We have all heard of instances or cases where a young girl got pregnant and her father or mother or both of them chased her out to fend for herself.
Recently, a woman recounted her tale of how her mother sent her packing when she got pregnant. She struggled to make ends meet when she was abandoned but now that her son is big, they want to start forming "famz". Right now, she hates her mum.
So, nairalanders, what's ur take on this subject matters cos personally, I believe that abandoning them is not the best. Who or where do u want them to turn to when d people they look up to turn their back on them??

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abortion straight away because the yoruba elders say when there's peace in a home it's because the bastard in that house has not grown so before he turns my home and life upside down I won't even allow it to use one more week in her belly . she's getting out straight away


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Even if you abandon her it won't change anything

If i were a mother with such a girl as a child, i would be soooo disappointed. Of course im human i would scream, shout, cuss her. I would show her that she has really disappointed me by allowing herself be at the receiving end upon all the coaching, advice and mentoring i have given her. BUT i cannot throw away my child out in the streets because of that single mistake she made. I would make sure she works extra hard to cater for her child while contributing in my own way.

I would have never dared to face my parents and tell them that I am pregnant when I was a teenager and I hope to raise my daughter in such a way.


If, however, I am faced with such a situation, God forbid, then I will support my daughter, she is my daughter and her child is my grandchild. I can't abandon my own child.

EfemenaXY and Sagamite, what do you think?

carefreewannabe:
EfemenaXY and Sagamite, what do you think?

You can't abandon her.

But you can flog the hell out of her.

Sagamite:


You can't abandon her.

But you can flog the hell out of her.

But she is pregnant.

Veralaw:
It is wrong
but what do you expect from a society that shy's away from reality and responsibility

Is it the responsibility of the parents when their daughter has unprotected s*ex?
I doubt any parent encourages their teenage daughters to do such.

Renylee:
We have all heard of instances or cases where a young girl got pregnant and her father or mother or both of them chased her out to fend for herself.
Recently, a woman recounted her tale of how her mother sent her packing when she got pregnant. She struggled to make ends meet when she was abandoned but now that her son is big, they want to start forming "famz". Right now, she hates her mum.
So, nairalanders, what's ur take on this subject matters cos personally, I believe that abandoning them is not the best. Who or where do u want them to turn to when d people they look up to turn their back on them??

you should read atiku's story on how titi's family disowned her for marrying a northerner.


however, after some year/s, they forgave her and made up.


your example is more difficult no doubt. Where is the child's father?

That was really mean of a mother to send her own daughter out in the street, what if something bad happens to her out there?

Sending her out in the street isn't always the solution. If she ain't working, you can make her take up a job that would help her cater for herself and the baby.

I will welcome my grandchild with open arms but her deed will not go unpunished. i will make sure she knows how challenging it is to bring up a child, is she felt she was old enough to open those legs, she better be old enough to provide for her child too.

Humanly speaking , the parents will be very disappointed , they may cry . But throwing her out will only worsen the situation . If GOD have killed for mistakes or sin all of us will be in hell now . He gave us the opportunity to change our ways and accept JESUS and our lives change . You accept JESUS today confess and forsake your sins and find a bible base church and fellowship with the and you live will not remain the same

No I won't abandon her.

carefreewannabe:


Is it the responsibility of the parents when their daughter has unprotected s*ex?
I doubt any parent encourages their teenage daughters to do such.

Mrs,
what I meant was that our society always does not want to accept that the deed has been done and that it is left to them to accept and correct the error already manifesting in the girl child.

carefreewannabe:
EfemenaXY and Sagamite, what do you think?

I certainly won't be abandoning her, no way.

But to say I'll be disappointed is an understatement. Be that as it may, we just need to forge ahead and find a way out through the mess...

By the way @OP: what age are we talking about here?

Two wrongs don't make a right

So, why abandon her when the mistake has being done
We just pray and work towards those mistakes not occurring,
But if it those
We take the bull by the horn and come up with the best possible solution for the
Child
Unborn baby
And the guy in question

Sagamite:


You can't abandon her.

But you can flog the hell out of her.

But flogging her could cause health problems for the mother and unborn baby, better yet just let her know how dissapointed you're in her and later try cool down and strategise on how to manage the situation but you will have to makr sure the mother sees whein! Hehe *not laughing*

andyallor:

But flogging her could cause health problems for the mother and unborn baby,

he knows.

i doubt flogging would cause an abortion however, although it might.

tpiah2:


he knows.

i doubt flogging would cause an abortion however, although it might.

Oh well...

Though parents will naturally be angry but have to face the reality of a child coming irrespective of d circumstance. l have a relative who is a product of teenage pregnancy, he is now a Priest based in Austria and he has been a blessing to my community.

I can't think of anything that would make me abandon any of our kids.
I take personal responsibility and pride/shame in how they turn out and what they do. I believe that by choosing to have kids, you are making such a commitment.
As far as I am concerned, my kids are the embodiment of my parenting skills or lack thereof.

SAMBARRY:
Ok I'm back



abortion straight away because the yoruba elders say when there's peace in a home it's because the bastard in that house has not grown so before he turns my home and life upside down I won't even allow it to use one more week in her belly . she's getting out straight away


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Are you married?

You used to post pictures of a child who you say is yours.

EfemenaXY:


I certainly won't be abandoning her, no way.

But to say I'll be disappointed is an understatement. Be that as it may, we just need to forge ahead and find a way out through the mess...

By the way @OP: what age are we talking about here?

The woman should be in her mid twenties and her son is 7

SAMBARRY:
Ok I'm back
abortion straight away because the yoruba elders say when there's peace in a home it's because the bastard in that house has not grown so before he turns my home and life upside down I won't even allow it to use one more week in her belly . she's getting out straight away
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But you claim you are a single mum how can you be this judgemental against another single parent na wa oh

I thought single motherhood was a thing to be proud of these days, especially if the father refuses to accept responsibility?

Good thing most women don't want it to happen to their daughters but are quick to paint it in a good light on Nairaland...interesting.

No way in hell will I abandon my child.
My friend got pregnant back then when she was 16 not supporting it though but there is no end of session she dosnt collect an award because of that child,such a blessing to us all btw her wedding is these december (let me spread the good news small ) you all invited.

crackhaus:
I thought single motherhood was a thing to be proud of these days, especially if the father refuses to accept responsibility?
Good thing most women don't want it to happen to their daughters but are quick to paint it in a good light on Nairaland...interesting.

Same way as most men won't want this happening to their daughters, but are quick to concede that they must bed 200+ women to avoid Prostate Cancer.

EfemenaXY:


Same way as most men won't want this happening to their daughters, but are quick to concede that they must bed 200+ women to avoid Prostate Cancer.

I have had sex with 200+ women (pardon your own exaggeration), and none has become a single mother yet, what's your point?

crackhaus:

I have had sex with 200+ women (pardon your own exaggeration), and none has become a single mother yet, what's your point?

The same "points" and generalistic assumptions as yours - but from the other end of the spectrum.

aisha2:


But you claim you are a single mum how can you be this judgemental against another single parent na wa oh

I'm not judgemental.God forbid it . In fact it's because I want the best for her that is the reason I'll get rid of it . Because I don't want her to be carrying the responsibility that is too much for her and beyond her age that is why I'm getting rid of it

and even if she wants to be a single mom like her mom I want her to be an empowered single mom that she wouldn't be dependent on her mom or anybody for that matter.she can't be a single mom without being enlightened educated and employed .that's my reasons



so as for you and your goons who liked your posts. My child is still my child. She's still going to be with me but I will not chase her out but that thing isn't staying in her belly.full stop