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cryptography:
what u consider boring is what introverts considet fun, and what extroverts consider fun, is what introverts consider stupid....... variety is the essence of life

exactly. Introverts enjoys solitude, they gain dia energy from it, while extroverts dislikes it. Both are wired differently.

ifeoluwa05:
I like shy and introverted guys. I only admire dem frm a distance. People say am jxt too timid and so am not approaciable Have lots of extrovert guys as frnds tho' bt if only.... Is being Timid a put off for shy and introverted guys?

No, being timid doesnt mean a turn off to them. Introverts are very sensitive.

Esttyconnect:
I'm a bit of an introvert. Not all introverts are intelligent and confident o. Some were forced to become introverts 'cos of the fear of being made jest of. I love mini-extroverts.

Mini extroverts as in?

Djbond:
I'm shy... I don't even know how to approach a lady

work on ur weakness Bro.

Silkmoth33:
I was dere for u when he wasn't around! I expect to be have a taste of the pudding! A tiny wittle taste.

What we had was a fling now

WoodcrestMayor:
I urge y'all on this thread to grab Tim LaHaye's book-Why we act the way we do.
You'll learn abt all manner of pple that exist and why dey behave the way they do.How u handle dem,how u motivate them(for managers),the kinda relationship dat suit them most and lots more.

Reach for it...u'll be glad u did

yes you are right. That book says it all. But I recommend that book and similar ones to some of my mates, dey read it and tried to give excuse on dia weaknesses... Expecially d Sanguines... Saying : dats just d way dey are. knowing about ur temperament shldnt be an excuse for bad behaviour.
PS: the essence of reading that book is to know ur strenghts and weaknesses and work in making urself a better person.

Arsenate:
nice thread... will probably help the introverts to accept themselves the way they are.
personally, I don't care if anyone calls me boring. is not really my duty to entertain anyone.

introverted perfectionists are more oriented to task than to meeting people. They relate more productively to work and to meeting pple. U can get an introvert talk only if u have a topic that deals with logic and nt illogical conversations but most extroverts dont understand this.

Yes Sir....

Sanguines usually enta a room mouth first
Tim LaHaye clearly stated it in the book that knowledge gained from the book shouldn't be used to witch-hunt pple neither shuld it be reasons for making excuses.

Indeed a very lovely book

ayokunlei:
yes you are right. That book says it all. But I recommend that book and similar ones to some of my mates, dey read it and tried to give excuse on dia weaknesses... Expecially d Sanguines... Saying : dats just d way dey are. knowing about ur temperament shldnt be an excuse for bad behaviour.
PS: the essence of reading that book is to know ur strenghts and weaknesses and work in making urself a better person.

Hmm

LadyCaty:
Everytyn dt has advantage has disadvantage sha..

Hmmm conclusively

Arva:
You can yawn forever and go and sleep forever. Shy guys are the best. If ur an extrovert, I'm sorry I might not date you because just have a look at the post where I said shy guys are willing to listen and don't disrupt conversation.. Ur actually doing the opposite. Extrovert guys like you will keep on yawning at every single converation I hold with them. Only shy guys will be willing to listen to a lady. Become a shy guy today and I might date you. Change ur status from extrovert to introvert.

i'm an introvert but not necessarily shy. i dont make lots of friends and i find it hard to meet new people but once i get close to people i become chitty chatty of some sort.

Arva:
Cool.

@least dere's stil hope for pple lyk me,wen walkin in d street,i dnt lyk it wen gals snub me,nd i also feel shy wen dey stare at me(i'll be lyk 'wz smtin wrng wit ma looks'?),d only place i could chat freely wz on social ntworks.. diz gat smiln at myself,nice writeup sistr!

Arva:
Cool.

@least dere's stil hope for pple lyk me,wen walkin in d street,i dnt lyk it wen gals snub me,nd i also feel shy wen dey stare at me(i'll be lyk 'wz smtin wrng wit ma looks'?),d only place i could chat freely wz on social ntworks.. diz gat me smiln at myself,nice write up sistr!

raystanley:
@OP I guess you are a Phycologist...I can't believe one can put up my characters on display...what an amazing post.

OP did a very good job. I like girls that are well-articulated. Because they can produce intelligent off-springs. And not beautiful face that doesn't have anything in her brain.

