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Sophyrocks:
And these same men open one thousand threads bashing ladies, calling them sluts, lamenting to the whole world of how ladies are opening their legs, commiting abortions and what not. A lady is practising 'No S.ex' before marriage and all of a sudden she has committed sin!! What is good is now bad and what is bad is good. They are even justifying the rape. Look at them!! when will you people stop being confused? So raping your wife because you did this and that for her is the best? How many men out there have done even done more for their women and yet they didnt make noise and rape them? What about those men? Have they died? If a your wife is a learner, cant you teach her and be patient? Why rape? that one na marriage?

After marriage nko? So ur wife wld deny u sex after marriage so she can drive around wit her friends and laff about how impotent u are?

Sophyrocks:
A woman who is not too exposed in the s.ex department needs teaching and patience for goodness sake and not rape!!! Haba!! why did he marry her in the first place to punish her cant you see he is punishing her? thats the reason for the marriage. S.ex is supposed to be special between a couple not a chore. he has turned it to a chore. Is he enjoying it now? Is that how you hope to treat your own wife because she didnt want s.ex while dating?

What are you saying??

So three years patience is nothing??

not that i support the hubby action.

If your story is really true, then that husband of yours need counselling and a good beating! Yes, I said so. Like someone commented, you guys are not compatible. Also, your husband is so greedy, self-centred and immature. I know nobody is perfect, but he is a basket full of imperfection. My advice to anybody I know that is married is "keep your issues away from friends and pastors. Some pastors lack wisdom and have a poor sense of judgement. I don't even have a pastor, the vicar of my chapel is just a clergy man called to do God's work and not meddle in my affairs. Constant rape can damage your womb and scar you emotionally. You need to go for counselling and your husband too... Talk to your family doctor and they will refer you to a psychologist ASAP. You need help, that is an abusive marriage you are into and God is never pleased with wickedness. If you love your husband enough and he truly loves you, then both of you can work things out amicably at counselling. If he refuses to comply, then I'm afraid you ll have to leave that relationship. Talk to God about it, God hears our prayers. God will guide you and help you through all of this.

blesie:
So i narrated how little i can of my ordeal since i got married to this man here last week - https://www.nairaland.com/2030889/he-punishing-me-honey-moon

While i got alot of advises from our dear Nairalanders, i had resolve before not to tell the pastor or my parent but to talk to him as many advised, i couldn't look him in the eye actually, i tried to do that many times since that Friday but I couldnt, so i said ok, after sunday service i will build up courage to confront him and voice out my opinion to him.

So on sunday, it was going to be our first sunday after wedding, i had arrange our wears, his and my own, i woke up early to make breakfast for him and prepare him for church, before he woke up i was already in the kitchen so i ask him to take his bath and lets go early.

He took breakfast (i don't take breakfast so i didnt eat), we were all fully dressed and ready to set out, i packed our bible and writing note into the car and the gift we wanted to give our pastor too inside the car.

it was almost time and i said, so shall we, he said not yet and i said what is remaining, he said you're remaining, you havent given me nothing this morning, i said but you just took breakfast, he said nope, i haven't had you. This is like 10minutes for church to start oo.

He came closer and i said please dont let us waste time lets go. He changed. Don't let us do what? did you just say waste time? he dragged me down the couch and started what i will call rape again, at the process he had rough handled everything i wore, roughen my hair, i started crying, he walk down the wardrobe pick up something and ask me to wear it, i told him i'm not going to church again, he started begging that i can't do that but i keep refusing.

He shouted i should let us go, and i refused. He came back and raped me again till i agree i will go. So i dressed up and just ran into my own car, took off.

He thought i was going to church, he also entered the car and make his way to church. When he got to church he called me. I didn't answer the phone. i came home and was lying on the bed thinking of what next to do. i was actually thinking of running away without a word so he can come look for me forever.

So he got to church and the pastor and wife ask him about me, he said i must be inside. The pastor sensed something. did you say she must be inside? Did you two not come together bla bla bla. After serious enquiries he opened up that we had an issue in the morning.

I was lying down and i heard the door bell, i thought he was the one, i did not open it. The bell rang a thousand times i ignored it. The pastor wife called but i didn't answer, so because my car was parked inside they knew i was around. Finally i opened and here my pastor and wife have left the congregation standing there with him.

