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| Is It Ok To Ask A Guy You Are In Relationship With For Marriage? by chubbyz(op): 9:32am On Nov 16, 2014 |
A 28year old lady, met a guy like 3months ago, they started a relationship, it was all jolly and loving. The girl wanted more, she have read books of relationships, articles and what have you. In one of the books she read, it was advised that she ask her man his life plan and where the relationship was headed. One beautiful evening she and her man were having a drink, and she asked the man; 'what is your life plan?' the man got really angry shouted @ her and asked her if he was God to know his life plan, note this man is 38years of age. She was taken aback but kept quiet, after some weeks, she asked the guy where the relationship was going to, considering the fact that age is no more on her side. The guy replied and said, 'you are too desperate!do you want to marry me?abeg stop disturbing me!!.. Question: do you think the lady was too forward? When is it ok to ask where your relationship is headed? Do you think the guy is not serious with the lady? Should the girl be patient for a while? |
| Re: Is It Ok To Ask A Guy You Are In Relationship With For Marriage? by iceberylin(m): 9:33am On Nov 16, 2014 |
We marry them, not the other way round  1 Like |
| Re: Is It Ok To Ask A Guy You Are In Relationship With For Marriage? by Nobody: 9:37am On Nov 16, 2014 |
She wasn't wrong she was wrong by not buying a ring and proposing to the man |
| Re: Is It Ok To Ask A Guy You Are In Relationship With For Marriage? by ucheokpara100(m): 9:48am On Nov 16, 2014 |
i 'll advice u tell him wat u wnt and dnt pretend if u 're nt ok with his reply and behaviour u either quit or hv alternatives incase his nt serious, cos if he's nt serious with u he has alternative also. 1 Like |
| Re: Is It Ok To Ask A Guy You Are In Relationship With For Marriage? by Nobody: 9:50am On Nov 16, 2014 |
The lady did the right thing. It is essential that every relationship be defined. This actually should be done at the beginning before the relationship starts. It helps the direction of the relationship and the individuals are constantly on the same page. A lady or guy who has marriage in mind is not expected to start a relationship with one who does not believe in marriage. 4 Likes |
| Re: Is It Ok To Ask A Guy You Are In Relationship With For Marriage? by tempex88(m): 9:57am On Nov 16, 2014 |
I remember asking a girl out once and her reply was not yes or no. She asked when do u want to get married.I answered and said very soon. Then she replied, you are not the man for me.I want a man with the end in mind from the begining. She is happily married now and me still dey do girl friend. That a man isof age does not mean he is ready tosettle. He might see marriage as a cage. 1 Like |
| Re: Is It Ok To Ask A Guy You Are In Relationship With For Marriage? by jmoore(m): 9:57am On Nov 16, 2014 |
What is the point of boarding a ship without knowing its destination? 1 Like |
| Re: Is It Ok To Ask A Guy You Are In Relationship With For Marriage? by chubbyz(op): 9:58am On Nov 16, 2014 |
Odilafta:So you think, asking a guy to define your relationship is wrong? |
| Re: Is It Ok To Ask A Guy You Are In Relationship With For Marriage? by chubbyz(op): 10:00am On Nov 16, 2014 |
tempex88:hmmmmm!!i love your comment!!age doesn't guarantee readiness!!hmmmm |
| Re: Is It Ok To Ask A Guy You Are In Relationship With For Marriage? by buchisom1(m): 10:04am On Nov 16, 2014 |
chubbyz:the truth is the guy is nt ready for that whn a guy is ready to settle down u will knw..frm ua story i will advise u to hv a plan B |
| Re: Is It Ok To Ask A Guy You Are In Relationship With For Marriage? by Lordabas: 10:14am On Nov 16, 2014 |
Sure, it is okay. However,it is certainly not smart or thoughtful. She succeeded in scaring the guy away  |
| Re: Is It Ok To Ask A Guy You Are In Relationship With For Marriage? by Nobody: 11:07am On Nov 16, 2014 |
This is the type of lady that always do "hard to get"thing but when they notice that age is not by their side,they will start forcing on us |
| Re: Is It Ok To Ask A Guy You Are In Relationship With For Marriage? by Nobody: 11:35am On Nov 16, 2014 |
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| Re: Is It Ok To Ask A Guy You Are In Relationship With For Marriage? by chubbyz(op): 11:52am On Nov 16, 2014 |
elshaddai58:your assumption is totally wrong!the lady in question all her life has being involved with just one guy, broke up with the guy when she noticed that after 7yrs of relationship the guy wasn't talking marriage!so she doesn't want to make such mistake in this one!so she decided that any relationship that she must venture in must be defined!so what is your comment? |
| Re: Is It Ok To Ask A Guy You Are In Relationship With For Marriage? by Nobody: 12:24pm On Nov 16, 2014 |
chubbyz:wow,7yrs relationship without yelling any fruit,is like dis is sex relationship . Since she has wasted her years on one man,let her not appear desperate in entering into new relationship because some men will take her for granted because their are stages in a relationship that will get to marriage |
| Re: Is It Ok To Ask A Guy You Are In Relationship With For Marriage? by Nobody: 12:34pm On Nov 16, 2014 |
The lady is right in askin where the rltnsp is going. |
| Re: Is It Ok To Ask A Guy You Are In Relationship With For Marriage? by Nobody: 12:41pm On Nov 16, 2014 |
She wasn't too forward, she was simply proactive, caring and pragmatic. For a lady of her kind who believes in the future, she doesn't deserve that bloke a bit. Dude is almost 40 and yet doesn't even have a slightest idea of what he wants in life. 2 Likes |
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