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Enegod:
u like it?

AfricanApple:
no I love it

virginboy1:
Disclaimer:I am not rating or hyping Virginity.Thanks
Am in my middle twenties,like any sane male my age,I have a libido that can far too much for me handle.
During cold weather like harmattan period,the urge usually escalates to a paramount peak to an extent of me loosing focus at night.
Waking up feeling depressed due to the urge and whenever I find it difficult to bare,I end up doing press-up or any exercise(which is an advantage physically).
I always feel awkward and wimpy when some friends and colleagues expressed their sex tales(the heavenly feelings,the elated mood it gives them)"chaiiii".
Infact,I used to be mocked by guys and ridiculed by some ladies concerning my no sex status.
If I have waist pain and seek for solutions,i get negative advice like"it is because you dont sex,your akamu don full,etc)
I was adviced to pray and fast that it is spiritual,I tried,but the libido is still overwhelming.
Often times during sermon i loose concentration and focus in mind due to this "konji or wateva" feelings.SMH
Lastly the idea of marriage popped up,which leaves me with the problem of how long will i wait to get married,when I don't have the luxury and still have a carrier to acheive."All Izz Well"
Viewers discretion,advice,assertioms and opinion is needed.Virgins and Secondary Virgins how do you all cope?pls share.
Virgin bashers please take it easy on me.

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AfricanApple:
you want to kiss without having sex? one chance for you

AfricanApple:
you want to kiss without having sex? one chance for you

jmoore:
I have given you my reply in the first thread. Why create another duplicate na?

skelefish:
Virginboy1, no be u open the plight of a male virgin? Which one be this again? Ur sexual urge is increasingly becoming irresistible, I knw how it feels, if u can no longer hold on, it's better u lose it & free yourself,so that u will not rush headlong into marriage cos of sex.

I doubt if engaging in a relationship devoid of sex will work out. Sex is a crucial factor in any relationship as it stands now, u knw how difficult it is controlling dat urge as single, let alone chick kon involve,my guy u go lose guard. Anyways, easy easy my guy.

swtchicgurl:
Listen to me virginboy1, you are not the first guy of your age to be a virgin neither will you be the last.

I know guys well over 30 years who are still very much virgins. I admit it is difficult for you, but what I want you to understand now is that, you can turn the urge into motivation and make it a better testimony at the end of the day. What do i mean by this?

You are in your mid-20s, meaning you are marriageable. What's keeping you from settling down in marriage properly? maybe education, career, finance, personal achievements etc. Everytime you get this urge, you think of how badly you wanna have sex, then you think of what is necessary for you to have sex --- marriage! then you think of achieving your pre-set plans to make marriage possible, then you start fulfilling your dreams in good time too! For instance, you exercise in the morning when you get this urge? That is a good application of the urge! After exercising, pursue your dreams!

Sexual urge, popularly called konji, has brought the best and worst from people. you cannot undermine its potency but you can make it work for you. Sexual urge is natural and God that made it also instituted marriage for sex. So, there must be a reason for the urge when it comes prior to marriage. It has energy! Let it move you to your dreams and make you a better man for your future wife.

It is very ok at your age to start a relationship, BUT abstain from sex and it's 'appetisers' e.g. kissing, careless touches or sexting etc... Ask any sincere non-virgin, when you start having sex, it's much more difficult to stop!

Help yourself!

AfricanApple:
you are one of the reasons Vaseline is difficult to get in the market

virginboy1:
in a nutshell,do any guy that kissess you gets you laid at the shortrun?

sauceny:
Why are you thinking like a fish,did he in anyway made mention of masturbating ¿

Enegod:
am sure this will prevent it...

zick19:
read my signature and pass me that stuff...

AfricanApple:
so unfortunately you are thinking like toad gays!!

AfricanApple:
mind you, I don't kiss anyone I can't/won't have sex with

word: don't smell what you can't eat

AfricanApple:
mind you, I don't kiss anyone I can't/won't have sex with

word: don't smell what you can't eat

Hilles:
fake ass virgin..why try so hard to fight the urge if really you are..Vaselines and soap won't give you that experience.. what I see you suffering from is low self esteem!

virginboy1:
coming from a lady. I am wowed!!!
You just objectically delivered some of the things am pondering on.


Lastly,I might end up with a second material under the disguise of love,chai.
O'lord help Me.

Thank you ma,for your time and discretion

mirexxx:
my opinion o...seems u dont wanna av premarital sex so if u have a girlfnd u love, tell her abt it n ask her 2 marry u if she accepts then go 2 a nearby church meet d priest and ask him 2 join u b4 God. u don't need money 4 wedding or anyfin.






its not a sin


at least u'd b relieved

MRLANNISTER:
No way. Konji induced marriage? Beginning of the end of your life.

virginboy1:
Are you saying you are also a Virgin?
If so,what grade,secondary or primary,because you are sounding like a tertiary one.
You have already smelled what you can't chew na.Well enjoy the smell.

swtchicgurl:
Funny u called me 'Ma', Probably because of the tone in which I wrote. I am also young.

Back to your post above, focus on the things I told you earlier and then keep repeating the same words you wrote up there "O Lord help me"...

I can almost promise you'll be fine.