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Why does it feel so awkward when you ask a girl out and she says no, even if you don't resent her nothing is the same anymore.

L1TTLE:
Why does it feel so awkward when you ask a girl out and she says no, even if you don't resent her nothing is the same anymore.

If you don't resent her and yet nothing is the same anymore, maybe it's because you wanted her to say 'yes' and you assumed she should.

itzadorable333:
If you don't resent her and yet nothing is the same anymore, maybe it's because you wanted her to say 'yes' and you assumed she should.

of course I wanted her to say yes, people don't take the big step of asking girls out if they don't hope for a yes.

L1TTLE:
of course I wanted her to say yes, people don't take the big step of asking girls out if they don't hope for a yes.

That's normal but if that were the only case, you would feel at most indifferent to her answer given the understanding that one man's food is another's poison. But for her answer to affect you more than just a usual 'no' it means there's something more added to your desire for her to say 'yes'. In some cases, it could be 'sense of entitlement', in another case it could be 'fear of rejection', it could as well be another factor.

She no like you, she no like you.

Go find who like you..

E get some girls that you too don't like..

Rejection is normal,so move on to the next fish. Too many fishes in the river,for you to he complaing over 1

itzadorable333:
That's normal but if that were the only case, you would feel at most indifferent to her answer given the understanding that one man's food is another's poison. But for her answer to affect you more than just a usual 'no' it means there's something more added to your desire for her to say 'yes'. In some cases, it could be 'sense of entitlement', in another case it could be 'fear of rejection', it could as well be another factor.

Or maybe i really cared, if someone is indifferent and shows no reaction to your rejection it means you're not really serious to him in the first place, you might just be another conquest, your interpretation is flawed.

L1TTLE:
Or maybe i really cared, if someone is indifferent and shows no reaction to your rejection it means you're not really serious to him in the first place, you might just be another conquest, your interpretation is flawed.

Lol how do you 'really care' for someone you know nothing or almost nothing about? By your reasoning, you 'really cared' for every girl you approached. If this is the case then yours is a case of naivety.

BigYash:
She no like you, she no like you.

Go find who like you..

E get some girls that you too don't like..

Rejection is normal,so move on to the next fish. Too many fishes in the river,for you to he complaing over 1

My brother me I just dey taya for the sort of boys wey dem come dey born abi no man to bring dem up again as men? You can't have every girl. Even Jesus Christ many people still dey reject am till tomorrow. Girl no like you e dey pain you howww Must every girl like you? Na so dem dey start before you know he go press one smally neck cos she say she no do again. Which kind people dey raise these boys of today sef? As fine girls plenty full every where even some wey dem never touch still dey unexplored

itzadorable333:
Lol how do you 'really care' for someone you know nothing or almost nothing about? By your reasoning, you 'really cared' for every girl you approached. If this is the case then yours is a case of naivety.

Okay you sef see say small mental problem dey the matter abi
One unfortunate girl go fall for this one na to comot go become war

kiddaz:
Okay you sef see say small mental problem dey the matter abi
One unfortunate girl go fall for this one na to comot go become war

hehehe brotherly, by the way he sounds, i wouldn't put the V-label past him.

itzadorable333:
hehehe brotherly, by the way he sounds. I wouldn't put the V-label past him.

Oh most probably so 🤣🤣🤣🤣

kiddaz:
Oh most probably so 🤣🤣🤣🤣

hahaha, observe it

Only narcissists that doesn't take no for an answer.

Rejection is part of life when it comes to relationship or dating. Never take rejection too far but compliment and protection.


When a woman tells me no, it's always protection for me.

Every woman can never accept or like you for who you are. Know this and have peace.

itzadorable333:
Lol how do you 'really care' for someone you know nothing or almost nothing about? By your reasoning, you 'really cared' for every girl you approached. If this is the case then yours is a case of naivety.

