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She Was The Most Beautiful Girl In My Set. 22 Years Later, She Is Still Single by uche87(op): 11:52am On Sep 12

I attended a very expensive private secondary school in Ibadan. Previously, I attended a public school. I remember my father took out a loan to pay my first term's school fees. The man literally showed me the money, in raw cash, while in the company of my mother.

My parents were just middle-level civil servants. When I got to my new school, I saw this dark-skinned girl who was unique in her own way. She was of average height, slim, quiet and very neat. She had a high sense of maturity. She never played rough. Her school uniform was always very neat and clean. Her spoken English was very good. She had a smile that could heal a wounded soul.

What stood out about her was her confidence. The way she carried herself wasn't loud or intimidating, but it sent a message: “I know my worth.” Everyone easily talked about her. Her parents were well-to-do, and they were based in Lagos State while she schooled as a boarder in an Ibadan school. Historically, Ibadan-based people have always had a huge respect for Lagosians. That was another plus for her.

She was a girl who could lighten your mood just by talking to you at school. Many boys in my set, the 2004 class, believed she liked them simply because they had spoken a few times or she smiled at them. As a shy person from a civil servant home, I didn't stand a chance, like Atiku Abubakar in the next presidential election. I simply admired and observed from a distance.

A couple of boys were linked to her romantically, but it was more talk than action, no hands-on. Her body was like a sanctuary she never wanted to defile. Her influence was so powerful that a handsome boy who got very close to dating her actually failed and repeated a class. He dropped her name as an excuse for his failure, claiming she affected his academic focus. Guess what? She passed and did so well. The guy in question is a popular Christian cleric in Ibadan, Nigeria, today. Life is interesting.

She was never short of suitors. After one school holiday, rumours swirled around the school that a boy from a wealthy family, well-travelled across the world, had driven a Mercedes-Benz to her house in the highbrow Island area of Lagos to woo her. She said NO!
The news spread around the school, with nobody verifying whether it was true or false. It nevertheless further boosted her reputation. It probably pushed a few light-hearted men even further away.

After we left school, most of us from average families struggled. She had a relatively smooth ride. Not much was heard about her. Many said she got a job with one of the top tech companies in the world, and the pay was monstrous. Things got better, and she also moved abroad. It appears suitors never stopped coming. Maybe she felt nobody deserved her. Or perhaps life simply took her in a different direction. Twenty-two years later, she is still single. She is about 40 now.

Marriage isn't a big deal, women always say, but that argument becomes more complicated when an African woman is involved. In many African societies, marriage still carries enormous social and family expectations. Beauty can be a blessing, but perhaps it can also become a curse. There is an interesting phenomenon involving beautiful single women. Some suitors assume they are not really single. Others believe their standards are too high or that there will be too much competition involved in winning their hearts. Some men simply assume that a woman who looks that good must already have several men fighting for her attention. Others believe she might never be submissive in marriage.

It is almost like buying a vehicle that requires high maintenance. You admire it from a distance, but you convince yourself that owning it will be too expensive or complicated. In the end, a beautiful woman can find herself alone, not necessarily because nobody wants her, but because many people assume somebody else already has her. Some may eventually have relationships that are casual and convenient, with men who come, do the work and sail off until their services are needed again. Life can be such a humbler.

On a personal note, I don't believe marriage is for everybody. The earlier Africans face this reality, the better. Some people are genuinely better off being alone. Several people are marking marriage anniversaries with very limited happy moments behind the photographs and celebrations.

But that is a topic for another day.

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Re: She Was The Most Beautiful Girl In My Set. 22 Years Later, She Is Still Single by Sonnobax15(m): 12:12pm On Sep 12

Have you ever wondered Why we have more pretty ladies who are single more than the ugly ones? angry

Marrying a pretty lady most of the time is like planting a mango tree in the middle of a busy road angry

. So,most men only play with them but when it's time to choose a wife,they go for the ugly ladies cuz that's where peace of mind resides angry

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Re: She Was The Most Beautiful Girl In My Set. 22 Years Later, She Is Still Single by immortalcrown(m): 12:14pm On Sep 12*

Success is not in all angles.

