₦airaland Forum

Rosarie:
first year of marriage has a lot of challenges but dose her words re deep cos as a wife na she suppose dey pray for y n again she hails from a stipud home but in all i blame u cos GOD will nvs ever lead u on a rong path.GOD DDID NOT GIVE A GO AHEAD N AM SURE U HAD PRE MARITAL SEX HE HATES SIN N WILL ALLOW U MAKE UR DESICIONS.MARRIAGE IS SUPPOSE TO B A BLISS

who is this? Does sex after marriage determine a blissful home? If you don't have a responsible comment to make STFU.

WombRaiders:
Shatap there.

Yoruba women are highly adultreous.

Yoruba women lead in divorcee rates.


Yoruba women are most likely to have children from multiple men.

Yoruba women are most likely to have children out of wedlock

Yoruba women are more concerned about fashion than the home because they see nothing attracting other men.


FACT!

Who release this one?

elantraceey:



I'm against divorce but in this case that's the only way out for you , A married woman wearing butt pad against her husbands' wish , who is she trying to impress?


But op be honest , you saw some of these signs before you married her right?

Thank you... That's why that guy whose gf asked him to give her cash for the sex should leave her... People shouldn't bear somethings in the name of relationship

rebella:
@Op , you and wife deserve each other.
Your wife has a crazy caustic mouth on her and you instead of being the voice of reason to a seemingly mad woman decided to join her in her craziness.
She wants to wear a buttpad on her body, not yours not your baby, but hers... Ok fine you aren't comfortable with it, what happened to reasoning with her. Even if she refused , remember she's an individual first with her own likes and dislikes before she is your wifen she isn't property your bought off a supermarket shelf.
Then you wnet further to exchange blows with your wife just to remove the buttpad. Its not like the buttpad has some crazy harmful effect on either of you. Its just your personal preference you anre forcing on her.
Much ado about nothing

a butt pad on a pregnant woman... Common now!!!! What are you talking about. If my wife nags at me wearing two huge earrings and 6 gigantic neck chains with pants sagging close to my knees at age 45, will you call her unreasonable. Be sensible now.

Let her go b4 she kills u, she's not worth it. I'm so shocked by her attitude.

superior1:
You know the Op outside NL?

my guy. Such issues happened to guy that doesn't see beyond a woman's physical looks.

elantraceey:



I'm against divorce but in this case that's the only way out for you , A married woman wearing butt pad against her husbands' wish , who is she trying to impress?


But op be honest , you saw some of these signs before you married her right?

You spoke my mind.these signs are always dia,but many will always want to manage.

Mehn, wit all dis its obvious dat woman cn evn kill u. So I sugest u let her b so u cn go source 4 a livin urslf. Bt dnt file a divorce yt. Sori broo

what God has joined together let no man,church,behaviour,insults; put assunder

BABANGBALI:
will you shut the fok up and grow up,all the married women from your place are saints.My friend ja danu jo.

All the celebrity baby mamas are Yoruba.

2face had 5 baby mamas with 4 of them being Yoruba but he chose the Calabar one to settle for.

Every evidence points to Yoruba women being wh0res and you and I know that OP's wh0ring wife is yoruba.


Breed they say is greater than pasture.

And people were ready to skin killjoy for giving his reasons why he doesn't want to get married. I'm sure he's laughing somewhere reading this topic.

Hmmmmm, issues like this make men wanna keep staying single and enjoy life till they turn 50. Who wants to be into this sort of bondage in the name of marriage? Highest is find a way and get children and take care of them. That's all. Mtcheeeeew to marriage.

Research has shown that 96.3% of Nigerian women marry for other reasons save love. Top on the list of 'other reasons' is MONEY.

Rep042:
My marriage is just 1 year and few days old,but within the last 365 days,I have seen torment and hell on daily basis. We dated for 2 years before tying the knot,she's a nice person,but her mouth is destructive,she has this overbearing attitude,always trying to control me or dictate the pace,and can keep malice,anger and record of evil done to her for a long time. She's the type of person that talks very well,I mean convincely well,but unfortunately,she speaks more negative words. She can talk for hours non-stop,especially when provoked,saying all sorts of bad words.

