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| Men Are Rarely Warned About This Until The Damage Is Done. by Pukkalolo(op): 1:39pm On Aug 16 |
Think about this for a moment… The Garden of Eden was damn so perfect. No rent. No bills. No traffic. No heartbreak. No cheating boyfriend. No 9–5. No relationship anxiety. Eve had everything a human being could reasonably ask for. She wasn't wondering about where her next meal would come from. Everything was there. She lived inside pure provision. And strangely enough… That was the problem: there was nothing left for her to wonder/worry about. Until the serpent showed up. Look at this deeply: The serpent didn't come carrying a bigger house. He didn't bring a flashier car. He didn't promise her money. He simply introduced a thought: “God knows that if you eat this fruit… you’ll become like Him…” Boom! Now Eve had something she didn't have five minutes earlier: She has something to wonder about. She looked at the fruit and was like “What would it feel like to be like God?” So she started wondering. She started fantasizing. And eventually… She ate it. Here's the uncomfortable truth... As a man, you can sacrifice for her. Be intentional. Buy her everything she points at. Give her your kidney. If necessary, give her one of your eyes so she can see how much you love her. You can be the most devoted boyfriend or husband on the face of the earth. You can build her a beautiful garden and spend your entire life making sure she never lacks a thing. And still… she'd start falling for another man and secretly opening her legs for him… This other man doesn't have to offer her something better. He only has to offer her something different. A different conversation. A different vibe. A different feeling she hasn't felt in a while. And suddenly... After she has tasted the fruit the other guy offered her, she will turn around, look at you, the man who once gave her everything, and say: “What have you even done for me?” or “Did I force you to do anything for me” Believe me guys… I have seen it all .. The truth is… The typical woman does not stay where she's loved. She stays where her mind still has work to do. That is, she stays with a man she cannot fully figure out or control. That is why “see finish” is deadly. As a man, you must keep “something” hidden from her. It can be a private ambition she has not fully mapped. It can be a side of your character she still cannot completely read. There must be a part of you that remains slightly out of her reach. That unanswered question in her mind is what keeps her romantically in love with you… Whether she's your wife, girlfriend or any girl you have interest in… The best gift you can give her is something to wonder about. Something that keeps her mentally circling back to you even when you are not in the room. Because if you refuse to give her something to worry about, she will eventually worry you. 22 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: Men Are Rarely Warned About This Until The Damage Is Done. by Cum4me(m): 2:03pm On Aug 16 |
So you believe there was a garden of Eden So you believe snake was use to tempt Eve Have you ever wondered if you're alone in this vast universe. Upon the trillions of galaxies and uncountable star's and planets you believe they're no others civilisation out there. And will you believe those civilisation believe in this brainwashed institution called religion. You don't even have an idea about how life came into existence on planet Earth 🌎. Why can't you free yourself from this cage 3 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Men Are Rarely Warned About This Until The Damage Is Done. by SmartMaster001: 2:19pm On Aug 16 |
The serpent and Eve na dem introduce problem into this world if not man for no too get problem. 7 Likes |
| Re: Men Are Rarely Warned About This Until The Damage Is Done. by xtianchris(m): 5:01pm On Aug 16 |
Cum4me:hahaha Mental Slavery is real 😔😔😔 😂 |
| Re: Men Are Rarely Warned About This Until The Damage Is Done. by LordIsaac(m): 5:52pm On Aug 16*. Modified: 8:43pm On Aug 16 |
My own problem is why she gave Adam the fruit. I'm still wrestling with the thought. It simply means she never loved him as she made him fall with her. 2 Likes |
| Re: Men Are Rarely Warned About This Until The Damage Is Done. by Pukkalolo(op): 6:05pm On Aug 16 |
Cum4me:Whether the story is literally history, ancient allegory, or both, it doesn’t change the observation: A mind with nothing left to chase or decode will invent a problem. That’s not religion. That’s human nature. 6 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Men Are Rarely Warned About This Until The Damage Is Done. by JOACHINpedro: 7:32pm On Aug 16 |
I disagree with you man. I have never met any of these girls you guys portray here. Currently single, but all the 4 ladies I dated never displayed an atom of the attitude you guys talk about, and funny enough I'm still in Nigeria. I sincerely hope you guys are not doing all these cus of complex issues 4 Likes |
| Re: Men Are Rarely Warned About This Until The Damage Is Done. by Pukkalolo(op): 7:40pm On Aug 16 |
LordIsaac:She didn’t hand him the fruit out of love. She handed it to him so she wouldn’t fall alone. 4 Likes |
| Re: Men Are Rarely Warned About This Until The Damage Is Done. by Pukkalolo(op): 7:57pm On Aug 16 |
