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Re: She Friend-zoned Me For Over 5yrs But Now Wnts A Committed Relationship by ifymusa(f): 8:32pm On Oct 09, 2014

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but was ready for a relationship with d other guy dat dumped her abi[/quot hey may be wen she was ready she did not see him so she choosed to try d other relationship and now that it did not work for her she decide to find her true love n she went bck to him

Re: She Friend-zoned Me For Over 5yrs But Now Wnts A Committed Relationship by denitro(m): 8:35pm On Oct 09, 2014

Daresh:
Is that your problem? That she dated other guys who used and dumped her? You clearly dont like her enough because if you did, you would jump at the chance to show it.

What! I can't believe what I just read... Are you joking or you meant what you just wrote?
Why didn't she jump at the chance to be in a relationship with her so called friend.
Yaaa Right! Love! My ass.
OP! Don't even entertain the thought. She is in your past and let her stay there....

Moral of the story here is:
You can't have your cake after eating it.

Re: She Friend-zoned Me For Over 5yrs But Now Wnts A Committed Relationship by Nobody: 8:41pm On Oct 09, 2014

JuicyGee:

See ur big head

Re: She Friend-zoned Me For Over 5yrs But Now Wnts A Committed Relationship by Mariopgomery(m): 8:43pm On Oct 09, 2014

She friendzone you for 8years? Chai you suffer o

Re: She Friend-zoned Me For Over 5yrs But Now Wnts A Committed Relationship by ihedinobi2: 8:46pm On Oct 09, 2014

Daresh:
Is that your problem? That she dated other guys who used and dumped her? You clearly dont like her enough because if you did, you would jump at the chance to show it.

Hahahahaha...lmao!

I was just gonna read the thread and head out but then I saw this comment! grin

I do get your point. Love is always about redeeming in cases like this. But where is her own love exactly? Do you women think that Love is meant to benefit only you? grin

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Re: She Friend-zoned Me For Over 5yrs But Now Wnts A Committed Relationship by saintol(m): 8:47pm On Oct 09, 2014

Wetin u talk say she do jare? Hmmmm! She friend-zoned you for 5 years. That is just too critical like Guiness Critical Assignment. If she could do that i dont see what will stop you from friend-zoning her for like 10 years. I promise you that before the 10 years of friend-zoning end, both of you would have migrated to the ENEMY-ZONE... All na zoning formular.

Re: She Friend-zoned Me For Over 5yrs But Now Wnts A Committed Relationship by ifymusa(f): 8:54pm On Oct 09, 2014

If this bros no love dis babe him for no stay for friendzone for all those years . Abeg make una leave them make dey continue their love where dey stop. Bros no jst mind them if u still love her go for her na God don aswer ur prayers jor

Re: She Friend-zoned Me For Over 5yrs But Now Wnts A Committed Relationship by ihedinobi2: 8:57pm On Oct 09, 2014

Smartini:
You seem to have developed ill feelings for her. Your mind is already made up. Nothing we say in here will make you change your mind. Just keep on remaining a good friend to her, since you can't see anything good in her anymore...She'll still be the apple of other men's eyes. Assume the role of an advicer and confidant, not her boyfriend. Get rid of all these thoughts about her being used and dumped... It's not nice seeing her as garbage

Is nice always right?

Re: She Friend-zoned Me For Over 5yrs But Now Wnts A Committed Relationship by Henrick007: 9:00pm On Oct 09, 2014

didadavid:

Under there

under where?

Re: She Friend-zoned Me For Over 5yrs But Now Wnts A Committed Relationship by tania28(f): 9:01pm On Oct 09, 2014

OmoEziokwu:

The hamster is strong on this one.

jst speaking my mind

Re: She Friend-zoned Me For Over 5yrs But Now Wnts A Committed Relationship by eckersley: 9:05pm On Oct 09, 2014

Re: She Friend-zoned Me For Over 5yrs But Now Wnts A Committed Relationship by eckersley: 9:07pm On Oct 09, 2014

The greatest fear of any lady is being undesired/rejected. Hence they alwz seeking validation.
If Agbani [even immediately after being crowned] walked a 100m stretch every day
for 3 days and no guy hits on her nay no cat calls, she would have ran 4-40 to a babalawo for checkup.

When a woman is rejected/out of one rship, there's the horrid/dreaded/unbearable sense of loss.
Her ego is bruised, she's extremely vulnerable and easily falls prey to players.

She'll date/fvck even a tree/goat just to get her self-esteem back to optimal levels, gain acceptance,
and convince hersf that she's still desirable.
The tree/goat will say to himself and friends, "I get game, swag and the babe dey trip die."
Sorry bro, u r her rebound.

