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farano: We've been friends for over 3 years now that I personally decided to take it to another level. So on that faithful day, when we were together, i unfolded my feelings for him, he did too staring deeply into my eyes and romantically holding my hands.
My heart was beating faster and slower at the same time that I was forced to pop out that mighty four letter word. With my angelic voice, I told him 'I love you dear' But surprisingly, his response was 'i should allow it to grow naturally'. I smiled but within me I was very angry All those feelings disappeared instantly.

You ladies say it most times. Now a guy told you what he think about your feelings proposal...you're getting mad. I think the guy is a gentleman. Give him time.

3cycle: How you take know?
Two adults decided to remain friends for three years and one now developed feelings for another, told him how she feels only to be turned down by the nigga.

Are you saying that the guy is supposed to accept even when he knows deep down that he doesn't feel a thing for her.

3cycle: Once a lady friendzones a guy she sees him as a her confidant. She can never develop feelings for him in this life time.

Wrong! Friendzone is a good place if you know when/how to make a move. The sexx is always hot, you may not get it all the time but is always hot and free

3cycle: In this case the guy friendzoned her.

That is a premature conclusion swthrt.

3cycle: Farano welcome to the club

You can see that I'm very obedient.

Seun: What did you notice?

I noticed some signs that I'm becoming a priority in his life

Chai which day seun go comment for my matter, diarisgod

Nobleval: You ladies say it most times. Now a guy told you what he think about your feelings proposal...you're getting mad. I think the guy is a gentleman. Give him time.

Alright Sir tho there may not be another opportunity... lol

He actually gave you a honest and straight-forward answer or reply....

I really commend your courage...I believe you have waited enough...3 years no be joke at all....I think you should give him time to ruminate and digest on what you told him...

He is a good friend to you...Most guys will jump to this kind of opportunity and use n dump you later...claiming you were the one who initiated the relationship...

Lol op I can imagine. But he just gave a piece of advice na. Take it with not to heart

3cycle: Once a lady friendzones a guy she sees him as a her confidant. She can never develop feelings for him in this life time.

I take it that you just had a SRS today and that you are new to womanhood.

rozzay: Chai which day seun go comment for my matter, diarisgod

He Only comments on sincered, matured and reasonable threads.

Whistling : "this is superstory"

When I told my only gf, "I love you".

Of course, she kept quiet, knowing fully well she liked me, I knew I fell in love before she did.

One person must fall in love before the other. But people who lack understanding decide to take advantage of the partner who fell in love first.

I just heard a lady tell me that last week and she was regretting telling me. I encouraged her and told her I liked her and that when I fall in love, I will tell her.

Meanwhile this is a girl I dreamt for 6 months on how to corner. After the cornering, she fell in love first. That's how it is.

Feelings do not pretend..

dmcdad: Just like that? I no gree oooooo. Unless if it wasn't for real, and that would mean the guy actually did the right thing. In any case, the guy did what was right. But to say the feelings disappeared instantly finally proved the guy right beyond all shadows of doubt that it just wasn't right of her at that juncture.

Well if the guy just wants to be friends the feelings kind of weakens. If a guy does not start out with feelings of attraction for a woman she may just become a quick snack or friends storing up feelings hoping it will grow is a waste of time so no matter how real her feelings were once he said NO the feelings just hide.

Women don't do rejection well or rather as well as men.

andromida: Well if the guy just wants to be friends the feelings kind of weakens. If a guy does not start out with feelings of attraction for a woman she may just become a quick snack or friends storing up feelings hoping it will grow is a waste of time so no matter how real her feelings were once he said NO the feelings just hide.

Women don't do rejection well or rather as well as men.

Are you sure about the bold? I think it depends on the individual but for guys, starting out with feelings of attraction, is often a suicidal approach. It's always better to take it one step at a time, and not rush things.

shymexx: Are you sure about the bold? I think it depends on the individual but for guys, starting out with feelings of attraction, is often a suicidal approach. It's always better to take it one step at a time, and not rush things.

There is a lot in the bold so which part?

Why would it be suicidal for a guy to start out with feelings of attraction?

TrollMan: He Only comments on sincered, matured and reasonable threads.

Indeed

So this is the only matured, sincere and reasonable thread in the whole of this section...


Seun can like to be forming Voltron a times sef

And I know why he chose to comment on this.. A penny for my thought?

andromida: There is a lot in the bold so which part?

Why would it be suicidal for a guy to start out with feelings of attraction?

I was alluding to my own understanding of the whole sentence. I think you want guys to always make their feelings known from the start, no?

Based on personal experience(s), with chics, you don't have to rush. It's always better to take one-step at a time, and don't ever show her how attracted you're to her, from the start, especially if it's someone you just met. Give them space - and start off with platonic conversations.

Once you start showing emotions and doing too much, you'll either put her off, or put her in an advantageous position, to exploit you.

1one: Indeed

So this is the only matured, sincere and reasonable thread in the whole of this section...


Seun can like to be forming Voltron a times sef

And I know why he chose to comment on this.. A penny for my thought?

And who doesn't know why? Betcha I know what's lurking around in the cupboard.

Let's play around with sarcasm. Your penny for my thought...

