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Re: My Father Hates Me! by bercarray(m): 9:04pm On Nov 15, 2014 |
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Re: My Father Hates Me! by plainmirror(m): 9:04pm On Nov 15, 2014 |
It's a pity charlie. To fight depression you have to engage in anyting/ activity that makes you happy. Remember God loves you most |
Re: My Father Hates Me! by TeGaTeGa1(m): 9:04pm On Nov 15, 2014 |
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Re: My Father Hates Me! by Lexusgs430: 9:04pm On Nov 15, 2014 |
Since you have expressed all this to your Mum, can she not pay for an alternative accommodation for you ? Suicide is not an option. 1 Like |
Re: My Father Hates Me! by Nobody: 9:05pm On Nov 15, 2014 |
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Re: My Father Hates Me! by kbshow100(m): 9:05pm On Nov 15, 2014 |
Bros,, I beg before you commit suicide, take a selfie of you dying and post It on nairaland. I want to see ur dying face,, its Been long I saw a dying face. No offence |
Re: My Father Hates Me! by chibwike(m): 9:05pm On Nov 15, 2014 |
Op..its well |
Re: My Father Hates Me! by Sunnycliff(m): 9:06pm On Nov 15, 2014 |
Trust God and pray to him, He will c u thru |
Re: My Father Hates Me! by Nobody: 9:06pm On Nov 15, 2014 |
elwire: Cirmuell is this you? |
Re: My Father Hates Me! by jhydebaba(m): 9:08pm On Nov 15, 2014 |
who else believe this story to be a farce? u stole ur father's shaving stick for DNA test at 18. pls, who paid for the test? abi d test na 2 naira? 1 Like |
Re: My Father Hates Me! by kennedywax(m): 9:08pm On Nov 15, 2014 |
Bro though is hard,but what I cn say is dat u pray fervently,u ar a christian nor muslim is nt d point bt be prayerful,I bliv through ur prayer God will change him for your future....stay blessed. |
Re: My Father Hates Me! by Aitee1: 9:09pm On Nov 15, 2014 |
Re: My Father Hates Me! by youngice(m): 9:09pm On Nov 15, 2014 |
waleyp:I will ask you a very important question can u over power him physically 2 Likes |
Re: My Father Hates Me! by jhydebaba(m): 9:09pm On Nov 15, 2014 |
Re: My Father Hates Me! by Missy89(f): 9:12pm On Nov 15, 2014 |
Move out and start living alone. tell you mom to arrange a place for u since he isn't even responsible for your fees and be a man of your own 1 Like |
Re: My Father Hates Me! by chiibekee(f): 9:13pm On Nov 15, 2014 |
elwire:run away from him. Go to ur mum before he kills u. Thank u |
Re: My Father Hates Me! by Nobody: 9:13pm On Nov 15, 2014 |
elwire: Nwokem...bia...anomunso....now to the issue... As I speak to you now...I want you to forget everything you have written and open your heart to my short but strong words. It seems your father hates you...but deep down in him..he loves you. He wants you to be perfect just as he wishes he was. Yes, it's impossible to be perfect, but most men think they can groom their son to be perfect. You will never know the worth/value of your father, until you lose him. Open another thread and ask nairalanders who have lost their fathers...everyone has one stubborn story or the other..like yours. But at the end...we all miss our dads. Many times they are overbearing... Commanding... Overdemanding of our energy and time... But the day you look back to help them, they are gone. Many times we say "oh well when I make it in life I will send him money, buy him cars and stuff" But most times..fathers don't live that long...mothers do So don't say your father is too demanding and you are tired...this is the little you can give him. Honour thy father and thy mother so that your days may be long (bible) Obey your mother and your father no matter what, except when they tell you not to serve God (Quran/hadith) Yes, you work so hard for him, Yet he doesn't give you money, He doesn't pay your fees. But the hardship you endure today, you will look back to thank him. As many have said... See this as a determination to succeed in life. Don't join any cult, don't join any bad group.. Don't harm your father, don't kill yourself... In few years to come...you ll be the shinning star in your home. Goodluck |
