shelter4luving:
i got a new job through someone i just met. it was 4 days ago, i make photocopies of my CV and was summiting round some companies and offices. lucky for me i walked in somewhere while talking to the security man at the gate, the manager came out, called me and we got talking. he said he just like me immediately he saw me. that am going to be his wife. that i should leave all my boyfriends and get serious with him. i was just looking and smiling. so after all the talked, he went through my CV and ask me to go to one organization and summit. so i went. lucky for me again i went straight to the place and was able to see the manager. after much conversation, she employed me immediately. although i did not tell the manager someone directed me there. that was how she took me to HR. and i was asked to resumed the following day.
I've resumed and i appreciate God and the first manager guy who directed me to this job.
the problem now is, he called me yesterday to come and spend the night in his house after work. he desperately want sex and i dont want to sound rude or ungrateful and at the same time i hate such nonsense.
Sis in the house, how do you handle such without looking ungrateful?
men in the house, how do you think i should treat this guy?
He calls me like mad with all manner of stu.pid love names. getting me angry but i want to be polite.

carefreewannabe:


Change your number.

Empero1:
@OP

It is unfortunate that you want to eat your cake and still have it . I loathe pretenders . The truth is that you owe obligation to the said manager that directed you to the organization where your bread is now temporarily buttered . From now onward , never enter into an agreement formally/informally on anything you are not sure of fulfilling in the long run . Always be diplomatic when doing so , by immediately creating a clause that can guarantee you blameless exit route should you find it inconvenient to pally along in such association . It's always better to be on the offensive side of the world that to be of the defensive side ... This is one secret of long life .

Your silence when he laid down his condition(s) equaled to affirmation to his given terms to you , thus his assumed right of ownership of committed relationship with you now . Should you insist in reneging from the agreement you had with him without finding a way to placate him , then you have got every reason to be afraid of your life and job . Except if he has a heart of gold to forgive and not forgetting of course .

My advice to you should be to try by all means possible to have a meet with him , in an open place of course . Try to bear your mind to him and let him know that you are very grateful for his kindness toward you and that you would ever remain grateful to him . However , that you have scrutinized his request for relationship with you , but that in all sincerity you don't have same feelings for him as he had for you . But wait , if you are not married and still searching , and the guy in question possesses some good traits you would consider in a man for marriage , while not give him a chance to date him , not minding how blunt he was in his approach . Never say never . You can date him without allowing him to shine your " kpomo " .

Allow him chance for date with you . Within the first week of dating him , try to be sensitive whenever you are with him , in the process should you observe any ill-character he posses that you won't tolerate from a potential suitor , then you should use such as " banana peel " , to terminate your relationship with him . In summary , never push away someone that does good of this magnitude to you , without giving him/her justifiable reason for doing so , else you would be putting your life and future in line for bad things .

yorex2011:
All these girls go dey form anger...

yorex2011:
All these girls go dey form anger...

Empero1:
@OP

It is unfortunate that you want to eat your cake and still have it . I loathe pretenders . The truth is that you owe obligation to the said manager that directed you to the organization where your bread is now temporarily buttered . From now onward , never enter into an agreement formally/informally on anything you are not sure of fulfilling in the long run . Always be diplomatic when doing so , by immediately creating a clause that can guarantee you blameless exit route should you find it inconvenient to pally along in such association . It's always better to be on the offensive side of the world that to be of the defensive side ... This is one secret of long life .

Your silence when he laid down his condition(s) equaled to affirmation to his given terms to you , thus his assumed right of ownership of committed relationship with you now . Should you insist in reneging from the agreement you had with him without finding a way to placate him , then you have got every reason to be afraid of your life and job . Except if he has a heart of gold to forgive and not forgetting of course .

My advice to you should be to try by all means possible to have a meet with him , in an open place of course . Try to bear your mind to him and let him know that you are very grateful for his kindness toward you and that you would ever remain grateful to him . However , that you have scrutinized his request for relationship with you , but that in all sincerity you don't have same feelings for him as he had for you . But wait , if you are not married and still searching , and the guy in question possesses some good traits you would consider in a man for marriage , while not give him a chance to date him , not minding how blunt he was in his approach . Never say never . You can date him without allowing him to shine your " kpomo " .

Allow him chance for date with you . Within the first week of dating him , try to be sensitive whenever you are with him , in the process should you observe any ill-character he posses that you won't tolerate from a potential suitor , then you should use such as " banana peel " , to terminate your relationship with him . In summary , never push away someone that does good of this magnitude to you , without giving him/her justifiable reason for doing so , else you would be putting your life and future in line for bad things .

All you said in the beginning was wise but she shouldn't date him at all only to break his heart...dats gimmicky....& if the guy senses that it will just complicate matters

rather she should do her best to convince the guy to leave her alone on good terms...thats a mature way to handle things or better still if she has a friend thats cute & likes

the man then she should hook them up to placate him...that way the man will respect her...carefreewannabe is just being immature in her response

carefreewannabe:
^^You must be kidding.

Shelter4luving, don't you date this man under no circumstance. You don't owe him anything.

EfemenaXY:


Don't mind her.

Yeye dey smell.

Why was she smiling and leading him on? Nothing goes for nothing in that godforsaken hell hole of a country. Someone you hardly know gives you a job literally on the spot without doing any background checks and / or references?

Pretenders everywhere.

byvan:
I can't believe how stu*pid most men have become because of sex. OP tell him without mincing words that you have no interest in him, if you have to be rude to get it across do so. Don't mind the blames being thrown at you here .

drlawizle:


Its your type that stop ppl from being helpful....even though the man wants something the fact is that he helped her & you shouldn't talk like that as it shows you have a

potential of being ungrateful..i'm not saying she should gratify him with sex but she should learn diplomacy as thats how successful ppl role...its not a crime for a man to

want something in return from a woman..he liked her in the first place & wanted to please her first so whats the big deal?