mutter:


To be very honest you could never have walked into an office and got a job just like that. I have worked in HR before and I can tell you that for every vacancy there are enough applicants. Even existing staff have enough relations and friends to be brought in.
The lady knew you would come and even before she took you she confirmed with that man that you were the one.
The man has come immediately to collect his own share of the bargain.
You knew what the deal was?
You might be good but I am certain there were also people that have better qualifications.
You deprived someone of a job by using your" bottom power" .. sorry for putting it so crudely. Now you are turning around to question his own indecency.
This was an indecent arrangement. At the end of the day you might fly out because people owe each other favors and the man could get you out. .. unless the new boss is so pleased with you and pleads for you and keeps you.
She probably liked your confidence in not mentioning that you were sent....as in you know how the game goes. In these kind of arrangments there is special language and body talk.. like we both know what we are trying to say.

5minsmadness:
Your topic is misleading.

The man already told you of his intentions the moment he met you. Heck, maybe you were the reason he came out of his office to see what this pretty damsel wanted. Now he is being direct and pressuring you, its not as if he was the one who gave you the job or you work in his organisation or that he is trying to blackmail you.


Do what you ladies do best. Let him down the way you have let down other toasters you didn't like.

Abi, or is there something else?

Nutase:
Is it not better you give d pomo to someone who added value to ur life than one stupid NFA dat has added nothing to u and will still dump u at the end of d day .

mutter:


To be very honest you could never have walked into an office and got a job just like that. I have worked in HR before and I can tell you that for every vacancy there are enough applicants. Even existing staff have enough relations and friends to be brought in.
The lady knew you would come and even before she took you she confirmed with that man that you were the one.
The man has come immediately to collect his own share of the bargain.
You knew what the deal was?
You might be good but I am certain there were also people that have better qualifications.
You deprived someone of a job by using your" bottom power" .. sorry for putting it so crudely. Now you are turning around to question his own indecency.
This was an indecent arrangement. At the end of the day you might fly out because people owe each other favors and the man could get you out. .. unless the new boss is so pleased with you and pleads for you and keeps you.
She probably liked your confidence in not mentioning that you were sent....as in you know how the game goes. In these kind of arrangments there is special language and body talk.. like we both know what we are trying to say.

majekdom2:
but people still get jobs by walking into an office , soliciting a position and being offered one without having to compromise.

drlawizle:


In this same Nigeria?

Are you a leaner?

Maybe in Borno sha..

carefreewannabe:


He wants s*ex and she said no. He has to accept it. Simples.

And to be honest, I don't want any help from this kind of people. I disrespect them with my entire mind, heart and soul. They can go to hell.

Unfortunately, some women are desperate enough in this country to even talk with such azzholes.

drlawizle:


Well you wont know how it hurts until you're badly in need of help

Necessity they say is the mother of invention..do you know how bad she needs that job? Do you know the ppl she benched that were probably even more qualified than her

to get that job...if you keep telling every man with raging hormones NO like that you'll have it rough oh just pray you dont fall into temptation cos its not easy out there

as you paint it here...you may think its only ladies that go through such crap but as a male doctor I also dont use to give a shiiit but when I was set-up I knew there are lots

of ways to enter a market...I still dont give a shyte but I'm wiser now...thats life it isnt fair so you gotta wise...

majekdom2:
No , in chad .... I know people with these testimonies . you should have a change on how you see things in this country , a coin has got two sides.

Empero1:
@OP

It is unfortunate that you want to eat your cake and still have it . I loathe pretenders . The truth is that you owe obligation to the said manager that directed you to the organization where your bread is now temporarily buttered . From now onward , never enter into an agreement formally/informally on anything you are not sure of fulfilling in the long run . Always be diplomatic when doing so , by immediately creating a clause that can guarantee you blameless exit route should you find it inconvenient to pally along in such association . It's always better to be on the offensive side of the world that to be of the defensive side ... This is one secret of long life .

Your silence when he laid down his condition(s) equaled to affirmation to his given terms to you , thus his assumed right of ownership of committed relationship with you now . Should you insist in reneging from the agreement you had with him without finding a way to placate him , then you have got every reason to be afraid of your life and job . Except if he has a heart of gold to forgive and not forgetting of course .

