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I have been dating her for 2yrz plus now. She possess all the qualities I need in a lady,very supportive but my major problem with her is that she is materialistic.All effort to change her proves abortive and her parents already address me as their inlaw same with my parents addressing her as inlaw. Plz NL hw do I change her cause am about to quit if she refuse to change.materialistic lady are never satisfied with what one man can provide that my major believe and I cannot marry such a materialistic lady.Advice plz

OP
for the fact that you have reach dating limit to propose to her and settle down...rather comes up with her been materialistic..and you try all ur best to make her change but no avail then it's better to call it off...atleast creat more vacancy for serious unmaterialistic ladies..

quality01: I have been dating her for 2yrz plus now. She possess all the qualities I need in a lady,very supportive but my major problem with her is that she is materialistic.All effort to change her proves abortive and her parents already address me as their inlaw same with my parents addressing her as inlaw. Plz NL hw do I change her cause am about to quit if she refuse to change.materialistic lady are never satisfied with what one man can provide that my major believe and I cannot marry such a materialistic lady.Advice plz

Haw materialistic exactly is she? Example?

Might just be basic needs but maybe you aint too kul financially, you seee it as a burden?

You can't have a complete package gee. If she got 60-70% of your desires, y not?

Ʊ cud sit her down and bare your mind to her. Tell her haw Ʊ feel about dis ish. Wud Ʊ wano threaten her with d quit τaικ? Left ƒoя Ʊ

HARDDON: Haw materialistic exactly is she? Example?

Meant just be basic need but maybe you aint too kul financially, you seee it as a burden?

You can't have a complete package gee. If she got 60-70% of your desires, y not?

Ʊ cud sit her down and bare your mind to her. Tell her haw Ʊ feel about dis ish. Wud Ʊ wano threaten her with d quit τaικ? Left ƒoя Ʊ

I told time to talk to her about it but she said that's her nature and I cannot change it.

quality01: I told time to talk to her about it but she said that's her nature and I cannot change it.

Which kinda materialistic are we talking about here does it min dt she works for her money and spends it d way she deems fit OR she spends ur money anyhow

Also, looks lyk u didn't discuss it with her in a serious manner or what is the meaning of it's her nature Is she a shopaholic or something Most gals park well when dey notice d behaviour is about to cost them their relationship. Since you said she has every oda good quality, maybe u should take d discussion serious...who knows She might come to her senses and start behaving fine! But if she's not making any effort at changing, maybe you should find your way cos it wld only get worse when she gets married to you!

190: ^The minute he seats her down and talks to her about her materialistic nature
she withdraws and secretly moves to her next target/victim
shes probably still wif him as a result of her financial gains and ol!

nor be NIGERIAN girl we dey talk about again, he shud kick her hungry a=r-se to the creeks
No time for national rubbish this year

Seconded. No time for national rubbish. Kick her furking arss out...

after 2 years you just realise this today
SMH
It seems u have the cash to throw around so if she is good in most other aspects then stay with her.
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Although I don't understand how a supportive [giving to you] person can be materialistic [taking from u]

I think it is a good idea, i read this post recently on materialistic girls

Never marry this lady. She would run you down.Men are naturally impulsive spenders, so women are supposed to help check mate the spending habits of men in most cases. When a woman is completely materialistic and is in it for the money, the man would be forced to go overboard, spending to keep her happy, spending to make the marriage work and then spending even more when the marriage is eventually over, and it would, except the man has the endurance and wisdom which only God bestows.

http://www.elijahforce..com/2013/02/8-ladies-to-never-marry.html

quality01: I told time to talk to her about it but she said that's her nature and I cannot change it.

you skipped ma most important Q.

give us two examples of how materialistic your lady is.

then we wud know whatz what

all ladies have inherent cravings for fine things....

they were made from finished material unlike man that was fashioned from dust

quality01: I have been dating her for 2yrz plus now. She possess all the qualities I need in a lady,very supportive but my major problem with her is that she is materialistic.All effort to change her proves abortive and her parents already address me as their inlaw same with my parents addressing her as inlaw. Plz NL hw do I change her cause am about to quit if she refuse to change.materialistic lady are never satisfied with what one man can provide that my major believe and I cannot marry such a materialistic lady.Advice plz

Guy, get this simple fact straight, you cant change anybody, infact people dnt change. It only get worse.

If i were you, i will start thinkin of how to put everybody in the know so nobody will be shocked when i share the grace.

And i can assure you that such gals wud have numerous options.

Relationship that would lead to marriage shdnt be endured except you wanna live ur life lik dat and the journey is very far.

I was dating a rude gal last year and i discovered ova time that she wudnt change, in fact she told me that i shdnt make any attempt to change her, thats the way she is, and thats the way she has been living her live, she dosnt see anytin wrong in it, so i shd get used to it. I told mysef i cant cope wit it, marriage is nt to be endured, its to be enjoyed. I backed off straight

quality01: All effort to change her proves abortive and her parents already address me as their inlaw same with my parents addressing her as inlaw. Plz NL hw do I change her cause am about to quit if she refuse to change.materialistic lady are never satisfied with what one man can provide that my major believe and I cannot marry such a materialistic lady.Advice plz

People don't really change. Hardly ever.

HARDDON: you skipped ma most important Q.

give us two examples of how materialistic your lady is.

then we wud know whatz what

all ladies have inherent cravings for fine things....

they were made from finished material unlike man that was fashioned from dust

she likes to be alwayz flashy n she wnts to acquire anytin she wnt irrespective of the amount involve.

sunny t: Guy, get this simple fact straight, you cant change anybody, infact people dnt change. It only get worse.

If i were you, i will start thinkin of how to put everybody in the know so nobody will be shocked when i share the grace.

And i can assure you that such gals wud have numerous options.