So they came in and ask me what happened, i told them i wanted a divorce, that my husband was killing me. They ask me what happened, if he was beating me or denying me of sex of not providing etc. I told them he raped me everything over everything and that my greatest surprise was to know he is doing all of these because i couldn't let him have sex with me while we were dating.

They then turned to him and ask him what happened. I never knew some people can talk so well that will make a bad case look good. Anyway he's a barrister.

He said: "Pastor i don't know why this happen but i knew i never ask God to give me a virgin as a wife. My brother married a virgin and till today he cannot enjoy sex so he has resulted to having sex outside wedlock but i have promised myself that i wont do that. Whether she likes it or not, she must satisfy me.

Ever since i met her over 3 years ago, i loved her, even though she told me no sex, i thought she was just been careful so i left her. For 3 years i never touched any woman. Here i was thinking she was practising romance, or sex style she will give me on wedding night because she did not have any virgin trait on her. She was exposed (works in the media), talks fearlessly, gives me headache so i thought oh she is a tough girl.

But on our wedding night, my wife here comes into the room. Before i could finish a call, she rushes to take her bath, cover herself up like she is going for a Mecca trip. She comes here lying with her back facing me. I thought to myself, but this is the same lady that smiles and laughs throughout na. What would have happened? i said ok pls come and bath me. She refused. i had to beg. Then she came standing 50 metres away, throwing water on my body, i got so angry i wanted to beat her up but i calmed down and before i could say jack, she got angry that she is not bathing me anymore. I met her again in the room and she said she tired and want to sleep, i tried to beg her she refused I then say to myself, so after begging her for 3 years to date me, kneel down to propose, beg her parent, beg the church i have to beg again for sex in this house. Not in my life! So i had my way, and i made sure i wasn't hurting her because i realised the first time she was a virgin.

Just to please her that she was a virgin which wasnt much of a big deal to me, i entered a car shop, got her a car, i told her this is for you, she said thanks like i bought her a biscuit and the next morning she left to her office in her own car.

She returned and i wanted to kiss her and she said i was disturbing her that she is tired. I was so angry. Whenever i I'm angry, i just have sex with her to calm myself down so i dont go drinking or even beat her. The only day i can admit to raping her was when she returned from work and i had sex with her. She stayed on the couch crying. I took wine in two glasses, gave her one but she pushed the wine glass away from me.

He continued. "I then said jokingly, 'you see its your time to cry now, im giving you those hot sex so you remember the times you used to punish me, insult me and make me go through hardtime but you've got to change now because I'm your husband, if not you will be crying like this.

Then my wife stood up and said to me, 'God will judge you for your wickedness!'

What!!! So i am wicked for having have sex with my wife? The same woman i paid a huge ransom to her calabar relations to marry her? I got so angry so i raped the hell out of her that day. She almost fainted, though i felt bad afterwards.

So this morning, we were set for church. I wanted to kiss her and just touch her a little because she was looking beautiful. She started that stubbornness again. She pushed me away like trash so i showed her I'm more powerful by having sex with her and she said she wasn't going to church anymore.

I brought something else for her to wear she refused and i remember she does anything i want her to do while having sex with her so i gave her another round and she ran out to the car. I thought she has left for church but no. So, this is what i have been passing through."

My pastor wife was first to comment. She said "What!!! Did you do all that i heard?"

I said, "No ma, he is not saying it the way it is. He raped me."

So they started asking the questions one after the other. ''Did you bath only you on your wedding night?''

My husband jumps in. "Ask her if she ever bath with me together since we were married!"

At that point, i felt like asking him to stop talking. My pastor said, "how old are you again? In case i have forgotten". i said "26, sir".

He said "Why na.. why, did you not read? But you are learned na. Why did you have to do all of these?"

The pastor turns to the wife and said, "mummy, did you not put her through counselling?"

They all started blaming me and apologizing to my husband. My pastor's wife had a one on one with me. They asked me to kneel to beg him.

They ask me to dress up lets go to church, it was suppose to be our thanksgiving sunday. I told them, "i wont be able to go as my eyes was already red". In my mind I'd rather sit and start thinking of how i can satisfy this man.

As advised, i bath with him last night, as expected he had sex with me in the bathroom, i felt like fainting but i kept quiet this time. I bear it like its a price i have to pay.

We had sex 3 times before the night was over. Now he is happy.

