Can I come sleep over doesn't always mean can I come shag you thoroughly tonight. OP bear that in mind. As you get older you'll meet more matured guys who'd keep you in their houses, sleep in bed with you and still manage to keep their hands and preeks away from your puhcee.

ugojamali:
Can I come sleep over doesn't always mean can I come shag you thoroughly tonight. OP bear that in mind. As you get older you'll meet more matured guys who'd keep you in their houses, sleep in bed with you and still manage to keep their hands and preeks away from your puhcee.

have you done that before?

Chakakhan:


have you done that before?

I've slept with a lot of gals that I didn't shag. And it wasn't for fear of trying.

There is this guy who is two years older than me so I assumed he was a matured guy but dam I was so wrong.

I met him this year because we were in the same class. The guy was shy when we spoke. Long story short he came to me and confessed that he had feelings for me like two months ago and would like us to be together ...

I told him I admire his bravery for telling me how he feels but I wasn't looking to start any relationship because its almost the end of the year but I wouldn't mind being friends (Dont give me that look ... yes I friendzoned him)

He would ask to come over and chill but I always had an excuse...I didnt want awkward moments. Two weeks back I asked him to come fix something on the pc so he did and we chilled after he was done. Very good conversation...nothing awkward.

Next day around 8pm I get a message from him saying I miss you, please can I spend the night ... I lost it, I wanted to go all crazy on his ass but I just calmly asked him to explain. Without any remorse he just said that we would get snacks, watch a movie and he would sleep over!
I was so angry and insulted! what made him think he could just ask me something like that and I would agree? Did I look easy to him?

I know you will attack me for this but usually if a guy likes me and I have no feelings I ignore him completely so by asking if we could be friends I adjusted my usual method and this is what I get If a woman invites you to her room that is not an invitation for anything else.

He didnt apologize when i told him how it made me feel, he just said but you knew how i felt from the beginning! I have been ignoring him for two weeks now.

Is it ok for him to have asked me to spend the night? ... besides having poor game I guess he had nothing to loose

Am I over reacting?

Why would a guy do this? (except for the obvious) ... what gave him the green light?

Ps: I dont really dress provocatively...I swear. When he came over I was wearing a long boobtube maxi dress... nothing suggestive about that

Well some guys are still learners, if na me, the day I fixed your PC na the day I for chop you or even make attempt. Which correct guy in his right senses will ask for permission before attacking the konji. No, naturally you don't expect any woman to tell you to come and have s3x with her, just go for it, the worst you will get is a No, then clean your nyash waka.

ugojamali:


I've slept with a lot of gals that I didn't shag. And it wasn't for fear of trying.

hmmmm thats strange. Iv never done that.

you are actually right... I think my response was mean but guys just dont respect women at all these days. You know when i said does he think im cheap he just said he does that with his friends all the time. So just because one of his female friends agreed to such then its okay to just go around asking other girls too.

I think im just generally angry at how guys think they can just get free sex from girl... what has he done to deserve it nothing but fix my pc

no such thing as friendzone(if you no want you simply cut him off or else he'll keep thinking he has hope and you know how visual we guys are,it doesn't matter whether you are buttt nekkid or wearing hijab we'll see what we want to see)an all we see is puccci

Chakakhan:


hmmmm thats strange. Iv never done that.

Not strange at all trust me. Especially if you're like me who has lots of female friends. I can't go shagging all my friends. And it's Damn hard to keep them from coming and sleeping over.

Occasionally there's the give in to temptation though. Lol. Body no be wood

ugojamali:


Not strange at all trust me. Especially if you're like me who has lots of female friends. I can't go shagging all my friends. And it's Damn hard to keep them from coming and sleeping over.

Occasionally there's the give in to temptation though. Lol. Body no be wood

well im sure the Op didnt want to risk the guy being tempted...bt good point

Chakakhan:


well im sure the Op didnt want to risk the guy being tempted...bt good point

True that. Especially since she's obviously not been with a guy who kept hands off her.

Oahray:
smh... An indecisive person cannot make EFFECTIVE decisions (and on time). If she has decided she didn't want him, what prevented her from sticking to that decision? She had to invite the same guy to her room just cos of selfish gain and actually spent time with him alone, to make up for it, giving the impression that she likes his company. Aren't there other guys that could help her? What happened to spending her money for repairs?

she already made it clear she doesnt want a relationship. So she cannot talk to him anymore because she doesn't want to date him?

