I can't believe how stu*pid most men have become because of sex. OP tell him without mincing words that you have no interest in him, if you have to be rude to get it across do so. Don't mind the blames being thrown at you here .

You have no AGREEMENT with him!!! And you consented to NOTHING!!! Job referrals are given everyday and it doesn't tie anybody down.

And I do not even believe he has the power to fire you where you are as long as you are doing your job well.

But enough of the silence, now is the time to reply his messages sternly and tell him you don't want any relationship from him. And pls, keep his messages and your responses to him. They might come in handy.

Kimoni:
You have no AGREEMENT with him!!! And you consented to NOTHING!!! Job referrals are given everyday and it doesn't tie anybody down.
And I do not even believe he has the power to fire you where you are as long as you are doing your job well.

But enough of the silence, now is the time to reply his messages sternly and tell him you don't want any relationship from him. And pls, keep his messages and your responses to him. They might come in handy.

Exactly. @op, don't mind stupid things like @Crackhaus and Timbuktou, that's exactly what they would do in the man's place.

shelter4luving:
Thank you all for your contributions.
well, when i said i was smiling. i do not mean anything serious. i was just be nice. and i wasn't nice because i wanted anything from him. i didnt even know him as the manager then.
as for the job i got, i didnt go there in his name. as a matter of fact, i went there to try my luck. i was even ask if someone directed me and i said no one. the manager told me she like my confidence, the manner of approach and boldness.
@sir Empero, i do not enter any contract relationship with this man pls. u sound as if am defrauding him.

I can't believe some of the comments here. OP, u owe him nada.next time he calls u with ridiculous request for sex,blow him off...shameless he-goat.

Shirley07:

Exactly. @op, don't mind stupid things like @Crackhaus and Timbuktou, that's exactly what they would do in the man's place.

Happy new year, Shirley. You really need to stop stalking me, this is not the way to go about it. Just ask nicely, ok?

You've been told what to do by posters above.You could pick his calls and talk to him nicely but if he keeps acting like a jerk,then cut him off.

No good man who wants to marry you will start by telling you to come to his house.

byvan:
I can't believe how stu*pid most men have become because of sex. OP tell him without mincing words that you have no interest in him, if you have to be rude to get it across do so. Don't mind the blames being thrown at you here .

Thanks sis.

Kimoni:
You have no AGREEMENT with him!!! And you consented to NOTHING!!! Job referrals are given everyday and it doesn't tie anybody down.

And I do not even believe he has the power to fire you where you are as long as you are doing your job well.

But enough of the silence, now is the time to reply his messages sternly and tell him you don't want any relationship from him. And pls, keep his messages and your responses to him. They might come in handy.

Sure. thanks

Shirley07:

Exactly. @op, don't mind stupid things like @Crackhaus and Timbuktou, that's exactly what they would do in the man's place.

thanks

Shirley07:

Exactly. @op, don't mind stupid things like @Crackhaus and Timbuktou, that's exactly what they would do in the man's place.

You know what Shirley, I think you're under-sexed.

Don't you have a boyfriend, at least to save your life?

shelter4luving:
i got a new job through someone i just met. it was 4 days ago, i make photocopies of my CV and was summiting round some companies and offices. lucky for me i walked in somewhere while talking to the security man at the gate, the manager came out, called me and we got talking. he said he just like me immediately he saw me. that am going to be his wife. that i should leave all my boyfriends and get serious with him. i was just looking and smiling. so after all the talked, he went through my CV and ask me to go to one organization and summit. so i went. lucky for me again i went straight to the place and was able to see the manager. after much conversation, she employed me immediately. although i did not tell the manager someone directed me there. that was how she took me to HR. and i was asked to resumed the following day.
I've resumed and i appreciate God and the first manager guy who directed me to this job.
the problem now is, he called me yesterday to come and spend the night in his house after work. he desperately want sex and i don't want to sound rude or ungrateful and at the same time i hate such nonsense.
Sis in the house, how do you handle such without looking ungrateful?
men in the house, how do you think i should treat this guy?
He calls me like mad with all manner of stu.pid love names. getting me angry but i want to be polite.

