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Does God Choose For Us Our Life Partners? by simba1: 10:09am On Feb 06, 2015
Seriously seeking answers! Pls respond asap!
Re: Does God Choose For Us Our Life Partners? by ammyluv2002(f): 10:16am On Feb 06, 2015
Interesting topic....i need answers too
Re: Does God Choose For Us Our Life Partners? by Aybee92(m): 10:57am On Feb 06, 2015
God don't choose for us he only directs us so we don't make the wrong choices and for you to be directed by him your lyf has to be pleasing to him Ecclesiastes 7:26. If you read the book of Genesis 2:20-24 when God created the woman he brought her to the man (never impose her on him) and the man accepted her. you see God brought and man accepted dats direction

and the bible also says he who FINDs A WIFE has found a good thing and shall obtain favour from the lord....u see God has no business finding or choosing a partner for us but he only directs us...hope my answer helps

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Re: Does God Choose For Us Our Life Partners? by Tallesty1(m): 11:03am On Feb 06, 2015
I don't think so
Re: Does God Choose For Us Our Life Partners? by Sanchez01: 11:12am On Feb 06, 2015
Aybee92:
God don't choose for us he only directs us so we don't make the wrong choices and for you to be directed by him your lyf has to be pleasing to him Ecclesiastes 7:26. If you read the book of Genesis 2:20-24 when God created the woman he brought her to the man (never impose her on him) and the man accepted her. you see God brought and man accepted dats direction

and the bible also says he who FINDs A WIFE has found a good thing and shall obtain favour from the lord....u see God has no business finding or choosing a partner for us but he only directs us...hope my answer helps
Sorry to say you're wrong! God can and that is IF you place your hopes on Him in getting one, rather than have a mindset of who what the lady should look like.

God always chooses for His own. He has been in the business and He is still in it. Many will claim He stopped since the days of Adam because Adam blamed God for his misfortune "The woman that thou gave to me..." Regardless, He led Isaac, Hosea and several others. True, the Sriptures says "He who finds a wife..." but that still does not imply that we must never ask Him to decide for us, hence, the prayer "let your will be done" comes into play.

Most people today already have a picture of how they would love their spouse or partner to be like and they would never allow a thing to compromise that perfect picture of they have in mind. Such persons may never find the right one because when God sends that person who would compliment them, they may overlook God's choice because they perceive it's below par. God will always choose for those who throw everything to him, particularly in this dispensation of the Holy Spirit.

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Re: Does God Choose For Us Our Life Partners? by ammyluv2002(f): 11:23am On Feb 06, 2015
Sanchez01:

Sorry to say you're wrong! God can and that is IF you place your hopes on Him in getting one, rather than have a mindset of who what the lady should look like.

God always chooses for His own. He has been in the business and He is still in it. Many will claim He stopped since the days of Adam because Adam blamed God for his misfortune "The woman that thou gave to me..." Regardless, He led Isaac, Hosea and several others. True, the Sriptures says "He who finds a wife..." but that still does not imply that we must never ask Him to decide for us, hence, the prayer "let your will be done" comes into play.

Most people today already have a picture of how they would love their spouse or partner to be like and they would never allow a thing to compromise that perfect picture of they have in mind. Such persons may never find the right one because when God sends that person who would compliment them, they may overlook God's choice because they perceive it's below par. God will always choose for those who throw everything to him, particularly in this dispensation of the Holy Spirit.
Wow

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Re: Does God Choose For Us Our Life Partners? by lastmessenger: 11:36am On Feb 06, 2015
Any girl that my heart accept will be wife.how can I tell that God gave her to me?
Re: Does God Choose For Us Our Life Partners? by Sanchez01: 11:39am On Feb 06, 2015
ammyluv2002:
Wow
smiley smiley... Imagine this scenario, years back, parents would choose for their kids because it was the norm and tradition supported it. After several years, most people of marriageable age kicked against the idea of choosing for them because 'they want their maximized happiness'. While it must be noted that nothing is wrong with the latter, as a matter of fact, it's far more better than the first but could the same be said of God? Civilization and the inability to understand the way God works has caused many to be that it's only when they find that true happiness can come. God is our Father and by adoption we enjoy the full benefit of Sonship. Now imagine this, if perhaps you tell this Father to give you someone to settle with, do you think he will give you just anyone or send you someone that will make even dark days seem bright?

