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pasqal09:
Let me call in the squad of professionals we have on the section to give their views abt this
Cc:
Taashamania

Professionals? You think?? Hehe..

Well, OP. From all conclusions drawn, you didnt do anything bad.
Me thinks you should give your friend some time to calm down, then call him over and explain to him how the whole thing went. Dont just keep quiet.

At the end of your narrations, just tell him you didnt deem it fit telling him about the whole package at first because you didnt think it was neccessary since it seemed normal and that by telling him this, you dont mean to cause problems between him and his girlfriend..

But, if he still insists on going with his girlfriend's train, fine and good. Overlook them, its only a matter of time, he would get to find out who his girlfriend really is..

BTW, Not all women are wicked

@op, something like this happened to 2 friends of mine in 1756.. And I used a very simple tactics to solve the wahala...
Load ur line and call that bitch make sure u record all d conversation. Another thing call her when she is alone and free, she will surely say somethings dat will implicate her, which is wot u need... Play the audio for friend and see the magic potion fall from his eyes...

mcdokwe:
It is simple, divide and rule. She has fathomed you are very close pals with your friend and not all women can tolerate that, she wants to build trust between her and the bf and equally use same opportunity to severe your friendship so she can have him all to herself. I pity her, her method and your Kunle though

Did she have to go to this extent.....

marveangel:
You know how people would say women are evil....I never used to believe it until now......what does one(a girl) profit by causing issues between two friends...this is how this daughter of jezebel came in between friends of several years.

My friend had met this his current girlfriend at my place, she's my sister's friend and course mate and they had both come to see me on a particular sunday....We were just in d sitting room talking about stuff when my friend (Kunle not his real name though) came into the house...I'm not big on formalities so I didn't bother with any introductions plus my friend already knows my sister well and again I was a little distracted, my sister and I were speaking our dialect talking about family issues..

Being the only other persons in the room I figured they just took the time to talk and get to know each other better.....About a month or two after that day my friend told me he was seeing mary(my sister's friend)...I just smiled and was like sharp guy....eventually we became close, that I figured was natural I mean she being my sister's friend and my best friends girlfriend there was no avoiding that....I had her on my BBM chat and we corresponded online every now and them, nothing serious just talk.....everything seemed okay until

Two weeks ago my friend had to leave town for some days, his mum was ill so he travelled to check up on her....Some three days after he travelled, his girlfriend came to my office to see me...I was shocked and afraid, I feared something bad happened to kunle's mom...

When I asked her what occasioned her visit..she simply stated that she had come to register her displeasure at me..she said her boyfriend had been gone for three days and I didn't bother checking up on her...(Was I supposed to do that I asked in my head?) I tried to apologise but she refuse saying she'd only accept my apology if I took her out for lunch...

So I did, we went to a nearby restaurant and ate....while we ate she just kept questioning me about my relationship, she said my sister her told her that I recently broke-up with my girlfriend and that I was sad and heartbroken...I told her I wasn't sad and miserable plus the break-up happened months ago..she asked if I had someone else in my life, I told her no...she kept asking 'why, what attracts you to girl,when do you see yourself settling down, do you have anything against any particular tribe and so on"...I barely ate my lunch....she left after lunch and I went back to my office......I thought that was all.

My friend got back some two days after, I was at the airport to pick him, as we drove back to his place we talk about stuff, good news was his mom was doing much better (I didn't mention the whole lunch with his gf friend, I didn't think twas worth talking abt)..I dropped him at home, said hello to his gf and went back to my place.....and that was the last I heard from my friend.....for over 6 days, even when I tried calling him he didn't take my calls...I was still thinking of how to go check up on him at his place when he came bagging into my office...he just stood didn't even sit.....he was shouting and pointing his finger at me warning me to stay away from his girlfriend...

He said he left town for five days and I was making moves at his girlfriend, he said I took his girlfriend to dinner and force her to kiss me and that a promised to marry her if she didn't tell him.