To be very honest you could never have walked into an office and got a job just like that. I have worked in HR before and I can tell you that for every vacancy there are enough applicants. Even existing staff have enough relations and friends to be brought in.
The lady knew you would come and even before she took you she confirmed with that man that you were the one.
The man has come immediately to collect his own share of the bargain.
You knew what the deal was?
You might be good but I am certain there were also people that have better qualifications.
You deprived someone of a job by using your" bottom power" .. sorry for putting it so crudely. Now you are turning around to question his own indecency.
This was an indecent arrangement. At the end of the day you might fly out because people owe each other favors and the man could get you out. .. unless the new boss is so pleased with you and pleads for you and keeps you.
She probably liked your confidence in not mentioning that you were sent....as in you know how the game goes. In these kind of arrangments there is special language and body talk.. like we both know what we are trying to say.

Indeed

5minsmadness:
Your topic is misleading.

The man already told you of his intentions the moment he met you. Heck, maybe you were the reason he came out of his office to see what this pretty damsel wanted. Now he is being direct and pressuring you, its not as if he was the one who gave you the job or you work in his organisation or that he is trying to blackmail you.


Do what you ladies do best. Let him down the way you have let down other toasters you didn't like.

Abi, or is there something else?

byvan:
I can't believe how stu*pid most men have become because of sex. OP tell him without mincing words that you have no interest in him, if you have to be rude to get it across do so. Don't mind the blames being thrown at you here .

op listen to these.

Nairaland and their blames,worst place to get an advice.

shelter4luving:
@carefreewanabe, @dbard, @ charcover, @mintayo, @sminsmadness and @ilebatojo. Thank you so much. i got your points.

Ignore most of his calls.
Ignore 5 calls, pick 1 and give an excuse why U haven't been answering Ur calls.
If this continues for a while, he'll start to realize how difficult it is to get to talk to U.
Stop forming polite being at his beck and call...

We truly nid change in Nigeria buh APC is nt d change Nigerians are clamourin 4.wit pple lik Tinubu (d most corrupt blackman in afica,ask google)as a god fada in d party,Apc can neva eva bring change.let's kip managin d fresh air til a beta alternative comes....

shelter4luving:
i got a new job through someone i just met. it was 4 days ago, i make photocopies of my CV and was summiting round some companies and offices. lucky for me i walked in somewhere while talking to the security man at the gate, the manager came out, called me and we got talking. he said he just like me immediately he saw me. that am going to be his wife. that i should leave all my boyfriends and get serious with him. i was just looking and smiling. so after all the talked, he went through my CV and ask me to go to one organization and summit. so i went. lucky for me again i went straight to the place and was able to see the manager. after much conversation, she employed me immediately. although i did not tell the manager someone directed me there. that was how she took me to HR. and i was asked to resumed the following day.
I've resumed and i appreciate God and the first manager guy who directed me to this job.
the problem now is, he called me yesterday to come and spend the night in his house after work. he desperately want sex and i dont want to sound rude or ungrateful and at the same time i hate such nonsense.
Sis in the house, how do you handle such without looking ungrateful?
men in the house, how do you think i should treat this guy?
He calls me like mad with all manner of stu.pid love names. getting me angry but i want to be polite.

I will Report U!

Akranez:
Have sex with him and chop his money

Are you serious ?

@OP

Those advising you to start ignoring the guy mean no good to you , believe you me . Running away from a problem never bring solution to any trouble . The end result when you follow these kind of shallow advices is molestations and cruel murders many girls out there suffers .

I insist that your best bet should be to boldly meet with him albeit in open place and placate him . You do not necessarily need to date or se,x him , no . Apply diplomacy in this matter , because it is a very delicate issue . All you need to whittle any evil thought he may be nursing against you now that you have made up your mind to date him not , is logic , a sound one .

You never really can tell the kind of mindset he possess . He could be the cruel type who believe in worst forms of revenge when assumed that someone has trampled on his foot . As I said earlier on , always strive to be On the offensive side of the world rather than to be on the defense side of the world -This remain the secret of long and peaceful life . Here I write based on my experience in both the business and social world .