She has threatened to kill me & send assassins after me on different occasions in the past,though I just ignored such threats.

My wife has been abusing me verbally and always say nasty things at every slightest provocation and at the same ready to engage me in fisticuffs.

She can really say unprintable words such as "it will not be well with you","as you go out,people will deal with you", "you will work like an elephant and eat like an ant", "this your certificate will never yield you any good thing", etc, name callings,abuses,curses etc.

Please Nairalanders, I will like to know if it is wrong or out of place for a working class married lady to assist her husband in paying some bills or buying some foodstuffs at home. Because,anytime she assists in doing anything,she will record it and consequently use that to abuse and insult me whenever we have misunderstanding and or exchange of words.

After our traditional marriage on December 2013,I had some financial challenges,and then my rent was due for renewable,she offered to assist,at first I was skeptical about it ,because I know her kind of person,knowing full well that she will use that to ridicule and abuse me in no distant time. But,then,I didn't have any alternative,so I allowed her pay d rent. Now,she's claiming ownership,saying ..."which house,the one that I have been paying the rent or another one"...

She has done a lot of character assassination & damages to my personality before some of her relatives & family members(Her father and two sisters),thus they all support her & no longer regard me as anybody.

Few months into our marriage,she started wearing butt pads, I told her to stop ,because I don't like the stuff,but she flared up and we had exchange of words. She told me that she has to look good to outsiders.

Throughout her pregnancy period,she wore the butt pads on daily basis even at home,I allowed her because of her condition,even though it looked disgusting on her. After she put to bed,and few days later, I told her to quit wearing that stuff, but she refused,then I seized it,she started ranting to the hearing of everyone at home & neighbors that I have taken her padded pants(aka butt pad) to native doctor. I just ignored her. Few days later, she bought another set.

On Xmas day(2014),she dressed up & wore the butt pads again,I told her to remove it ,but she refused,then i tried forcing her to do so,and that resulted to a serious fight. She tore my already ironed clothes to pieces(an expensive Indian attire I bought when I travelled to India),I tore hers too and forced the butt pads out from her body.

Hell was let loose that day,because she called her sisters,they came to my house and created a very nasty scene in my neighborhood,they insulted,ridiculed me and made a mockery of me,her elder sister who is a police officer threatened to deal with me,she was talking and hitting her hands on the ground saying that,they are going to teach me some bitter lessons in this town. I tried to respond but my Mum,who's on child's visit(Omugwo) asked me to hold my peace. It wasn't easy though,they also insulted her too.

Since that day till date,my wife doesn't talk to me. The only thing that connects us now is the new born baby.

Her words have actually killed me psychologically, emotionally etc, to the extent that sometimes, I loose consciousness of my surrounding while driving to and fro from work , I will be lost in thought, and on a particular occasion nearly rammed another moving vehicle,if not for the speed bumps on the road that awaken my consciousness.


Her words:"if you are still regarding me as your wife,then you wasting your time". Its obvious she wants a divorce because to her,she's still very young(28 years),and can easily move on. She doesn't give a damn.

She has also repeated that same threat of killing me,these days ,the number of calls entering her phone is amazing,most times,she goes far from the house to answer those calls.

Please,kindly advice me.
Thank you.

Op see de kine person wey you marry, tell me how you won take win now...smh

You want my advice? Here it is... She doesn't want a divorce otherwise she'd have packed her things and left your (her?) house. She wants your head! She wants you dead. Believe it or not, only few ladies and I mean very few, value men who got no money at any instant. She already has another RICH MAN in her life. All she's waiting for is for the baby to grow a lil and then... boom! What you should do? In case you are still wondering: Just get the hell outta her house! She doesn't want you loitering around her. Pick up the pieces of your life and move on. The baby will survive. Just focus on God as you make the very difficult but all imperative decision.