I was dumbfounded...I didn't even know what to say.....since when did people start having dinner around 1:30 PM....I wanted to call her but I figured she'd just spin more lies, my friend won't even calm down to hear my side of the story...everything is just so messed up right now.....

what I don't understand is WHY.......I mean what would she gain from this chaos she has caused.....Why are women just evil....what did I ever do to her

Elevate your thinking and get out of the rut. I don't know of any high flyer that has time for the things you talk about. People barely, barely have the time for family and themselves not to talk of friends. Wetin be friend abeg. If your relationships donot multiply effort or divide stress dump every single one of them.

It is idleness, inadequacy, immaturity, in-capacity, one malaise or the other that causes people to 'need' these folks masquerading as friends. Increase your self worth and watch the chaff fall away. Strange women with base morals will be terrified to approach you. As they say, you are what you attract.

I know women have an equal tendency to unmitigated acts of cruelty and evil but I also know what repeated and long term exposure to malaria can do to the organs so me and mosquitos cannot co-exist, so it is with low lifers.

@marveangel
Op, i will advise you to Bleep the lady....since she wants it, please give it to her , am just joking. cos at the end of the day friendship is stronger than relationship...

Op, I think your friend is weak and he allowed her lady to manipulate him...
I will advice you to stay clear of their relationship and don't try to suggest for him. He is a man and he will definitely realize his mistake, he will be the one to ask you for forgiveness.

Tell your sister to stay clear from her cos she may steal her fiance one day.

This is the reason why I don't like introducing any close pals of mine to some ladies, cos once they hook up, they will turn you to the black sheep.

Op, nor mind your friend, you know say the t0to still fresh to him(they just started dating)and e de control him..
he is still sampling it for now...
Op, don't you know the power of a woman..

Please take it easy, but try explain things to him later, he is very angry...
If it means asking one of your friends to explain things to him, pls do it.
Is very painful being labeled on what you don't know about...i feel your pain.

MrCork:
...see yor Ghana head like Somali made Umburella.....when u chase her, she was angel.....and cuz she reject u, she now a witch??

....Listen, brother...serrrriously....ama lover nota fighter...Please don't let me swaaar for u (no oofeinse)

My Guy! She aint light skin

DaBullIT:
They said I'm paranoid, well I am, that's why I preset my laptop to automatically start recording when I click a special button, I record phone calls and archive them and I record conversations with people, friends or girl friends and it has helped me a lot

Bros you have a very good point, I have this App "Automatic call recorder", Any call I make or receive is recorded real time in case of 'incasities'.

Ok

They are goodoto be locked inside the house like the muslims do

They are goodoto be locked inside the house like the muslims do,I really PITY that your friend

Why would I bring out my time reading a cooked story! Mtchewwww!

lastpage:
Good advice.... but DONT BET ON IT!

..And l will tell you WHY:

1.) Guys are known to be "unreasoning" when it comes to issue of "love" (or better still. when they are conned and phussy-whipped).

2.) The girl has figured-out long ago, that the Guy might eventually relate what happened on that day, to Kunle, when he returned

3.) the girl took a "pro-active" step to quickly poison the relationship so that whatever is said to Kunle, by his friend, would just enter through the left ear and come out through the right ear!

4.) In this kind of "game of deception", Women ALWAYS WIN..... right from the days of Adam, when Eve deceived him into joining her (and so disobeyed God)..... to eat the forbidden fruit.

Sometimes, l feel like blaming God Himself, for making "woman" out of a man's rib and putting the "Love of a Woman" in a man's heart.
Most men are "helpless" when it comes to bending to the whims and caprices of a woman....especially the one they are phucking!

Women have destroyed a lot of erstwhile very good relationship.
Thank God yours is just between friends....you need to see how some women turn a man against his mother (another woman!), or father or even between Twin-Brothers!

"Hell hath no fury like a woman......not just when she is scorned but when she is out to make mischief or evil.

The FEAR WARY OF WOMEN,... IS THE BEGINNING OF WISDOM"

Lastpage!

BTW: leave your friend for now, juts ignore him, when he is dealt the final blow and his head becomes "clear", he would remember the friend he cherished and lost.... and he woudl retrace his wayward steps back.

