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Facts.
1. She ain't a virgin,someone having 3bf's and chatting with one to cum kiss her a virgin? HELL NO!
2. She doesnt love you,lying to you that she loves you and that she's a virgin . . And maybe,though u didnt state it,i know you're her ATM
3. When a niggar falls in love,a new mumu is born so your "i stil love her" is understandable.
4. Move on with,your life you deserve better.

I dey laugh because she has turn it to political scenario, she is the juicy position, while three of you are the politicians, so all of you should keep campaigning pending when she is 23, one of you declared winner and take over her juicy punany. Lozzzzzzzzz

MrTeymee:
Bro all I can say is
She definitely aint a v.irgin......
She z just playing you.. She stil wanna xplore date a lotta guys and stuff she aint ready for comittment. She knw wat u want that's why she z still stringing you along so dat afta her adventures u'll be dere to pick her up........she z just dating u for future purposes security tinz.... Dump her sorry as.s

You just hit the nail on the head. The same thing d@ happened to OP was exactly the same d@ happened to me and I was in 200level then. She also made d@ statement that 'there are certain people she can't leave.' I was shocked to my marrows. I later discovered d@ she wasn't a virgin while she claimed she was raped three times by three different cousins. Story for the gods! OP d@ gurl has marriagezoned you and you better leave her since the good spirits @your back has shown you who she is. Do the needful!

nessaluv:
If d girl luvs u she shld b able 2gve up d 0da guys- dey shld jst b casual pals,

tell her wat u want and wat u can't take,let her set her priorities if she really luvs u she wldnt d0 tinz dat'l brke ur heart....

Thank u dearie, I'll do that.

datguru:
Bro, same thing has happened to me . I didn't talk much, I only asked the girl to choose between dating me ALONE and or move on with her guys. She said okay, she'd continue that I should not worry that she will break up with others that it's a gradual process that I should give her time. I said okay but it didn't end there, I kept on warning her until she finally left them all. I was able to achieve this because I knew I have her heart already and I was ready for anything, if she refused me, I move on ! Mind you, she also made same statement that this are people in her life but I was never comfortable with that because I'm the jealous type.

Tell her pop and play that if she wants you, let her do away with them, if she says it's not possible, move on bro. How are you even sure she is a virgin.

Your miss is out there waiting, don't waste your time on any bit*ch though it hurts but MAN UP

God bless u bro.

chimerase2:
Chai dis issue is really complicated
I knw is difficult to leave her
But start witdrawing like withdrawal method

My bros, e nor easy oo...bt i qo try.

Tymax:
That girl is not a virgin. She be confirm runs chick. It's up to you if you want to date a runs chick.

Bro, I dnt fink she's a runs chick . I'm not tryinq to defend her tho.. She's jst childish.

major466:
It would be better if you will take your mind off relationships and focus on developing your career.

My bro, u 100percent correct, bt its not easy.. I cnt jst remain sinqle.

Yomieluv:
You better hustle how to make money,than allow one small girl dribbling you..

What does a 19 year old girl know about love,that you are killing yourself over her..

Broda.. U ryt. Bt I dntjst knw y I luv her.

1one:
At your age I really don't see why you should be dating a teenager, she's in that phase of her life where she's still looking for her self, she hardly has any strong convictions about anything, so why put up with all that drama.

The way out: End the relationship

Your girlfriend is telling someone on BBM that she loves him, he should come give her a kiss? and you think you're in safe arms?.. Girls like that can kill.

What type of stupid excuse is the statement "There are some people in your life that you can't forget"... Even though it may be true, but when it comes to commitment and loyalty especially on the terms of one's partner, you just have to give those seemingly " indispensable people" space.

Please leave her be and go find someone who would value and feed your emotional peace.

Bro, She told me she. Met doz Girls before.. Lemme not lie, she was d one that woo me.

1one:
At your age I really don't see why you should be dating a teenager, she's in that phase of her life where she's still looking for her self, she hardly has any strong convictions about anything, so why put up with all that drama.

The way out: End the relationship

Your girlfriend is telling someone on BBM that she loves him, he should come give her a kiss? and you think you're in safe arms?.. Girls like that can kill.

What type of stupid excuse is the statement "There are some people in your life that you can't forget"... Even though it may be true, but when it comes to commitment and loyalty especially on the terms of one's partner, you just have to give those seemingly " indispensable people" space.

Please leave her be and go find someone who would value and feed your emotional peace.

Bro, She told me she. Met doz Guys before.. Lemme not lie, she was d one that woo me.

Mcslize:
I must be sincere with u. The babe do not luv u. She is just using u as a side guy so to say. She has already conditioned u and left the Ball in ur court. She is expecting u to either stay if u can put up with her having numerous boyfriends or u dust urself up and move on. Bro there is nothing like I luv this girl so much. Thats the emotional part of u that is responsible for that mindset. U'r feeling like u can't do without her and she is using it against u now. It will hurt u to leave her but trust me once u make up ur mind u will surely move on if u don't wanna be a side guy to her. U will meet a better girl far better than she is and u will look think back and shake ur head with a sweet smile rising from the side of ur lips. This is what I termed an emotional obsession. That moment when u think u can't do without someone. But in reality u can do without that person if not that u are emtionally so attached to that person at present. With time u wil get over with that emotion .Typing from experience.

