The bride price, also known as the bride token, is an amount of money or property or wealth paid by the groom or his family to the parents of the bride. In Nigeria, the amount a groom pays as bride price depends on the tribe, culture and the parents of the bride. Should the groom or his family be unable to pay the amount requested by the fiancée’s parents.

Now question is, Is it proper for the bride to assist her partner in paying the bride price.

i dont support this abeg

If he cannot afford bride price he should stay off from marriage. Because d responsibilities of marriage is bigger than bride price.

He should stop thinking about marriage if he cannot afford bride price.


She may help in other things but that price must be paid by him.

As long as the bride price is not more than 35k, no problem

Bride price doesn't really tell the expected value of a wife in the husband's life or in the marital home - does it

it depend on the tradition of the girl if they charge much and u no he cannot aford it alone there room for sharing of burden atleast it is for the good of both of them

I don't support assisting with payment of the Bride Price but like in my case I handled d entertainment of all d guest who came ie food and drinks, dat was my own support but I allowed him handle d stuff on d list. You can support during the white but let him pay d bride price for ur respect in future and it shows he is ready to marry.

This got me laughing seriously


like I would give HIM the money to use and pay MY bride price

It is not right for a woman to pay her bride price for her husband. The bride price system of marriage should not be compulsory because the bride price could be exorbitant.

Dominiquez:
If he cannot afford bride price he should stay off from marriage. Because d responsibilities of marriage is bigger than bride price.

You said it all.

Burger01:
As long as the bride price is not more than 35k, no problem

Bride price doesn't really tell the expected value of a wife in the husband's life or in the marital home - does it

To a large extent it does. In my side if a guy asks for your hand in marriage and for some reasons couldn't meet with the demand in bride price or attaining to the items on the list it's assumed that you're not fully a wife to him. In fact if anything should happen to the woman like the case of death.. The man must pay up every dime even in death. And in some town the wife is somehow not regarded as a full fledged Member of the umuada community because of the man's inability to complete with the bride price. As for having any value in the husband's life... Please do not allow any man to take your sister away without completing with the proper things. at least he should be able to complete every of the traditional right. Maybe not once but he has to. It's what is expected of him. When he has the money he can go for the wedding, it must not be an elaborate one. Except if you want your sister to live in pains all her life... When a guy can't pay up the necessary dues it calls for disrespect if not from the husband's family then maybe from the husband itself. some men can behave funny at times. A guy paying the complete bride price is the first respect she can give to the woman both in his home and outside his home.
Think of a woman that got pregnant and moved in with the guy without anything been done on her head. 10 out of 100 of such women have a happy home. Now tell me the difference between such women and the one that her pride price is not done or not completed and is living with the man.

No, she shouldn't. Its just like buying something in the market and asking the thing you're buying to assist you pay for buying it.
The lady won't even respect you, and you, in return, will take her for granted. Its even a taboo.

No, no, and no.

Until he's ready, he's not ready. Let him chillax and allow it to be complete first.

Because, honestly speaking, one day na one day wey we go use that thing yab ourselves when we quarrel (I no pray o).

So to avoid the avoidable katakata or kasala wey for burst, make we enter go-slow till our turn reach.

Mprex:
This got me laughing seriously


like I would give HIM the money to use and pay MY bride price

Yes nah.... You have to help especially when the pride price of your people is too much.

Agybabe:


So to avoid the avoidable katakata or kasala wey for burst, make we enter go-slow till our turn reach.

U got me laugh... What do u mean by Kasala or katakata Becus i had neva heard of such language in the United State of Togo.

Charleschidera:
The bride price, also known as the bride token, is an amount of money or property or wealth paid by the groom or his family to the parents of the bride. In Nigeria, the amount a groom pays as bride price depends on the tribe, culture and the parents of the bride. Should the groom or his family be unable to pay the amount requested by the fiancée’s parents.

Now question is, Is it proper for the bride to assist her partner in paying the bride price.

op i wish i could agree with you. You have spoken well but this is nigeria. Most ladies are greedy. When u dont have they dump u like sack of garri.

The annoying thing is that....a particular tribe is charging 150k for introduction only. And the price is for their daughter whether her pusssssiiiii is still frictionized or a waterized and deepened pusssssiiiii due to over use you will still pay d gaddamn downry.....

No lady will ever pay that amount with you.

May be assisting in paying her own 'bride price' is a bit of a stretch. More like asking her to buy her own engage ment ring.

However, I don't see anything wrong in the lady contributing, financially, in other areas of the wedding apart from the 'bride price'.

mencade5:
op i wish i could agree with you. You have spoken well but this is nigeria. Most ladies are greedy. When u dont have they dump u like sack of garri.