JOACHINpedro:If I eat at four different restaurants and none of them gives me food poisoning, I wouldn't conclude that food poisoning is imaginary. I'd simply conclude that I haven't eaten contaminated food. You’ve dated only four women who didn’t display that behaviour. But four women is a small sample size… That’s a small sample of human experience…not enough to make a broad conclusion about how women behave. I give this kind of advice I give because my experience comes from dating a much larger number of women. I’ve encountered a far wider range of personalities, behaviours, tribes and attitudes… So I'm not saying, “Every woman is like this.” I'm saying, “I've seen enough different women to know that this pattern exists.” 4 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: Men Are Rarely Warned About This Until The Damage Is Done. by JOACHINpedro: 8:19pm On Aug 16 |
Pukkalolo:Makes sense but in my circle, I have been fortunate. None has ever been a thorn to my life. I am forced to think that we actually attract our kind of person 3 Likes |
| Re: Men Are Rarely Warned About This Until The Damage Is Done. by Pukkalolo(op): 9:21pm On Aug 16 |
JOACHINpedro:If I keep fishing in the same pond and every fish I catch looks similar, I wouldn't automatically conclude that every fish in the ocean is like that. I might just be very good at choosing the same pond. So your statement is “we actually attract our kind of person” is partly false tho. Because… You can be a good man and still meet a manipulative woman. You can be loyal and still be cheated on. You can have excellent judgment and still get something wrong. And the reverse is also true. The danger of saying “I attract my kind” is that it can quietly turn into “If something bad happens to you, you must have attracted it.” Life isn't that mathematically neat. 2 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Men Are Rarely Warned About This Until The Damage Is Done. by kenuoyibo(m): 9:21pm On Aug 16 |
Pukkalolo:Dont mind him. When it has not happened to them , it sounds like we are making things up. A lot of people that rejected the red pill came back with premium tears. My prayer for people like him is for him to marry and hi wife to give birth to 4 kids for 4 different men, then he will realise he is childless at 75 yrs. Thank he is even in Nigeria where we have snakes diguised as woman. He will learn the hard way . So he will know this is far from complex issues. Nonesense! 3 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Men Are Rarely Warned About This Until The Damage Is Done. by Omoawoke(m): 9:25pm On Aug 16 |
Pukkalolo:An adult still believing in Adam and Eve story faaaa? Who do black people this kind wickedness in the name of god ?? Even if dem no born person with wisdom, make person no finish him life without wisdom Oga, you have access to Ai fa? Just simple google it or ask ChatGPT if Adam and Eve make sense… Abeg na? Na una type dey embarrasse Africans 3 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: Men Are Rarely Warned About This Until The Damage Is Done. by Pukkalolo(op): 9:34pm On Aug 16 |
kenuoyibo:Exactly. Most men only learn female nature the hard way... |
| Re: Men Are Rarely Warned About This Until The Damage Is Done. by MEGAWATCH: 9:47pm On Aug 16 |
Cum4me:I'm very sorry for you. 😎 1 Like |
| Re: Men Are Rarely Warned About This Until The Damage Is Done. by Kemical23(m): 10:25pm On Aug 16 |
The bible and the Israeli god knows perfectly that Adam and Eve will disobey him still yet he allow Satan to test them.... Jesus died because of my sins but I will still go to hellfire because of satan.. Instead of killing Satan the bible god want me to be in hellfire and want the leave the devil alone.... My parents will still explain to me tomorrow how this their bible god reason... 1 Like |
| Re: Men Are Rarely Warned About This Until The Damage Is Done. by YouandiAllofus: 11:24pm On Aug 16 |
The one that amuses me the most is the story of how Judas betrayed and sold Jesus. Jesus was sent down to this earth as his mission to die for mankind so they can be saved. (Jesus already knew he was coming to die). Jesus knew Judas loved money so much that he would even act dubious to get it, yet he picked him as one of his disciples only for Judas to do what he knew how to do best, get more money at all cost. Jesus even knew that this same Judas was going to sell him and he allowed it happen when he had all the powers to stop it and deliver Judas yet he didn't. And upon realizing what he had done, Judas hunged himself to death. Now the character, personality and name Judas is being faced with generational castigation. Or can anyone here explain this story here for better understanding? |
| Re: Men Are Rarely Warned About This Until The Damage Is Done. by galantjoe(m): 3:48am On Aug 17 |
Do you prefer a life of perfection while your primary duty as a man won't be attended to. For example You're a Christian that abhor adultery and fornication. And normal courtship for your region demands having premarital sex as parts of courtship before marriage. Won't you have the sex with your fiancee whom you're willing to marriage. The fact is that what eve did is never bad thing because if she didn't do it, we will not be born today. |
| Re: Men Are Rarely Warned About This Until The Damage Is Done. by Pukkalolo(op): 8:53am On Aug 17 |