James states that "Every good gifts and every perfect gift is from above..." while God asserts that "I know the thoughts I have towards you; the thoughts of good and not of evil..." With these, we should know what God has in store...

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Re: Does God Choose For Us Our Life Partners? by Aybee92(m): 11:39am On Feb 06, 2015
Sanchez01:

Sorry to say you're wrong! God can and that is IF you place your hopes on Him in getting one, rather than have a mindset of who what the lady should look like.

God always chooses for His own. He has been in the business and He is still in it. Many will claim He stopped since the days of Adam because Adam blamed God for his misfortune "The woman that thou gave to me..." Regardless, He led Isaac, Hosea and several others. True, the Sriptures says "He who finds a wife..." but that still does not imply that we must never ask Him to decide for us, hence, the prayer "let your will be done" comes into play.

Most people today already have a picture of how they would love their spouse or partner to be like and they would never allow a thing to compromise that perfect picture of they have in mind. Such persons may never find the right one because when God sends that person who would compliment them, they may overlook God's choice because they perceive it's below par. God will always choose for those who throw everything to him, particularly in this dispensation of the Holy Spirit.
I agree with you to some extent BT mind you God did not choose eve for Adam as a wife he only brought her the way he brought oda creature to Adam to be named.study genesis 2:20-24...I still stand on God don't choose for us he only directs remember God created man and gave him a free will.

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Re: Does God Choose For Us Our Life Partners? by Sanchez01: 11:40am On Feb 06, 2015
lastmessenger:
Any girl that my heart accepts will be wife. Now how can I tell that God have her to me?
Please rearrange your post. I can't seem to understand it.
Re: Does God Choose For Us Our Life Partners? by ammyluv2002(f): 11:48am On Feb 06, 2015
Aybee92:
I agree with you to some extent BT mind you God did not choose eve for Adam as a wife he only brought her the way he brought oda creature to Adam to be named.study genesis 2:20-24...I still stand on God don't choose for us he only directs remember God created man and gave him a free will.
well, you're right to a point....God, didn't choose for Issac and Jacob rather He directed them. I believe they're guidelines in the bible for any believer that wants to get married but Sanchez01 is right, once we let Him decide/choose for us then He comes in and decide a particular spouse especially if He's really interested in your case
Re: Does God Choose For Us Our Life Partners? by Aybee92(m): 11:51am On Feb 06, 2015
lastmessenger:
Any girl that my heart accept will be wife.how can I tell that God gave her to me?
Isa 30:21 say Whether you turn to the right or to the left, your ears will hear a voice behind you, saying, "This is the way; walk in it...how u will know is there will be a conviction in your spirit.mind your u cannot know d will of God if your lyf is not pleasing to him and his will should have a higher priority than yours by this d lord will direct you to choosing the right partner

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Re: Does God Choose For Us Our Life Partners? by ammyluv2002(f): 11:51am On Feb 06, 2015
Sanchez01:
smiley smiley... Imagine this scenario, years back, parents would choose for their kids because it was the norm and tradition supported it. After several years, most people of marriageable age kicked against the idea of choosing for them because 'they want their maximized happiness'. While it must be noted that nothing is wrong with the latter, as a matter of fact, it's far more better than the first but could the same be said of God? Civilization and the inability to understand the way God works has caused many to be that it's only when they find that true happiness can come. God is our Father and by adoption we enjoy the full benefit of Sonship. Now imagine this, if perhaps you tell this Father to give you someone to settle with, do you think he will give you just anyone or send you someone that will make even dark days seem bright?