HONESTLY IF I KNEW THIS IS WHAT MARRIAGE IS ALL ABOUT, I WOULD HAVE JUST STAYED IN MY MOTHER'S HOUSE. THEY DID NOT PURSUE ME OUT

My Advice:

- S3x is a mutual feelings, play along when he needs you. You have to pull yourself together and enjoy it along with him.

- Never think of divorce cos' the advicers will later laugh at you when you come up with another thread.

- If you think its too much and you can't stand it; pretend like you pass on(died) when he is raping you. He will respect you next time.

Just try it if it works out.

Sophyrocks:
Sorry o. I disagree with you completely and i still stand by what i said. Once a man forcefully has s.exual intercourse against the will of a woman and abuses s.ex against her will too, it is rape o. Husband or no husband. Bible sef no support that kind thing. The actions of her husband clearly shows he married her for one reason and one reason only: TO PUNISH HER. So Op, save yourself from that beast now!! That marriage is not based on love. he married you with a wrong mentality.

So you're in support of her divorcing her husband because he wants to make love to his legally wedded wife? These are newly weds fa! After holding himself for 3 years she's still wants to be a virgin for am. She suppose dey happy say he no 'rape' her e go comot from her mouth

The only wrong thing I see the husband doing is loving her so much as to fulfil his marital responsibilities.

Bible sef says wife be submissive to your husband. What's wrong with a wife bathing with her husband? What's wrong with a wife sleeping with her husband? Abi na she be the first virgin? Or she wan remain virgin for life?

correctguy0900:
be like say I will soon quit nl. some weird things going on lately. my babe first notice and quited. wanted to just see for myself. silly & unverified stuff on fp

The new mod is putting every thing possible for fp , that's that can't educate the younger generations here...its unfortunate

cococandy:
Most nairalanders are confused ppl.
How did she use the man?
Did she force the man to spend money on her while they were dating?
He could have refused to spend his money on her since he didn't owe her anything at that time.

So saying no sex before marriage is now an evil thing? Does a lady owe her body to a man who's not her husband? Pls tell me again how she punished him.


One day y'all are clamoring for Virgins,the next day you're calling those who insisted on not having sex before marriage users and wicked people.
The man knowing that she's a novice should have had some patience with her and guide her gently into the art of love making so that it will be a beautiful experience for both of them.

Now he's coming with the "you punished me by keeping your virginity until marriage,so it is my turn to punish you" mentality.

And some on this thread see nothing wrong with such a sick mindset.even if this story is a lie, it is disturbing that some people think the man is acting right.



Pukes*

according to your post a woman does not owe her body to a man not her husband.
now that they her married she owes her body to her husband
so I think your advice should be that she should work on her sex drive and be the best lover her husband has ever seen

Sophyrocks:
Why must a man rape his wife simply because she held to the No s.ex rule and other funny characters? why did he marry her if he didnt love her but had ulterior motives? He must be a beast!! Marriage isnt by force. You dnt lke how a lady treats you then QUIT!! Now that he has turned to a rapist, is he enjoying the marriage now? Nonsense!!

am sure you have a boy friend, am sure you tell him how handsome he is, am sure some times you walk around showing him your sexy curves, am sure you give him kisses as you wishes. and in return, he treats you like a queen and always tell you he loves you even when you didn't ask for it.

In this case, i really do not see love. Its like she is not in love with him. I applaud her for keeping her virginity, but now she is married, she need make her husband run out of the house because of too much sex. A good wife doesn't need to be begged for sex. I am really sure many women are looking for the opportunity to satisfy a man they see as the partner.

She is just 26, am sure when she turns 36, she will understand why marriages is all about friendship with no stipulation.

UnknownT:
You guys are not compatible or what? Well, i just pray one of these your 'rap.e' cases turn to pregnancy

I wonder why you are depriving him of sex. virgin or no virgin kindly allow him into the holy land.

I am not in support of rape but it is obvious that your husband loves rough sex and he will definitely be doing this for a long time.

But this is very funny. if he deprive a lady of sex she will complain that you are having sex outside.

if you demand sex regularly she will complain that it's too much. #storyforthegods

hungryboy:
Its the man that needs to change his mindset, how do u enjoy sex when your wife is crying?,
you need to be patient with her, try to convince her, take it slowly and with time she will catch up,
No be to dey play King of the jungle for inside bedroom

And why should the woman be crying when having sex with her husband? Like she wasnt aware of sex in marriage or what? Besides, does she sound like someone who's ready to take advice from her man? How cana woman be pushing her husband away anytime he makes the move? Like he's disgusting her or what? Has she ever initiated pre-intimacy/sex/conversation/etc with her man before? Sounds so boring to me if u ask me. If she's not mentally reliable enough to handle marriage, why did she go into one? At 26? Smh!