Good! the sooner she does it the better

idu1:
my guy. Such issues happened to guy that doesn't see beyond a woman's physical looks.

Ok

Someone says in plain terms that she doesn't want to marry again. With full support of her family. And you are asking us questions.
Abeg, who is she wearing but pad for bikonu.
nothing wey person no go see for nairaland. Abeg this na new year oh

Like cococandy said, whatever you do, do not sleep in thesame room with a spouse that has the gall to threaten to kill you. Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks! Seek couselling but for your life's sake be safe by living apart till you resolve issues. The support system( which sometimes isnt really supportive) seems to have failed here since her family isnt helping.

You both have to be alive 1st for there to be marriage! when things turns this ugly with violence, I recommend separation. Yes till death do you part does not mean either of you have to kill the other

Rep042:
My marriage is just 1 year and few days old,but within the last 365 days,I have seen torment and hell on daily basis. We dated for 2 years before tying the knot,she's a nice person,but her mouth is destructive,she has this overbearing attitude,always trying to control me or dictate the pace,and can keep malice,anger and record of evil done to her for a long time. She's the type of person that talks very well,I mean convincely well,but unfortunately,she speaks more negative words. She can talk for hours non-stop,especially when provoked,saying all sorts of bad words.

She has threatened to kill me & send assassins after me on different occasions in the past,though I just ignored such threats.

My wife has been abusing me verbally and always say nasty things at every slightest provocation and at the same ready to engage me in fisticuffs.

She can really say unprintable words such as "it will not be well with you","as you go out,people will deal with you", "you will work like an elephant and eat like an ant", "this your certificate will never yield you any good thing", etc, name callings,abuses,curses etc.

Please Nairalanders, I will like to know if it is wrong or out of place for a working class married lady to assist her husband in paying some bills or buying some foodstuffs at home. Because,anytime she assists in doing anything,she will record it and consequently use that to abuse and insult me whenever we have misunderstanding and or exchange of words.

After our traditional marriage on December 2013,I had some financial challenges,and then my rent was due for renewable,she offered to assist,at first I was skeptical about it ,because I know her kind of person,knowing full well that she will use that to ridicule and abuse me in no distant time. But,then,I didn't have any alternative,so I allowed her pay d rent. Now,she's claiming ownership,saying ..."which house,the one that I have been paying the rent or another one"...

She has done a lot of character assassination & damages to my personality before some of her relatives & family members(Her father and two sisters),thus they all support her & no longer regard me as anybody.

Few months into our marriage,she started wearing butt pads, I told her to stop ,because I don't like the stuff,but she flared up and we had exchange of words. She told me that she has to look good to outsiders.

Throughout her pregnancy period,she wore the butt pads on daily basis even at home,I allowed her because of her condition,even though it looked disgusting on her. After she put to bed,and few days later, I told her to quit wearing that stuff, but she refused,then I seized it,she started ranting to the hearing of everyone at home & neighbors that I have taken her padded pants(aka butt pad) to native doctor. I just ignored her. Few days later, she bought another set.

On Xmas day(2014),she dressed up & wore the butt pads again,I told her to remove it ,but she refused,then i tried forcing her to do so,and that resulted to a serious fight. She tore my already ironed clothes to pieces(an expensive Indian attire I bought when I travelled to India),I tore hers too and forced the butt pads out from her body.

Hell was let loose that day,because she called her sisters,they came to my house and created a very nasty scene in my neighborhood,they insulted,ridiculed me and made a mockery of me,her elder sister who is a police officer threatened to deal with me,she was talking and hitting her hands on the ground saying that,they are going to teach me some bitter lessons in this town. I tried to respond but my Mum,who's on child's visit(Omugwo) asked me to hold my peace. It wasn't easy though,they also insulted her too.

Since that day till date,my wife doesn't talk to me. The only thing that connects us now is the new born baby.

Her words have actually killed me psychologically, emotionally etc, to the extent that sometimes, I loose consciousness of my surrounding while driving to and fro from work , I will be lost in thought, and on a particular occasion nearly rammed another moving vehicle,if not for the speed bumps on the road that awaken my consciousness.