I fink I'm gonnna get ur contact for relationship advise.. Bt wat du u have to say sir, she was d one daht woo me.

ableD1:
hmmmmm...bro if i were you...i wont think twice before i dump her. am not asking you to do same tho...but uhm...look at this,

she dates 3 guys...who knows if ur d first, plan B, or even C? hmmmmm...you should be wondering is she truly loves you as she claims... to me, i dont think she loves you. the reason is becos she is dating a guy who stays in Abuja and that's quite a distance.... more like 12hrs journey to Lagos and you, your are pretty close to where she stays, yet she cant leave them....i doubt if she has even seen them before...maybe she met them on bbm. hmmm... truth be told....SHE DOESN'T LOVE YOU...sorry man

She's was d one daht approached me.

Hw I love dis song by August Alsina feat Nicki Minaj No Love! Seriously I don't have love 2 give nyone, so don't come looking 4 it. I'll rada hang out with ppl dan give dem my heart till further notice.

Op sorry dear!

Thanks hommies!

DGKN:
She's was d one daht approached me.

wow. I will appreciate it if some experienced mind will shed light on the new twist. This girl was the one that came for my guy,and I think he is still banking on that as a sign that there is hope in waiting.

chiibekee:
Don't just break up with her. Seek her opinion if u really love her. If she insists u stay while she double dates, am scared of the outcome but u can still take the risk. My husband today took the same risk and We are happy together.

What kind of immature crap is this?. No disrespect though, unless your father is DANGOTE this condition is shit. @kenneth205 unless you are disabled, have low self esteem or believe u can't get a better babe in your life should you accept such silly, selfish and nonsensical option.

As a guy oo, my advice is Bleep love, u can always get a better girl out there, never never allow a girl to rubbish u dat way. Get another babe and don't hide it. If ur present gf is comfy with it no wahala continue, but if she is not tell her to Bleep off.

Some bad guys would say make sure u Bleep her.

Break up with her bro..
She is a player.Stop wasting you time..

Yomieluv:
You better hustle how to make money,than allow one small girl dribbling you..

What does a 19 year old girl know about love,that you are killing yourself over her..

u've said it all...
Let her b, she is just 19

Yomieluv:
You better hustle how to make money,than allow one small girl dribbling you..

What does a 19 year old girl know about love,that you are killing yourself over her..

u've said it all...
Let her b, she is just 19
more wil cum whn she is in her 20's
hope u are ready for th@ as well

Words of wisdom I heard once, Never take any girl serious that is below 23.
Let her go..

DGKN:
Thank u ma..

Going through a female fone can increase high blood pressure don't try that again to avoid being admitted in the hospital

DGKN:
Good evening Nairalanders, I'm not too good in writing please just try and understand if maybe I made any mistake.. Thank U. Let me start from the Scratch of the matter....

I'm dating this girl for like 5months now(She's Just 19 and I'm 25.), Things have been going on well with us when we started dating.. We Play, Cuddle, Kiss But we Never Had Sex.. (She claim she's still a virgin and that she won't loose her virginity till she's 23) but that's the Issue on ground now.. I'm Okay without sex for now(Tho I'm not a Virgin, I just need a truthful, Carinq, lovinq,intelligent,respectful and responsible girl and not a Cheater...)

This is how our misunderstanding started.. She came to visit me one faithful day, and She asked me to charge her phone.. I just decided to scroll through her BBM Conversations... Lo and Behold I was seeing, "I love You, I miss u, tho u r far from me but u will always b in my hrt., Come kiss me"

Haa, I shocked when I saw it, but as a gentle dude, I decided to Keep calm.. Tho, I wasn't too happy with her cuz I was disappointed in her..

Later that eveninq... When we were chatinq on bbm, I started bombarding her with questions, later I got her angry, and that's when she opened up to me.. She said

The dude is her Boyfriend, that she have many Boyfriend bla bla (u knw hw ladies talk now) but, This Guys Live Far from her, that they are Lagos, Abuja.

I told her to breakup with them and she said this "Sometimes they are some ppl in your life u jst can't leave"

I jst couldn't utter any word... She said she loves me, that I shouldn't worry about these oda Dudes.. I haven't snd her any msq till this moment.. I feel pained, hurt, nd I'm kinda passinq tru emotional trauma, cuz I really do luv this gurl.. This is the gurl I have plans for.. I can't be datinq her when I know someone else is also datinq her. Somethinq she use dia Dps on bbm.

Please Nlanders, What do I do?? Should I breakup with her ?? Or What ?? Please help me Out!!!!! I'm confused. Please don't Laugh at me

Dude is very simple..you are just the side guy..a backup plan.. Common on you are a man..dump her silly ass and move on...she is just childish..look for a mature girl..u r 25 for crying out loud...

DGKN:
I fink I'm gonnna get ur contact for relationship advise.. Bt wat du u have to say sir, she was d one daht woo me.

