flickers72:
Do you know what the word nigga means?I'm old enough to be your dad,learn using positive languages,we Nigerians have morals don't copy what you see on TV or try copying the Americans thinking is civilization,it ain't civilization.

Abbey2sam:


i won't mind

Abbey2sam:

this dude is funny sha

waleyp:
Bro this is hard..... I wonder what happened when you were given birth.... Maybe you remind him of something back in the days,i dont know but am just saying... Just know that you cant commit suicide.. That would be worse.... Believe me all you ve to do is get yourself into a university.... That will enable you to be away from him for a while..... I think you ve a bright future and all these would be part of your story..... Just endure.

flickers72:
[quote you might think you're civilised or on top of the world,call me dude,I'm funny,not sure you call your dad dude,you are just 26 we see how it goes when you're 50,got better things to do,ok?Keep living the dream

elwire:
am now in the University 100level my mom paid all my fees....he said i ill not go back to hostel i ve to be working for him at home...from my house to the uni is approximately 30 to 1hr journey...my mum ve to send tp fair for me each month.....i hate this man i swear!

ccnation:



I want to fault the BOLDED in your post.
This is a script that played in my home, though i am not the victim.

I grew up to find out that one of my elder sisters was quite different from the rest of us, not physical appearance but attitude and attributes. The rest of us got more love and priviledges than she did despite her being the eldest among the female children. At certain point, she became rebellious and this severed her relationship with us all including our parents because we started seeing her as a black sheep. She latter came back to being one with us but things couldn't just return back to normal because a seed of discord has been sown in our minds while growing up.

Although our parents are late now, but not until recently i got to find out the origin of the whole situation.

It started with the circumstances surrounding her birth. Before she was born, our parents had two children (a boy and a girl). The girl was the eldest and much loved by my father. During the period of my sister's birth, the girl child died of TB. My father was so pained, hence he went to seek a cause. He was told the new child exchanged the life of the older girl. From that moment my father hated the new child passionately that she had to be handed over to my maternal grandmother.

I'm now a grown man and know better.

ccnation:



I want to fault the BOLDED in your post.
This is a script that played in my home, though i am not the victim.

I grew up to find out that one of my elder sisters was quite different from the rest of us, not physical appearance but attitude and attributes. The rest of us got more love and priviledges than she did despite her being the eldest among the female children. At certain point, she became rebellious and this severed her relationship with us all including our parents because we started seeing her as a black sheep. She latter came back to being one with us but things couldn't just return back to normal because a seed of discord has been sown in our minds while growing up.

Although our parents are late now, but not until recently i got to find out the origin of the whole situation.

It started with the circumstances surrounding her birth. Before she was born, our parents had two children (a boy and a girl). The girl was the eldest and much loved by my father. During the period of my sister's birth, the girl child died of TB. My father was so pained, hence he went to seek a cause. He was told the new child exchanged the life of the older girl. From that moment my father hated the new child passionately that she had to be handed over to my maternal grandmother.

I'm now a grown man and know better.

elwire:
am now in the University 100level my mom paid all my fees....he said i ill not go back to hostel i ve to be working for him at home...from my house to the uni is approximately 30 to 1hr journey...my mum ve to send tp fair for me each month.....i hate this man i swear!

francizy:

So this is how a native doctor spoilt the life and happiness of a poor innocent child!
Why on earth will your parents believe that nonsense!?
Even if Pastor Oyedepo tells me my child is a witch and I and my wife never visited a native doctor to have the baby, I won't believe the pastor!
Chai! I so feel for that your sis, to think of the fact that she got paid back with hatred for what she never knew of is painful..
Thank God they didn't even take her life self..

RaggedyAnn:
A father's love is not automatic. I came to that realization painfully. Mothers love their children unconditionally (maybe it's a bond established in the 9 months of gestation and the bitter/ sweet birthing process), but it takes divine grace for fathers to feel that connected to their offspring. That's why they say it's easy to be a father.....hard to be a dad. You're not alone dear friend, my younger brother is in a similar situation with my father as you are in with yours, and it pains the rest of us to see him suffer that kind of abuse. My father considers my brother less intelligent than the rest of his children and believes he won't amount to much. I can only imagine the damage this has done to the poor boy's psyche.

It's important that you know: this kind of maltreatment is NEVER deserved- it is not your fault that your father cannot live up to his responsibility - so stop looking for reasons/excuses for your father's actions and stop trying to understand him. Stop trying to please him with hope that you might somehow win his affection because you shouldn't have to. Concentrate on yourself. Use this as driving force to make a success of yourself. Surround yourself with positive energy, I hope you get the support you need from your siblings. Above all, trust that God will deliver you from all oppression.

There will be time to mend fences with your father but for now his negative energy is detrimental to your development. You would not be able to build confidence and a healthy self esteem in that environment.

Suicide is never the answer. There are people who love you, there are people who are waiting on a chance to love you, and God loves you - please don't break His heart.

I wish you well.

ccnation:



Quite pathetic! It started in the seventies, and lingered till about 2007. Just when they were beginning to get along, my Dad passed on. Even though my mum was always trying to be on her side, my Dad denied her a lot of opportunities that would have made her better.

Till this day she still behaves differently from the rest of us, its so glaring that someone meeting the whole family for the first time would notice.
I don't know how long she has known about the reason behind her predicament, but i got to know the truth from her less than two weeks ago during a heart to heart talk with her, and i doubt any other of our siblings knows about it.

.....If only my father had been more enlightened in the 70's as much as i am now.......

Chiefpriest1:
Unfortunately, we might never get to hear ur dad's side of the story. It is rare to see parents HATE their own blood.

My young man, you should realise that because of ur age bracket and for the fact that many teenagers are usually rebellious at that stage,you might need to check yourself and see what you are doing wrong.

It is almost impossible for your father to 'hate' you if you really are not the stubborn type or the type that talks back at your father.

Forget what you watch on TV, this is africa where parents still hold the aces. You might need to examine yourself.

I am not trying to hold brief for your father, who probably still sees you as a kid, but my point is that if there are things you do that make him angry, you might need to turn a new leaf.

Its easy for ur fellow teenagers here to take sides with you, however, i believe you will u understand when you become a father yourself.

In the case of your cousin, I guess he was angry you might injure him/her, especially if you like rough play.

But whatever it is, stay calm, keep your head up. Its only for a short time. Face ur studies, do well and you ll soon be enjoying your independence. Be good!

Chiefpriest1:
Unfortunately, we might never get to hear ur dad's side of the story. It is rare to see parents HATE their own blood.

My young man, you should realise that because of ur age bracket and for the fact that many teenagers are usually rebellious at that stage,you might need to check yourself and see what you are doing wrong.

It is almost impossible for your father to 'hate' you if you really are not the stubborn type or the type that talks back at your father.

Forget what you watch on TV, this is africa where parents still hold the aces. You might need to examine yourself.

I am not trying to hold brief for your father, who probably still sees you as a kid, but my point is that if there are things you do that make him angry, you might need to turn a new leaf.

Its easy for ur fellow teenagers here to take sides with you, however, i believe you will u understand when you become a father yourself.

In the case of your cousin, I guess he was angry you might injure him/her, especially if you like rough play.

But whatever it is, stay calm, keep your head up. Its only for a short time. Face ur studies, do well and you ll soon be enjoying your independence. Be good!

VenusBetty:
I'll suggest that you run away, since your mother pays for everything.