₦airaland Forum

ladymichael:
Was it? My apologies. Am deeply sorry.was just too surprised that at that age and in this era. one is still insisting on a certain tribe to marry.
My fiancee is calabar and am from a totally different tribe yet he has all that I want in a man so it puzzles me when I see people being tribalistic on marriage
Once again,my apologies

Genea:
not everyone is meant to marry,u know

Akell:
Come out straight, this is your story.

dearestaramide:
Mscheeeeeeewww. Very rude tribalistic thing. Get off this topic, jor

ladymichael:
Sweetheart, I happen to be a very emotional person and caring.just cos people ask opinions on behalf of others don't mean they are the ones.

Please learn to have an open mind and do kindly give ur advise if you can.

Mind you, many are learning from this, so if not for me ,do it for the thousands of women that need advise and are confused

Happy holiday love.

lestat:
Small head? i take offence, my head is very big, i was known as the head buy back in the days

you raised some points, while mostly you where just being sentimental..

1. if the guy graduated at 24 and had to stay a while with his parents before getting a job , was that his fault? sadly most girls would avoid him because of this fact not knowing that he would later get a good job.

2. Your point about not every women thinks about marriage is a joke "funny enough how come its only its only unmarried over 35 year old, women , way past their prime, who are saggy,& wrinkled everywhere..who have come to terms with the harsh reality that they wont be married by any regular guy in his senses, seem to be the ones who always say this, Ironic isn't it?

tomzman:
I get your point here but it's shallow. Have you moved closer to ladies? I have quite a number of female friends and I have seen responsible, hardworking and promising young men being turned down by ladies because they don't have a car or they don't earn much or for some other shallow reasons.

I still maintain my submission. A lady shouldn't be too choosy in her younger years or she'll up regretting it.

3cycle:
For where,'m still in my prime, hot and sexy get that?
And I still maintain that not all women are interested in marriage most just prefer being baby mamas.

ladymichael:
I really need advise from especially the men

My colleague is gonna be 35 in a few months and is not married or even have toasters. She has reached a point where she doesn't even think about it.
She says she sometimes asks herself on why she's still single and concludes that maybe she's not supposed to ever marry.

I really feel sorry for her but don't know how to advise her.

Please what could be the issue? Abd how to I advise her?

samflexxy:
toast her now

eckersley:
And u r in this subset I believe

KAYCEEJUNIOR:
insult you? hmmmmm, when next you raise a topic never raise the dust, we all marry based on choice and I believe you have yours, you brought up an issue and I felt we can solve it based on the choice of wife I can easily influence him with, you are here talking about tribalism, since she's your. collegue, you can refer her to your friends then if she worth it. Happy xmas

kenonze:
just 35? hmm, my elder sister is 42, living happily in Abuja. she is a civil servant. during her 20's hmm, she was spoilt with numerous suitors to choose,
I still believe she still feel incomplete.
waiting too long for mr perfect is not always the best.
Rushing into marriage too early also not the best.
I still believe that comes 2015, yr nigerians stand to make a bold step for economic recovery and social justice, things shall fall in place, guys shall be gainfuly employed, marriage will be as common as pure water.

I hope GMB will not fail us,
its as if he is our last hope because this entity called nigeria is on the ledge.

koyyess:
Op, I just like the mentality and composure of your friend. If I were you, I wouldn't pity her but rather admire her. Most ladies like her are either six feet under,breaking other women's homes or crying their eyes Out in their matrimonial homes every night all in the name of 'I must marry in my 20's'. Please ignore all the small boy comments on this thread..ost males on this thread feed from hand to mouth. Some can't afford house rent yet, they think they are experts in matters like this. You can secretely arrange some match making but ensure that the person in question is a responsible guy and not one mad man in a well Ironed suit. Never bring the marriage issue up when you are with her- because at this point, she should focus on making savings/investments for her future and that of her kids(whether biological or adopted). The Saying that women above a certain age have a slimmer chance of finding a partner is a big lie losers tell women. Her own man will come but till then,let her worship God while she lives and love life to the fullest.

enkay4love:
This is one of the best comments I've read so far on this thread.Some comments here can drive the lady in question,to simply stop hoping & adopt the belief that her time is up,like they are God to determine any man's fate.I heard of a woman who married at age 45 & another at age 52,so this is a clear indication that marriage has no age limit.

deloon:
If the 87 in your username implies you were born in 1987, then its a shame...

ladymichael:
I really need advise from especially the men

My colleague is gonna be 35 in a few months and is not married or even have toasters. She has reached a point where she doesn't even think about it.
She says she sometimes asks herself on why she's still single and concludes that maybe she's not supposed to ever marry.

I really feel sorry for her but don't know how to advise her.

Please what could be the issue? Abd how to I advise her?

Debeloved87:
then a moronic ediot like you can believe anything..

ladymichael:
Excuse me? My level of reasoning? You asked me if a lady is IBO so that you can match make and yet u insult me for telling you tribe doesn't matter? My GOD.

Do have a blessed holiday

vivvica:
Tell her to get her self a wedding dress and be prepared because 2015 shes getting married ...,God has answered her prayers

koyyess:
Op, I just like the mentality and composure of your friend. If I were you, I wouldn't pity her but rather admire her. Most ladies like her are either six feet under,breaking other women's homes or crying their eyes Out in their matrimonial homes every night all in the name of 'I must marry in my 20's'. Please ignore all the small boy comments on this thread..ost males on this thread feed from hand to mouth. Some can't afford house rent yet, they think they are experts in matters like this. You can secretely arrange some match making but ensure that the person in question is a responsible guy and not one mad man in a well Ironed suit. Never bring the marriage issue up when you are with her- because at this point, she should focus on making savings/investments for her future and that of her kids(whether biological or adopted). The Saying that women above a certain age have a slimmer chance of finding a partner is a big lie losers tell women. Her own man will come but till then,let her worship God while she lives and love life to the fullest.

lestat:
Another lie, this all sounds like self consolation to me. We both know you are bull shitting no one here.

What you said sounds just like me saying I would rather have a watch a football match at home than live at the stadium if given a choice between the two..that is total horse shitt.

A marriage isn't just about having kids, it's the companionship, the journey, the self discovery. The having someone beside you to share your joy, laughter, tears, or even farts with. It's not just about having kids, so how can you open your mouth and say any lady would prefer to be alone and have kids rather than have a husband beside her? Like I said earlier it's only over aged unmarried spinsters who have no more hope that say this.

Listen it's more fun to spend a million dollars with a wife and family than to spend a billion dollars alone.

Trust me I know what I am saying. Don't worry there's still hope for you okay? Nobody deserves to be alone, we should all find that special person that makes this life shine with true love

F22RAPTOR:
if she is pretty and has a good character, then her case is a spiritual case. She should pray harder.

deloon:
Dude I thought you love Jesus...