Nice one sir.
I just can't counter this.

ireneony:
@marveangel
Op, i will advise you to Bleep the lady....since she wants it, please give it to her , am just joking. cos at the end of the day friendship is stronger than relationship...

Op, I think your friend is weak and he allowed her lady to manipulate him...
I will advice you to stay clear of their relationship and don't try to suggest for him. He is a man and he will definitely realize his mistake, he will be the one to ask you for forgiveness.

Tell your sister to stay clear from her cos she may steal her fiance one day.

This is the reason why I don't like introducing any close pals of mine to some ladies, cos once they hook up, they will turn you to the black sheep.

Op, nor mind your friend, you know say the t0to still fresh to him(they just started dating)and e de control him..
he is still sampling it for now...
Op, don't you know the power of a woman..

Please take it easy, but try explain things to him later, he is very angry...
If it means asking one of your friends to explain things to him, pls do it.
Is very painful being labeled on what you don't know about...i feel your pain.

Honestly that's the most painful part of it....why would I suddenly wake up one morning and be labelled a deceitful friend when I didn't even make the slightest attempt to do what I'm being accused of.

Story like this happens often and on in the country where I live. Just as i type in this words here in the forum, my friend traveled to
Africa-9ja and her girl friend is almost under my custody. She had never made any attempt at me as girls from this country are known for but am aren't gonna take anything for granted. I called her four times today and each time I reported back to my friend in 9ja our discussions. This is to shield and protect myself from unnecessary frame ups. Guy the mistake you made is that, before taking the lady out for lunch or whatever, you should have rang your friend and keep him abreast of everything or inform him thereafter that you took his girl out for lunch. This would have helped the guy understand the true situation when his girl friend cooked up the lies against you. Anyway there is no need to cry over a spilled milk,just sent this report to your friend's e-mail or inbox his face book and when he reads it, am sure he gonna have a rethink and question his gf to come plain truth on what really transpired between the two of you. And if he fails to listen to you, then leave him alone with his gf and move on with life.
One day he will realize that his gf just wants him to promise her marriage if she hasn't already or quicken any plans towards that riding on the
lies against you to achieve that. In conclusion, fear of women is the beginning of wisdom.

...... and you friend may have over reacted and exaggerated. so the best thing is to call both parties, with your sister ( her friend) present and demand an explanation from your friend. Do not confront the girl yet until he is bold enough to repeat the same thing He said @ your office. Then and only then will you know the source of the story

Good luck

I wish I know your friend,I would have express my total disapointment in him. He never trusted you and did not care to here your own part of the story.

I will suggest thAt you let him be because he is more of an IDIOT than a friend....

Ur frnd is f0.0l he shud av askd in a polite way. E wan talk se e don find wife b dat o?

D lady assumed u must have discussed her moves wit Ur guy n thus tend to play safe in self defense.
Ur pal not getting d rut gist from u overreacted.
Call Ur.man n d girl n table d issue before d three if u n c Hw d girl wyf react.

nawa. o! I cnt imagine myself doing such.gal ye la ya sha

mencade4:
wraps 500 naira Igbo at once.


Ready to smoke all as i ruminate on this thread.




This is the more reason why i dont get too close to my friends' girlfriends.



Fear evil.....fear women.

CONTINUE SMOKING IGBO.

SOON, U GO SEE URSELF FOR PSYCHIATRIC HOSPITAL.

The lady is scheming for short-gun marriage, thinking she just caught mugu that will not get away, she will do anything to get rid of people who might give a download of her past to the mumu. Watch! More is coming against your sister too.

With "do you have something against a particular tribe" and the airport thing, I'm not trying to make it about tribe but, I'm 100% sure she's ibo while you are Yoruba.

Guy! Your frnd sef gt issues.
Shu!

No matter how bad his girlfriend must av painted d whole tyn 2him he wz supposed 2use his common sense (with respect to how long you guys av been close friends) to approach u 2address d issue.

I don't and won't blame the girl @all cos u shld av xpected smtyn lyk ds afta d whole Q&A session @ d restaurant.
I blame the guy who has no manner of approach and respect for u.

If I were u this is what I would do,,,,,

I will reach out to my friend and explain everything to him,, if he still doubts u ( which will most likely be the case ) tell him to meet up with u....

