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Do you find yourself doing some 'sneaky-sneaky'__ hiding your payslip/bank alert from your spouse? avoiding intimacy? These habits go a long way in hurting your spouse...in the long run, the relationship. It' never too late to change.

Addiction:. Addiction on any level ___ social media, food, alcohol, drugs, shopping/ gambling – can/would affect the marriage.
Many couples are focused on their phones and not on each other. Your phone is not going to provide happiness and fond memories.

Avoiding S*x:. Intimacy is the bond holding a union together...So, if you find yourself making excuses for why s*x life has dwindled or is non-existent ___ that's a red flag.
Don't be too rigid, get more adventurous...there are so many things your spouse would want you to do(in the bed/bedroom), but might be scared to ask. Take up the initiative and ask.

Lack of communication:. Does every conversation have a way of metarmophosing into a fight?
Healthy communication is the ability to ask for what you need; don’t expect the other person to be a mind reader.
Stop assuming, learn to listen to each other.

Transferring aggression:. Having/had a bad day @work? That's not an excuse to pick a fight. Let your partner know it's a difficult day – he/she may step up and be more thoughtful and considerate than usual.

Financial infidelity: This is when one/both couple lie about their financial standing/expenses...it can be as damaging as s*xual infidelity.
Talk openly about your shared financial picture.

Letting a Third Party In:. Even if you're close to your parents and siblings, when it comes to your marriage_ draw a line. When you get married, you’re starting your own family – and your spouse comes first.
Always present a united front, and if there’s something you don't agree upon, don't undermine your partner in front of your family/his family/ friends...etc.

Fighting Unfairly: . When something bothers you, ask yourself how important the issue really is.If it’s crucial – and you must talk it out – bring it up as soon as possible to avoid built-up grudge(s) (avoid silent treatment...lol). Don't bring up past issues or claim to be right always.

Ruling out fun:. As much as things become uptight with kids and work, it's not advisable to rule out the fun things you guys did while courting or before having kids. Go on a dinner/vacation, just two of you.

Neglecting the little things:. everyone craves to be reassured of self-worth, bond and intimacy.
In your busy schedule, never forget to pass those lil compliments. Don't underestimate the power of tender/loving gestures.

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CalabarBoi:
too many rules and guidelines. marriage na real institution

Dapo777:
Something tells me the Op sef isn't married. What an irony.

Kachisbarbie:
lolz
I'm not married but I'm living with man.

Kachisbarbie:
lolz
I'm not married but I'm living with man.

mesoade:
Hit like if you're not married but just came here to read comments

MarvellousGod:
Must you beg for likes?

KanwuliaJara:
Lack of MONEY!!!!!!

Crocz:
Why will you marry when you don't have the money?