Her words:"if you are still regarding me as your wife,then you wasting your time". Its obvious she wants a divorce because to her,she's still very young(28 years),and can easily move on. She doesn't give a damn.

She has also repeated that same threat of killing me,these days ,the number of calls entering her phone is amazing,most times,she goes far from the house to answer those calls.

Please,kindly advice me.
Thank you.

Honestly I am lost for words to tell you.


You date for 2 years and all of these attitude u didnot discover? Seriously ?

If you arte a christain which I presume if she is beyond your pastors then or relatives to call her to order and u can't endure her torments or death threats then do what is best for you your sanity and your child.

Separate from her and start all over. You have only one life to live and life is too short to live in misery

OP women often get activated by something!
Hope you were not the cause of her looking outside?

Hope you didn't cheat on her and she caught wind of it?

Anyway look your pikin well well, just to be sure say na you born am.

miredia:
a butt pad on a pregnant woman... Common now!!!! What are you talking about. If my wife nags at me wearing two huge earrings and 6 gigantic neck chains with pants sagging close to my knees at age 45, will you call her unreasonable. Be sensible now.

but would she go as far as having a physical fight with you, just to get the chains off ?

ogaprime:
Op see de kine person wey you marry, tell me how you won take win now...smh

Is that not Syndel? She no reach jare...

Nigga44:
I'm almost 30 and I swear, i'm beginning to dread marriage . This kinda of stuff is almost what my cousin is going through

That is why you see a lot of single above 30 men and ladies clocking 30 without spouses.

Bad behaviours and attitudes by one spouse.

Rep042:
My marriage is just 1 year and few days old,but within the last 365 days,I have seen torment and hell on daily basis. We dated for 2 years before tying the knot,she's a nice person,but her mouth is destructive,she has this overbearing attitude,always trying to control me or dictate the pace,and can keep malice,anger and record of evil done to her for a long time. She's the type of person that talks very well,I mean convincely well,but unfortunately,she speaks more negative words. She can talk for hours non-stop,especially when provoked,saying all sorts of bad words.

She has threatened to kill me & send assassins after me on different occasions in the past,though I just ignored such threats.

My wife has been abusing me verbally and always say nasty things at every slightest provocation and at the same ready to engage me in fisticuffs.

She can really say unprintable words such as "it will not be well with you","as you go out,people will deal with you", "you will work like an elephant and eat like an ant", "this your certificate will never yield you any good thing", etc, name callings,abuses,curses etc.

Please Nairalanders, I will like to know if it is wrong or out of place for a working class married lady to assist her husband in paying some bills or buying some foodstuffs at home. Because,anytime she assists in doing anything,she will record it and consequently use that to abuse and insult me whenever we have misunderstanding and or exchange of words.

After our traditional marriage on December 2013,I had some financial challenges,and then my rent was due for renewable,she offered to assist,at first I was skeptical about it ,because I know her kind of person,knowing full well that she will use that to ridicule and abuse me in no distant time. But,then,I didn't have any alternative,so I allowed her pay d rent. Now,she's claiming ownership,saying ..."which house,the one that I have been paying the rent or another one"...

She has done a lot of character assassination & damages to my personality before some of her relatives & family members(Her father and two sisters),thus they all support her & no longer regard me as anybody.

Few months into our marriage,she started wearing butt pads, I told her to stop ,because I don't like the stuff,but she flared up and we had exchange of words. She told me that she has to look good to outsiders.

Throughout her pregnancy period,she wore the butt pads on daily basis even at home,I allowed her because of her condition,even though it looked disgusting on her. After she put to bed,and few days later, I told her to quit wearing that stuff, but she refused,then I seized it,she started ranting to the hearing of everyone at home & neighbors that I have taken her padded pants(aka butt pad) to native doctor. I just ignored her. Few days later, she bought another set.