The annoying thing is that....a particular tribe is charging 150k for introduction only. And the price is for their daughter whether her pusssssiiiii is still frictionized or a waterized and deepened pusssssiiiii due to over use you will still pay d gaddamn downry.....

No lady will ever pay that amount with you.

Even if she dump u, because u could not be able to pay the dowry, she is d loser. As they say that "Men are scarce than ladies"..... So u can use little amount to look for another lady.

I think that, If a lady loves her husband to be, she suppose to help out especially if it is too much.

Charleschidera:

Even if she dump u, because u could not be able to pay the dowry, she is d loser. As they say that "Men are scarce than ladies"..... So u can use little amount to look for another lady.

I think that, If a lady loves her husband to be, she suppose to help out especially if it is too much.

naija ladies are the most selfish ladies in this world....make u no get money, they will abandon you without thinking twice.

mencade5:
naija ladies are the most selfish ladies in this world....make u no get money, they will abandon you without thinking twice.

And this has caused alot of problems.
Let say that the guy dat z goin to marry her can't even afford or he only hav 50k bt the dowry is abt 60k. And the lady hav more than 10k to complete d dowry, den She wil jst live the guy to suffer while won't she help wit dat 10k.

Charleschidera:


Yes nah.... You have to help especially when the pride price of your people is too much.

like he doesnt have money for bride price and he wants to marry me. Are you serious

Jennydoris:






To a large extent it does. In my side if a guy asks for your hand in marriage and for some reasons couldn't meet with the demand in bride price or attaining to the items on the list it's assumed that you're not fully a wife to him. In fact if anything should happen to the woman like the case of death.. The man must pay up every dime even in death. And in some town the wife is somehow not regarded as a full fledged Member of the umuada community because of the man's inability to complete with the bride price. As for having any value in the husband's life... Please do not allow any man to take your sister away without completing with the proper things. at least he should be able to complete every of the traditional right. Maybe not once but he has to. It's what is expected of him. When he has the money he can go for the wedding, it must not be an elaborate one. Except if you want your sister to live in pains all her life... When a guy can't pay up the necessary dues it calls for disrespect if not from the husband's family then maybe from the husband itself. some men can behave funny at times. A guy paying the complete bride price is the first respect she can give to the woman both in his home and outside his home.
Think of a woman that got pregnant and moved in with the guy without anything been done on her head. 10 out of 100 of such women have a happy home. Now tell me the difference between such women and the one that her pride price is not done or not completed and is living with the man.

I'm not against bride price or whatever traditional dues a man must pay. My question was if after paying the bride price and wife starts living with the husband, what assurance is there that the wife would for (1)- be dutiful and truthful to the husband? (2)- be a progressive wheel in the life of the husband and not be a clog? (3)- not send the husband to an early grave? We all know some women (if not most) do have caustic tongues, do live adulterous lives and even bring bastard children to their husbands. Not generalizing please. I've heard of a case where a husband found out two of his three children were not his!..... and this man paid the bride price o. Paying the bride price is traditionally OK, but what assertive impact does doing so have in the husband's life? Yoruba people would tell you their daughters are not for sale and the bride price returned. Why would they do this? They might do this because of some unforseen situations in the future.

Bride price, to me, is just like extortion in the name of traditional marriage. Please don't hate me

Mprex:

like he doesnt have money for bride price and he wants to marry me. Are you serious

I just sold thirteen pints of my blood. The bride price money don complete, but since I have little blood left the wedding night go be....

KingTom:

I just sold thirteen pints of my blood. The bride price money don complete, but since I have little blood left the wedding night go be....

lolss. Its not complete jhoor btw, where have you been

Mprex:

lolss. Its not complete jhoor btw, where have you been

I was busy with excess work dear. Wait O so you missed me?

Jennydoris:






To a large extent it does. In my side if a guy asks for your hand in marriage and for some reasons couldn't meet with the demand in bride price or attaining to the items on the list it's assumed that you're not fully a wife to him. In fact if anything should happen to the woman like the case of death.. The man must pay up every dime even in death. And in some town the wife is somehow not regarded as a full fledged Member of the umuada community because of the man's inability to complete with the bride price. As for having any value in the husband's life... Please do not allow any man to take your sister away without completing with the proper things. at least he should be able to complete every of the traditional right. Maybe not once but he has to. It's what is expected of him. When he has the money he can go for the wedding, it must not be an elaborate one. Except if you want your sister to live in pains all her life... When a guy can't pay up the necessary dues it calls for disrespect if not from the husband's family then maybe from the husband itself. some men can behave funny at times. A guy paying the complete bride price is the first respect she can give to the woman both in his home and outside his home.
Think of a woman that got pregnant and moved in with the guy without anything been done on her head. 10 out of 100 of such women have a happy home. Now tell me the difference between such women and the one that her pride price is not done or not completed and is living with the man.