As soon as her ego/emotions are healed, she'll dump and leave u faster than a jackrabbit and almost for no reason.
Mr. Tree/Goat will not be able to find a reason or rhyme to her action.
But I just explained that.

She might hv
1. Come back with STDs [incompletely treated STDs do lead to infertility]
2. Had one or several abortions [which can hamper her chances of conceiving, or carrying a child to full term-
I'm medically inclined and have seen and read several such cases]
3. Multiple sex partners predispose women to cervical cancer.
You don't want to have to deal with this in the future [Tho she can be screened and vaccinated for this]

The way of the Samurai will be to accept her, [use protection] squeeze whatever life there is out of her ... and jettison her.
Many have advised that.

But the godly/moral approach will be this:
In a very friendly[not highhanded] manner tell her this. Don't do it spitefully:

I've been very OK with our being FRIENDS [STRESS this word] as u wisely advised several yrs ago.
Why would you and I jeopardize this 8 [Stress 8] solid years of beautiful friendship with blah blah blah.
We shd remain friends

DON'T GO AHEAD TELLING HER ANY OF THESE

. U think I'm a fool ehn? After ur many bfs have used and dumped u, now you are coming back to me abi?

. Do I look like ur rebound?

. I'm not CBN. Nor your last resort.

. After you hv wasted ur life and .....

DON'T SAY ANY OF THE ABOVE.
I advocate the "I WILL LIKE US TO REMAIN FRIENDS" SCRIPT.
Its godly, moral and works like charms

Remember
1. Not to become more than friends nay friends with benefits ooo.

2. U r not going to do anytn different now. That will mean u r starting a rship with her.
If yl she was wt those guys u called her once a month, once a month the calls shd remain.
If she nvr visited u yl wt those guys, nvr allow it now. If she did, alwz ensure she visits wt her friend or hv one
of ur bros, sis or friend around as a chaperone when she visits.

3. Rule 2 applies if u visited her yl she was wt her ex-es.

Bottom line: NOTHING NEW SHOULD BE INTRODUCED INTO THE FRIENDSHIP. HOWEVER, EXTRA PRECAUTIONS MUST BE TAKEN

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Re: She Friend-zoned Me For Over 5yrs But Now Wnts A Committed Relationship by Fourwinds: 9:16pm On Oct 09, 2014

ifymusa:
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but d guy said he was friend zone. meaning he was always there

Re: She Friend-zoned Me For Over 5yrs But Now Wnts A Committed Relationship by eckersley: 9:20pm On Oct 09, 2014

deboraha:
Another thread to bash ladies.#them bashers will arrive soon#

Frankly and no offense meant, have u ever looked up the word bashing?
Women seethe and will almost die when their lil tricks, wiles and manipulations are being brought to light.
I can feel ur pains. Kpele. Research and come up with cutting edge ones you hear. I trust una
No be only bash. Na Bash Ali.

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Re: She Friend-zoned Me For Over 5yrs But Now Wnts A Committed Relationship by Deepfreezer(m): 9:31pm On Oct 09, 2014

YankeeJoe:
Helo fellow nairalanders, greetins 2 y'al..

Pls i got an experience i wud gladly luv 2 share wit u & seek ur positive advice..

I met ds gal i loved so dearly in 2006 on her bck frm skul. @1st sight, i developed a strong feelin 2 wards her ( i dnt mean infatuation, lets any man persecute me), we got along as frnds n along d line, i made my intentions knwn 2 her but she turned me down. She claimed bn ok wit me jus being a frnd 2her.

I felt d pains bt learnt hw 2 deal wit it while i continue my life wit sm1 else...
In 2013, she started showin emotional feelins 2wards wit d intention of bn in a serious n committed relationship wit me...

She came up wit d claim dat her ex did nt luv her like she wntd hence,
she quited d relationship ( na me be d maga wey go blve dat kind cock n bul story abi? Or na me go cum luv u pass nw afta dos nigas don finish wrk?)

Truth is, her ex(s) ve al used n dumped her bt nw she has rememba me (2 her she feels am a spare tire; God 4bid!!)..

She's up wit d claim dat we were both 2 young & inexperienced 2 date bck then.. Dat she alwz luvd n cherished me...

My qstn is: y wud a lady frnd-zone a guy dat sincerely luvd her bt afta wards go bck 2 him afta bn mesmerized by oda rouged guys?

Guys, pls, wat do u tink abt ds?

Let me tell you man. the guy she taught is better than you and was dating dumped her. now you are the last resort.
run for ur life or settle for a reminant food. because she made u second best.