One thing or the other is missing in every life.

But, what if she is a celibate for religious reasons?

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Re: She Was The Most Beautiful Girl In My Set. 22 Years Later, She Is Still Single by vickyfrancis1(m): 12:30pm On Sep 12

You write very well.
I also believe that praises and complements enters their head and some usually places unnecessary high standards on themselves before they realizes, it's already too late.
And most times, life is somehow easy for them because they get favours from men and women alike, the wise ones capitalized on such favours while the unwise ones don't, thereby being inept all round.

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Re: She Was The Most Beautiful Girl In My Set. 22 Years Later, She Is Still Single by Diamond098454(f): 1:02pm On Sep 12

Meaning no one marries pretty girls?

Sonnobax15:

Have you ever wondered Why we have more pretty ladies who are single more than the ugly ones?

Marrying a pretty lady most of the time is like planting a mango tree in the middle of a busy road . So,most men only play with them but when it's time to choose a wife,they go for the ugly ladies cuz that's where peace of mind resides

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Re: She Was The Most Beautiful Girl In My Set. 22 Years Later, She Is Still Single by Diamond098454(f): 1:05pm On Sep 12

This forum can make one regret why she comes into this world. She doesn't want to marry that's why she's single

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Re: She Was The Most Beautiful Girl In My Set. 22 Years Later, She Is Still Single by grandstar(m): 1:23pm On Sep 12

uche87:
I attended a very expensive private secondary school in Ibadan. Previously, I attended a public school. I remember my father took out a loan to pay my first term's school fees. The man literally showed me the money, in raw cash, while in the company of my mother.

My parents were just middle-level civil servants. When I got to my new school, I saw this dark-skinned girl who was unique in her own way. She was of average height, slim, quiet and very neat. She had a high sense of maturity. She never played rough. Her school uniform was always very neat and clean. Her spoken English was very good. She had a smile that could heal a wounded soul.

What stood out about her was her confidence. The way she carried herself wasn't loud or intimidating, but it sent a message: “I know my worth.” Everyone easily talked about her. Her parents were well-to-do, and they were based in Lagos State while she schooled as a boarder in an Ibadan school. Historically, Ibadan-based people have always had a huge respect for Lagosians. That was another plus for her.

She was a girl who could lighten your mood just by talking to you at school. Many boys in my set, the 2004 class, believed she liked them simply because they had spoken a few times or she smiled at them. As a shy person from a civil servant home, I didn't stand a chance, like Atiku Abubakar in the next presidential election. I simply admired and observed from a distance.

A couple of boys were linked to her romantically, but it was more talk than action, no hands-on. Her body was like a sanctuary she never wanted to defile. Her influence was so powerful that a handsome boy who got very close to dating her actually failed and repeated a class. He dropped her name as an excuse for his failure, claiming she affected his academic focus. Guess what? She passed and did so well. The guy in question is a popular Christian cleric in Ibadan, Nigeria, today. Life is interesting.

She was never short of suitors. After one school holiday, rumours swirled around the school that a boy from a wealthy family, well-travelled across the world, had driven a Mercedes-Benz to her house in the highbrow Island area of Lagos to woo her. She said NO!
The news spread around the school, with nobody verifying whether it was true or false. It nevertheless further boosted her reputation. It probably pushed a few light-hearted men even further away.

After we left school, most of us from average families struggled. She had a relatively smooth ride. Not much was heard about her. Many said she got a job with one of the top tech companies in the world, and the pay was monstrous. Things got better, and she also moved abroad. It appears suitors never stopped coming. Maybe she felt nobody deserved her. Or perhaps life simply took her in a different direction. Twenty-two years later, she is still single. She is about 40 now.

Marriage isn't a big deal, women always say, but that argument becomes more complicated when an African woman is involved. In many African societies, marriage still carries enormous social and family expectations. Beauty can be a blessing, but perhaps it can also become a curse. There is an interesting phenomenon involving beautiful single women. Some suitors assume they are not really single. Others believe their standards are too high or that there will be too much competition involved in winning their hearts. Some men simply assume that a woman who looks that good must already have several men fighting for her attention. Others believe she might never be submissive in marriage.

