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Hi everyone,

Been dating this girl for over a year now. Found out she was older with 5 years. Apart from that, she confessed to me that she's has done D and C twice in her life. I really love her but i cant stop thinking about what she confessed to me. Please advise?!

The difference is apparently much but if there's true love from you to her and from her to you,you've got no problem.

It's a very tough decision to make but put it in prayers first

You have 2 things bothering you: her age & her past. It reminded me of the bible characters:
Rahab (the prostitute) and Salmon (one of the Israelite spy she hid).

1) Further study shows that Rahab was much older than Salmon, yet he married her after the walls of Jericho fell.

2) Being a prostitute, you can imagine the things she had done, yet Salmon saw a wonderful wife in her, LOVED and married her. Despite her rough background, she's honored to be in the genealogy of Jesus.

My point here is, let love and genuine intentions lead you, her circumstances aren't the worse, and as you can see from this example: the best can come out from any changed person.

+ I have a relation who is 7years older than her hubby, and they really have a good marriage.

(Be sure she has changed and prayerfully make this decision. You can make out the best from her).


PS: Genealogy of Jesus - Matthew 1:5-6

Rahab and Salmon had a son, Boaz;
Boaz was the father of Obed;
Obed, the father of Jesse;
Jesse, the father of king David.
And from the line of King David of the tribe of Judah came the promised messiah - Jesus Christ.

what's d and c?

I will advice you both separate now!!!

You can't predict the future!!

If your heart does not support the age difference, I will say you both go your separate ways now for future purposes!!

feran14:
what's d and c?

Abortion

if you love eachoda y not? well...i think ur scared u myt not av kids cos of d D&C's she did#just my thought o

5 years is too long a margin in a relationship.

You are concerned about abortion and not the age gap.
My own standards may not be the same with yours.
You know your own standards and what you can tolerate.

Kazrem:
5 years is too long a margin in a relationship.

too long my brother..shuoo
D fact she had done d and c twice wont av mattered much if love was present.. But if na me,i wont feel so settled with such a confession

If you and her understand each other. If you both respect each other then carry go.
My only worry is the D&C part. I feel that if you guys have problem concieving, you may blane her and start hatting her because to you, no matter what the doctor says, you will believe the D&C she did is responsible for the problem. That may break you people up.
But if you are ready to weather the storm with her should it should arise, then go ahead.

you are right tho

mirexxx:
if you love eachoda y not? well...i think ur scared u myt not av kids cos of d D&C's she did#just my thought o

thanks. wish she didnt tell about that part.

delishpot:
If you and her understand each other. If you both respect each other then carry go.
My only worry is the D&C part. I feel that if you guys have problem concieving, you may blane her and start hatting her because to you, no matter what the doctor says, you will believe the D&C she did is responsible for the problem. That may break you people up.
But if you are ready to weather the storm with her should it should arise, then go ahead.

PeterC1:
you are right tho

thanks dear

PeterC1:
thanks. wish she didnt tell about that part.

She was smart to tell. She did the right thing so you know what you are getting into. She should be respected for that. not want tomorrow now when you find out, you will say she lied to you and made you marry her by deception.
I guess she will learn to keep it to herself if you leave her based on that D&C talk.
Its your choice sha, all man has what he can and cannot stand.

D&C does not mean a woman cant have babies again. Yes it may cause such a problem, but anything can cause it too.
Even a virgin can have problem conceiving. Any which way sha, hope you make the right decision

yes but she gives me all the respect i deserve and doesnt make me feel the age difference

Kazrem:
5 years is too long a margin in a relationship.

Bros u d date your grandma be that o

thanks jamean

Jamean:
You have 2 things bothering you: her age & her past. It reminded me of the bible characters:
Rahab (the prostitute) and Salmon (one of the Israelite spy she hid).

1) Further study shows that Rahab was much older than Salmon, yet he married her after the walls of Jericho fell.

2) Being a prostitute, you can imagine the things she had done, yet Salmon saw a wonderful wife in her, LOVED and married her. Despite her rough background, she's honored to be in the genealogy of Jesus.

