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There is something bothering me and even as I'm typing this there is no auta of happiness in me. My elder sister has made it an habit of giving out things to neighbors and sometimes it makes it hard for me especially when I am in need of that particular thing. They'll borrow big pot for a whole 2 weeks sometimes when we want to cook there'll be no big pot to use and when you go to their house to knock they'll say they are using it.

To the extent that if I collect that thing they'll come back at night to collect it back. This morning she was complaining that a neighbor wanted to carry pot and saw the onions we hid and took two. Now here's the most annoying part they'll mention the amount of things they want like four pure water,three onions,three Maggi even the gas doesn't last us to a month. And these are paying Ajo and doing pledges in various groups.

I know one that is doing Ajo of 50k to get 500k the time I was working in my former job and I was earning 45k she will say I should do her card now,or small data because I sell data but I don't do it anymore because no profit. I will tell her I don't have she's earning if not mistaken 200k and she's buying wigs and perfumes and skin care and hair care products but immediately they pay her she is broke but has money to spend on herself.

I don't want to sound rude but they're making me feel bad,and I don't want it to be like I'm getting frustrated or anything but it is not right.
I couldn't even boil water this morning because the kettle wasn't in our room. I have told her it's her fault because she has also been complaining about the fact that they don't knock our room and my cousin sister said I should leave her because there was a time she refused to give someone block from the fridge saying she cannot force it out and my sister started shouting that the should give the person.

Her friend who was inside the room with us angrily went to the fridge and forced it out to give to the man and said she is two sided and doesn't know what's doing her. Can you imagine that one of our neighbors went to the market bought onions and grinded everything while coming to borrow onions from us every day morning, afternoon and evening.

We're contributing to buy this things because where we stay food stuff are very expensive,I was even complaining to someone that when I wasn't paid salary it was hard for me to feed because if I go to someone for credit especially one lady at my house she'll frown face and this is someone I buy something from in a regular. Sometimes she'll say that thing is not available but she'll sell to someone else in my presence.

The one wey pain me pass na egg she collected the egg from me and said it's remaining only two and she wants to go and buy new one so she can't give me credit.

So you can see why I'm very angry with everything that's going on I don't want to fight anyone because I don't want to bring myself so low I don't care what they'll say but it is getting out of hand and inconvening me

I don't see any big issue here.

Just be bold enough to say NO to them,and nobody will beat you for saying it.

Nobody send anybody come township

Guy do fast leave that house, go and rent a place somewhere and stay.

That is the solution

First time I'm genuinely feeling bad for a Stranger
You should try much as possible to get your own special Space,cux it's too much

Tell your sister u won't contribute again then only be buying the thing u need bit by bit learn to say no

Nigerians are naturally opportunist in nature. They would keep taking advantage of you until you stop letting them

Sonnobax15:

I don't see any big issue here.

Just be bold enough to say NO to them,and nobody will beat you for saying it.

Nobody send anybody come township

I use to be a " yes person" but I learnt how to say no. It started with my uncle, he wanted me work for him- I should monitor his truck in a location where his other employees refuse to go.

"No" is a complete sentence. It does not require any further clarification.

They are killing you small small. I will advice that you go get another place for your sanity and peace

Tell them NO and if your sisters keep giving things out, stop contributing shishi to buy foodstuffs

cousin sister 
Somebody will tell Nigerians one day this is tautology and it's not a proper word
Meanwhile OP
You go clear that your sister better OT o

The standard of living is at its lowest ebb ATM. Over 70% of Nigerians are struggling to survive. people are just hanging there

If not for bad governance what is food that is causing domestic problems. People are barely trying to survive, please don't cause inconvenience in other people's lives..

- If you don't have voters card, then I have nothing to say.

96ACE:
If not for bad governance what is food that is causing domestic problems. People are barely trying to survive, please don't cause inconvenience in other people's lives..

- Most people in Nigeria who complain about bad governance don't even have voter's card or participate in elections. Any eligible adult in Nigeria today who doesn't have a voter's card and planning on voting in the next general election should not be taken seriously.

Some people are so much OWNERSHIP kind of persons, any little thing you manage to give them for a while automatically becomes theirs, it goes beyond bad governance as I have known people in this categories for many years.

You borrow them your pen, car to use for a while, household items including match box, gas /gas cooker, pots etc and they never seem bothered to want to return it. But theirs can't leave them for a moment.

Learn to refuse anything you don't fully agree with that is bad.

Your Sis thinks this people love her, let her say no and watch them show their real colours.

So far they can do this to you [b][b]The one wey pain me pass na egg she collected the egg from me and said it's remaining only two and she wants to go and buy new one so she can't give me credit.[/b][/b]You too should know how to do it to them back and act as if you don't have money for a week you will see that your sister true color too

It’s just simple, you relocate and go else where. And pray for your sister that her eyes may open up. Bible never said give your life to parasites. Parasites eat from you, and don’t share but diseases with you.