On Xmas day(2014),she dressed up & wore the butt pads again,I told her to remove it ,but she refused,then i tried forcing her to do so,and that resulted to a serious fight. She tore my already ironed clothes to pieces(an expensive Indian attire I bought when I travelled to India),I tore hers too and forced the butt pads out from her body.

Hell was let loose that day,because she called her sisters,they came to my house and created a very nasty scene in my neighborhood,they insulted,ridiculed me and made a mockery of me,her elder sister who is a police officer threatened to deal with me,she was talking and hitting her hands on the ground saying that,they are going to teach me some bitter lessons in this town. I tried to respond but my Mum,who's on child's visit(Omugwo) asked me to hold my peace. It wasn't easy though,they also insulted her too.

Since that day till date,my wife doesn't talk to me. The only thing that connects us now is the new born baby.

Her words have actually killed me psychologically, emotionally etc, to the extent that sometimes, I loose consciousness of my surrounding while driving to and fro from work , I will be lost in thought, and on a particular occasion nearly rammed another moving vehicle,if not for the speed bumps on the road that awaken my consciousness.


Her words:"if you are still regarding me as your wife,then you wasting your time". Its obvious she wants a divorce because to her,she's still very young(28 years),and can easily move on. She doesn't give a damn.

She has also repeated that same threat of killing me,these days ,the number of calls entering her phone is amazing,most times,she goes far from the house to answer those calls.

Please,kindly advice me.
Thank you.

This is the mistake pple make. You saw all these traits in the two years you dated her, you thought you could change her when you marry her? You saw the traits and married her, you may have to live with the rest of your life. Report the matter to her parents formally and then ask her to go to her parents to allow you recover from the trauma she and her siblings caused you. If she refuses then ask her parents to pls ask her to come home first before any peace move. Until this is done, don't listen to whatever they have to say.
Also report the matter to the police quoting the sister who is a police officer, consult your lawyer and your pastor.
Regards.

Hmmnnn..dis is brutal! Now I know wot dey say abt girls who wear butt pad..who is she still tryin to seduce? See d example Kim K is setting! @Op u sound like a gentleman too,Pls u have to drop ur gentlemanliness and confront dis issue headon! If u dont want to divorce her den u have to be THE MAN in dat rltnshp! Am a woman but I condemn dis in strongest terms! Wah Dah H*#ll!! Also,it seems u don't have pple too cos if u do, she'll at least be afraid o someone in ur family.

Rep042:
My marriage is just 1 year and few days old,but within the last 365 days,I have seen torment and hell on daily basis. We dated for 2 years before tying the knot,she's a nice person,but her mouth is destructive,she has this overbearing attitude,always trying to control me or dictate the pace,and can keep malice,anger and record of evil done to her for a long time. She's the type of person that talks very well,I mean convincely well,but unfortunately,she speaks more negative words. She can talk for hours non-stop,especially when provoked,saying all sorts of bad words.

She has threatened to kill me & send assassins after me on different occasions in the past,though I just ignored such threats.

My wife has been abusing me verbally and always say nasty things at every slightest provocation and at the same ready to engage me in fisticuffs.

She can really say unprintable words such as "it will not be well with you","as you go out,people will deal with you", "you will work like an elephant and eat like an ant", "this your certificate will never yield you any good thing", etc, name callings,abuses,curses etc.

Please Nairalanders, I will like to know if it is wrong or out of place for a working class married lady to assist her husband in paying some bills or buying some foodstuffs at home. Because,anytime she assists in doing anything,she will record it and consequently use that to abuse and insult me whenever we have misunderstanding and or exchange of words.

After our traditional marriage on December 2013,I had some financial challenges,and then my rent was due for renewable,she offered to assist,at first I was skeptical about it ,because I know her kind of person,knowing full well that she will use that to ridicule and abuse me in no distant time. But,then,I didn't have any alternative,so I allowed her pay d rent. Now,she's claiming ownership,saying ..."which house,the one that I have been paying the rent or another one"...

She has done a lot of character assassination & damages to my personality before some of her relatives & family members(Her father and two sisters),thus they all support her & no longer regard me as anybody.

