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I have been in this relationship for a year now. The journey of my relationship with this lady who's a student of a certain University in Nigeria started with high hopes that in some few years this would be the girl I take to the altar.

I'm a graduate though still unemployed but my commitment and love to the relationship I've with her is not in doubt for a second. She joined one of these pentecostal churches on school campus, when she told me about it. I told her blatantly that she should find another church to join because my mind doesnt agree to the church she was going.

Just some few days ago I got a message from someone who said that one of her Pastors in the church she was going had a carnal knowledge of her. I called her on phone immediately and asked her if it were true she relunctantly affirmed what I heard to be true. I was disappointed because that was the least I expected of her given the plans between us for the relationship. She actually told me that it wasnt her intention that it happened but the Pastor took an advantage of her when she went to his place to attend to some church stuff and she was too afraid to tell me because I might leave her because of that. This happened in Sept according to her but I got to know about it last year Dec. She has been pleading for forgiveness but honestly my heart forgives her but to continue with her scares me a lot cos I'm mindful of what the future holds cos this may repeat itself.

Fellow Nairalanders. If you were in my shoes would you still continue in that relationship?

I will not continue with her. Cos you will still know at the back of your mind that she can sleep with other men.
Why did she even tell you? If she was repentant, she should have just kept it to herself and moved on. Cos no mater how much you forgive her, you may never trust her again.

evribody deserves a second chance

Last year December indeed lol

Forgive and move on

Oluwatosean:
evribody deserves a second chance

Best advce of 2015

It depends

To answer your question, I will never continue with the relationship knowing that the girl is a cheat. Any girl who had the guts to cheat once can cheat over and over again.

However, in this case, the decision is yours to make.

Discovered wen a man cheat he can b easily forgiven by d lady afta much pleadin bt if its a woman nah red card ooh.

Chizzy20:
Discovered wen a man cheat he can b easily forgiven by d lady afta much pleadin bt if its a woman nah red card ooh.

na so..

mosefin19:
na so..

Bt y is it lyk dat, i dont support d lady cheatin cant d guy find it in his hrt to forgiv nd forget.

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This is quite funny you know.
First of all what was she doing in a pastor's house ALONE? Secondly since september she no gree tell you BTW i thought pastors have offices in the church any church stuffs should be settled there!
Ask her what the relationship has been since then between the pastor n herself.
My advice would be based on your response

Austeenkole:
Hello, I am in a mess that lives adjacent to your story. I will suggest u let her go now based on what forgiving my ex cost me. I will share my terrible experience soon. Forgive now and be sure to forgive a thousand times. I was fooled with the second Chance scam. When it comes to cheating, never give a second Chance unless u are certain u didn't put in ur best in the relationship.

I dey wait

If she was the one who confessed then I would have said forgive her.
To even think that she can have liver to do it with a supposedly man of God seem so blatantly evil to me.
At the end of the day sha the buck falls on your table. Goodluck.

At least you're not going to have to worry about her Virginia being developed

Dude you're single and here is a woman that wants to be with you

If you love her why do you care what we think or what we would do

That you have to ask means you may not love her maybe just attracted

So it's a win win situation...

If you hit it and stick around and discover she's wife material
That's what you call icing on the cake.

Was she raped?

If she was then there is nothing to forgive with respect to the allegation of cheating.

If indeed she was raped, I would be more concerned about her decision to tell others but not me.

It's a pointer to the fact that we are doing something wrong as regards being open to each other.

scribble:
At least you're not going to have to worry about her Virginia being developed

Dude you're single and here is a woman that wants to be with you

If you love her why do you care what we think or what we would do

That you have to ask means you may not love her maybe just attracted

So it's a win win situation...

If you hit it and stick around and discover she's wife material
That's what you call icing on the cake.

Happy New year scribble

Adufetohposh:
Happy New year scribble

Happy New year ma

I see u have acquired a new wonder on wheels


Us hustle is blessed

scribble:
Happy New year ma

I see u have acquired a new wonder on wheels


Us hustle is blessed

AMEN and urs too.

I'd forgive but discontinue. Trust is one currency which is hard to earn when spent carelessly. E go hard to trust the babe.

Oluwatosean:
evribody deserves a second chance

Nt in al situation

Cheating is a natural instinct in humans and even animals. The bitter truth here is that your babe is cheap and that's a big problem. A lady that went to a pastor for church issues ended up removing her pant for him is too big a risk to take as a wife. Forgive her now and be ready to keep forgiving her until you end up raising kids of different fathers in your home

Give a second chance Bro,u can change her life with than and she might get to love u for d rest of her life.

My take on cheating is simple. A woman who cheats on you can kill easily you. It takes the same mindset to do both. A cheater, a liar and a thief are big NO's.

dats a lie its not her first time,she has been on it for long she just cooked up d lie;beta let go

bro its nt easy oo...bt I will advise u 2 suspend all plans concerning marriage..just start behaving as if u dnt care.. and see hw it goes...Cus d next babe fit still dey die for her ex...dts ma advise