Relationship that would lead to marriage shdnt be endured except you wanna live ur life lik dat and the journey is very far.

I was dating a rude gal last year and i discovered ova time that she wudnt change, in fact she told me that i shdnt make any attempt to change her, thats the way she is, and thats the way she has been living her live, she dosnt see anytin wrong in it, so i shd get used to it. I told mysef i cant cope wit it, marriage is nt to be endured, its to be enjoyed. I backed off straight

tnx very much.I tink I wil begin 2 reduce my level of care n luv 2 her n d family and weneva am being questioned abt the recent development of my attitude I wil bluntly give them my reasons

Op

Ur bank acct don dey show RED

I alwayz tell boyz & men if u don't have money stay away from 9ja ladies

And you stayed in for 2years!
If you have gotten a non atm-lover and invested the money you spent on her... think.

Lots of wise thrifty supportive girls out there bro.
Mooove!

Lovetinz: And you stayed in for 2years!
If you have gotten a non atm-lover and invested the money you spent on her... think.

Lots of wise thrifty supportive girls out there bro.
Mooove!

tnx a lot.quit on my mind now

Two years with her you say? And now that things have gotten to marriage level you realised she's materialistic; thus you came to nairaland to get the support of manner less and self centred nairaland Nigerian men to quit. Well if you believe that you are without imperfections, go cast the stone and pray it doesn't bounce back at you.

Silly Nigerian man with dumb reasoning! Still wonder how women tolerate your kind. Mtcheeeew.

[quote author=gbaky_floor]Two years with her you say? And now that things have gotten to marriage level you realised she's materialistic; thus you came to nairaland to get the support of manner less and self centred nairaland Nigerian men to quit. Well if you believe that you are without imperfections, go cast the stone and pray it doesn't bounce back at you.

Silly Nigerian man with dumb reasoning! Still wonder how women tolerate your kind. Mtcheeeew.[/quote]plz no insult.right from inception I alwayz complain of her been materialistic with the hope she will change but is not working out.plz I wil welcome your contribution on how to make her change.plz any advice must be practicalise in ensuring she change from that.

[quote author=gbaky_floor]Two years with her you say? And now that things have gotten to marriage level you realised she's materialistic; thus you came to nairaland to get the support of manner less and self centred nairaland Nigerian men to quit. Well if you believe that you are without imperfections, go cast the stone and pray it doesn't bounce back at you.
Silly Nigerian man with dumb reasoning! Still wonder how women tolerate your kind. Mtcheeeew.[/quote]God bless u!

rodeo0070: Seconded. No time for national rubbish. Kick her furking arss out...

Me too, Kicj her ass jari, No tym for national rubbish !!

rodeo0070: Seconded. No time for national rubbish. Kick her furking arss out...

Me too, Kick her ass jari, No tym for national rubbish !!

HARDDON: Haw materialistic exactly is she? Example?

Might just be basic needs but maybe you aint too kul financially, you seee it as a burden?

You can't have a complete package gee. If she got 60-70% of your desires, y not?

Ʊ cud sit her down and bare your mind to her. Tell her haw Ʊ feel about dis ish. Wud Ʊ wano threaten her with d quit τaικ? Left ƒoя Ʊ

and u are cool financially because u use a BB and use the omega sign instead of the letter 'U'?

[quote author=gbaky_floor]Two years with her you say? And now that things have gotten to marriage level you realised she's materialistic; thus you came to nairaland to get the support of manner less and self centred nairaland Nigerian men to quit. Well if you believe that you are without imperfections, go cast the stone and pray it doesn't bounce back at you.

Silly Nigerian man with dumb reasoning! Still wonder how women tolerate your kind. Mtcheeeew.[/quote]so what exactly is your point? He should go ahead and marry her, even after he stated that he can't bear her materialism anymore, simply because they've been together for 2 yrs? Guy don't listen this poster. They are obviously birds of a feather and she's just here to defend her sister in crime.
Quit the damnn relationship NOW..

quality01: she likes to be alwayz flashy n she wnts to acquire anytin she wnt irrespective of the amount involve.

from whose pockets, if its from your pocket , put an embargo on that for now and watch what happens.

SLIDE waxie: and u are cool financially because u use a BB and use the omega sign instead of the letter 'U'?

[color=RED]DOA!! [/color]

When u 1st met her were u not enjoying d Brazillian hair mary Kay eyelashes nails etc etc. U dun kno na moni she use buy am u say u want marry d girl so get ready to spend n dunt be a stingy koko cus if u dunt spend another n*gga wil

quality01: plz no insult.right from inception I alwayz complain of her been materialistic with the hope she will change but is not working out.plz I wil welcome your contribution on how to make her change.plz any advice must be practicalise in ensuring she change from that.

PEOPLE DON'T CHANGE EXCEPT IN RARE CASES AND SUCH CHANGES COME FROM INSIDE WHEN AND IF THEY HAPPEN.

[quote author=d33j@y85]When u 1st met her were u not enjoying d Brazillian hair mary Kay eyelashes nails etc etc. U dun kno na moni she use buy am u say u want marry d girl so get ready to spend n dunt be a stingy koko cus if u dunt spend another n*gga wil[/quote].

If our women want to be taken seriously and respected by men and not seen as an object or a trophy, they've got to start reducing their financial demands on men.

He who pays the piper dictates the tune.

Some men think they reserve the right to batter/overly control their babe because they sponsor her. This may be a warped idea BUT women can avoid it by being more contented with what they have.

If you just appear materialistic and superficial, men may just tolerate you but certainly don't respect you.
Anyway, I mostly dated non-Naija/African ladies so the concept of women just demanading dough is almost alien to me now.

You will never find someone perfect.

It's all about finding the person who's imperfections you can live with.

PS: Is she Igbo?