same time she could still hate you for not providing enough, or not being in her life the exact way she wants. She could start disrespecting you because of this.

Some women want to also try to dominate their husband even though they love them. It feels a bit similar to a man who loves his wife but he knows what the other side chick brings to the table.

Know that you have won with your partner if you are contented with her, and she’s contented with you.

Everybody loves for different attributes - men and women alike. Of course there's no unconditional love.

My point is, you can't "spit on the head" of a person you love.

NO MAN SHOULD BOTHER HIMSELF IF HIS WIFE IS EXHIBITING ANY OF THESE SIGNS AT HOME, IF YOU CANNOT GET RID OF HER BECAUSE OF MAYBE YOU HAVE KIDS TOGETHER, JUST CONTINUE TO IGNORE HER, AND TAKE GOOD CARE OF YOURSELF. THEY DO THESE THINGS TO FRUSTRATE THE MAN AND DRIVE HIM INTO HAVING HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE AND THEN A CERTAIN DEATH. SHE CAN EAT HER RESPECT. JUST STAY ALIVE AND KEEP BALLING....

No woman will wake up one morning and start exhibiting these repulsive attributes without a cause. Most men tend to push their women to this point of no return. There is no smoke without fire. How you treat and handle your woman brings out either the angel or devil on her.

FreeStuffsNG:
It is so obvious that OP is not married. Talk is cheap.

Only a naive man will read all these and then copy and paste into his marriage. Smh.

Wise man!!

CJStarz:
No woman will wake up one morning and start exhibiting these repulsive attributes without a cause. Most men tend to push their women to this point of no return. There is no smoke without fire. How you treat and handle your woman brings out either the angel or devil on her.

True but if e nor dey work again then say something and stop leaving a man in limbo. You deny a man intimacy then you complain when he starts getting oil change from anoda mechanic?? As how now!!

Kolainvest:
People love because of certain attributes you have usually, let’s not deceive ourselves about unconditional love. Your woman could love you because of some attributes like providing financially, or being kind to her, at the same time she could still hate you for not providing enough, or not being in her life the exact way she wants. She could start disrespecting you because of this.

Some women want to also try to dominate their husband even though they love them. It feels a bit similar to a man who loves his wife but he knows what the other side chick brings to the table.

Know that you have won with your partner if you are contented with her, and she’s contented with you.

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I never see the banny wey go dominate me for dis life.

psalmsjob:
It is just like those herbal medicine that they claim cure all sicknesses. If you are married and your wife does not exhibit one of these "symptoms" then just know you married a man.

A man is required to love his wife not to demand respect from her or make loving her dependenton whether she respects you....love her unconditional as Jesus loves his "Church" not the churches of nowadays ooh where cardinals are politicans

I don’t think you understood what you typed here. Love unconditionally and not deserve respect. C’mon bro, respect is the bedrock that keep it going.

FreeStuffsNG:
It is so obvious that OP is not married. Talk is cheap.

Only a naive man will read all these and then copy and paste into his marriage. Smh.

Well said

You’re coming from a place of wanting men to catch the red flags early, not to start gender wars. And you’re right about the core point: *love can stay, but without respect the relationship starts to die slowly*.

Let’s break down what you wrote, because a lot of this hits on patterns people actually see:

*The 10 signs you listed*

*1. Public control / humiliation*
When someone corrects or talks down to you in front of others, it erodes both dignity and trust. Respect means handling disagreements privately first.

*2. Ignoring basic requests*
Consistently brushing off simple asks shows your needs aren’t a priority anymore.

*3. Talking about exes with zero care*
It’s not the mentioning that’s the issue. It’s the “I don’t care how this makes you feel” energy behind it.

*4. Going MIA without a word*
Secrecy + carelessness about whereabouts kills the sense of partnership and safety.

*5. Entitlement*
“Give more, do more, while I give little” turns a relationship into a transaction.

*6. Abusive behavior*
Harsh words or physical aggression. Respect is gone when contempt or violence shows up. This one is a hard line, not just a “sign”.

*7. Ignoring calls/texts*
Patterns matter. Occasional busy is normal. Chronic ignoring says “you’re not worth responding to”.

*8. Questioning your manhood*
“Are you even a man?” type jabs are designed to wound. That’s disrespect weaponized.

*9. Chasing validation elsewhere*
When likes/comments matter more than your opinion or presence, priorities have shifted.

*10. Checking out of intimacy*
Going through the motions or avoiding it completely often signals emotional disconnection first.

*The bigger picture*
Respect dies quietly. Like you said: eye-rolls, cancelled plans, stopping to ask opinions. It’s rarely one big fight. It’s a buildup.

And it goes both ways. Women lose respect for men like this, and men also lose respect for women in similar ways. When either side stops seeing the other as a teammate, love has to fight uphill.

*What helps before it breaks*
1. *Call it out early, calmly*: “When X happens I feel disrespected. Can we do Y instead?”
2. *Check your own contributions*: Are you also showing respect in words, time, effort?
3. *Set boundaries*: Some behaviors, like abuse, aren’t a “work on it” issue. They’re a “leave” issue.

Thanks for writing this to help men see it, not to bash women. Conversations like this only work when the goal is repair, not blame.

Stephen0mozzy:
You're either saying ONLY men can love or there's nothing called love.

So which one is it?

Men love, women submit. A man wakes up thinking of how to provide for his family, how to keep them safe from harm, protecting them even with his life if need be, a woman nurtures. She submits to the man's leadership and allows him to lead her and in her submission, she makes it very easy for a man to love her.
A woman will not be happy living with a man she provides for and will certainly grow to resent and disrespect him. A man will never be happy with a woman that regards him with contempt, and will eventually grow to resent her if the disrespect continues.
Many people do not agree with this view, bit it is okay, however know it, a woman's love is almost useless to a man, her respect is what counts.

Samuels90:
I don’t think you understood what you typed here. Love unconditionally and not deserve respect. C’mon bro, respect is the bedrock that keep it going.

He doesn't understand what he wrote at all. Indomie generation dude, let him go and marry a slay queen with that mentality.

Stephen0mozzy:
Dear Overcalculating, na senior man you dey call your dear? 😂

Meanwhile, please enlighten me. How do "women" possibly disrespect a person you "love" - or you mean, they can have attraction to a person, even though they disrespect them.

Human behavior can be described and studied, I don't have to be a woman to understand a female human.

Love and respect are two different things na
Are the words the same
Why do you lack imagination so much ??
Really ??
People talk about love like its a magic bullet solution for everything
Its so childish
No need for any effort or intentionality
Just love !!!

Stephen0mozzy:
Dear Overcalculating, na senior man you dey call your dear? 😂

Meanwhile, please enlighten me. How do "women" possibly disrespect a person you "love" - or you mean, they can have attraction to a person, even though they disrespect them.

Human behavior can be described and studied, I don't have to be a woman to understand a female human.

90% of women are incapable of loving a man. They love what you bring to the table, either sex or money. If that's gone, disrespect and looking at options. That's the blunt truth.

It starts with number 10. That's the ultimate early sign.

It usually comes before the rest.

JimD:
90% of women are incapable of loving a man. They love what you bring to the table, either sex or money. If that's gone, disrespect and looking at options. That's the blunt truth.

If men are the ones now capable of loving a woman, will you still be with your woman if she says no sex during the relationship, and no sex 5 years after marriage?

Answer straight, don't beat around the bush.