Re: She Friend-zoned Me For Over 5yrs But Now Wnts A Committed Relationship by Ebubest(m): 9:35pm On Oct 09, 2014

Daresh:
Is that your problem? That she dated other guys who used and dumped her? You clearly dont like her enough because if you did, you would jump at the chance to show it.

second hand no fit b like readymade

Re: She Friend-zoned Me For Over 5yrs But Now Wnts A Committed Relationship by Nobody: 9:36pm On Oct 09, 2014

ifymusa:
[color=#006600][/color] watin nw? E fit b say d gal love dis guy* talking out of experiance*

Girls are now using "I love you" to chop boys' money. They now keep 3,4 bf's(one at home that's the real one, one close by that's the side boy(mugu,to pay the bills) ,one at work (friendzone),and many others.

Guys, don't be deceived.This is the new ish.Girls now love having several options just in case. Get your chance and pransh.
Spend wisely, the true colors will pop up.I dey beg guys ni o.

Re: She Friend-zoned Me For Over 5yrs But Now Wnts A Committed Relationship by Kingsimmer(m): 9:38pm On Oct 09, 2014

toecyne:
Hammer the kpekus for a sometime.

u got d tin wella

Re: She Friend-zoned Me For Over 5yrs But Now Wnts A Committed Relationship by Walexz02(m): 9:38pm On Oct 09, 2014

Daresh:
Is that your problem? That she dated other guys who used and dumped her? You clearly dont like her enough because if you did, you would jump at the chance to show it.

dafuq are you saying lady

Re: She Friend-zoned Me For Over 5yrs But Now Wnts A Committed Relationship by ifymusa(f): 9:47pm On Oct 09, 2014

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Fourwinds:
but d guy said he was friend zone. meaning he was always there

see jst leave those two the love dey dere d guy jst dey foam if not he has alwys been there y is he complaining nw

Re: She Friend-zoned Me For Over 5yrs But Now Wnts A Committed Relationship by Nobody: 9:49pm On Oct 09, 2014

ifymusa:
If this bros no love dis babe him for no stay for friendzone for all those years . Abeg make una leave them make dey continue their love where dey stop. Bros no jst mind them if u still love her go for her na God don aswer ur prayers jor

What are saying na? You've been talking nonsense since. Pls stop it

Re: She Friend-zoned Me For Over 5yrs But Now Wnts A Committed Relationship by ifymusa(f): 9:52pm On Oct 09, 2014

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pascyj:
Girls are now using "I love you" to chop boys' money. They now keep 3,4 bf's(one at home that's the real one, one close by that's the side boy(mugu,to pay the bills) ,one at work (friendzone),and many others.

Guys, don't be deceived.This is the new ish.Girls now love having several options just in case. Get your chance and pransh.
Spend wisely, the true colors will pop up.I dey beg guys ni o.

yes now u think say na small tin gals dey see for guys hand? The incase dere is because of wat d next man will do. So gals re finding ways to protect their selves

Re: She Friend-zoned Me For Over 5yrs But Now Wnts A Committed Relationship by ihedinobi2: 9:53pm On Oct 09, 2014

JuicyGee:

I feel like strangling you now.. ok, ok, how else do u want us to be fun.. wat exactly are we suppose to do.. I'm very curious

Hehehehehe...

Seriously, that is a very funny question. You don't seriously mean that sex is all you women are good for, do you?

Not that I agree with that dude though. I don't.

Re: She Friend-zoned Me For Over 5yrs But Now Wnts A Committed Relationship by ihedinobi2: 9:55pm On Oct 09, 2014

Sunshinelady:
@OP, d grl u r datin now or d grl u will even marry , u tink say oda guys never still knack d kpekus (as u pple wuld say) abi? & u nko 4dose past 5yrs havnt grls been knackin u too? D truth is dat mayb u never rilly loved her in d frst place

Another funny one. grin

"Never really loved her in the first place". That's why he's even willing to ask advice here about it. Lmao! Women! grin

Re: She Friend-zoned Me For Over 5yrs But Now Wnts A Committed Relationship by ifymusa(f): 9:57pm On Oct 09, 2014

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What are saying na? You've been talking nonsense since. Pls stop it[/quote] What? Wat is it? Can't u see it abeg no spoil their love n am not saying nonsense oga sense

Re: She Friend-zoned Me For Over 5yrs But Now Wnts A Committed Relationship by Abbey2sam(m): 9:58pm On Oct 09, 2014

YankeeJoe:
Helo fellow nairalanders, greetins 2 y'al..

Pls i got an experience i wud gladly luv 2 share wit u & seek ur positive advice..