It is almost like buying a vehicle that requires high maintenance. You admire it from a distance, but you convince yourself that owning it will be too expensive or complicated. In the end, a beautiful woman can find herself alone, not necessarily because nobody wants her, but because many people assume somebody else already has her. Some may eventually have relationships that are casual and convenient, with men who come, do the work and sail off until their services are needed again. Life can be such a humbler.

On a personal note, I don't believe marriage is for everybody. The earlier Africans face this reality, the better. Some people are genuinely better off being alone. Several people are marking marriage anniversaries with very limited happy moments behind the photographs and celebrations.

But that is a topic for another day.

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The foolish boy that wrote this went to ISI.

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Re: She Was The Most Beautiful Girl In My Set. 22 Years Later, She Is Still Single by terrezo2002(m): 1:38pm On Sep 12*

That's life. Time and Chance happeneth to them all. Therefore, it is not of him that wills or runs, but it is of God that shows mercy.

Don't be too confident because you are not the controller of events.

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Re: She Was The Most Beautiful Girl In My Set. 22 Years Later, She Is Still Single by Mariangeles(mod): 1:39pm On Sep 12

Yemite132:
My name his Ola from Lagos Epe,,I’m male single with no kids and love having sex every day and go for many rounds and cause of this girls always leave me so anyone interested can contact me on

Channel most of that energy into something more productive and profitable.

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Re: She Was The Most Beautiful Girl In My Set. 22 Years Later, She Is Still Single by happney65: 1:49pm On Sep 12

"Historically, Ibadan-based people have always had a huge respect for Lagosians. That was another plus for her."

Which kain of mumu yeye talk be this? As how? Like Ibadan people worship Lagosians? Are you okay sha?

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Re: She Was The Most Beautiful Girl In My Set. 22 Years Later, She Is Still Single by Sonnobax15(m): 1:57pm On Sep 12*

Diamond098454:
This forum can make one regret why she comes into this world. She doesn't want to marry that's why she's single

. Stop sounding as if it's women that have the final say when it comes to marriage angry

. Go to mid week church services and see how your gender goes about praying for men to come and rescue them with marriage angry

. No just make me vex this afternoon 😡

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Re: She Was The Most Beautiful Girl In My Set. 22 Years Later, She Is Still Single by SixSeven: 2:04pm On Sep 12

You have this amount of time to think about someone's else's life? Have you opened a podcast studio yet? To hear their 22 years later story?

You don't know the full picture since you left school. You are judging a cut and paste story if you don't know.

People are rarely good judges of others' lives because external judgments usually reflect the observer's own insecurities rather than the reality of someone else's situation.

My dear, you only know 1/100th of the story and that is your headline.

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Re: She Was The Most Beautiful Girl In My Set. 22 Years Later, She Is Still Single by SixSeven: 2:10pm On Sep 12

Yemite132:
My name his Ola from Lagos Epe,,I’m male single with no kids and love having sex every day and go for many rounds and cause of this girls always leave me so anyone interested can contact me on

09030623315

What do you bring to the table after sex?

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Re: She Was The Most Beautiful Girl In My Set. 22 Years Later, She Is Still Single by Diamond098454(f): 2:22pm On Sep 12

It's men that have the final decision? Hmmm🤔🤔 you can't vex for me because men don't get angry at me

Sonnobax15:
. Stop sounding as if it's women that have the final say when it comes to marriage . Go to mid week church services and see how your gender goes about praying for men to come and rescue name with marriage . No just make me vex this afternoon 😡

Re: She Was The Most Beautiful Girl In My Set. 22 Years Later, She Is Still Single by yinkeys(m): 2:23pm On Sep 12

Pride is the d evil
E go

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Re: She Was The Most Beautiful Girl In My Set. 22 Years Later, She Is Still Single by silibaba: 2:55pm On Sep 12

And sonwhat if she is single? Is marriage an achievement?

uche87:
I attended a very expensive private secondary school in Ibadan. Previously, I attended a public school. I remember my father took out a loan to pay my first term's school fees. The man literally showed me the money, in raw cash, while in the company of my mother.