Few months into our marriage,she started wearing butt pads, I told her to stop ,because I don't like the stuff,but she flared up and we had exchange of words. She told me that she has to look good to outsiders.

Throughout her pregnancy period,she wore the butt pads on daily basis even at home,I allowed her because of her condition,even though it looked disgusting on her. After she put to bed,and few days later, I told her to quit wearing that stuff, but she refused,then I seized it,she started ranting to the hearing of everyone at home & neighbors that I have taken her padded pants(aka butt pad) to native doctor. I just ignored her. Few days later, she bought another set.

On Xmas day(2014),she dressed up & wore the butt pads again,I told her to remove it ,but she refused,then i tried forcing her to do so,and that resulted to a serious fight. She tore my already ironed clothes to pieces(an expensive Indian attire I bought when I travelled to India),I tore hers too and forced the butt pads out from her body.

Hell was let loose that day,because she called her sisters,they came to my house and created a very nasty scene in my neighborhood,they insulted,ridiculed me and made a mockery of me,her elder sister who is a police officer threatened to deal with me,she was talking and hitting her hands on the ground saying that,they are going to teach me some bitter lessons in this town. I tried to respond but my Mum,who's on child's visit(Omugwo) asked me to hold my peace. It wasn't easy though,they also insulted her too.

Since that day till date,my wife doesn't talk to me. The only thing that connects us now is the new born baby.

Her words have actually killed me psychologically, emotionally etc, to the extent that sometimes, I loose consciousness of my surrounding while driving to and fro from work , I will be lost in thought, and on a particular occasion nearly rammed another moving vehicle,if not for the speed bumps on the road that awaken my consciousness.


Her words:"if you are still regarding me as your wife,then you wasting your time". Its obvious she wants a divorce because to her,she's still very young(28 years),and can easily move on. She doesn't give a damn.

She has also repeated that same threat of killing me,these days ,the number of calls entering her phone is amazing,most times,she goes far from the house to answer those calls.

Please,kindly advice me.
Thank you.

Dear OP, your wife is INSANE!!! Pack your load and leave her and that child alone for your sanity. Leave her and her child. abeg o!

Rep042:
My marriage is just 1 year and few days old,but within the last 365 days,I have seen torment and hell on daily basis. We dated for 2 years before tying the knot,she's a nice person,but her mouth is destructive,she has this overbearing attitude,always trying to control me or dictate the pace,and can keep malice,anger and record of evil done to her for a long time. She's the type of person that talks very well,I mean convincely well,but unfortunately,she speaks more negative words. She can talk for hours non-stop,especially when provoked,saying all sorts of bad words.

She has threatened to kill me & send assassins after me on different occasions in the past,though I just ignored such threats.

My wife has been abusing me verbally and always say nasty things at every slightest provocation and at the same ready to engage me in fisticuffs.

She can really say unprintable words such as "it will not be well with you","as you go out,people will deal with you", "you will work like an elephant and eat like an ant", "this your certificate will never yield you any good thing", etc, name callings,abuses,curses etc.

Please Nairalanders, I will like to know if it is wrong or out of place for a working class married lady to assist her husband in paying some bills or buying some foodstuffs at home. Because,anytime she assists in doing anything,she will record it and consequently use that to abuse and insult me whenever we have misunderstanding and or exchange of words.

After our traditional marriage on December 2013,I had some financial challenges,and then my rent was due for renewable,she offered to assist,at first I was skeptical about it ,because I know her kind of person,knowing full well that she will use that to ridicule and abuse me in no distant time. But,then,I didn't have any alternative,so I allowed her pay d rent. Now,she's claiming ownership,saying ..."which house,the one that I have been paying the rent or another one"...

She has done a lot of character assassination & damages to my personality before some of her relatives & family members(Her father and two sisters),thus they all support her & no longer regard me as anybody.

Few months into our marriage,she started wearing butt pads, I told her to stop ,because I don't like the stuff,but she flared up and we had exchange of words. She told me that she has to look good to outsiders.