Re: My Father Hates Me! by LINKINPINKY: 9:13pm On Nov 15, 2014 |
Honey so sorry............d only tin U̶̲̥̅̊ Ave 2 do is 2 look 4ward 2 d feature........since dey Dnt care abt U̶̲̥̅̊.....U̶̲̥̅̊ can save money....and den go into any kind of buisness U̶̲̥̅̊ like or what ever u're »̶·̵̭̌·̵̭̌G̲̣̣̣̥o̲̣̥ό̲̣̣̣̥ƌ̲̣̣̣·̵̭̌·̵̭̌«̶ in.......go and work on urself... J̲̣̣̣U̶̲̥̅ ̊§τ̲̅ kip respecting dem 4get dey wnt allow U̶̲̥̅̊ out.....U̶̲̥̅̊ Ave 2 bear d pain... Till U̶̲̥̅̊ succeed in life .....das it ..... Sorry 4 d pain.....God will reward U̶̲̥̅̊ and d works of deir hand Also U̶̲̥̅̊ nid 2 pray harder 2 God |
Re: My Father Hates Me! by LINKINPINKY: 9:13pm On Nov 15, 2014 |
Honey so sorry............d only tin U̶̲̥̅̊ Ave 2 do is 2 look 4ward 2 d feature........since dey Dnt care abt U̶̲̥̅̊.....U̶̲̥̅̊ can save money....and den go into any kind of buisness U̶̲̥̅̊ like or what ever u're »̶·̵̭̌·̵̭̌G̲̣̣̣̥o̲̣̥ό̲̣̣̣̥ƌ̲̣̣̣·̵̭̌·̵̭̌«̶ in.......go and work on urself... J̲̣̣̣U̶̲̥̅ ̊§τ̲̅ kip respecting dem 4get dey wnt allow U̶̲̥̅̊ out.....U̶̲̥̅̊ Ave 2 bear d pain... Till U̶̲̥̅̊ succeed in life .....das it ..... Sorry 4 d pain.....God will reward U̶̲̥̅̊ and d works of deir hand |
Re: My Father Hates Me! by Emilliw3m(m): 9:14pm On Nov 15, 2014 |
Re u sure he's ur "father" |
Re: My Father Hates Me! by Gorgeous58(f): 9:14pm On Nov 15, 2014 |
You are now an adult. Move out of the house. 1 Like |
Re: My Father Hates Me! by olu4life(m): 9:15pm On Nov 15, 2014 |
Fake Story. Stopped readin when I got to the DNA test. Haba,u can lie o!!! 1 Like |
Re: My Father Hates Me! by dhsfbi(m): 9:15pm On Nov 15, 2014 |
elwire:Bro, from what u just analyzed, is like your father doesn't give you any attention. My question is why are you still with him? disown him and arrange with your mom to get you some money and leave the house. But if you can't leave then you got to go crazy with him, i mean let him know you hate him, stop doing anything for him and live your life. Trust me craze fathers like that calm down when they suspect those things in children they hate. |
Re: My Father Hates Me! by Nobody: 9:16pm On Nov 15, 2014 |
Sorry dear. I guess your step-mother also fuels his hatred for you since you said she doesn't like you too. Is there any way she supports you in the house, does she speak good of you to ur dad? Does she dwell on only your negative aspect? I am from a polygamous home, I know what I am saying. The only thing he provides you is shelter, he doesn't even pay your school fees. I suggest you move to hostel without looking bck, your mom does everything for you, u have to tell her you r fed up of being a slave in your own father's house. Go to hostel and take a break, at least your mind will be at rest for a semester bfr u go bck home again. 1 Like |
Re: My Father Hates Me! by Nobody: 9:17pm On Nov 15, 2014 |
Are you actually listening to yourself? Can u go back and read what you just posted? U said its "rare" for parents to hate their own blood? Like what planet are you living in?? Cos your own parents love you does not mean its same with every child out there. And it has absolutely nothing to do with "stubbornness" as you put it. Chiefpriest1: 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Father Hates Me! by Vivly(f): 9:17pm On Nov 15, 2014 |
Op, it's not a rare thing. If your dad hates you, leave home while you can. From your opening post, it's obvious the man is violent and physically abusive... Go stay with your mum. You're 18, you should be in school.... If you aren't, try applying to a school in a different state. Cuz I know this might take a toll on you psychologically and physically in years to come... |
Re: My Father Hates Me! by ceeceeco: 9:18pm On Nov 15, 2014 |
Just kip believing dat all is gonna be fine someday. Suicide shouldn't be an option. Perhaps notin last 4eva, rememba u're gonna bury him someday. |
