I need to ask fellow naija people a honest question: I got a job and a house, i have finished my first degree, i am not interested in playing the field and i have a stable G/F (of 2 yrs). I want to marry but they are saying i am too young/its too early. (I am 24y old, btw.)
Must i grow gray hairs b4 i marry ?

kinda still young, but to some other ppl they will say, they wanna archive first before getting married well what i will say to you is that,if you kinda comfortable at the status you are now, well you can marry.

i dont think u are too young to get married, u just let dem know we are in d year 2006. dey must av think we are still in 1930s. But if dey keep saying u too young den give d girl bele (make her pregnant). i guess dey wud know how far if she got pregnant for you,

Meeen, I feel this guy. why them no allow am live hin life? he seems to have his stuff. Ol boy, do your thing jare.

shameless:

i don't think u are too young to get married, u just let them know we are in d year 2006. dey must av think we are still in 1930s. But if dey keep saying u too young den give d girl bele (make her pregnant). i guess dey would know how far if she got pregnant for you,

U are an advice stealer, oya pay me. lol

Seriously tho, u r not too young, besides you sound like someone ready for marriage, you r comfortable and happy with your life. Just tell them that you are old enough and it's '06, not '80s

Go and marry jare! Infact, I like seeing young couples like that.

my fiance will be 23 when we get married, a few of my nigerian friends keep saying he is very very young but we both feel like we are ready,

monister

Its the parents (hers) i'm talking about. She's OK with it, but they saying "where u rushing to". Yet i have been preparing - psychologically at least - since i Left asecondary school.

As faces differ that's how destiny(akara aka) differs too. Just go for marriage counselling and tie the knot quick quick.

just wait a few more years

@ poster, havent you heard of a married couiple at 12? ask yur northern friends.

The fact that you are asking this question is an indication that you are not ready for marriage.

Age, job security and having a house doesn't mean you are matured. It takes a man to marry a woman and it is not a function of age. I commend your point of view of not playing the field, but you need to understand what marriage is all about before going into it. You cannot walk in and out at will.

post is kinda old--- 2006

wonder where the guy is now with his married life or then players life. actually no one should rush into any marriage whatsoever, all those folks talking quick quick wont be there when you rush out too quick quick or then slow slow

everyone and anyóne needs to take their time out while making this decision. it should be a lifetime decision and not 2 weeks or months' decision ,

my own 2 kobo

true, the post is old, but someone else might be in the same situation, thinking marriage is a cure for sexual desires

If one doesn't have self control, marriage would only amplify it.Until a guy develops self discipline, self control, confidence and maturity he should not venture taking responsibility of another persons life

Rhodalyn:

just wait a few more years

i think i support rhoda, don't be carried away because of sexual urge, this is a stage so many people passes through (both male/female) and they feel the same way you are feeling right now. many usually think marriage is all about getting plenty of sex anytime they want it but that's not all, i think married people will be in the same position to tell u more about that.

i know you are only an innocent guy trying to be cool with life, but life is not like that my guy.

you are still young, fresh with a promising career , look before you leap

olrotimi:

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@ poster, havent you heard of a married couiple at 12? ask yur northern friends.

you are right but what become of them? most of them end up breaking up

Most of the advise offered here are too AFRICAN. Only God will save us, I cant Imagine a boy of 24yrs and people saying he is too young to marry, too pathetic

24 is kinda young for a guy but okay for a ladY.

Make sure your matured enough to withstand challenges before getting married,personally, i think your still too young to be thinking of marriage and its life time committment.

freecocoa:

24 is kinda young for a guy but okay for a ladY.

24yrs is young for a guy with a job, house and also a graduate, You are talking from our African thing I think, and the kind of believe we uphold, When at 24yrs in western world a guy is fast getting old, ok no problem when am 45yrs I will ask for your hand in marriage by then you will be like 35yrs old,

geekguy:
I need to ask fellow naija people a honest question: I got a job and a house, i have finished my first degree, i am not interested in playing the field and i have a stable G/F (of 2 yrs). I want to marry but they are saying i am too young/its too early. (I am 24y old, btw.)
Must i grow gray hairs b4 i marry ?

yes