my brother nawa for u o. U see let me tell you that, the day a babe ask me if she should assist with her bride price is the time I would start to reexamine my essence as a man

Jennydoris:






To a large extent it does. In my side if a guy asks for your hand in marriage and for some reasons couldn't meet with the demand in bride price or attaining to the items on the list it's assumed that you're not fully a wife to him. In fact if anything should happen to the woman like the case of death.. The man must pay up every dime even in death. And in some town the wife is somehow not regarded as a full fledged Member of the umuada community because of the man's inability to complete with the bride price. As for having any value in the husband's life... Please do not allow any man to take your sister away without completing with the proper things. at least he should be able to complete every of the traditional right. Maybe not once but he has to. It's what is expected of him. When he has the money he can go for the wedding, it must not be an elaborate one. Except if you want your sister to live in pains all her life... When a guy can't pay up the necessary dues it calls for disrespect if not from the husband's family then maybe from the husband itself. some men can behave funny at times. A guy paying the complete bride price is the first respect she can give to the woman both in his home and outside his home.
Think of a woman that got pregnant and moved in with the guy without anything been done on her head. 10 out of 100 of such women have a happy home. Now tell me the difference between such women and the one that her pride price is not done or not completed and is living with the man.

So bride price is NW d yardstick for a happy marriage Reasons such as dis r d causes of late marriages. Go to d east and c d number of gals who r past 35 and r still single. D uncle to a frnd of mine is considering putting an end to his relationship wit his fiancee cos jst for introduction,he had to dish out a million naira for drinks after proViding wat ws on d list. Wen families r demanding d impossible from dudes Jst for a wife as though it were a market wat else do u expect.

KingTom:

I was busy with excess work dear. Wait O so you missed me?

lolss. Go away i didnt miss you

Mprex:

lolss. Go away i didnt miss you

KingTom:

awwwwww! Sorry sweetie. I missed you like cray

Burger01:


I'm not against bride price or whatever traditional dues a man must pay. My question was if after paying the bride price and wife starts living with the husband, what assurance is there that the wife would for (1)- be dutiful and truthful to the husband? (2)- be a progressive wheel in the life of the husband and not be a clog? (3)- not send the husband to an early grave? We all know some women (if not most) do have caustic tongues, do live adulterous lives and even bring bastard children to their husbands. Not generalizing please. I've heard of a case where a husband found out two of his three children were not his!..... and this man paid the bride price o. Paying the bride price is traditionally OK, but what assertive impact does doing so have in the husband's life? Yoruba people would tell you their daughters are not for sale and the bride price returned. Why would they do this? They might do this because of some unforseen situations in the future.

Bride price, to me, is just like extortion in the name of traditional marriage. Please don't hate me

Am not hating you because everybody has his/her understanding towards some issues. And you can call bride pride extortion, that's the way u see it. Bride price does not ascertain how the marriage will be like or whether the wife will be faithful or not. What am saying is that it's a traditional thing which is expected of any man that wants to take home a woman as his wife. Bride price does not guarantee a succeful marriage just as elaborate wedding won't. Since its a tradition that must be carried out which is expected of every man then why can't the man. He is not just doing it for the woman but for himself too. When u can't pay the bride price of the woman you're living with or you want to live with I wonder how you want people especially your age mate to see you. They will assume that you're a not upto the task. An age mate of yours can easily shut you up when a meeting is going, so many people will take you for granted and disrespect you because to them you are not a man yet because you failed to the necessary. Repect they say is reciprocal. Even sometimes the family of the woman can insult you. So to keep your diginity and prestige as a man you have to do what is expected of you. If you think that paying of bride price will determine how happy your marriage will be then am sorry to say that such a man that habours such thought is not yet ready for marriage. It's only the couples understanding, their level of maturity, the love that they have for each other and the grace of God that determines how happy the marriage will be.

Wait a min, please let me get this straight, how much is d bride price we are talking about. Less than 50k, less than 100k, about 200k, 500k, 1million or even more.
Until you can answer that question, I think whatever answer you give might just be insignificant.
In my culture, the dowry is usually returned to the husbands family as we believe our daughter is priceless. However, some families that are 'impoverished' see it as an opportunity to make money for themselves, I see no reason why in such case, the girl wouldn't make d burden lesser by talking to her family to make the bride price lesser or more reasonable.