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Story time.

I was dating this guy for almost 3 years. He wasn’t extremely rich, but he was hardworking and always made sure I was okay.

One day, he told me his business was going through a difficult period and asked if I could support him with some money. I didn’t have much, but I gave him what I could.

A few months later, his behaviour suddenly changed. He became distant, stopped communicating properly and eventually told me he needed space.

I was heartbroken.

Then, about 6 months later, I found out something I never expected.

He had actually been financially stable the whole time.

The “business problem” was apparently a test to see whether I genuinely loved him or was only interested in his money.

Now here is the controversial part:

Was he wrong for testing me, or was I wrong for giving him money without asking enough questions?

And honestly, if someone you’re dating secretly tests your loyalty like this, would you forgive them?

Copying my story or are you my girlfriend on nairaland

Kpk22:
Story time.

I was dating this guy for almost 3 years. He wasn’t extremely rich, but he was hardworking and always made sure I was okay.

One day, he told me his business was going through a difficult period and asked if I could support him with some money. I didn’t have much, but I gave him what I could.

A few months later, his behaviour suddenly changed. He became distant, stopped communicating properly and eventually told me he needed space.

I was heartbroken.

Then, about 6 months later, I found out something I never expected.

He had actually been financially stable the whole time.

The “business problem” was apparently a test to see whether I genuinely loved him or was only interested in his money.

Now here is the controversial part:

Was he wrong for testing me, or was I wrong for giving him money without asking enough questions?

And honestly, if someone you’re dating secretly tests your loyalty like this, would you forgive them?

Imalwayshorny:
Copying my story or are you my girlfriend on nairaland

😂 If the shoe fits, wear it. I never mentioned your name though

Abeg talk the story again

Jokes apart never know you're on nairaland I'll chat you on Whatsapp now

Kpk22:
😂 If the shoe fits, wear it. I never mentioned your name though

Your last paragraph, you said you are dating him secretly... that's awkward

I think you should be bothered that after taking your money his behavior changed

That doesn't bother you?

illicit:
Your last paragraph, you said you are dating him secretly... that's awkward

I think you shoukd be bothered that after taking your money his behavior changed

That doesn't bother you?

😂 That part should actually bother me, but the bigger issue for me is the deception. If you had to test my love with money, then there was already a trust problem in the relationship

Kpk22:
😂 That part should actually bother me, but the bigger issue for me is the deception. If you had to test my love with money, then there was already a trust problem in the relationship

The relationship get k leg from the set off

illicit:
Your last paragraph, you said you are dating him secretly... that's awkward

I think you should be bothered that after taking your money his behavior changed

That doesn't bother you?

😂 I understand your point. At the time, I was more focused on understanding why his behavior changed than on the fact that the relationship was secret. Sometimes when you’re inside a situation, you don’t see the red flags the same way outsiders do.