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Let me give a scenario:

You meet a girl that's like 10/10 in almost every department and she's like the girl of your dream. You're so into each other and though you only met like a couple of weeks ago, it's like you have known each other since you were kids. All in all, it seems like everything is destined to go far. However the only problem is that the girl has too many male friends and she isn't afraid to tell you about them. Also every time she talks about being with someone, it's always different male friends.

As a guy, you know how super attractive the girl is and you know no guy would just want to be around her and not want to have a taste of the forbidden fruit. She's that attractive, sexy, and beautiful. She looks like Nicki Minaj with bigger bo.obs but without the silicon.

It's not official yet but you know she likes you lot. She calls you all time and she's always fond of holding you tight and telling you to touch her, every time you're around her.

So what can be done about the excessive male friends? Should they be ignored? Or is it better to just leave the girl alone and move on to a next thing?

Whats wrong with her having male friends? You dont see girls yapping or moaning about their guy having numerous female friends.
Shouldnt you be happy that she tells you about each one of them or are you one of those guyz that dont like their women being near anything of the opposite sex?
Quit the green-eyed monster act, its so not cool.

You are not even dating her yet and you are insecure. Deal with your own issues first else stay away

What play does a lion play with a dog? She has them for reasons: many potential suitors , but she likes you and she hopes you will be the lion to finally devour her.

lyfe: What play does a lion play with a dog? She has them for reasons: many potential suitors , but she likes you and she hopes you will be the lion to finally devour her.

Must there be an anterior motive?

If keeping so many male friends by her is a big deal, save yourself the heart ache, let her go.

reminds me of one of my exes, me go dey my bed for night, na she go still carry fone call me say she just dey enta house for night. I try talk to her, she no change, plus rumours come dey enta my ears of which when i ask she go deny. I just give her plenty space to catch her fun.

U might as well consider doing same if after talking to her there's no change.

Op I think you should talk to her about it so she knows your feelings about it.

I have many male friends too and every night i am out its with one of them. This caused problems between me and my Ex and made him do crazy things. By the time we decided to address the issue it was too late. The ratio of male to female friends i have is 70-30. It just depends on the kind of guys she hangs out with. Its just more fun being around them but if you aren't comfortable with it let her know.

Mynd_44: Must there be an anterior motive?

Most times sir. Hardly will you see a mutual girl-guy relationship that devoids some sort of underlying motives. I have decent amount of female friends I'm close to and I respect them and do not cross my boundary, but I don't think I will hesitate to climb any of them if I gat a request that we do "something something...."

i think thats where trust comes in,i have a girl like that. shes really beautiful and a nice person and every where she goes, guys always hit on her. and these guys are not just small boys, they re oil workers , foreigners, politicians, and really big boys. initially it was difficult but with time we got past that stage. she tells me about every guy she meets even introduced me to some of them. we re really open with each other, i mean there is nothing about her that i dont know and that has really helped us. you have got to trust her and she has got to come clean about her relationships with them. look at it this way, you are a special guy if not she would have left you for one of them. if they really meant something to her.

Mynd_44: Must there be an anterior motive?

@op, i undastan hw u feel. It s nt easy xpecially wen u get 2 knw dat most of ha male frens r beta endowed dan u. Talk 2 ha abt d issue and hear ha response. Bt guy, if dat gal lyks u more, she'l surely stick wit u. 2 get 5n babe no easy o. U knw wat? MARRY AM SHARPENLY else... Hmm. Make i no yan.

I prefer to have male friends to female friends, that why i dont date guys around me to avoid jealousy. Ma Male friends plenty like madt and ma boo never know because he doesn't stay around me.

Wit inter tribal marriages now takin an unassumin trend, beautiful crossbreeds ar almost every were. (Just sayin)

@op u dnt want a gf hu is too clingy, best frnd I had was a girl hu had so many guys as frnds we later fell in love buh immediately we did we lost touch of each oda. Wat I did was to let her hang out wit her male frnds while I hang out wit d my n her female frnds. At a point she got too jealous n was askin me not to walk or talk wit sum gals whom I knw were startin to be interested in me. At dat point, I had to use her jealousy to kip her away from her male frnds (at least to sum extent). U ar d man n u got to rule ur relationship.

k2039: If keeping so many male friends by her is a big deal, save yourself the heart ache, let her go.

thank u jare. Keeping too many male frnds is a deterrent on it's own.

It's not abt insecuriy- only half of the males will look the other way and not make advances to nail her asssss

Bro this is accurately the story of my life, everything here happened in my relationship, but now is over and I’m happy cos it was draining me.

bittyend:
Let me give a scenario:

You meet a girl that's like 10/10 in almost every department and she's like the girl of your dream. You're so into each other and though you only met like a couple of weeks ago, it's like you have known each other since you were kids. All in all, it seems like everything is destined to go far. However the only problem is that the girl has too many male friends and she isn't afraid to tell you about them. Also every time she talks about being with someone, it's always different male friends.