@Avra, in addition to your great post, we're family-orientate and love to fix things for people. OP, you really did a full-scale on us. Still can't believe this :-)

holysaint1:
bro, pisceans are next after aquarians...its like all aquarians are introverts...(i knw dis kus i am one of 'em) if u still inquisitive, u can carry out a lil survey on dis and find out urself...

they re same

Hopez456:
Good one Bro, you got the right word "free and alone " I so much cherish my solitary moments.

lol

And people forget to realize that, many a time, girls take you for granted, I am a living proof, not until I step up my game. Still an introvert though, but na lie oo, we dey lie and cheat.

cnnamoko:
bro depends on the individual. They are some very real men that are shy, the control their home and woman perfectly and they are good and calculated risk takers too...I know of one prof and many more

Let's say he's an exception

Mrcdorv:
You just described me can we roll on?

u b nivea?

tintingz:
Sorry but most extroverts or people claiming extrovert lack good reasoning, they over do things without thinking.

That's the excess part of "some" extroverts

achidisucre:
what a mature non-abusive statement. I love ur rxn, exude gud attributes, compliments!

Thanks bro,
Its a small world, u know

Arva:
I have so many reasons why I should date a shy and introvert guy which I believe many of you forumites will agree to. Usually we ignore the shy and introvert guys, and date the confident, thug looking, rich, tall and ugly guys. The latter kind of guys are not usually the best in my opinion. Have you ever thought about dating a shy guy? There are so many different benefits and you'll be glad you did.

1. They are less intimidating
Confident and extrovert guys can be so intimidating because they surrounds themselves with all kinds of girls and bad manners. Shy guys are less intimidating. They are very gentle and meek and are less likely to reject you. This is one big reason to start rolling along with a shy guy. You'll love them.

2. It’s easy to make them blush
Shy guys have the tendency to blush easily with the slightest of compliments. Just compliment them about their looks and appearance and you'll see the magic of their blush. That really melts my heart a lot unlike the confident and rough guys who will only say a "thank you". That's even if they say it at all. Try dating a shy guy today. You'll love 'em

3. Shy guys won’t cheat on you
Shy guys will never cheat on you. Relationship cheating is what many girls hate and shy and introvert guys will never stoop so low to have another girl behind you but reverse is the case for confident and extrovert guys. They like to explore anything they see with boobs and big behinds even if its not human . Confident and extrovert guyz are just so awkward. You'll never like them. I prefer the introvert guys. They'll always stick to you.

4. They are so true, real and genuine
Me loves these set of guys because they are so true to themselves. They will never deceive you. They are just so charming and will never lie to you.

5. They are good listeners.
Shy and introvert guys are just awesome for one thing. They are extremely good listerners. Never will they counter you in any discussion or disrupt the flow of the discussion. All these adorable guys do is listen, listen, listen and listen. Unlike the extrovert guys who will just keep shouting to the extent that other people around you will hear the content of your discussion . Shy guys will never stoop so low to that extent. They are always very quiet and meek.

6. They don't party, drink nor smoke.
I'm begining to convince you that shy guys are cool right ? Another reason you should date a shy guy is that they don't engage in party, alcohol or weed. They being an introvert will not even allow them such bad manners. Reverse is the case for the confident guys. They'll make sure they engage in all sort of party. They being an extrovert makes them to boast about the latest and most expensive wines and alcohols they've tasted, they amount of weed the smoke daily and the number of girls they've had sex with from funmi to funke to fumilade to fumilayo That's crazy isn't it ? Shy guys are just so cool to themselves. They don't need to brag about anything. Whatever happens never leaks out.

7. Shy and introvert guys are very educated and very intelligent.
This is very true. Shy guys are very educated and very intelligent. They being very intelligent leaves them with no time for social activities. They are so charming. Date an introvert today and you'll be glad you did. I had one as a boyfriend and I wish I had him back.
Feel free to add yours.

Where to find a shy guy.
1: Shy guys are very easy to find. If you are still in the university, you can find them at the back seat of your classroom. When others are gones after a lecture, shy guys always remain alone, sitting down, alone with their thought. This is always your best time to approach them. Just compliment him on anything and watch him blush. They are very friendly.

2: During your NYSC.
During your service year, you'll find many of them at the orientation camp. I had sweet experiences with one during my NYSC days. He was so sweet and charming. You'll always find them at the back of the crowd doing almost nothing. They just stand there and clap for others engaging in one task or the other. They are very gentle set of people so don't mind them for not partaking in activites. They don't want to look rough like the extrovert guys. Those of you going for NYSC batch c come november 2014, watch out for the shy guys. You'll love them.

3: During church service
These awesome set of beings are easy to find during church service. They always sit at the back, rarely dance when its time for offering and they rarely come out to give testimonies because they are shy. Isn't that cool ? Unlike the extrovert guys that will even go the awkward length of dancing shoki and skelewu during church service . Shy guys will never do this . Oh how can I even forget the way they blush when you ask them questions during sunday school. They are so adorable.
Feel free to add yours.