If I talk now they will say I am tribalistic... There is a particular tribe here in Lagos that can beg and borrow... Having them as neighbors can be extremely irritating ... They are also too loud




I no call anyone ooooo

I don't create that atmosphere for any neighbour to even knock at my door let alone borrowing things.

Absolutely! It’s all about the vibe. charming, for a little… persuasion. AcadaWriter

WHY 3XACTLY ARE YOU COMPLAINING FOR SOMETHING YOU CAN OUTRIGHTLY REJECT BY SAYING NO?

Jozilinn:
There is something bothering me and even as I'm typing this there is no auta of happiness in me. My elder sister has made it an habit of giving out things to neighbors and sometimes it makes it hard for me especially when I am in need of that particular thing. They'll borrow big pot for a whole 2 weeks sometimes when we want to cook there'll be no big pot to use and when you go to their house to knock they'll say they are using it.

To the extent that if I collect that thing they'll come back at night to collect it back. This morning she was complaining that a neighbor wanted to carry pot and saw the onions we hid and took two. Now here's the most annoying part they'll mention the amount of things they want like four pure water,three onions,three Maggi even the gas doesn't last us to a month. And these are paying Ajo and doing pledges in various groups.

I know one that is doing Ajo of 50k to get 500k the time I was working in my former job and I was earning 45k she will say I should do her card now,or small data because I sell data but I don't do it anymore because no profit. I will tell her I don't have she's earning if not mistaken 200k and she's buying wigs and perfumes and skin care and hair care products but immediately they pay her she is broke but has money to spend on herself.

I don't want to sound rude but they're making me feel bad,and I don't want it to be like I'm getting frustrated or anything but it is not right.
I couldn't even boil water this morning because the kettle wasn't in our room. I have told her it's her fault because she has also been complaining about the fact that they don't knock our room and my cousin sister said I should leave her because there was a time she refused to give someone block from the fridge saying she cannot force it out and my sister started shouting that the should give the person.

Her friend who was inside the room with us angrily went to the fridge and forced it out to give to the man and said she is two sided and doesn't know what's doing her. Can you imagine that one of our neighbors went to the market bought onions and grinded everything while coming to borrow onions from us every day morning, afternoon and evening.

We're contributing to buy this things because where we stay food stuff are very expensive,I was even complaining to someone that when I wasn't paid salary it was hard for me to feed because if I go to someone for credit especially one lady at my house she'll frown face and this is someone I buy something from in a regular. Sometimes she'll say that thing is not available but she'll sell to someone else in my presence.

The one wey pain me pass na egg she collected the egg from me and said it's remaining only two and she wants to go and buy new one so she can't give me credit.

So you can see why I'm very angry with everything that's going on I don't want to fight anyone because I don't want to bring myself so low I don't care what they'll say but it is getting out of hand and inconvening me

YOU TALK AS IF ITS THAT EASY TO JUST GET UP AND FIND A PLACE IN THIS COUNTRY.

ARISHEM:
They are killing you small small. I will advice that you go get another place for your sanity and peace

Jozilinn:
There is something bothering me and even as I'm typing this there is no auta of happiness in me. My elder sister has made it an habit of giving out things to neighbors and sometimes it makes it hard for me especially when I am in need of that particular thing. They'll borrow big pot for a whole 2 weeks sometimes when we want to cook there'll be no big pot to use and when you go to their house to knock they'll say they are using it.

To the extent that if I collect that thing they'll come back at night to collect it back. This morning she was complaining that a neighbor wanted to carry pot and saw the onions we hid and took two. Now here's the most annoying part they'll mention the amount of things they want like four pure water,three onions,three Maggi even the gas doesn't last us to a month. And these are paying Ajo and doing pledges in various groups.

I know one that is doing Ajo of 50k to get 500k the time I was working in my former job and I was earning 45k she will say I should do her card now,or small data because I sell data but I don't do it anymore because no profit. I will tell her I don't have she's earning if not mistaken 200k and she's buying wigs and perfumes and skin care and hair care products but immediately they pay her she is broke but has money to spend on herself.

I don't want to sound rude but they're making me feel bad,and I don't want it to be like I'm getting frustrated or anything but it is not right.
I couldn't even boil water this morning because the kettle wasn't in our room. I have told her it's her fault because she has also been complaining about the fact that they don't knock our room and my cousin sister said I should leave her because there was a time she refused to give someone block from the fridge saying she cannot force it out and my sister started shouting that the should give the person.

Her friend who was inside the room with us angrily went to the fridge and forced it out to give to the man and said she is two sided and doesn't know what's doing her. Can you imagine that one of our neighbors went to the market bought onions and grinded everything while coming to borrow onions from us every day morning, afternoon and evening.