My parents were just middle-level civil servants. When I got to my new school, I saw this dark-skinned girl who was unique in her own way. She was of average height, slim, quiet and very neat. She had a high sense of maturity. She never played rough. Her school uniform was always very neat and clean. Her spoken English was very good. She had a smile that could heal a wounded soul.

What stood out about her was her confidence. The way she carried herself wasn't loud or intimidating, but it sent a message: “I know my worth.” Everyone easily talked about her. Her parents were well-to-do, and they were based in Lagos State while she schooled as a boarder in an Ibadan school. Historically, Ibadan-based people have always had a huge respect for Lagosians. That was another plus for her.

She was a girl who could lighten your mood just by talking to you at school. Many boys in my set, the 2004 class, believed she liked them simply because they had spoken a few times or she smiled at them. As a shy person from a civil servant home, I didn't stand a chance, like Atiku Abubakar in the next presidential election. I simply admired and observed from a distance.

A couple of boys were linked to her romantically, but it was more talk than action, no hands-on. Her body was like a sanctuary she never wanted to defile. Her influence was so powerful that a handsome boy who got very close to dating her actually failed and repeated a class. He dropped her name as an excuse for his failure, claiming she affected his academic focus. Guess what? She passed and did so well. The guy in question is a popular Christian cleric in Ibadan, Nigeria, today. Life is interesting.

She was never short of suitors. After one school holiday, rumours swirled around the school that a boy from a wealthy family, well-travelled across the world, had driven a Mercedes-Benz to her house in the highbrow Island area of Lagos to woo her. She said NO!
The news spread around the school, with nobody verifying whether it was true or false. It nevertheless further boosted her reputation. It probably pushed a few light-hearted men even further away.

After we left school, most of us from average families struggled. She had a relatively smooth ride. Not much was heard about her. Many said she got a job with one of the top tech companies in the world, and the pay was monstrous. Things got better, and she also moved abroad. It appears suitors never stopped coming. Maybe she felt nobody deserved her. Or perhaps life simply took her in a different direction. Twenty-two years later, she is still single. She is about 40 now.

Marriage isn't a big deal, women always say, but that argument becomes more complicated when an African woman is involved. In many African societies, marriage still carries enormous social and family expectations. Beauty can be a blessing, but perhaps it can also become a curse. There is an interesting phenomenon involving beautiful single women. Some suitors assume they are not really single. Others believe their standards are too high or that there will be too much competition involved in winning their hearts. Some men simply assume that a woman who looks that good must already have several men fighting for her attention. Others believe she might never be submissive in marriage.

It is almost like buying a vehicle that requires high maintenance. You admire it from a distance, but you convince yourself that owning it will be too expensive or complicated. In the end, a beautiful woman can find herself alone, not necessarily because nobody wants her, but because many people assume somebody else already has her. Some may eventually have relationships that are casual and convenient, with men who come, do the work and sail off until their services are needed again. Life can be such a humbler.

On a personal note, I don't believe marriage is for everybody. The earlier Africans face this reality, the better. Some people are genuinely better off being alone. Several people are marking marriage anniversaries with very limited happy moments behind the photographs and celebrations.

But that is a topic for another day.

https://www.facebook.com/thevillagetowncrier

CC Lalasticlala Seun Ishilove Mynd44 Dominique MissyB3 Fynestboi NLfpmod

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Re: She Was The Most Beautiful Girl In My Set. 22 Years Later, She Is Still Single by aybabz101: 3:14pm On Sep 12*

Wetin concern you if she is single or not?

I think you people need to know that not all men or all women will get married.....

you guys have to get that imprinted into your skulls...

You are meeting up with a long time colleague and the thing wey dey bother you na that she neva marry..!!..

God will help you people

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Re: She Was The Most Beautiful Girl In My Set. 22 Years Later, She Is Still Single by Robertgreene1(m): 3:15pm On Sep 12

Is it your single? My friend, go and do something better with your life.

