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naijaboiy:
1. I feel you should chill out.
Because this place is a forum and everyone has the right as a member to create insightful threads.

2. If most of his threads are centred on women,,i see nothing bad in it so long as they are not created to denigrate or bash the female folks. Except of course such threads attack your conscience (if you're a woman)

3. Not everybody is on this forum to attract the opposite sex. Some are just here to be more informed and also educate others and I think that is the op's aim.

4. I'm not attacking you i'm just trying to let you know that there are some of us who really appreciate the threads Mr.Emusmith creates. He's one of the people who brings a difference out of the many stereotyped threads flooding the romance section board.

Cheers!

naijaboiy:
Well That's your business

masonkz:
K

Good!

netizenbuzz:
So op is not degrading women but he is creating an avenue for some assholes to. And I bet more than half the people who appreciate his threads are men not women. What I've also observed from the comment section is that men want women who will massage their egos. Nothing bad in that, they are naturally wired that way. However, there should be a limit to their demands. Too much of everything is bad. Men should try to be considerate and selfless. Not every woman is Deola. Women are wired differently, always keep that in mind
That another woman can't do what Deola does justifiably doesn't make her less of a woman. Stop trying to make someone else live up to your standards. Marriage doesn't work that way, it's not supposed to be about how this person will satisfy me me me. It's about us us us. I hope some men will learn to change their orientation before entering marriage. I can already see someone countering me saying "but women are this and that....". However before you do that remember, marriage is not a competition. It is about love and companionship. Peace.

Understood

netizenbuzz:
So op is not degrading women but he is creating an avenue for some assholes to. And I bet more than half the people who appreciate his threads are men not women. What I've also observed from the comment section is that men want women who will massage their egos. Nothing bad in that, they are naturally wired that way. However, there should be a limit to their demands. Too much of everything is bad. Men should try to be considerate and selfless. Not every woman is Deola. Women are wired differently, always keep that in mind
That another woman can't do what Deola does justifiably doesn't make her less of a woman. Stop trying to make someone else live up to your standards. Marriage doesn't work that way, it's not supposed to be about how this person will satisfy me me me. It's about us us us. I hope some men will learb to change their orientation before entering marriage. I can already see someone countering me but before you do that remember, marriage is not a competition. It is about love and companionship. Peace.

maylisa:
I do all these yet he cheated on Me. I have decided not to trust again.

masonkz:
While I think the OPs points could be helpful for a blissful marriage, men shouldn't be one sided when it comes to their needs/wants. It's a two-way thing. Draw up a list of "sweet extras that you SHOULD be giving your wife"

emusmith:
LoL! Some people sha... This is one thing that makes sense in NL, People misquoting you...

emusmith:
Take this cash, you are on point!

emusmith:
Good point!

The Op is specializing and NOT generalizing.
I'm focused on a PART and NOT the WHOLE.
What you say, no sensible guy will ignore that.

One Love, Bro!

naijaboiy:
I think the persona is a Lady.

masonkz:
Lol. Ask for my account number jor

naijaboiy:
I'm telling you! Someone will just read your post once and then attack without understanding anything.

joseph1832:
Haven't you realized that trust is a luxury no human should afford! Before you trust someone, make sure that person prove to you that they deserve your trust.

A lesson I learnt the hard way!.

assana:
Love to do all these and more,buh my hubby doesn't appreciate jare.

stagger:
There is nothing I like most than when I am watching TV my wife just mounts me and starts kissing me and grinding me hard. My brain just goes on French leave sharply!

emusmith:
I still believe this is possible.
Some ladies exist that could do this. Yes! I don't know if they're on NairaLand sha but I know they're alive somewhere.
You can call them Love Doctors. They are the ones R.Kelly was referring to when he sang that song titled, "WHEN A WOMAN LOVES"

Guys, if you find such ones, you'll be walking on the streets smiling. People will be like, Is this man mad? Yes! You're madly in love with your wife.

Follow me as I highlight Seven Sweet Extras A Wife Does For Her Husband

NOTE: This is not applicable to all males/ females.


1. Cutting his toenails.

She notices your toenails growing so long and you know, some men don't care about "little things" like that. She does it for him. At that moment, she is in charge of his heart! She is 50% sure of getting whatever she wants. DON'T MAKE THAT YOUR AIM.


2. Jumping and Playing on his back

Stop being an adult all of a sudden! Play and leap on his back.
One of many things a man loves but much familiarity and 'over maturity' won't let him know how to even spew it out of his mouth is this.
She better not be robust, lol...Even if she's robust, the man can still manage it...



3. Feeding him

This is especially when he is not too strong... Even when he is sound, doing it brings flavour to your relationship and give him the butterfly feeling. No matter how "ajekpako" he is, he loves it. He loves the feeling. Give it to him. Put the garri in his mouth. That's how to take a man's heart. Not by dragging rights!


4. Helping him knot his tye

This may look foreign, but No! It is not meant for the first five months of your marriage only. Some ladies came to me to teach them how to knot a tie- they want to be doing this for their husband.
It's fun and it shows love!

5. Massaging his laps and legs

Sometimes, your man returns from early morning road work or even from work. You see him complaining of how his laps are so heavy. Give him a massage. Massage his laps, legs and toes, if possible.


6. Constantly Packaging
Food in his food flask to work.

My friend's aunty does this. He packs for the children and the husband too. The husband so much talk about her in the office, other men get intimidated and employed the scheme, lol! This man loves his wife! They are not soooo wealthy...She works o. The man comes from work every day to get a glass of juice first, then bathroom and food...TV and bed. The man too will perform well on bed by force na...

7. Welcoming him with a peck from work as she takes his suit.

If it is good for the goose then it is good for the gander. It is not just a "White People" thing. It is a practice that could change your husband's treatment of you.


He loves you whether you do these things or not BUT when you train yourself to do them, he will not only love you, He will LIKE you.

LIKING someone is admiring the person.
He may love you just for peace to reign and the law demands it.
But for him to really really really LIKE you, you have to somehow go out of your way to do some LITTLE EXTRAs to HELPing him better.


DON'T SAY YOU CAN'T TRY THIS FOR A NIGERIAN MAN. It is a lie! Love has no language. It is the language you give it that it assumes. Love is universal. If it works for that white lady, it will work for you because we are the same.

Have a nice day.

chidyhels:
Do all these for the wrong guy and your second name will be SORRY!

emusmith:
All these "ungenderless" moniker!

naijaboiy:
Lol...I dey tell you!

1bkaye:
Toenails ke? TUFIAKWA