Lol and this is supposed to be embarrassing? Going by your analogy you've assumed I'm that guy who sees a girl on the street i just ask her out, before i ask you out we would've been friends for a while, I don't ask a girl out on a whim, is it abnormal to care about someone you've known to some extent? so you're naive for assuming that too.

kiddaz:
My brother me I just dey taya for the sort of boys wey dem come dey born abi no man to bring dem up again as men? You can't have every girl. Even Jesus Christ many people still dey reject am till tomorrow. Girl no like you e dey pain you howww Must every girl like you? Na so dem dey start before you know he go press one smally neck cos she say she no do again. Which kind people dey raise these boys of today sef? As fine girls plenty full every where even some wey dem never touch still dey unexplored

No be all of us be narcissist bro, if you no understand English go learn, there's no resentment i said it in my post but English hard, why would i resort to violence, i just feel awkward talking to her after she said no, how is that same with whatever you're on about?

kiddaz:
My brother me I just dey taya for the sort of boys wey dem come dey born abi no man to bring dem up again as men? You can't have every girl. Even Jesus Christ many people still dey reject am till tomorrow. Girl no like you e dey pain you howww Must every girl like you? Na so dem dey start before you know he go press one smally neck cos she say she no do again. Which kind people dey raise these boys of today sef? As fine girls plenty full every where even some wey dem never touch still dey unexplored

The matter dey tire me too. Na these jen Z mostly. They've got zero game. Their own na to throw money give girl. Wear baggy pant.

BigYash:
The matter dey tire me too. Na these jen Z mostly. They've got zero game. Their own na to throw money give girl. Wear baggy pant.

Na them oo.. zero game, zero minded individuals. Na why dem dey quick commit suicide and kpai their girlfriends easily

BigYash:
The matter dey tire me too. Na these jen Z mostly. They've got zero game. Their own na to throw money give girl. Wear baggy pant.

Welcome to Nigeria where old age is wisdom, foolish people grow old too you know, and i can tell you're an ancestor, all they know is wear skinny jeans and be stingy.

kiddaz:
Na them oo.. zero game, zero minded individuals. Na why dem dey quick commit suicide and kpai their girlfriends easily

You get the point

Reminds of some years back when this one man got angry because I turned down his handshake...

L1TTLE:
Lol and this is supposed to be embarrassing? Going by your analogy you've assumed I'm that guy who sees a girl on the street i just ask her out, before i ask you out we would've been friends for a while, I don't ask a girl out on a whim, is it abnormal to care about someone you've known to some extent? so you're naive for assuming that too.

Lol if you don't 'ask a girl out on a whim' as you claim, it means you are not naïve as it appears, but then one who is not naïve in affairs like this should not let emotions get the better of them when their requests get turned down. Besides, one who is experienced as you now claim, should know better than to approach a lady who'll turn them down.

BigYash:
The matter dey tire me too. Na these jen Z mostly. They've got zero game. Their own na to throw money give girl. Wear baggy pant.

Word! The operative word here being ZERO GAME. This is what I've been trying to indirectly hint the op, but it seems he's catching it different.

L1TTLE:
Welcome to Nigeria where old age is wisdom, foolish people grow old too you know, and i can tell you're an ancestor, all they know is wear skinny jeans and be stingy.

hmm now how do you want to learn the game, if you decide to chase your teachers?

L1TTLE:
Or maybe i really cared, if someone is indifferent and shows no reaction to your rejection it means you're not really serious to him in the first place, you might just be another conquest, your interpretation is flawed.

😂😂😂 this is crazy. Baba na by force.

itzadorable333:
hmm now how do you want to learn the game, if you decide to chase your teachers?

Lol who endorse am as my teacher? I only learn from people who are atleast intelligent, you can't teach me when you take gullible to a whole new level.

L1TTLE:
Lol who endorse am as my teacher? I only learn from people who are atleast intelligent, you can't teach me when you take gullible to a whole new level.

lol it is well

itzadorable333:
Lol if you don't 'ask a girl out on a whim' as you claim, it means you are not naïve as it appears, but then one who is not naïve in affairs like this should not let emotions get the better of them when their requests get turned down. Besides, one who is experienced as you now claim, should know better than to approach a lady who'll turn them down.