TrollMan: And who doesn't know why? Betcha I know what's lurking around in the cupboard.

Let's play around with sarcasm. Your penny for my thought...

But my own penny would fetch more than your thought... So why not your own penny for my thought

The CEO of dis forum is crushing on Op#dts my observation abt d topic

andromida: Well if the guy just wants to be friends the feelings kind of weakens. If a guy does not start out with feelings of attraction for a woman she may just become a quick snack or friends storing up feelings hoping it will grow is a waste of time so no matter how real her feelings were once he said NO the feelings just hide.

Women don't do rejection well or rather as well as men.

Well... if yoi say for the moment, I think I would agree. But, gone like forever? I really understand that such doesn't sit well with you the ladies, but to say it would make the feelings disappear totally just because of that response would mean the feeling wasn't actually true. I'm telling you. Feelings don't go all of a sudden. Like I said earlier on, unless the feeling wasn't true. Plus, it was not like the guy said something unreasonable, albeit it didn't sit well with her.

'Lomance' thingz.

wow! ... i like guy, he's so blunt and straightforward like me...mehn

shymexx: I was alluding to my own understanding of the whole sentence. I think you want guys to always make their feelings known from the start, no?

Based on personal experience(s), with chics, you don't have to rush. It's always better to take one-step at a time, and don't ever show her how attracted you're to her, from the start, especially if it's someone you just met. Give them space - and start off with platonic conversations.

Once you start showing emotions and doing too much, you'll either put her off, or put her in an advantageous position, to exploit you.

I am saying its better a relationship starts with a man feeling attracted to a chic if it startts with a chic chasing him he may take advantage of her even if he is a good guy or accept her efforts since she is available but not necessarily because he is into her and the relationship will not be fulfilling for either of them.

And I agree with you on the guy taking it a step at a time and not rushing things.

Its possible the guy doesn't just know what to reply.

farano: We've been friends for over 3 years now that I personally decided to take it to another level. So on that faithful day, when we were together, i unfolded my feelings for him, he did too staring deeply into my eyes and romantically holding my hands.
My heart was beating faster and slower at the same time that I was forced to pop out that mighty four letter word. With my angelic voice, I told him 'I love you dear' But surprisingly, his response was 'i should allow it to grow naturally'. I smiled but within me I was very angry All those feelings disappeared instantly.

Op, so na u dey control this romance 'n sex section? And u resemble deeper life member oooo. Infact, u look rather young. Abeg no ban me ooo.

dmcdad: Well... if yoi say for the moment, I think I would agree. But, gone like forever? I really understand that such doesn't sit well with you the ladies, but to say it would make the feelings disappear totally just because of that response would mean the feeling wasn't actually true. I'm telling you. Feelings don't go all of a sudden. Like I said earlier on, unless the feeling wasn't true. Plus, it was not like the guy said something unreasonable, albeit it didn't sit well with her.

When a man says let it grow naturally after 3 years when is the attraction going to grow? To me he just said No thanks but no not unreasonable but like I said we ladies don't do rejection as well as you guys. I think you guys are built for it

E be like say the guy dey fear make he no wound you during straffing. I don hear of person wey her hip dislocate when her boyfriend dey give am doggee. Na me use my cobweb patch the leg back.

andromida: When a man says let it grow naturally after 3 years when is the attraction going to grow? To me he just said No thanks but no not unreasonable but like I said we ladies don't do rejection as well as you guys. I think you guys are built for it

Built for it? Wahala dey oooooo

rozzay: Chai which day seun go comment for my matter, diarisgod

why are y'all famzing over seun nah?free d guy jare lolz@farano,u should have controlled ur emotion,trust me if the feeling was mutual owing to the fact that u said u were already becoming a priority in his life,he would have said those words sooner or later and asked u out sef,so for now,let it slide,dnt talk abt it and pls act cool around him dnt be resentful against him,if he's really crazy bout u,he's gonna re-visit the topic ok?so for now jst keep ur fingers crossed,all da best dearie

andromida: I am saying its better a relationship starts with a man feeling attracted to a chic if it startts with a chic chasing him he may take advantage of her even if he is a good guy or accept her efforts since she is available but not necessarily because he is into her and the relationship will not be fulfilling for either of them.

And I agree with you on the guy taking it a step at a time and not rushing things.

Er, it also depends on the guy and his mentality/maturity. If a guy is physically attracted to a chic enough to want to talk to her, and be around her. Regardless of how much he shows it, it doesn't really matter if the chic is the one doing all the chasing - and I don't think every guy will take advantage of her. How guys show girls affection varies from guy to guy - some are overt, and some are covert - depending on the guy. And most times, you wouldn't even know - and when you think you know, your judgement might be flawed and based on wrong signals about a different motive entirely.

Guys are different. And guys from certain backgrounds just want to be around girls who show them affection, before you come out of their shells. Once you start denying them that, you're also denying yourself an opportunity to get the man you want. It's the 21st century - if you like a guy, just go it - but make sure you keep your legs closed till you can ascertain that the feeling is mutual.

TrollMan: He Only comments on sincered, matured and reasonable threads.

lmao,that was harsh sugar lol

folameme: lmao,that was harsh sugar lol

Sugar? Me?