Be a man. U are the man and she is the woman. Man dictate what goes on in any relationship even though once a while a man can still allow a woman to have her own say. But right now do not panic too much. Be bold and tell her what u want. Sit her down. Talk to her like a man. Bro I was once in this type of situation in the past. All u need to do is talk to her that u can't share her with any other guy being offline or online. That if she truly loves u then she can do away with all those guys she share emotional love with. That is double dating and it could lead her to cheating on u one day.

How are we even sure if she is truly a virgin? That aside, be a man. Make sure u stay calm when talking to her. Let all ur sayings sink into her mind. She is just 19 and I believe she doesn't even know what she want right now. I can't see my girl dating other guys to my very eyes and still put up with her. It is not done anywhere and no Alpha male will take that from any lady. It all depends on u.

She will see u as a weak person if u allow her to be dating other guys. And that will make her even have more power on u in the relationship.
A relationship where the lady is the one controlling the guy will have negative emotional effect on the guy.

Ask her if she truly loves u as she claimed. Then if she truly does love u she need to let go the rest boyfriends. She can't serve two or more masters at the same time. That is when she will prove to u that she truly does love u by letting the rest boyfriends off her life. If she still insist that she can't let them off her life then I am sorry she will just be gambling with u and ur emotion.

What kind of plans do u have for her to start with.

Brother,

Dz kinda relationship does nt end well. 1 or 2 of u guys will surely get hurt @ last. She'll later stick 2 one of u n dt 1 may nt b u.

Don't even think on it, bt if u wnt 2, write down d positive things n d negative things bout d relationship (past, present n future), believe me, the negative will outweigh d positive.

What of the future, can u trust dz kinda gal with ur future marital plans. Will u b at peace when she travels or u travel?

To me i'll say u should respect urself n break up. if u dnt do it despite she now knows u are aware of her hidden sexlife... u r up 4 more ridicule. A total life of disrespect!

Break up d relationship, it's actually "getting rid of bad rubbish". u might get hurt in d beginning, Depending on hw much u'v invested in d relation, but time heals almost everything... u'll wanna thank me later cos dts wts honourable.

Despite our comments n advices, I know u'll end up doing wts on ur own mind.

Goodluck..... .... ..... .... .....Ebele Jonathan

DGKN:
Bro, She told me she. Met doz Guys before.. Lemme not lie, she was d one that woo me.

bro to be frank with u..... Dat girl isn't it at all. I once had such experience with my ex who I did a whole lot of nice things for and even gave her a life but in d end she threw it all to ma face doing dis same thing ur gf friend is doing. My best advice for u is to end it there cos I must tell u d truth ..." U only read their conversation on BBM.... U dont know other things she must have done with thus guys in person. Obviously she still wants to bitch around. Dont let her toil with ur emotions. Ur a young promising lad and I will advice u focus more on ur life and career. Once u make it out successful.... Trust me girls will come flocking around u and u will be d one who will get to decide who u want. Cheers bro.

Yes!

Lol! Just like mine. I visited her some days ago, she wouldn't want me to go thru her phone but she went through my phones(sms, whatsapp,bbm,gallery), to the extent that in a Whatsapp conversation i have with my elder sister, she typed 'my love' and sent and also sent ' i love you' to a whatsapp conversation btw i and another female friend. Telling me that she knows i have deleted all d messages my oda girlfriends must have sent me. Lol! She wouldn't pick some calls in my front. Later when she was sleeping i saw a conversation she had with her ex abi 2nd guy, i wasn't bothered. Wheni went home and asked her why she was hiding her phones from me, she said i didnt ask. I don already zero my mind that i am single, cos this age it will be hard to find a girl that has just one guy, she may have oda magas with you being the one she calls steady and doesn't disturb much her financial burden

chiibekee:
I really understand u but love is a price we must pay. Sometimes u force ur way to someone's heart and sometimes it works without stress. It does not work same way.

LOL, some people sha.. what is love? can you recognize love when you see it?

1one:
At your age I really don't see why you should be dating a teenager, she's in that phase of her life where she's still looking for her self, she hardly has any strong convictions about anything, so why put up with all that drama.

The way out: End the relationship

Your girlfriend is telling someone on BBM that she loves him, he should come give her a kiss? and you think you're in safe arms?.. Girls like that can kill.

What type of stupid excuse is the statement "There are some people in your life that you can't forget"... Even though it may be true, but when it comes to commitment and loyalty especially on the terms of one's partner, you just have to give those seemingly " indispensable people" space.

Please leave her be and go find someone who would value and feed your emotional peace.

I disagree, 19 years is old enough to know what she wants, if you can vote and be voted for at 18, why can't you know what you want at 19? i know ladies who are between 18 and 22 that are very matured in thought and all that, so remove the "19, teenager and immaturity from your comment". Maturity is not only tied to age.

the girl is just playing with you.at 25 you are still allowing this poo.matured minds won't have this kind of girls play them around.you are seeing everything practically clear and yet you still can't tell her to go have fun while you carry on with your life.the babe is still a child trying to explore.by the time she meets what she wants, yours will be history.blame it on love is blind.