Pyrrho:
After marriage nko? So ur wife wld deny u sex after marriage so she can drive around wit her friends and laff about how impotent u are?

That is why you have to rape her? tell me. cant you teach someone who isnt experienced lovingly to enjoy s.ex? Why rape?

donnypool:
am sure you have a boy friend, am sure you tell him how handsome he is, am sure some times you walk around showing him your sexy curves, am sure you give him kisses as you wishes. and in return, he treats you like a queen and always tell you he loves you even when you didn't ask for it.

In this case, i really do not see love. Its like she is not in love with him. I applaud her for keeping her virginity, but now she is married, she need make her husband run out of the house because of too much sex. A good wife doesn't need to be begged for sex. I am really sure many women are looking for the opportunity to satisfy a man they see as the partner.

She is just 26, am sure when she turns 36, she will understand why marriages is all about friendship with no stipulation.

As a good husband, you are not to rape your wife. You are to teach her to love s.ex. Its obvious the husband isnt even romantic and doesnt know how to satisfy her sef. There is a way you will handle a virgin lovingly in bed, she will beg for more. The man manhandles her like a beast. he needs his brain to be checked.

pweetixandy:
my brother,marriage is not a by force sometin..if she can't dance kerewa for him,let her leave him. lemme even ask,have u ever given in to his sexual advances without him begging. This woman didn't do her homework well before getting married.

omo i luv kerewawa dance die...

This story is a made up story. It is fake.

But let me say this according to the story. the husband is wrong for forcing his dick on the woman. No matter what the woman has done, the man is nt supposed to rape her. That is wickedness. If the man really loves her, he would nt do that to her. The man did not have true love for the woman. There are better ways the man can go about this issue. But he choose the way of rape(using force). I can never do that to the woman i claimed to love. Both parents need to sit and talk.

Sophyrocks:
As a good husband, you are not to rape your wife. You are to teach her to love s.ex. Its obvious the husband isnt even romantic and doesnt know how to satisfy her sef. There is a way you will handle a virgin lovingly in bed, she will beg for more. The man manhandles her like a beast. he needs his brain to be checked.

At the emboldened, Sophyrocks I dey suspect you

phabulous88:
So you're in support of her divorcing her husband because he wants to make love to his legally wedded wife? These are newly weds fa! After holding himself for 3 years she's still wants to be a virgin for am. She suppose dey happy say he no 'rape' her e go comot from her mouth

The only wrong thing I see the husband doing is loving her so much as to fulfil his marital responsibilities.

Bible sef says wife be submissive to your husband. What's wrong with a wife bathing with her husband? What's wrong with a wife sleeping with her husband? Abi na she be the first virgin? Or she wan remain virgin for life?

Oh yes. Im in suppoort of the divorce because her husband married her to punish her. the marriage is based on a wrong foundation. its obvious the huusband doesnt even know how to be romantic, to make a woman love s.ex. Its shameful. I repeat, you dnt rape your wife. You are to make her love s.ex by being patient. Teach her how to love but dnt rape her. Simple!! Bible no talk say you should rape your wife ooooooooo.

Young lady, after reading what you wrote her. All I can say is, " God forbid I marry an emotionless woman like you "..

Is sex and kissing a crime ?

What sort of nonsense is this ?

Cock n bull story, hw husband go dey rape new wife? Big lie!!! new wife no b lyk egg? Ehn all my brodas in d house. Channel ur cock n bull story 2 d sex story blog

tintingz:
What are you saying??

So three years patience is nothing??

not that i support the hubby action.

Which patience? didnt the punishment start during the honeymoon? Why cant he use the honeymoon to teach her s.ex and be more romantic? He is a beast!! He doesnt even know how to handle her sef.