You can tell him u are 3 weeks pregnant for ur boyfriend

Have sex with him, he has impacted your life than most men you may have loved freely. Sorry, I am always blunt.

my dear, you have to leave the job because he will pressurizing you and because you actually got the job through his connections....dazall

Sweet potatoto so u brought my matter to nairaland,we shall see on Monday

Because Naira is valueless, no matter how many millions a lady might pay into your account, it doesn't solve anything. But with sex, you can always have a good bargain in full, without any fear of devaluation.

Simple! just tell him, you can't come over, and you don't think it's right to do so, Even if it's gonna cause you losing your Job, you can definitely look for another one. Than having sex with him, and when he fires you, what will be your dignity!! so politely call him, and tell him you won't come over!

wetin u want make we demand 4?wisdom or what

mutter:


To be very honest you could never have walked into an office and got a job just like that. I have worked in HR before and I can tell you that for every vacancy there are enough applicants. Even existing staff have enough relations and friends to be brought in.
The lady knew you would come and even before she took you she confirmed with that man that you were the one.
The man has come immediately to collect his own share of the bargain.
You knew what the deal was?
You might be good but I am certain there were also people that have better qualifications.
You deprived someone of a job by using your" bottom power" .. sorry for putting it so crudely. Now you are turning around to question his own indecency.
This was an indecent arrangement. At the end of the day you might fly out because people owe each other favors and the man could get you out. .. unless the new boss is so pleased with you and pleads for you and keeps you.
She probably liked your confidence in not mentioning that you were sent....as in you know how the game goes. In these kind of arrangments there is special language and body talk.. like we both know what we are trying to say.

VERY BLUNT..SIMPLE TRUTH

Empero1:
@OP

It is unfortunate that you want to eat your cake and still have it . I loathe pretenders . The truth is that you owe obligation to the said manager that directed you to the organization where your bread is now temporarily buttered . From now onward , never enter into an agreement formally/informally on anything you are not sure of fulfilling in the long run . Always be diplomatic when doing so , by immediately creating a clause that can guarantee you blameless exit route should you find it inconvenient to pally along in such association . It's always better to be on the offensive side of the world that to be of the defensive side ... This is one secret of long life .

Your silence when he laid down his condition(s) equaled to affirmation to his given terms to you , thus his assumed right of ownership of committed relationship with you now . Should you insist in reneging from the agreement you had with him without finding a way to placate him , then you have got every reason to be afraid of your life and job . Except if he has a heart of gold to forgive and not forgetting of course .

My advice to you should be to try by all means possible to have a meet with him , in an open place of course . Try to bear your mind to him and let him know that you are very grateful for his kindness toward you and that you would ever remain grateful to him . However , that you have scrutinized his request for relationship with you , but that in all sincerity you don't have same feelings for him as he had for you . But wait , if you are not married and still searching , and the guy in question possesses some good traits you would consider in a man for marriage , while not give him a chance to date him , not minding how blunt he was in his approach . Never say never . You can date him without allowing him to shine your " kpomo " .

Allow him chance for date with you . Within the first week of dating him , try to be sensitive whenever you are with him , in the process should you observe any ill-character he posses that you won't tolerate from a potential suitor , then you should use such as " banana peel " , to terminate your relationship with him . In summary , never push away someone that does good of this magnitude to you , without giving him/her justifiable reason for doing so , else you would be putting your life and future in line for bad things .

Joke of d millennium

Do they gave you back the original copies of the CV after submission

Give him one roind ja re, he deserve it.

shelter4luving:
Thank you all for your contributions.
well, when i said i was smiling. i do not mean anything serious. i was just be nice. and i wasn't nice because i wanted anything from him. i didnt even know him as the manager then.
as for the job i got, i didnt go there in his name. as a matter of fact, i went there to try my luck. i was even ask if someone directed me and i said no one. the manager told me she like my confidence, the manner of approach and boldness.
@sir Empero, i do not enter any contract relationship with this man pls. u sound as if am defrauding him.

Abeg go settle the man, other guys have been doing u without connecting u to good job. Even your Nairaland name have said it all " SHELTER4LUVING" now u see love u come dey form. Abeg make i hear word.