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Congrats Phema. Lil' one u are blessed and highly favoured

congrats Phema
God bless the new baby and may he always bring you much joy

Now that's what I am talking about.......



5 Reasons You Should Have Sex With Your Husband Every Night


I was getting a manicure the first time I learned that not all wives want to, ahem, go for a roll in the hay with their husbands. I was 16 and had picked out orange nail polish (oh, sixteen). I had a book with me but it wasn't long before I found another source of entertainment. In-between buffings and polishings, the two women next to me talked about how much their husbands wanted IT and how little they wanted to give IT.

For a girl that had not even been asked out on a date this was a whole new world. I had a suspicion that their experience was more realistic than the articles I sneaky read in Cosmo while getting my hair done at the salon. (I am supposed to put my hand WHERE? while simultaneously doing WHAT?) So I kept my eyes on my book, let the words blur into lines and listened closely.

"Doesn't he know how tired I am by the end of the day? As if after the kids are finally asleep I have the energy to do anything but sit down and watch some TV."

"For me, it isn't even the energy it takes. I am still losing weight from the baby. I don't feel sexy. I can hardly UnCloth in front of a mirror, let alone in front of him. I honestly think it is selfish that he expects me to pretend to feel something that I don't."

"Selfish? That's a good word. Maybe if he took care of the kids when he got home or made dinner once in a while I would be more interested. Hell, just pick up the milk on the way home from work. I am not asking for much. Now that I think about it, I don't think we have done it in the last three weeks."

"Yeah. It's been at least two for us."

Wait. These women were married...they lived with a guy....who slept in their bed. They could have sex all the time! And they didn't want to? It made no sense. It was like turning down a zero calorie but as delicious-as-creme-brulee dessert. (Or at least I assumed. At that point everything I knew about romance was gleaned from Anne of Green Gables and Moulin Rouge.)

How sad. How wasteful. How stupid. When I got married, I would always want to have sex with my husband! And I would never be too tired. My goodness, it was just ridiculous to want him to bring home a gallon of milk just to prove he cared. Wasn't it just like a woman to make a grocery run a test of love. As the final coat of polish was applied to my nails, I swore to never be like them. My life would be different. I would be better. I would never feel too fat or too tired. Ever.

And then I grew up.

Intercourse, carnal knowledge, lovemaking, knocking boots, coitus, SEX! is everything 16 year old me imagined plus a little whipped cream on top. (Whipped cream, see what I did there?) And once Riley and I got married there was lots and lots and lots of it. Then we had a baby and I really was just so tired my bones hurt. And for a while I did feel fat. Even after I lost the pregnancy weight everything just looked different. Like a cut flower that has been left out in the sun, still lovely just a little...wilted. I became a little distant. We started to fall asleep without talking or kissing.

Then one day while washing dishes, I realized that we had gone eight days without touching each other. Eight days was a quite some time for us. But the thing that bothered me the most was that I hadn't missed it. And I knew that was a problem. So that night after we put the baby to bed, I gave Riley my best come hither glance. Yes, I was tired and felt about as desirable as the "feed the birds" lady in Mary Poppins. But while drying the dishes, it occurred to me that 16 year old Meg must have understood something about sex that 20-something Meg had forgotten. And maybe, just maybe it was worth remembering.

Without further ado here are five reasons you should have sex with your husband every night:

1. Being a mother, one of the ultimate expressions of womanhood, can often leave a girl feeling stripped of her femininity. There is something about being covered in spit up and attending to the every need of another human being that makes one feel distinctly gender neutral. Most of my days are spent playing with dolls, wiping baby food off of my clothes, changing diapers, wiping snot off of my clothes, going to the park, and wiping what-the-heavens-is-that off of my clothes. There is something restorative about kissing the boy you love. There are times in Riley's arms when I remember who I am before I even realize I have forgotten. Yes, I am a cook, cleaner, teacher, and wiper of all things disgusting. But I am also something more, something delightful and completely apart from my roles. I am a woman! And there is potential and depth and heck, I am pretty darn good kisser, too. It is a lovely thing, finding yourself through the touch of someone else.

2. If you want your husband to act like a man, you need to treat him like a man. Hold the eye rolls. I am not pushing for a return to the 1950′s. (Although, heaven knows an era in which low rise jeans did not exist is basically alright by me.) Women need any number of criteria met to feel loved. Men are far simpler. They need to be fed, they need to be appreciated, and they need to have sex. That is it. Really. So make or order dinner once in a while. Say thank you for the long hours spent at work with a hug and smile when he walks through the door each night. (Better yet? Smile as you hand him the kids and walk out the door for a long, much needed break.) And my goodness, let the poor man see you naked. It is astounding what a good man will do for a good woman that has made him feel loved. After a few weeks of meals and make outs, you will sit back and wonder why you didn't insist on having sex every night sooner. Talk about a small investment and big returns.

3. You need to have a moment in each day that is just about the two of you. Remember that boy? The one that made your heart thump and hands sweat? The one that called when you hoped he would, that made you run hot and high up to the stars until you thought you would never come down? He is still there. Under the years and bills and worries, that smiling boy is still in love with and needs his smiling girl. Every night after the kids go to bed is a chance to find him again. A moment to remind yourself that you are living a picket fenced adventure and my goodness, there is nothing the two of you can't do.