RedBenson:
Madam, do you believe the problem is from the woman or not? Believe it or not, she's the problem. This is what you get when getting married to someone whom you dont take as a friend, a brother/sister and a partner. She obviously does not relate well with her husband. She's not friendly with him which is very important. She doesnt play with him, she does not kiss and tease him, she does not sit on his laps and rub his body, (of course you've already heard she never took bath with him not until after the pastors' visit) etc. What sort of a woman is that? It seems she does not even talk with him when at home. Why should having sex with a woman you married be a problem? If a girlfriend can give it happily, what should then be expected of a wife? BORING, that is a short word to describe her type. Besides, this is what happens when one gets married to a woman old enough to be a grandma but still a virgin. Let me not sound harsh though pls.

I get ur drift.....im not supportin her coldness, im only saying d hubby's punishment is too hard for an inexperienced person...wat if she gets injured or scarred for life? Lets not support d guy's insensitivity.....d poor lady was probably scared of d whole process.

Equado:
I lay my hands on my chest looking to the heavens...I tell you this story is cock nd bull

It happens o.

Infact most marriages crack in the first 2 months. I have heard many stories..

Some ladies are too rigid like the Op.

Sophyrocks:
That is why you have to rape her? tell me. cant you teach someone who isnt experienced lovingly to enjoy s.ex? Why rape?

you seem to be a smart person. You shld be able to deduce the part where she went out with along with friends, she submitted the wrong CV b4 marriage. She made him believe she was exposed.
Her husband was also inexperienced too. He somehow believed her. And virgins all make the same mistake, they think sex isn't a big deal.

pweetixandy:
my brother,marriage is not a by force sometin..if she can't dance kerewa for him,let her leave him. lemme even ask,have u ever given in to his sexual advances without him begging. This woman didn't do her homework well before getting married.

You have a point. This lady has been used to being begged to do everything including what she is supposed to do without being asked.

What sort of sense of entitlement ?

andromida:
I honestly find it hard to believe this story. If its true i am sorry you are going through all this your husband seems insane to me from your story.

I am curious though have you never enjoyed the s3x with him?

Why is he communicating with you in such a violent way and why do you have to tolerate this nonsense? when the pastors wife told you to kneel and beg him you should have said NO. You can't just be crying and tolerating some extreme s3x just to please him look for a solution abeg since he is also a skilled manipulator and you've lost your voice you may need to go back home.

You don't have to pay any price you didn't commit any crime you only got married.

Nonsense! Very nonsense advice!! This actually shows most of these ladies crying for husband do not really have anything to manage marriage. Smh! Instead of advising her to reduce her unfriendly character with her husband, you are rather insinuating she quits the marriage. For how long would she go back and stay in her parents' house? Smh! You even said she shouldnt have knelt down to beg her husband? Pride! Pride! Pride! One thing that destroy marriages daily.

phabulous88:
At the emboldened, Sophyrocks I dey suspect you

Suspect?

But its true now. some virgins can become wild when they are lovingly taught s.ex. Some good guys have taught them. Did it remove any cell from their body to teach their women? come on!! Her husband himself no sabi bedmatics himself. he is not romantic. he is one of those men who mount a woman, pound and pound and pound at her like pounded yam or like an animal. then come down. dem go talk say na s.ex be that. Touch a woman well let her get wet na, them say NO!! I must pound first!! Nonsense. And na dem dey make noise pass o.

Sophyrocks:
As a good husband, you are not to rape your wife. You are to teach her to love s.ex. Its obvious the husband isnt even romantic and doesnt know how to satisfy her sef. There is a way you will handle a virgin lovingly in bed, she will beg for more. The man manhandles her like a beast. he needs his brain to be checked.

I'm sure he totally manhandled her. I'm also sure it was due to her resisting and the man had to be a man. what more do you need of a man that proved to you he isn't just interested in sex by dating her for three years without sex? (i know i cannot do that, mine is sex before dating , cause i need to make sure that vajayjay ready for the adventure). My ex gf travelled for three months and i promised no cheating no watching of porn and no flirting around. when she returned, she finished me with sex, love etc in fact we argue because of sex. she wants more and i don't.

You and I know that when a guy ejaculate, he is as good as a lazy guy. all she had to do was make him cum and ask for more immediately. am sure they'll have another meeting with their pastor on how the guy isn't satisfying her.