Throughout her pregnancy period,she wore the butt pads on daily basis even at home,I allowed her because of her condition,even though it looked disgusting on her. After she put to bed,and few days later, I told her to quit wearing that stuff, but she refused,then I seized it,she started ranting to the hearing of everyone at home & neighbors that I have taken her padded pants(aka butt pad) to native doctor. I just ignored her. Few days later, she bought another set.

On Xmas day(2014),she dressed up & wore the butt pads again,I told her to remove it ,but she refused,then i tried forcing her to do so,and that resulted to a serious fight. She tore my already ironed clothes to pieces(an expensive Indian attire I bought when I travelled to India),I tore hers too and forced the butt pads out from her body.

Hell was let loose that day,because she called her sisters,they came to my house and created a very nasty scene in my neighborhood,they insulted,ridiculed me and made a mockery of me,her elder sister who is a police officer threatened to deal with me,she was talking and hitting her hands on the ground saying that,they are going to teach me some bitter lessons in this town. I tried to respond but my Mum,who's on child's visit(Omugwo) asked me to hold my peace. It wasn't easy though,they also insulted her too.

Since that day till date,my wife doesn't talk to me. The only thing that connects us now is the new born baby.

Her words have actually killed me psychologically, emotionally etc, to the extent that sometimes, I loose consciousness of my surrounding while driving to and fro from work , I will be lost in thought, and on a particular occasion nearly rammed another moving vehicle,if not for the speed bumps on the road that awaken my consciousness.


Her words:"if you are still regarding me as your wife,then you wasting your time". Its obvious she wants a divorce because to her,she's still very young(28 years),and can easily move on. She doesn't give a damn.

She has also repeated that same threat of killing me,these days ,the number of calls entering her phone is amazing,most times,she goes far from the house to answer those calls.

Please,kindly advice me.
Thank you.

...first off,stop arguing and fighting with her.don't complain about anything she does including the secret calls,butt pad etc;ignore it all.
Second,I am not trying to break an already broken marriage.you need to get another decent and cool-headed lady in the most secretive place very fast.try take your mind off the troubles of your wife by liking or loving another lady.make yourself happy.
If you can't do these,you are definitely on your own.
I wish you well.

pls in your next world ask God to make you a woman, cos you are not a man, how can a woman control you

ifyalways:
You knew her kind of person yet you went ahead and married her. I'm sure alot of people advised you against marrying her then but you ignored them. Dear, you've made your bed, relax and enjoy or endure it.

I suggest you pray and fast, start with like 21 days fasting, report her to your pastor if the fasting thing does not work. Nothing impossible with God. Sorry dear

Abeg ,forget story .ogbeni run for your life .

If you are to live 80 yrs and you have a woman like that .be rest assure that @ 50 .man go payin .
Woman wahala kills . So run or your life

OP you are the cause..ar u wondering why? date yur wife for two years without discovering any negativ xrater 4rm her..u hav been carried away by lust..dnt u knw dat it is via dating u guys would study each other befor mutual relationship will follow thereby leading to marraige and let GOD intervene..see what you caused and now you are regreting it..what i will advice you go and see a real prophet or pastor

cytochromeC:
Couldn't stop laughing after reading that too. When many would rather go out pantless, this bimbo of a wife is bothered about butt pads .

The mental video of Op struggling to yank the butt pad off his wife's àss is cracking me up.

Op, what are you still doing in this marriage anyway? You mentioned her sister is a police officer, is it until she uses her sister's shakabula to blow your brains? Would have suggested you sent her packing, but since circumstances have made it the other way round, leave that insane woman with her insane relatives. I wonder why you are still tolerating being bullied, abused and ridiculed by your wife and her family.

N.B- I don't believe you're a saint as painted in your narration, but since your butt pad wearing wife is not here to give her own side of the story, we'll stick with the fact that she's an agent of satan. , so RUN!

I had to conjure up the image of OP trying to yank off the butt pad after I read your post and it wasn't less funny . OP certainly won't be a saint, but nah who first report be victim.