You're misunderstanding everything unfortunately, what game do you keep talking about, I'm merely wondering why interacting with her can't be normal anymore no matter how hard i try, if i resented her or want her to say yes by force I'd be angry and cut her off na, i still interact with her, which means I harbored no ill feelings, unfortunately the way someone interprets something is directly as a result of his level of comprehension, because i dey talk A you dey talk B, and I can't change that overnight, maybe you should tell me your native language so i can translate it to that, maybe you'll grasp that one because this is exhausting.

Well that's cux you feel like a loser, try giving her money so just maybe she will consider you

So stop disturbing us with why you felt awkward when there's clearly a solution

L1TTLE:
Why does it feel so awkward when you ask a girl out and she says no, even if you don't resent her nothing is the same anymore.

No matter how confident you are, getting rejected will affect that confidence, but take solace in the fact that even the best of us get rejected at times too, it doesn't make you less human or reduce whatever you are, take it as another experience and move on to the next, na why girls plenty be that, her reason for saying no might be something very insignificant but because you're overthinking it, it becomes a big deal, which indirectly affects your interactions with her, leave all those oversabi up there telling you you've got no game or you're gen z, maturity and game has nothing to do with women, and understanding the way they think or why they do what they do is an effort in futility, even the wisest men avoid trying to understand women, she said no, it happens, those ones with game get rejected alot too, just forget it happened and try someone else, you fit be someone's rejected conquest and be the icing on a cake to another person, thats how life works.

L1TTLE:
You're misunderstanding everything unfortunately, what game do you keep talking about, I'm merely wondering why interacting with her can't be normal anymore no matter how hard i try, if i resented her or want her to say yes by force I'd be angry and cut her off na, i still interact with her, which means I harbored no ill feelings, unfortunately the way someone interprets something is directly as a result of his level of comprehension, because i dey talk A you dey talk B, and I can't change that overnight, maybe you should tell me your native language so i can translate it to that, maybe you'll grasp that one because this is exhausting.

Well the way you sound it seems you know the solution more than the problem. So you'll be fine, trust me.

dauntless15:
No matter how confident you are, getting rejected will affect that confidence, but take solace in the fact that even the best of us get rejected at times too, it doesn't make you less human or reduce whatever you are, take it as another experience and move on to the next, na why girls plenty be that, her reason for saying no might be something very insignificant but because you're overthinking it, it becomes a big deal, which indirectly affects your interactions with her, leave all those oversabi up there telling you you've got no game or you're gen z, maturity and game has nothing to do with women, and understanding the way they think or why they do what they do is an effort in futility, even the wisest men avoid trying to understand women, she said no, it happens, those ones with game get rejected alot too, just forget it happened and try someone else, you fit be someone's rejected conquest and be the icing on a cake to another person, thats how life works.

op I believe you'll love this one

dauntless15:
No matter how confident you are, getting rejected will affect that confidence, but take solace in the fact that even the best of us get rejected at times too, it doesn't make you less human or reduce whatever you are, take it as another experience and move on to the next, na why girls plenty be that, her reason for saying no might be something very insignificant but because you're overthinking it, it becomes a big deal, which indirectly affects your interactions with her, leave all those oversabi up there telling you you've got no game or you're gen z, maturity and game has nothing to do with women, and understanding the way they think or why they do what they do is an effort in futility, even the wisest men avoid trying to understand women, she said no, it happens, those ones with game get rejected alot too, just forget it happened and try someone else, you fit be someone's rejected conquest and be the icing on a cake to another person, thats how life works.

Thanks, maybe I'm really overthinking it, finally someone who gets it, simple question they're now saying all sorts of things like they know who i am, i guess they haven't been rejected before considering they've got so much game and they're not gen z.