When u meet up come up with a plan that he should pretend to be traveling ( he can stay at ur place or a hotel)

In less than 3 days ur friend's girlfriend will call but if she doesn't, call her( make sure ur friend is listening when talking to her),, now talk to her as though u were disappointed with her,, if she was the one who told ur friend she will try to appease u.... Now arrange for a meeting between u two ( best at ur place )..... U know the rest

Why u have to go through all this stress is to save ur friend from making the mistake of marrying such a lady ( since its obvious he's love struck )...

#SaveUrFriend
Good luck

Eeyah, It must have hurt but still not all girls are like this though,this one is truly a Jezebel, nemesis will surely catch up with her.

Some girls sha

Don't worry, it's just a matter of time, she'll be exposed.

sanchezzz:
Well if u still want your friend .try and involve his people. Brother, sister anyone close to this ur guy... I think the girl likes you that's why.

C'mon, it's nt worth it. Y shd he waste his sweat over sm1 who's nt a true friend? A true friend will alws defend you no matter what. @Op, TIME and PATIENCE is all you need. Barely 2mths n d gal is like ds, u jst wait n see. Occupy ursef wt something meaningful, d sky is big enough for birds to fly wtout touching each other. Trust me, he will cm back begging by the time the girl is done wt him. So far he didn't deem it fit to ask for ur side of d story, bros abeg u owe him no explanation

Truly God want u to know that he is not your true friend. A friend should trust eachother very well and know their character very well. A lady that come at the 11th hour will now cause disharmony between U,don't let it distopped U. Run for such friend.he did not worth your friendship.

marveangel:
You know how people would say women are evil....I never used to believe it until now......what does one(a girl) profit by causing issues between two friends...this is how this daughter of jezebel came in between friends of several years.

My friend had met this his current girlfriend at my place, she's my sister's friend and course mate and they had both come to see me on a particular sunday....We were just in d sitting room talking about stuff when my friend (Kunle not his real name though) came into the house...I'm not big on formalities so I didn't bother with any introductions plus my friend already knows my sister well and again I was a little distracted, my sister and I were speaking our dialect talking about family issues..

Being the only other persons in the room I figured they just took the time to talk and get to know each other better.....About a month or two after that day my friend told me he was seeing mary(my sister's friend)...I just smiled and was like sharp guy....eventually we became close, that I figured was natural I mean she being my sister's friend and my best friends girlfriend there was no avoiding that....I had her on my BBM chat and we corresponded online every now and them, nothing serious just talk.....everything seemed okay until

Two weeks ago my friend had to leave town for some days, his mum was ill so he travelled to check up on her....Some three days after he travelled, his girlfriend came to my office to see me...I was shocked and afraid, I feared something bad happened to kunle's mom...

When I asked her what occasioned her visit..she simply stated that she had come to register her displeasure at me..she said her boyfriend had been gone for three days and I didn't bother checking up on her...(Was I supposed to do that I asked in my head?) I tried to apologise but she refuse saying she'd only accept my apology if I took her out for lunch...

So I did, we went to a nearby restaurant and ate....while we ate she just kept questioning me about my relationship, she said my sister her told her that I recently broke-up with my girlfriend and that I was sad and heartbroken...I told her I wasn't sad and miserable plus the break-up happened months ago..she asked if I had someone else in my life, I told her no...she kept asking 'why, what attracts you to girl,when do you see yourself settling down, do you have anything against any particular tribe and so on"...I barely ate my lunch....she left after lunch and I went back to my office......I thought that was all.

My friend got back some two days after, I was at the airport to pick him, as we drove back to his place we talk about stuff, good news was his mom was doing much better (I didn't mention the whole lunch with his gf friend, I didn't think twas worth talking abt)..I dropped him at home, said hello to his gf and went back to my place.....and that was the last I heard from my friend.....for over 6 days, even when I tried calling him he didn't take my calls...I was still thinking of how to go check up on him at his place when he came bagging into my office...he just stood didn't even sit.....he was shouting and pointing his finger at me warning me to stay away from his girlfriend...