I met ds gal i loved so dearly in 2006 on her bck frm skul. @1st sight, i developed a strong feelin 2 wards her ( i dnt mean infatuation, lets any man persecute me), we got along as frnds n along d line, i made my intentions knwn 2 her but she turned me down. She claimed bn ok wit me jus being a frnd 2her.

I felt d pains bt learnt hw 2 deal wit it while i continue my life wit sm1 else...
In 2013, she started showin emotional feelins 2wards wit d intention of bn in a serious n committed relationship wit me...

She came up wit d claim dat her ex did nt luv her like she wntd hence,
she quited d relationship ( na me be d maga wey go blve dat kind cock n bul story abi? Or na me go cum luv u pass nw afta dos nigas don finish wrk?)

Truth is, her ex(s) ve al used n dumped her bt nw she has rememba me (2 her she feels am a spare tire; God 4bid!!)..

She's up wit d claim dat we were both 2 young & inexperienced 2 date bck then.. Dat she alwz luvd n cherished me...

My qstn is: y wud a lady frnd-zone a guy dat sincerely luvd her bt afta wards go bck 2 him afta bn mesmerized by oda rouged guys?

Guys, pls, wat do u tink abt ds?

i hope you don't think mesmerised means something else............

shag her and friend zone her too.........

She can't have her cake and eat it or

she can't eat her cake and have it.... ...any which way mehn

Re: She Friend-zoned Me For Over 5yrs But Now Wnts A Committed Relationship by Nobody: 10:03pm On Oct 09, 2014

ifymusa:
[color=#006600][/color] yes now u think say na small tin gals dey see for guys hand? The incase dere is because of wat d next man will do. So gals re finding ways to protect their selves

Thanks for agreeing.Girls are not smiling.That all the "I love you" girls say na lie.They now want to be players.Girls doing player games to guys. Hey, guys be careful o.The girls don't believe in the love they constantly want to profess monopolistically.Na big WASH!

Re: She Friend-zoned Me For Over 5yrs But Now Wnts A Committed Relationship by deboraha(f): 10:06pm On Oct 09, 2014

eckersley:

Frankly and no offense meant, have u ever looked up the word bashing?
Women seethe and will almost die when their lil tricks, wiles and manipulations are being brought to light.
I can feel ur pains. Kpele. Research and come up with cutting edge ones you hear. I trust una
No be only bash. Na Bash Ali.

This is exactly what I was talking about. I am comfortably in my own home with my husband and this one is talking about PAINS. Which one of my PAINS are U feeling? or U think I am still a child with tricks and pranks on how to get a man?

U have one nasty experience wit one lady and U think evry other woman on the planet is the same way. I shud be the one pitying U!

U said, "Women will almost die when their wiles are being brot to light?" Which women? May be the ones around U.

Mister English teacher!

Re: She Friend-zoned Me For Over 5yrs But Now Wnts A Committed Relationship by Bigsteveg(m): 10:06pm On Oct 09, 2014

Daresh:
Is that your problem? That she dated other guys who used and dumped her? You clearly dont like her enough because if you did, you would jump at the chance to show it.

Nonsense

Re: She Friend-zoned Me For Over 5yrs But Now Wnts A Committed Relationship by sage2(m): 10:16pm On Oct 09, 2014

ifymusa:
It's possible she loves you as she said but was not ready for d relationship than. Why not give her a chance if there is

Sorry, there is none. She should go try her luck elsewhere. No time for silly biitches.

Re: She Friend-zoned Me For Over 5yrs But Now Wnts A Committed Relationship by NaMe4: 10:18pm On Oct 09, 2014

01karma:
Guy make sure you knack her front and back. I don't have pity for girls again. One nearly run my life.

After spending my school fee on this girl, she dump me the next month, she dey tell me say she be virgin, virgin way dey chop suya, they beg recharge card

well, i had to go and do kponkpon work( carrying stones and sand with clement, digging pit and all hard labours of life) to pay my school fee

i for don become drop out na God save me

since that time, if i see any girl they come my way i go just change road sharp sharp. because hoes ain't loyal.

Bwahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha

Re: She Friend-zoned Me For Over 5yrs But Now Wnts A Committed Relationship by sulmeza(m): 10:21pm On Oct 09, 2014

01karma:
Guy make sure you knack her front and back. I don't have pity for girls again. One nearly run my life.

After spending my school fee on this girl, she dump me the next month, she dey tell me say she be virgin, virgin way dey chop suya, they beg recharge card

well, i had to go and do kponkpon work( carrying stones and sand with clement, digging pit and all hard labours of life) to pay my school fee

i for don become drop out na God save me

since that time, if i see any girl they come my way i go just change road sharp sharp. because hoes ain't loyal.

ehya,i feel 4 u bro...glad it's a tin of d past nw

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