We're contributing to buy this things because where we stay food stuff are very expensive,I was even complaining to someone that when I wasn't paid salary it was hard for me to feed because if I go to someone for credit especially one lady at my house she'll frown face and this is someone I buy something from in a regular. Sometimes she'll say that thing is not available but she'll sell to someone else in my presence.

The one wey pain me pass na egg she collected the egg from me and said it's remaining only two and she wants to go and buy new one so she can't give me credit.

So you can see why I'm very angry with everything that's going on I don't want to fight anyone because I don't want to bring myself so low I don't care what they'll say but it is getting out of hand and inconvening me

Its either you are big enough to say no or you dash them n buy another one

Who be the mod wey move this kind low IQ post go front page? 🤔

Users won't stop till you stand your ground.

Op your problem is a small challenge. I know those kind of people. Tomorrow very early morning, go to her door, knock and ask her to borrow you her cream and perfume that your own has finished. Anyhow she reacts, do the same to her next time. If she gives you, carry it to your room. Even if she doesn't give you, go again in the evening and ask for another thing like power bank or charger. Ask for crayfish, soap, bucket and the kinds of things she borrows from you. Keep asking her things for three weeks straight, morning and evening. Watch what happens from there it. Don't quarrel your sister. Anyhow they react, just politely tell your sister that they won't reciprocate

TheMensch:
Op your problem is a small challenge. I know those kind of people. Tomorrow very early morning, go to her door, knock and ask her to borrow you her cream and perfume that your own has finished. Anyhow she reacts, do the same to her next time. If she gives you, carry it to your room. Even if she doesn't give you, go again in the evening and ask for another thing like power bank or charger. Ask for crayfish, soap, bucket and the kinds of things she borrows from you. Keep asking her things for three weeks straight, morning and evening. Watch what happens from there it. Don't quarrel your sister. Anyhow they react, just politely tell your sister that they won't reciprocate

Flesh and blood did not reveal this to you.

Jozilinn:
There is something bothering me and even as I'm typing this there is no auta of happiness in me. My elder sister has made it an habit of giving out things to neighbors and sometimes it makes it hard for me especially when I am in need of that particular thing. They'll borrow big pot for a whole 2 weeks sometimes when we want to cook there'll be no big pot to use and when you go to their house to knock they'll say they are using it.

To the extent that if I collect that thing they'll come back at night to collect it back. This morning she was complaining that a neighbor wanted to carry pot and saw the onions we hid and took two. Now here's the most annoying part they'll mention the amount of things they want like four pure water,three onions,three Maggi even the gas doesn't last us to a month. And these are paying Ajo and doing pledges in various groups.

I know one that is doing Ajo of 50k to get 500k the time I was working in my former job and I was earning 45k she will say I should do her card now,or small data because I sell data but I don't do it anymore because no profit. I will tell her I don't have she's earning if not mistaken 200k and she's buying wigs and perfumes and skin care and hair care products but immediately they pay her she is broke but has money to spend on herself.

I don't want to sound rude but they're making me feel bad,and I don't want it to be like I'm getting frustrated or anything but it is not right.
I couldn't even boil water this morning because the kettle wasn't in our room. I have told her it's her fault because she has also been complaining about the fact that they don't knock our room and my cousin sister said I should leave her because there was a time she refused to give someone block from the fridge saying she cannot force it out and my sister started shouting that the should give the person.

Her friend who was inside the room with us angrily went to the fridge and forced it out to give to the man and said she is two sided and doesn't know what's doing her. Can you imagine that one of our neighbors went to the market bought onions and grinded everything while coming to borrow onions from us every day morning, afternoon and evening.

We're contributing to buy this things because where we stay food stuff are very expensive,I was even complaining to someone that when I wasn't paid salary it was hard for me to feed because if I go to someone for credit especially one lady at my house she'll frown face and this is someone I buy something from in a regular. Sometimes she'll say that thing is not available but she'll sell to someone else in my presence.

The one wey pain me pass na egg she collected the egg from me and said it's remaining only two and she wants to go and buy new one so she can't give me credit.

So you can see why I'm very angry with everything that's going on I don't want to fight anyone because I don't want to bring myself so low I don't care what they'll say but it is getting out of hand and inconvening me

You need to stop appearing as if you have everything, they believe you have more than they do and they are shameless to keep coming then you telling them NO is good but you know some people can just decide to go spiritual with you for nonsense reason

You have to be very prayerful then you must also begin to go to them to ask them to borrow you things, infact once they show up you tell them you are already coming to their apartment to borrow some money again be prayerful

Be strategic so that they can assume you don't have enough and be prayerful

Your sister sef should feel uncomfortable giving out these things for them to use but it seems she's a people-pleaser or the type of person who can't tell people no when some things should be an immediate no-no. They've the money but rather borrow from her than buy their own to use. How bizarre.

You leave amongst leeches who are probably better off but sees you guys as 'mugu'.

Take a stand and put an end to the rubbish. Imagine the glorified beggars busting into your room at will without knocking/invitation.
The matter shall dey una hand.