He said he left town for five days and I was making moves at his girlfriend, he said I took his girlfriend to dinner and force her to kiss me and that a promised to marry her if she didn't tell him.

I was dumbfounded...I didn't even know what to say.....since when did people start having dinner around 1:30 PM....I wanted to call her but I figured she'd just spin more lies, my friend won't even calm down to hear my side of the story...everything is just so messed up right now.....

what I don't understand is WHY.......I mean what would she gain from this chaos she has caused.....Why are women just evil....what did I ever do to her

marveangel:
You know how people would say women are evil....I never used to believe it until now......what does one(a girl) profit by causing issues between two friends...this is how this daughter of jezebel came in between friends of several years.

My friend had met this his current girlfriend at my place, she's my sister's friend and course mate and they had both come to see me on a particular sunday....We were just in d sitting room talking about stuff when my friend (Kunle not his real name though) came into the house...I'm not big on formalities so I didn't bother with any introductions plus my friend already knows my sister well and again I was a little distracted, my sister and I were speaking our dialect talking about family issues..

Being the only other persons in the room I figured they just took the time to talk and get to know each other better.....About a month or two after that day my friend told me he was seeing mary(my sister's friend)...I just smiled and was like sharp guy....eventually we became close, that I figured was natural I mean she being my sister's friend and my best friends girlfriend there was no avoiding that....I had her on my BBM chat and we corresponded online every now and them, nothing serious just talk.....everything seemed okay until

Two weeks ago my friend had to leave town for some days, his mum was ill so he travelled to check up on her....Some three days after he travelled, his girlfriend came to my office to see me...I was shocked and afraid, I feared something bad happened to kunle's mom...

When I asked her what occasioned her visit..she simply stated that she had come to register her displeasure at me..she said her boyfriend had been gone for three days and I didn't bother checking up on her...(Was I supposed to do that I asked in my head?) I tried to apologise but she refuse saying she'd only accept my apology if I took her out for lunch...

So I did, we went to a nearby restaurant and ate....while we ate she just kept questioning me about my relationship, she said my sister her told her that I recently broke-up with my girlfriend and that I was sad and heartbroken...I told her I wasn't sad and miserable plus the break-up happened months ago..she asked if I had someone else in my life, I told her no...she kept asking 'why, what attracts you to girl,when do you see yourself settling down, do you have anything against any particular tribe and so on"...I barely ate my lunch....she left after lunch and I went back to my office......I thought that was all.

My friend got back some two days after, I was at the airport to pick him, as we drove back to his place we talk about stuff, good news was his mom was doing much better (I didn't mention the whole lunch with his gf friend, I didn't think twas worth talking abt)..I dropped him at home, said hello to his gf and went back to my place.....and that was the last I heard from my friend.....for over 6 days, even when I tried calling him he didn't take my calls...I was still thinking of how to go check up on him at his place when he came bagging into my office...he just stood didn't even sit.....he was shouting and pointing his finger at me warning me to stay away from his girlfriend...

He said he left town for five days and I was making moves at his girlfriend, he said I took his girlfriend to dinner and force her to kiss me and that a promised to marry her if she didn't tell him.

I was dumbfounded...I didn't even know what to say.....since when did people start having dinner around 1:30 PM....I wanted to call her but I figured she'd just spin more lies, my friend won't even calm down to hear my side of the story...everything is just so messed up right now.....

what I don't understand is WHY.......I mean what would she gain from this chaos she has caused.....Why are women just evil....what did I ever do to her

ummmmM! Am nt suprise @ all bcus afta GOD fear women Na women go plenty 4 hell fire pass oooO

marveangel:
You know how people would say women are evil....I never used to believe it until now......what does one(a girl) profit by causing issues between two friends...this is how this daughter of jezebel came in between friends of several years.

My friend had met this his current girlfriend at my place, she's my sister's friend and course mate and they had both come to see me on a particular sunday....We were just in d sitting room talking about stuff when my friend (Kunle not his real name though) came into the house...I'm not big on formalities so I didn't bother with any introductions plus my friend already knows my sister well and again I was a little distracted, my sister and I were speaking our dialect talking about family issues..