How to know if a guy is shy and an introvert.

Its very easy to spot these sweet guys. They will always blush at every single thing you say. Another way to spot them is to monitor their movements. Never will you see a shy guy going out unnecessarily. They are always indoors and only come out with their charming self at night. These people are just so cool. Date one today and you'll be glad you did. I can testify to this. We dated for years and sweet memories still ring in me.
Feeel free to add yours.

Source: myself and written for nairaland forum members and guests.

I haven't laughed this much in years..your post is so stupid on many levels.
Its girls like you who get used left right and center and turn around and blame men.

You are so naive and ignorant, me bets you are 16 or 17 years old who spends her days watching teen reality shows on MTV. You are so immature its unbelievable.

This post is a bag of faeces.

To any lady who believes this garbage you are either 1: A teenage air head or 2: Mentally under developed.

A man's character has nothing to with whether he is shy or an extrovert you cow.
A man who sees women as tools to gratify his sexualized ego will always do so whether he is an introvert or not.

Better stop misleading kids like you before they end up being teen mums

ayokunlei:
Dont get it wrong, all people have mixed traits with varying degree... Am more of an introvert with an extrovertish mixture. Am reserved and gentle most times which doesNT mean I Lack confidence. I have a Choleric secondary. And if you think introverts are mumu like it says from ur assertion,pls step on dia toes and u wld know what dey do not lack confidence. if introverts lack confidence, then Bill Gate wont be where he is today... try and read books on personality. Being reserved doesnt mean lack of confidence.

She said introvert and shy.

adrainuche:
Hmmm conclusively

Meanin dey also ve bad part nd d bad part z vewi annoyin nd hurts.

When I was reading this, was just smiling ,is just so about me ,this shy guys get to many used girls,after playing there life they wanna get one cool shy guy to be nice with.
Most time they end up going out with girls they don't really want . When I was reading this, was just smiling ,is just so about me ,this shy guys get to many used girls,after playing there life they wanna get one cool shy guy to be nice with.
Most time they end up going out with girls they don't really want .

I just read comment's here, and everybody is claiming shy,am not shy,am I love to
explore anything I see with bosoms and big behinds
even if its not human.

Arva:
Exactly what I said shy guys do..they blush at every compliment. . Extrovert guys will never do this.

vickkytan n iceberging hmmmm! introverts....

lestat:
I haven't laughed this much in years..your post os so stupid on many levels.
Its girls like you who get used left right and center and turn around and blame men.

You are so naive and ignorant, me bets you are 16 or 17 years old who spends her days watching teen reality shows on MTV. You are so immature its unbelievable.

This post is a bag of faeces.

To any lady who believes this garbage you are either 1: A teenage air head or 2: Mentally under developed.

A man's character has nothing to with whether he is shy or an extrovert you cow.
A man who sees women as tools to gratify his sexualized ego will always do so whether he is an introvert or not.

Better stop misleading kids like you before they end up being teen mums

We Know You're an EXTRO.... U don't have to tell us, it's obvious U lack many of those traits d o.p listed up there and funny enuf u came out to prove it....make us[Guys] proud 4 oNce??

Arva:
You can yawn forever and go and sleep forever. Shy guys are the best. If ur an extrovert, I'm sorry I might not date you because just have a look at the post where I said shy guys are willing to listen and don't disrupt conversation.. Ur actually doing the opposite. Extrovert guys like you will keep on yawning at every single converation I hold with them. Only shy guys will be willing to listen to a lady. Become a shy guy today and I might date you. Change ur status from extrovert to introvert.

shut up, liar. you like bad boys. boys that can give u da 'D'

Bosville:
We Know You're an EXTRO.... U don't have to tell us, it's obvious U lack many of those traits d o.p listed up there and funny enuf u came out to prove it....make us[Guys] proud 4 oNce??

Dafuq are you talking about? sucker for love... i bet you are a wanna be introvert, you are so desperate to prove the OP right so maybe a girl can find you attractive? hahahahhahahahahaha.

WELL NEWS FLASH, it doesnt take being a introvert to be faithful , and a good husband or BF. So stop sounding so desperate

Unluvable:
I am naturally drawn to introverts, might not be shy. I can't keep up with an extrovert, it's exhausting!
I also noticed that most introvert I have met have depth, we easily click....a perfect day will be chilling together indoors playing scrabble, and talking about all sorts; science, art, politics, nature....
I'll definitely end up with an one....it's only such ones that can flow with me

Wow! She knows about politics, I'm loving this, when will you teach me scrabble? How have you been?