My advice to you should be to try by all means possible to have a meet with him , in an open place of course . Try to bear your mind to him and let him know that you are very grateful for his kindness toward you and that you would ever remain grateful to him . However , that you have scrutinized his request for relationship with you , but that in all sincerity you don't have same feelings for him as he had for you . But wait , if you are not married and still searching , and the guy in question possesses some good traits you would consider in a man for marriage , while not give him a chance to date him , not minding how blunt he was in his approach . Never say never . You can date him without allowing him to shine your " kpomo " .

Allow him chance for date with you . Within the first week of dating him , try to be sensitive whenever you are with him , in the process should you observe any ill-character he posses that you won't tolerate from a potential suitor , then you should use such as " banana peel " , to terminate your relationship with him . In summary , never push away someone that does good of this magnitude to you , without giving him/her justifiable reason for doing so , else you would be putting your life and future in line for bad things .

drlawizle:


Okay I hear you...I just wish you're talking from experience as I am & even if you are...not everyone will have it as lucky as you...

shelter4luving:
i got a new job through someone i just met. it was 4 days ago, i make photocopies of my CV and was summiting round some companies and offices. lucky for me i walked in somewhere while talking to the security man at the gate, the manager came out, called me and we got talking. he said he just like me immediately he saw me. that am going to be his wife. that i should leave all my boyfriends and get serious with him. i was just looking and smiling. so after all the talked, he went through my CV and ask me to go to one organization and summit. so i went. lucky for me again i went straight to the place and was able to see the manager. after much conversation, she employed me immediately. although i did not tell the manager someone directed me there. that was how she took me to HR. and i was asked to resumed the following day.
I've resumed and i appreciate God and the first manager guy who directed me to this job.
the problem now is, he called me yesterday to come and spend the night in his house after work. he desperately want sex and i dont want to sound rude or ungrateful and at the same time i hate such nonsense.
Sis in the house, how do you handle such without looking ungrateful?
men in the house, how do you think i should treat this guy?
He calls me like mad with all manner of stu.pid love names. getting me angry but i want to be polite.

mutter:


To be very honest you could never have walked into an office and got a job just like that. I have worked in HR before and I can tell you that for every vacancy there are enough applicants. Even existing staff have enough relations and friends to be brought in.
The lady knew you would come and even before she took you she confirmed with that man that you were the one.
The man has come immediately to collect his own share of the bargain.
You knew what the deal was?
You might be good but I am certain there were also people that have better qualifications.
You deprived someone of a job by using your" bottom power" .. sorry for putting it so crudely. Now you are turning around to question his own indecency.
This was an indecent arrangement. At the end of the day you might fly out because people owe each other favors and the man could get you out. .. unless the new boss is so pleased with you and pleads for you and keeps you.
She probably liked your confidence in not mentioning that you were sent....as in you know how the game goes. In these kind of arrangments there is special language and body talk.. like we both know what we are trying to say.

shelter4luving:
i got a new job through someone i just met. it was 4 days ago, i make photocopies of my CV and was summiting round some companies and offices. lucky for me i walked in somewhere while talking to the security man at the gate, the manager came out, called me and we got talking. he said he just like me immediately he saw me. that am going to be his wife. that i should leave all my boyfriends and get serious with him. i was just looking and smiling. so after all the talked, he went through my CV and ask me to go to one organization and summit. so i went. lucky for me again i went straight to the place and was able to see the manager. after much conversation, she employed me immediately. although i did not tell the manager someone directed me there. that was how she took me to HR. and i was asked to resumed the following day.
I've resumed and i appreciate God and the first manager guy who directed me to this job.
the problem now is, he called me yesterday to come and spend the night in his house after work. he desperately want sex and i dont want to sound rude or ungrateful and at the same time i hate such nonsense.
Sis in the house, how do you handle such without looking ungrateful?
men in the house, how do you think i should treat this guy?
He calls me like mad with all manner of stu.pid love names. getting me angry but i want to be polite.

Timbuktou:
Then this thread isn't necessary.

majekdom2:
yes I am talking from experience . A young lady once walked into my former place of work years back , solicited a position , she was interviewed and later hired , she was even assited with relocation expenses . it was an audit firm . There are loads of managers who know quality and are out for it . if you are of the desired quality and got something to offer , this is never new . I never said it happens to everyone. I only was making the point , good things still happen in this country .

shelter4luving:
thanks sis. i've even told him am in a serious relationship, but he's not hearing me.

majekdom2:
hey , assylum seeker ... be mindful of what ya say on here .

carefreewannabe:


Change your number.