As a guy, you know how super attractive the girl is and you know no guy would just want to be around her and not want to have a taste of the forbidden fruit. She's that attractive, sexy, and beautiful. She looks like Nicki Minaj with bigger bo.obs but without the silicon.

It's not official yet but you know she likes you lot. She calls you all time and she's always fond of holding you tight and telling you to touch her, every time you're around her.

So what can be done about the excessive male friends? Should they be ignored? Or is it better to just leave the girl alone and move on to a next thing?

Red flag

Hmmmm. Your story is like a Nigerian movie.

After reading for 2 minutes, I already know how this will end.

If you are not a SIGMA who is very much in control of his emotions, let her be. Else your BP go dey high every week.

Don't be that guy

bittyend:
Let me give a scenario:

You meet a girl that's like 10/10 in almost every department and she's like the girl of your dream. You're so into each other and though you only met like a couple of weeks ago, it's like you have known each other since you were kids. All in all, it seems like everything is destined to go far. However the only problem is that the girl has too many male friends and she isn't afraid to tell you about them. Also every time she talks about being with someone, it's always different male friends.

As a guy, you know how super attractive the girl is and you know no guy would just want to be around her and not want to have a taste of the forbidden fruit. She's that attractive, sexy, and beautiful. She looks like Nicki Minaj with bigger bo.obs but without the silicon.

It's not official yet but you know she likes you lot. She calls you all time and she's always fond of holding you tight and telling you to touch her, every time you're around her.

So what can be done about the excessive male friends? Should they be ignored? Or is it better to just leave the girl alone and move on to a next thing?

addictiv:
i think thats where trust comes in,i have a girl like that. shes really beautiful and a nice person and every where she goes, guys always hit on her. and these guys are not just small boys, they re oil workers , foreigners, politicians, and really big boys. initially it was difficult but with time we got past that stage. she tells me about every guy she meets even introduced me to some of them. we re really open with each other, i mean there is nothing about her that i dont know and that has really helped us. you have got to trust her and she has got to come clean about her relationships with them. look at it this way, you are a special guy if not she would have left you for one of them. if they really meant something to her.

If your story is true, I pity who no pity you.

....very unfortunate that you guys dnt know how feelings work and by extension how woman heart is fragile and above all, how manipulative woman can be.

I wish I tell you stories of women who their hearts hardened initial wen we first met, and how they melted to a point of almost no return at the end.

Why is that happened? Just because they gave me freedom & space for communication and be around them, when the feelings crept inside their hearts, they couldn't explain.

Dnt forget these women are for some people o.

NB. @ ur bolded, no girl would ever tells you the guy that having sex with her, she would sure tells you sweet things ur 👂 wanted to hear nah.

bittyend:
Let me give a scenario:

You meet a girl that's like 10/10 in almost every department and she's like the girl of your dream. You're so into each other and though you only met like a couple of weeks ago, it's like you have known each other since you were kids. All in all, it seems like everything is destined to go far. However the only problem is that the girl has too many male friends and she isn't afraid to tell you about them. Also every time she talks about being with someone, it's always different male friends.

As a guy, you know how super attractive the girl is and you know no guy would just want to be around her and not want to have a taste of the forbidden fruit. She's that attractive, sexy, and beautiful. She looks like Nicki Minaj with bigger bo.obs but without the silicon.

It's not official yet but you know she likes you lot. She calls you all time and she's always fond of holding you tight and telling you to touch her, every time you're around her.

So what can be done about the excessive male friends? Should they be ignored? Or is it better to just leave the girl alone and move on to a next thing?

Let me advise you as a man, who had several experiences, both personal and from close friends that spans for over two decades.

That type of girl is for public, take that to the bank, meanwhile your type won't be able to date her, because of jealousy.

The way you see her showing feelings for you, is the way she is showing it for others. (ALL GIRLS IN THIS WORLD WOULD DENYING, IF YOU ASK THEM ABOUT OTHER GUYS THEY ARE DATING OR HAVING SEX WITH)

The two options you have

Dnt toast her and distance urself from her,(in order not be hurting ur own feeling by urself)

2. Just be sleeping with her without having feelings for her, you won't even ask her if you see man on top of her.

k2039:
If keeping so many male friends by her is a big deal, save yourself the heart ache, let her go.

Yes, he's suspicion may be right. I have first hand experience where this girl keep mostly male friends. First, it seem not to be a big deal but I found out she was fvcking this guys and it's normal to her. I tried to see if she can change but my hands were getting burnt anytime I tried. More of her escapades keep bursting the more I stick around. In fact, I had premium tears.

So he should run as fast as he can. Unless he doesn't love her & just want to play with her.