Omoawoke:Dude, how did you turn Adam and Eve into a “black people” problem? The Garden of Eden isn't some African idea that black people cooked up and somehow forced on the rest of the world. White men have been talking about the Garden of Eden, Adam, Eve, and the serpent for centuries… in churches, books, philosophy, psychology, and private conversations. I'm still genuinely wondering… What exactly does blackness have to do with Adam and Eve? If you want to argue that Adam and Eve is true or false, fine. That's debatable sha … But it doesn't make sense to attach the entire thing to Africans… as though white people don't know the story, don't believe it, haven't written about it… Infact, the white have built centuries of theology and literature around it… |
| Re: Men Are Rarely Warned About This Until The Damage Is Done. by Abee79(m): 9:21am On Aug 17 |
The story makes a good point about mystery being attractive, but it gets women completely wrong. Yes, people get bored when things are too predictable, and having your own life and goals makes you more interesting. But the idea that women are wired to cheat just because you're too nice or too giving is not true and pretty unfair. Healthy relationships aren't about playing games or keeping secrets to keep someone anxious and guessing. They work when two people grow together, respect each other, and choose each other every day. If a woman cheats, it's not because you were too perfect or gave her too much, it's because she made a bad choice or the relationship had real problems. Don't confuse keeping your partner curious with keeping them insecure. Be a good partner, but don't lose yourself in the process, and if someone doesn't appreciate you, that's on them, not on your kindness. Peace!  1 Like |
| Re: Men Are Rarely Warned About This Until The Damage Is Done. by Pukkalolo(op): 9:31am On Aug 17 |
Kemical23:If I know my child is going to make a terrible decision tomorrow (like eating the forbidden fruit), I can still give him the freedom to make that decision today. I can warn him. I can explain the consequences. I can even prepare a way in advance (by sending Christ) to help him recover if he destroys what I warned him not to destroy. You're basically asking: “If God knew Adam and Eve would fall, why create them and allow the test at all?” The thing is… God, knowing Man’s future choice isn't necessarily the same thing as God causing that choice. For example, If I know you well enough to say, “If you take that job, you're going to quit within six months,” and you eventually quit, my knowledge didn't make you quit. You still have the freewill not to quit within six months.. Knowing someone will fail doesn't mean you refuse to give them the opportunity to succeed. A parent may know their teenager is going to make stupid decisions. A teacher may know a student is going to fail an exam. A coach may know an athlete is going to choke under pressure. Yet they still allow the person to play. Why? I believe you can answer that now. |
| Re: Men Are Rarely Warned About This Until The Damage Is Done. by Kemical23(m): 9:40am On Aug 17 |
Then why did he forgive Satan and refuse to forgive humanity... Pukkalolo: |
| Re: Men Are Rarely Warned About This Until The Damage Is Done. by rapcy(m): 9:44am On Aug 17 |
Cum4me:So you believe the galaxy is vast, you believe all the videos you've seen? Let me ask you, who took photos of the galaxies and how sure are you those photos are real? If you could believe something like that, why are you asking the OP as to what he believes when both of you believe thesame thing? 1 Like |
| Re: Men Are Rarely Warned About This Until The Damage Is Done. by Pukkalolo(op): 10:04am On Aug 17 |
Kemical23:Where is it written that he forgave Satan? |
| Re: Men Are Rarely Warned About This Until The Damage Is Done. by Kemical23(m): 11:08am On Aug 17 |
Pukkalolo:why then did he allow Satan to torment his beloved children... That means Satan and the Bible God is using us for fun... |
| Re: Men Are Rarely Warned About This Until The Damage Is Done. by smoke9910(m): 11:31am On Aug 17 |
Wise words OP. You've said it all. Contentment in human beings is rare and even more rare among women. Every man has got to watch out. 1 Like |
| Re: Men Are Rarely Warned About This Until The Damage Is Done. by Cum4me(m): 11:32am On Aug 17 |
MEGAWATCH:blind man wake up |
| Re: Men Are Rarely Warned About This Until The Damage Is Done. by Pukkalolo(op): 6:06pm On Aug 17 |
Kemical23:Because his beloved children rebeled against him by eating the forbidden fruit. |
| Re: Men Are Rarely Warned About This Until The Damage Is Done. by Kemical23(m): 6:13pm On Aug 17 |
Pukkalolo:and he tell us to forgive our enemies 77 times but refuse to forgive his children for what happened thousands of years ago.... I believe you can see the contradiction your self... |
| Re: Men Are Rarely Warned About This Until The Damage Is Done. by tunize(m): 6:20pm On Aug 17 |
LordIsaac:The question is why didn't Adam reject is and lead the part as the head? |
| Re: Men Are Rarely Warned About This Until The Damage Is Done. by YouandiAllofus: 9:31pm On Aug 17 |
rapcy:Go on YouTube and search the word (international space station), there you will find real-time life videos or pictures. |
| Re: Men Are Rarely Warned About This Until The Damage Is Done. by LordIsaac(m): 12:05am On Aug 18*. Modified: 2:52am On Aug 19 |
tunize:We can invoke naievity here. Her eyes were opened first; the onus was on her to help him not to fall. |
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