MY Humble Opine

Sophyrocks:
What i dnt understand is why will a man who isnt comfortable with the 'No sex before marriage rule' pretend all his way through and decide to be a rapist after marriage? Why couldnt he just walk away since he found out he was used? Is that not what sensible guys do? If you are not comfortable with how a lady is treating you, why cnt you just quit? Is it by force to marry? Haba!! what kind of man derives joy in raping his wfe simply because of past events? Only a beast does!! When did marriage become a Do or Die affair? I think this man is not psychologically O.k and needs to see a psychiatrist!!! What a Beast!! Op, if you like keep decieving yourself say you don marry. Na one chance you don enter o. Pastors cannot save you o. Save yourself!!! The marriage is doomed already with the sort of mentality the man entered into it. He married you to punish you o. Save yourself.

when they were visiting tantalizer and KFC..Chopping the guys money like Akara... Even putting your friends bills on him she thinks she don catch maga... You then came up with a crazy rule of no sex for 3yrs? kai.. the lady is a complete mugu... I for tear the puna!!!...

Sophyrocks:
And these same men open one thousand threads bashing ladies, calling them sluts, lamenting to the whole world of how ladies are opening their legs, commiting abortions and what not. A lady is practising 'No S.ex' before marriage and all of a sudden she has committed sin!! What is good is now bad and what is bad is good. They are even justifying the rape. Look at them!! when will you people stop being confused? So raping your wife because you did this and that for her is the best? How many men out there have done even done more for their women and yet they didnt make noise and rape them? What about those men? Have they died? If a your wife is a learner, cant you teach her and be patient? Why rape? that one na marriage?

from her post does it look like she is willing to learn? she came out dressed from the bathroom for crying out loud. she should change her attitude first then talk to her husband am sure he would be willing to teach her

Sophyrocks:
Which patience? didnt the punishment start during the honeymoon? Why cant he use the honeymoon to teach her s.ex and be more romantic? He is a beast!! He doesnt even know how to handle her sef.

You are just screaming "teach her!!!, teach her!!!, teach her!!!!". Did she look like someone who is ready to learn?. And when she finally divorce, I hope you have an impotent man you will give out to her who will never demand for sex?.
And answer this question sincerely, how did you learn how to have sex?

donnypool:
I'm sure he totally manhandled her. I'm also sure it was due to her resisting and the man had to be a man. what more do you need of a man that proved to you he isn't just interested in sex by dating her for three years without sex? (i know i cannot do that, mine is sex before dating , cause i need to make sure that vajayjay ready for the adventure). My ex gf travelled for three months and i promised no cheating no watching of porn and no flirting around. when she returned, she finished me with sex, love etc in fact we argue because of sex. she wants more and i don't.

You and I know that when a guy ejaculate, he is as good as a lazy guy. all she had to do was make him cum and ask for more immediately. am sure they'll have another meeting with their pastor on how the guy isn't satisfying her.

MY Humble Opine

All i know is that the man is a beast!! He no sabi bedmatics! Most men think bedmatics is all about satisfying the man. Mbanu!! Its satisfcation of bothe s.exes. Since he knows her disposition towards it, it is required of him to teach her. He is not romantic and his bedmatics styles are very poor thats why he manhandleds her. Two wrongs dnt make a right. Dnt be a beast because of your d1ck. S.ex is meant to be beneficial for both s.exes.

Sophyrocks:
Suspect?

But its true now. some virgins can become wild when they are lovingly taught s.ex. Some good guys have taught them. Did it remove any cell from their body to teach their women? come on!! Her husband himself no sabi bedmatics himself. he is not romantic. he is one of those men who mount a woman, pound and pound and pound at her like pounded yam or like an animal. then come down. dem go talk say na s.ex be that. Touch a woman well let her get wet na, them say NO!! I must pound first!! Nonsense. And na dem dey make noise pass o.

Sister, three years no be joke. The guy must have tried all the available bedmatics skills, and tutoring. Now that they are married, he must have ran out of ideas. Another three long years isn't in his plan anymore.
All she needs is a bad girl like u as friend who wld teach her some nitty-gritty abt nakiology.

MsPat:
I get ur drift.....im not supportin her coldness, im only saying d hubby's punishment is too hard for an inexperienced person...wat if she gets injured or scarred for life? Lets not support d guy's insensitivity.....d poor lady was probably scared of d whole process.

Being scared of sex in marriage is what i dont understand. Why? A girlfriend gives you sex freely and happily, so why the wife then? Like she was not expecting sex or how? Good that she was a virgin, all she needed to do was to make her husband understand it properly and from there, he would've known how to take it on her but she was totally refusing sex with her hubby. To me, the hubby is kind and i'm sure, he been taking it lightly with her.