Being the only other persons in the room I figured they just took the time to talk and get to know each other better.....About a month or two after that day my friend told me he was seeing mary(my sister's friend)...I just smiled and was like sharp guy....eventually we became close, that I figured was natural I mean she being my sister's friend and my best friends girlfriend there was no avoiding that....I had her on my BBM chat and we corresponded online every now and them, nothing serious just talk.....everything seemed okay until

Two weeks ago my friend had to leave town for some days, his mum was ill so he travelled to check up on her....Some three days after he travelled, his girlfriend came to my office to see me...I was shocked and afraid, I feared something bad happened to kunle's mom...

When I asked her what occasioned her visit..she simply stated that she had come to register her displeasure at me..she said her boyfriend had been gone for three days and I didn't bother checking up on her...(Was I supposed to do that I asked in my head?) I tried to apologise but she refuse saying she'd only accept my apology if I took her out for lunch...

So I did, we went to a nearby restaurant and ate....while we ate she just kept questioning me about my relationship, she said my sister her told her that I recently broke-up with my girlfriend and that I was sad and heartbroken...I told her I wasn't sad and miserable plus the break-up happened months ago..she asked if I had someone else in my life, I told her no...she kept asking 'why, what attracts you to girl,when do you see yourself settling down, do you have anything against any particular tribe and so on"...I barely ate my lunch....she left after lunch and I went back to my office......I thought that was all.

My friend got back some two days after, I was at the airport to pick him, as we drove back to his place we talk about stuff, good news was his mom was doing much better (I didn't mention the whole lunch with his gf friend, I didn't think twas worth talking abt)..I dropped him at home, said hello to his gf and went back to my place.....and that was the last I heard from my friend.....for over 6 days, even when I tried calling him he didn't take my calls...I was still thinking of how to go check up on him at his place when he came bagging into my office...he just stood didn't even sit.....he was shouting and pointing his finger at me warning me to stay away from his girlfriend...

He said he left town for five days and I was making moves at his girlfriend, he said I took his girlfriend to dinner and force her to kiss me and that a promised to marry her if she didn't tell him.

I was dumbfounded...I didn't even know what to say.....since when did people start having dinner around 1:30 PM....I wanted to call her but I figured she'd just spin more lies, my friend won't even calm down to hear my side of the story...everything is just so messed up right now.....

what I don't understand is WHY.......I mean what would she gain from this chaos she has caused.....Why are women just evil....what did I ever do to her

forget about them and carry on with ur life since ur friend do not deem it necessary to hear ur side of the story.

una don start with una lie

so people ll read ur story u ll put true life story

what is the motive for ur friend's gf to wana set u up
from ur story u didnt ve issues with her before

see i see no motive i dont believe it

thats just a tip of the iceberg.

i lost over 13 year friendship because of a lady i met for barely a month.
this lady kept sending obvious wrong vibes to my friend, at first i thought this girl had real feelings for him which baffled me.
well my friend fell for it and asked her out.

next she called me up to report my friend to me, and ask that i keep the whole story a secret.
she probably thought that would change my stance on our relationship (which we agreed to keep emotions and love out of)

i just laughed it off inside of me and made a costly mistake of "gisting" about the whole thing with her
you know those kind of gist you say "dont mind him jare, na so e go snatch tony girlfriend etc."

after a while she took that gist back to my friend but with another context
my friend got mad and confronted me, while feeling like an angel, i had to tell him the reason i made the remark.
you called up a girl i was rolling with and asked her out.

he ended up apologizing, I would have let it pass and maintained the odd friendship but only to visit my friend one day and his whole household started beefing, from his wife to his sister started acting cold. sorry, i don't have time for oshi. i had to let the bad friend go.

Yes they are that ..one caused a big issue with me and my friend till today we have not reconciled well..this was my best friend and I am a bit cuter and this girl role him I was making passes on her

Can you imagine


Don't try convincin him ...the truth will eventually show

Its unfaithful women behave like that and just tell your sister what happened that's all and ignore him

Never you fight a man because of a woman even your wife

Just take a walk and leave him guessing