₦airaland Forum

tbaba1234:
A few weeks back, A young man of about 19-20 was caught raping an 8 year old girl. He had tied her hands and covered her mouth to prevent her from screaming. It was discovered that this had been happening for a while but the girl was afraid to tell due to the man's threats. The girl spent 4 days at the hospital after the incident.

A little background: This young man came from the village to stay with his relations in Lagos (after highschool) who were helping him find his feet in Lagos. He took advantage of their child. The girl's mum was a working mum who was not always home.

No consequences: What really upset me is the fact that there was no consequences for this man's actions. He was simply sent back to the village. An extremely soft landing.. This is probably because he was a relation but that is ridiculous.

What makes it worse, is that the boy's mother is saying the the boy would not 'do it again' and should be accepted back. Do they even understand the seriousness of the act??

I was really angry when i heard about this. These people are from the same area as me.

Parents need to be extra vigilant as there are monsters out there.

soulglo:
Report it to the police anonymously. It's the least you could do. I cannot have this kind of information and sleep at night. REPORT IT. Let the man and the child's parents smell the inside of a jail cell.
PS
Aren't medical practitioners required to report this in Nigeria. It would be a shame if this was not required by law.

aisha2:
Yes they are required too most times thats the only way the authorities find out Even then the parents will still deny, attempt to run far away with the child etc.

However not every where we call hospital is in actual sense a hospital. Some quack cleaner who has worked in a hospital goes to a semi literate community and opens up a clinic, thats rampant, did you watch the documentary on fake doctors? That is why you have so many cases which would have been saved by early detection deteriorate. Sadly our people even knowing the dangers will prefer to go to these quacks because they are faster and will do less or little if any tests at all. We don't like tests. They will argue that the man knows his " work" and few people have died there compared to real hospitals. I worked in rural communities believe me you will be shocked the risks our people take with their lives

soulglo:
Report it to the police anonymously. It's the least you could do. I cannot have this kind of information and sleep at night. REPORT IT. Let the man and the child's parents smell the inside of a jail cell.


PS
Aren't medical practitioners required to report this in Nigeria. It would be a shame if this was not required by law.

soulglo:
Report it to the police anonymously. It's the least you could do. I cannot have this kind of information and sleep at night. REPORT IT. Let the man and the child's parents smell the inside of a jail cell.


PS
Aren't medical practitioners required to report this in Nigeria. It would be a shame if this was not required by law.

mutter:
Do you really think it is a wise idea reporting such a thing in Nigeria?
The girl will be stigmatized and even blamed for what happened.

We have a culture of silence and it remains so.

She will have to deal with the pain and shame silently and alone. Better than letting it out and getting mocked and stigmatized.

As "wise ones " advice in Nigeria- it is the one you talk that people know.!

There is much more involved than just speaking out. You have to continue with counseling and special care. Victims have to be prepared to face the storm that comes with the exposure.
Will have to be helped get their self esteem back otherwise they become victims again and again in life.

Do we have all this in Nigeria?

mutter:
Do you really think it is a wise idea reporting such a thing in Nigeria?
The girl will be stigmatized and even blamed for what happened.
We have a culture of silence and it remains so.
She will have to deal with the pain and shame silently and alone. Better than letting it out and getting mocked and stigmatized.
As "wise ones " advice in Nigeria- it is the one you talk that people know.!
There is much more involved than just speaking out. You have to continue with counseling and special care. Victims have to be prepared to face the storm that comes with the exposure.
Will have to be helped get their self esteem back otherwise they become victims again and again in life.
Do we have all this in Nigeria?

Sophyrocks:
This is why i believe that Africans, specifically Nigerians, are worse than their western counterparts morally. We are too Lawless. This is how Serial rapists in the society are produced.

soulglo:
But the whole neighborhood already knows. How is it protecting the child if the rapist gets away with it. He'll likely do it again and then what? Sweep it under the rug again? We can't keep sweeping these things under the rug. It needs to be reported EVERY TIME. Child molestation is very common in Nigeria and it's because people will not talk about it. Every single one of my friends including myself was sexually abused while living in Nigeria. Everyone of us. From uncles to lesson teachers, to house helps, to pastor. You name it. I challenge you to ask any if your Nigerian female friends who lived in Nigeria if they were ever touched inappropriately. Most if not all will say yes. Many will experience this before they even turn 10. Sexual abuse can happen anywhere but it is at epidemic proportions in Nigeria because people know they can get away with it.

aisha2:
Yes they are required too most times thats the only way the authorities find out Even then the parents will still deny, attempt to run far away with the child etc.

However not every where we call hospital is in actual sense a hospital. Some quack cleaner who has worked in a hospital goes to a semi literate community and opens up a clinic, thats rampant, did you watch the documentary on fake doctors? That is why you have so many cases which would have been saved by early detection deteriorate. Sadly our people even knowing the dangers will prefer to go to these quacks because they are faster and will do less or little if any tests at all. We don't like tests. They will argue that the man knows his " work" and few p7eople have died there compared to real hospitals. I worked in rural communities believe me you will be shocked the risks our people take with their lives

mutter:
I made my own experiences with it and you are absolutely right about that. But then at the end of the day.
What does it help you if the man is locked up and you are stigmatized and traumatized.
An abused woman or girl does not have any respect in the society. Then in court they try to tear you apart.
So much more needs to be done than just punishing the abuser. The girl/ woman has to be treated mentally and phsically.

soulglo:
An abused woman has no respect in society?? Oh Lawd. Who did this to you? Don't you even see that your mind set further traumatizes the victim and empowers the rapist? Do you even sense that? I used myself as and example and shame is never something I asdociated with it. My friends mother assaulted the lesson teacher who went in her panties and had him arrested. She has no shame with it. Do you see how the way you perceive things is greatly affected by what you were indoctrinated with. You are willing to let a rapist keep raping because of "shame" that you might feel. Not even in Nigeria is this acceptable. You live in a society that protects your children from things like this but you want to just fold your arms as say "such is life in nigeria". It is not right

mutter:
This happens not only in Nigeria but everywhere in the world.
In fact in other parts of the world where the case has to go to court many victims do not report the case because they can`t deal with it. Many victims need years on end before they come out with it. They have to be ready to handle it.
You just need to understand that most people in Nigeria do not think the way you do about it.
I am just pointing out that it is not done by reporting to the police and then putting an article in the papers.

soulglo:
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we are going to have to agree to disagree on this. There's nothing that you could possibly say to make me believe that it is good idea to let a child rapist walk free. Absolutely nothing.