Why wouldn't the guy accept the impression when that's what he wants? Read my post with your eyes open. The guy was childish, but she made a very foolish decision.

Accept what impression. How does fix my laptop for me mean i like you and i want to date you now?

It's wisdom to let your no mean no, and maturity to take responsibility for the consequences. She's neither wise nor mature.

no means no right? Tell me where the OP said that she wanted to give him a chance? Why read too much meaning into what doesn't exist?

If a guy makes it clear he doesn't want to date a girl, would he be wise to take her out to a candlelight dinner for two? Use your head na.

you are comparing fixing a laptop and a dinner for two? How was fixing a laptop in any way a romantic setting?

Okonkwo2211:


wetin dis zim mugabe prostitute scoutin for fresh nyjerien meat again to give AIDS?!

one thing i learnt about attention seekers on the forum, is that you simply ignore them. The normal attention you can never get in real life, you use a faceless forum to get it. Well not from me. Run along

you are actually right... I think my response was mean but guys just dont respect women at all these days. You know when i said does he think im cheap he just said he does that with his friends all the time. So just because one of his female friends agreed to such then its okay to just go around asking other girls too.

I think im just generally angry at how guys think they can just get free sex from girl... what has he done to deserve it nothing but fix my pc

The guy must be very stupid! He hasn't even taken you out for dinner, yet to give you money for shopping.. no gifts bought. No airtime sent. He hasn't even solved any big problem for you and he's stylishly asking for sex.

Deny them access to that dough and go celibate on them for like a month... they would come begging on their knees for you to touch them for free.

Or they'd dump you and find a mugu they can control.

Frankenstein:
The guy must be very stupid! He hasn't even taken you out for dinner, yet to give you money for shopping.. no gifts bought. No airtime sent. He hasn't even solved any big problem for you and he's stylishly asking for sex.

Im not sure why Im invested in this topic but I have to point out that the bartering system for sex in a mans mind is money=sex

If that is so then can one truly say the laptop fixing is a payment in kind to allow a man to 'sleep over' ? Definately not!

I think by 'free' she means with no effort... No where in the thread does it imply the op wanted money. I think he misjudged her thinking she was easy where she js wasnt interested.

Frankenstein:
Deny them access to that dough and go celibate on them for like a month... they would come begging on their knees for you to touch them for free.

Or they'd dump you and find a mugu they can control.

hmmm this would never happen unless she loved him or was attracted. She was not.

A woman only wants to control a man she loves.

Chakakhan:


I think u have issues

go to a zimbabwean site and stop advertising yourself to nigerian, we love our women!

Okonkwo2211:


go to a zimbabwean site and stop advertising yourself to nigerian, we love our women!

Yes continue to do so... I think it would make you happy to know that no one is after you... Ok let just speak for myself

Dont blame him for being a caveman.

but sleeping over/passing a night could be harmless
i have passed "nights" elswhe

Chakakhan:


Yes continue to do so... I think it would make you happy to know that no one is after you... Ok let just speak for myself

hello, idiotic lovepeddler, yes you are after us. What are you looking for on a Nigerian site anyway, averring that you squirted thrice in an exam, can'tcha see that, thats overtous cheap marketing your cheap Zimbabwean bottom. You just irk us with your silly and disorientated maneuvres which often lead to opening your * thighs* which in turn releases an HIV/Aids odour like stench, or at worst you Zimbabwean women are after money , most of you are becoming destitutes in the UK, and resort to thievery. I remember this one girl from Zim who stole my £10 when i was taking a bath, beware thieves!!!!

Okonkwo2211:




hello, idiotic lovepeddler, yes you are after us. What are you looking for on a Nigerian site anyway, averring that you squirted thrice in an exam, can'tcha see that, thats overtous cheap marketing your cheap Zimbabwean bottom. You just irk us with your silly and disorientated maneuvres which often lead to opening your * thighs* which in turn releases an HIV/Aids odour like stench, or at worst you Zimbabwean women are after money , most of you are becoming destitutes in the UK, and resort to thievery. I remember this one girl from Zim who stole my £10 when i was taking a bath, beware thieves!!!!

Sir please go to sleep.... You are not making any sense therefore im not even going to address any of the crap u uttered up there

Chakakhan:


Sir please go to sleep.... You are not making any sense therefore im not even going to address any of the crap u uttered up there

na wa oo!!! Wot you see is wot you get, i aint gon tryna knock sense in a rotten pu.c Aids infested Zim prostitute-getit