My point here is, let love and genuine intentions lead you, her circumstances aren't the worse, and as you can see from this example: the best can come out from any changed person.

+ I have a relation who is 7years older than her hubby, and they really have a good marriage.

(Be sure she has changed and prayerfully make this decision. You can make out the best from her).


PS: Genealogy of Jesus - Matthew 1:5-6

Rahab and Salmon had a son, Boaz;
Boaz was the father of Obed;
Obed, the father of Jesse;
Jesse, the father of king David.
And from the line of King David of the tribe of Judah came the promised messiah - Jesus Christ.

Jamean:
You have 2 things bothering you: her age & her past. It reminded me of the bible characters:
Rahab (the prostitute) and Salmon (one of the Israelite spy she hid).

1) Further study shows that Rahab was much older than Salmon, yet he married her after the walls of Jericho fell.

2) Being a prostitute, you can imagine the things she had done, yet Salmon saw a wonderful wife in her, LOVED and married her. Despite her rough background, she's honored to be in the genealogy of Jesus.

My point here is, let love and genuine intentions lead you, her circumstances aren't the worse, and as you can see from this example: the best can come out from any changed person.

+ I have a relation who is 7years older than her hubby, and they really have a good marriage.

(Be sure she has changed and prayerfully make this decision. You can make out the best from her).


PS: Genealogy of Jesus - Matthew 1:5-6

Rahab and Salmon had a son, Boaz;
Boaz was the father of Obed;
Obed, the father of Jesse;
Jesse, the father of king David.
And from the line of King David of the tribe of Judah came the promised messiah - Jesus Christ.

Hmmm!!
Even runs babe dem don get scriptural back ups!!
Is wa oo!!

how.nau?

harrysterol:
Bros u d date your grandma be that o

Gracias

Dahjhi:
Jamean said it all.. Nice1 woman...

Jamean:
You have 2 things bothering you: her age & her past. It reminded me of the bible characters:
Rahab (the prostitute) and Salmon (one of the Israelite spy she hid).

1) Further study shows that Rahab was much older than Salmon, yet he married her after the walls of Jericho fell.

2) Being a prostitute, you can imagine the things she had done, yet Salmon saw a wonderful wife in her, LOVED and married her. Despite her rough background, she's honored to be in the genealogy of Jesus.

My point here is, let love and genuine intentions lead you, her circumstances aren't the worse, and as you can see from this example: the best can come out from any changed person.

+ I have a relation who is 7years older than her hubby, and they really have a good marriage.

(Be sure she has changed and prayerfully make this decision. You can make out the best from her).


PS: Genealogy of Jesus - Matthew 1:5-6

Rahab and Salmon had a son, Boaz;
Boaz was the father of Obed;
Obed, the father of Jesse;
Jesse, the father of king David.
And from the line of King David of the tribe of Judah came the promised messiah - Jesus Christ.

some babe preaching fit make u do confessions of sin u wan commit in next 3months time sef

PeterC1:
how.nau?

e b like say u d wait for prophet Joshua to come tell u to run b4 u run

even if she be good person with kind heart

harrysterol:
e b like say u d wait for prophet Joshua to come tell u to run b4 u run

PeterC1:
even if she be good person with kind heart

since u been don mke up ur mind wetin u wnt mke we tell u now

PeterC1:
Hi everyone,

Been dating this girl for over a year now. Found out she was older with 5 years. Apart from that, she confessed to me that she's has done D and C twice in her life. I really love her but i cant stop thinking about what she confessed to me. Please advise?!

omo na one chance u dey date oooo

PeterC1:
yes but she gives me all the respect i deserve and doesnt make me feel the age difference

Bro, that is courtship not marriage. I can bet with you that she will put up a new dress when you become married. That's all.

If u truly luv her..den d age diff shudnt be a problem....u cn tak inspiration 4rm 'lola nd peter'..dia union........ abt the d n c or na c n d..gat no idea wat d hell dat mean