Re: My Father Hates Me! by Misogynist2014(m): 9:18pm On Nov 15, 2014 |
I honestly don't know what you want me to do. |
Re: My Father Hates Me! by Superstar007(m): 9:18pm On Nov 15, 2014 |
Chiefpriest1:I don't know why but this post just turned my stomach. It's obvious you didn't read the post, didn't you see the part where he said that he has done almost everything to please his dad yet his dad still treat him with disdain unlike his siblings to the extent that he had to do a DNA test to confirm whether he was living with his father. Please say what you know. @post. The hatred most likely emanated because of his former marriage, so he vented it on you. I can imagine what you are going through. My advice is that you try to develop a tough skin and an "I don't care attitude". Try to overlook these things and see it as a morale booster to excel in life to prove him wrong. I also advice that you try to move to the hostel for your own sake and that of his cos you might get angry one day and do something terrible to him, it will also help build your self esteem and to reduce depression cos you won't always be around and this may help him understand your worth. I hope this helps bro. 3 Likes |
Re: My Father Hates Me! by Nobody: 9:18pm On Nov 15, 2014 |
I'll suggest that you run away, since your mother pays for everything. 1 Like |
Re: My Father Hates Me! by Lilprincey(m): 9:19pm On Nov 15, 2014 |
With Prayers ur father go like u jez as bob marley bin like reggae.. |
Re: My Father Hates Me! by delishpot: 9:20pm On Nov 15, 2014 |
My brother, believe me, I have been there. My mom had a bit of a rough time and she spent her anger on us the kids. I even believed she wasnt our mom. What with the way she treated us. She beat us like snakes, stab my bros with a knife in his hand, threw a machete at my big bross and beat my kid sis for taking her 10kobo. My childhood days were filled with fear and tears. It was sad. I wrote a book at 10yrs old, about how she wasnt my mom, how she was wicked to us etc. I became close to my mom again at the age of 27. So ask me how I cope. I was bitter at first, I was angry, depressed, succidal and withdrawn. One day I said to myself, this woman has lived her life, she is still living her life. If I end mine on her acct, she will go on, she may not even notice my absence so, what will be my gain. I then went into self preservation mode, I faced my school, and decided that I must work hard to avoid her taunts and cutting remarks, I avoid anything that will bring confronration with her, even at a time I stopped gisting with her. I talk with her only when she asks me to do something or she asks a question. After a while, she went to my Dad and told him she doesnt know why I dont like her . Well, we went on like that until dad died I was 27 then. I decided that I dont care about the past, I will love her no mater what, I will show her care and attention, and that was how we became close again. Inshort when we became close, she could do no wrong by me. If she slap you, its your fault, if you slap her its your fault too. I knew that life was too short to be angry and who knows she or I may just pass away without living life as it ought to be. She died 5 years later and I am still sad. I will never stop loving her. So my dear poster, you have to live for you. If you get depressed, and kill yourself, life will go on, its you that will rotten in the ground. Your dad will even marry 10 more wives after you are gone. So please hold out,be grateful you are not an invalid, you are not a mumu, so oneday you will grow up and leave the house and be your own boss. Work towards that day, and even though from time to time you will wish that you and dad had a great time in the past, remember its not your fault he is the way he is, hope that oneday you will be able to talk things over with him . Who knows, you guys may be best buddies in future. Why kill your future just because today is not sweet? 7 Likes 1 Share |
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