4. Sex relieves stress. I don't know that this one needs much explanation. As a mother I eat stress for breakfast. So it seems to me I have a choice. I can let off steam by A) driving around at night and bashing in strangers mailboxes or B) I can get down and dirty with that one guy I married that one time. I choose option B. (So far the mailboxes in my neighborhood have escaped unscathed, so Option B must be working.)

5. It is so much blasted fun. Seriously. Why are we so quick to refuse the good things in life? We will slog through our children's Algebra homework, do Zumba in public and pluck the hair from our body ONE PIECE AT A TIME. But tell a girl to have sex every night and she looks at you like you are crazy, An orgasm? Every night? What do I look like? A Nymphomaniacal Super Woman?

Where is the logic in that?

Are we really too busy doing dishes to participate in an activity that is so good it has inspired genius (that saucy Shakespeare) and changed history (Okay, Helen of Troy, we get it. You were super hot)? My goodness, what a crazy way to live. Ladies, did it ever occur to you (to us!) that we should have sex because WE DESERVE IT?

Yeah, you deserve it.

So, tonight put the kids to bed. Leave the dishes in the sink and the floors unswept. They will wait. Take a moment to remember that you are the girl you hoped you would be and then go find that boy and remind him that he is the man you knew he could be.

Waiting for the summary

Only a bone idle / jobless man would want sex everyday, 24/7

EfemenaXY:
Only a bone idle / jobless man would want sex everyday, 24/7

Everyday s not the same as 24/7 ma

We sleep on the same damm bed

Msteeew! Freak

r231:
Everyday s not the same as 24/7 ma

We sleep on the same damm bed

So?

Besides, it's abnormal for a man to want it everyday, 365/6 days of the year. Such a person needs to see a shrink. Drawn curtains, darkened room, hypnosis, let him talk a walk down memory lane to pinpoint exactly where it got broken.

Idowuogbo:
Msteeew! Freak

EfemenaXY:
So?

Besides, it's abnormal for a man to want it everyday, 365/6 days of the year. Such a person needs to see a shrink. Drawn curtains, darkened room, hypnosis, let him talk a walk down memory lane to pinpoint exactly where it got broken.

Really

^^ Yes. Really.

Every nite . U don't wanna slump from exhaustion

Happy Sunday All.

Church mode activated!!!

Congrats Phema, best wishes

Sleekyshuga:
Egopersonified's husband

Egopersonified my deepest condolences. May the Almighty grant you the fortitude to bear this loss and be your comforter in this trying period

r231:
Happy Sunday All.

Church mode activated!!!

where you dey? see i told you

https://www.nairaland.com/1922231/perspective-family-issue/4

r231:
Really

baba, shey na food........nawa o

happy sunday to all

Na project carry me go UnderG, miss this place and hi to everyone. how's the holidays going?
CC
naijababe
Efe
Aluta
RR
R231 and all i didn't mention season's greetings

Donxavier:
happy sunday to all

Na project carry me go UnderG, miss this place and hi to everyone. how's the holidays going?
CC
naijababe
Efe
Aluta
RR
R231 and all i didn't mention season's greetings

Happy Sunday to you too! How've you been? Good to see you around again.

Congratulations my dear Phema. .

Donxavier:
baba, shey na food........nawa o

How you dey

Alutacontinua I have gone back o..Homeland I mean..improved since the Paedophile Episode

damiso:
Alutacontinua I have gone back o..Homeland I mean..improved since the Paedophile Episode

hehehe
I'm taking a break from series now
More like my gadgets are misbehaving so, anyone I don't get to be around when it airs on tv

I might go back to homeland on your recommendation though but that episode totally pissed me off

Donxavier, welcome back

alutacontinua:
hehehe
I'm taking a break from series now
More like my gadgets are misbehaving so, anyone I don't get to be around when it airs on tv

I might go back to homeland on your recommendation though but that episode totally pissed me off

Donxavier, welcome back

You should. .I am really loving Quin in this season he is sort of making up for no brody

emeraldoe:
Congrats Phema. Lil' one u are blessed and highly favoured

r231:
Congrats Phema!!

EfemenaXY:
Congratulations Momi Phema

damiso:
Congrats Phema..God bless the lil one

chaircover:
congrats Phema
God bless the new baby and may he always bring you much joy

ladygogo:
Congratulations my dear Phema. .

Donxavier:
Congrats Phema, best wishes

Thank you all for all your prayers and well wishes. I truly appreciate.

r231:


How you dey

fine oga mi, wen u dey show?

Congrats phema,God's provisions all the way

What's up with the guy holding staff and some customer hostage in Sydney?
This guy no try at all,a week to Christmas?
Jennykadry,please you are needed,and i know you love your cafe latte in the morning(just like I do) hope you good

edwife:
What's up with the guy holding staff and some customer hostage in Sydney?
This guy no try at all,a week to Christmas?
Jennykadry,please you are needed,and i know you love your cafe latte in the morning(just like I do) hope you good

Edwife.... Which staff and customer hostage gist me tori ....wetin happen?

*goes back to her nkwobi business*

jennykadry:
Edwife.... Which staff and customer hostage gist me tori ....wetin happen?

*goes back to her nkwobi business*

It's on CNN breaking news, abi u don enter naija ni and light no dey lol

Donxavier:
It's on CNN breaking news, abi u don enter naija ni and light no dey lol

No light as usual