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Re: She Was The Most Beautiful Girl In My Set. 22 Years Later, She Is Still Single by Eba50: 3:16pm On Sep 12

Her Plugs ball joint, piston, rings, chain and sprocket,alignment etc don go. She is above 40. Even a 34 year old, men no dey look their way.

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Re: She Was The Most Beautiful Girl In My Set. 22 Years Later, She Is Still Single by Goo0dHardDick: 3:17pm On Sep 12

Dear men,

That girl you're killing yourself now, simping and doing everything you can to impress and get her, give her 5 years and you won't even talk to her again because she'll become unattractive. Beauty fades with time! More beautiful girls are growing up every single day!

You're the prize bro!

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Re: She Was The Most Beautiful Girl In My Set. 22 Years Later, She Is Still Single by SonOfWords(m): 3:18pm On Sep 12

Mariangeles:
Channel most of that energy into something more productive and profitable.

Maybe sex is what's productive and profitable for him. To each his own, they say.

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Re: She Was The Most Beautiful Girl In My Set. 22 Years Later, She Is Still Single by DeltaBachelor(m): 3:19pm On Sep 12

Such is life. Everything happens by grace

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Re: She Was The Most Beautiful Girl In My Set. 22 Years Later, She Is Still Single by Omoreal01: 3:19pm On Sep 12

I see why Nigeria is what stage it's... Make una keep making babies and seeing it as a success... Thinking children na una retirement plans... E go soon shock una... So being single means failure?

uche87:
https://www.facebook.com/thevillagetowncrier

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Re: She Was The Most Beautiful Girl In My Set. 22 Years Later, She Is Still Single by yemre: 3:21pm On Sep 12

Sonnobax15:

Have you ever wondered Why we have more pretty ladies who are single more than the ugly ones?

Marrying a pretty lady most of the time is like planting a mango tree in the middle of a busy road . So,most men only play with them but when it's time to choose a wife,they go for the ugly ladies cuz that's where peace of mind resides

You said it all, bro. Men marry with their eyes and mind wide open

Re: She Was The Most Beautiful Girl In My Set. 22 Years Later, She Is Still Single by RealityKings1: 3:22pm On Sep 12

Maybe she wants to go to seminary.
Marriage is not for every lady

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Re: She Was The Most Beautiful Girl In My Set. 22 Years Later, She Is Still Single by ginggerxy: 3:23pm On Sep 12

Sonnobax15:

Have you ever wondered Why we have more pretty ladies who are single more than the ugly ones?

Marrying a pretty lady most of the time is like planting a mango tree in the middle of a busy road . So,most men only play with them but when it's time to choose a wife,they go for the ugly ladies cuz that's where peace of mind resides

They forget they are as human as every other girls out there. Forget all the hype and what have you, as every poo's so do you and dies as everyone one will, may just be beautiful and nothing really special about you aside that

Re: She Was The Most Beautiful Girl In My Set. 22 Years Later, She Is Still Single by Achor1111(m): 3:25pm On Sep 12

uche87:
https://www.facebook.com/thevillagetowncrier

....., I didn't stand a chance, like Atiku Abubakar in the next presidential election. I simply admired and observed from a distance.

Line choke

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Re: She Was The Most Beautiful Girl In My Set. 22 Years Later, She Is Still Single by yemre: 3:26pm On Sep 12

uche87:
I didn't stand a chance, like Atiku Abubakar in the next presidential election. I simply admired and observed from a distance.

This one really cracked me up!!

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Re: She Was The Most Beautiful Girl In My Set. 22 Years Later, She Is Still Single by Againstthewall: 3:28pm On Sep 12

Diamond098454:
It's men that have the final decision? Hmmm🤔🤔 you can't vex for me because men don't get angry at me

Who proposes in a relationship, man or woman? Who asks the other out in the first place? Have you asked a man out before? The truth is, a man typically has a greater say in a relationship than a woman, even though it takes the agreement of both for marriage to take place.

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Re: She Was The Most Beautiful Girl In My Set. 22 Years Later, She Is Still Single by Dshocker(m): 3:31pm On Sep 12

uche87:
https://www.facebook.com/thevillagetowncrier

On today's episode of things that never happened

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