James states that "Every good gifts and every perfect gift is from above..." while God asserts that "I know the thoughts I have towards you; the thoughts of good and not of evil..." With these, we should know what God has in store...

True
Re: Does God Choose For Us Our Life Partners? by Sanchez01: 11:52am On Feb 06, 2015
Aybee92:
I agree with you to some extent BT mind you God did not choose eve for Adam as a wife he only brought her the way he brought oda creature to Adam to be named.study genesis 2:20-24...I still stand on God don't choose for us he only directs remember God created man and gave him a free will.

Gen 2:18 "And the Lord God said: it is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him" Note the word 'help'. The Hebrew word is 'Ezar' or 'Ezer' to serve as a companion. God created all creatures in two but not the man. Let's go back a bit, shall we?

Gen 1:28 "And God blessed the man and said to him, be fruitful an multiply; fill the earth and subdue it..." Please note that God had not formed the woman then. He did so in Gen 2:21.

Now note Gen 2:23 "And Adam said: This is now bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman for she was taken out of a man."

Gen 2:24 was not Adam's statement but note, "Therefore shall a MAN leave his father and his mother and shall cleave unto his WIFE and they shall become ONE FLESH."

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Re: Does God Choose For Us Our Life Partners? by Sanchez01: 11:54am On Feb 06, 2015
Aybee92:
Isa 30:21 say Whether you turn to the right or to the left, your ears will hear a voice behind you, saying, "This is the way; walk in it...how u will know is there will be a conviction in your spirit.mind your u cannot know d will of God if your lyf is not pleasing to him and his will should have a higher priority than yours by this d lord will direct you to choosing the right partner
Thank you for this. This also explains why I said we're in the dispensation of the Holy Spirit. He walks with those who are ready and is willing to make the choices for you. The power to reject or accept falls on the fellow, not God.
Re: Does God Choose For Us Our Life Partners? by Aybee92(m): 11:55am On Feb 06, 2015
ammyluv2002:
well, you're right to a point....God, didn't choose for Issac and Jacob rather He directed them. I believe they're guidelines in the bible for any believer that wants to get married but Sanchez01 is right, once we let Him decide/choose for us then He comes in and decide a particular spouse especially if He's really interested in your case
yea bt I can't remember or have not read before or have not seen any occasion in the bible where God choose a wife for anybody
Re: Does God Choose For Us Our Life Partners? by Aybee92(m): 11:56am On Feb 06, 2015
Sanchez01:

Thank you for this. This also explains why I said we're in the dispensation of the Holy Spirit. He walks with those who are ready and is willing to make the choices for you. The power to reject or accept falls on the fellow, not God.
yea bro now u get my point
Re: Does God Choose For Us Our Life Partners? by lastmessenger: 12:15pm On Feb 06, 2015
Aybee92:
Isa 30:21 say Whether you turn to the right or to the left, your ears will hear a voice behind you, saying, "This is the way; walk in it...how u will know is there will be a conviction in your spirit.mind your u cannot know d will of God if your lyf is not pleasing to him and his will should have a higher priority than yours by this d lord will direct you to choosing the right partner
I have never heard the voice of God since I was born except the one That is in the bible. I keep wondering how those who claim to hear his voice achieve that.

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Re: Does God Choose For Us Our Life Partners? by frank317: 12:20pm On Feb 06, 2015
Aybee92:
God don't choose for us he only directs us so we don't make the wrong choices and for you to be directed by him your lyf has to be pleasing to him Ecclesiastes 7:26. If you read the book of Genesis 2:20-24 when God created the woman he brought her to the man (never impose her on him) and the man accepted her. you see God brought and man accepted dats direction

and the bible also says he who FINDs A WIFE has found a good thing and shall obtain favour from the lord....u see God has no business finding or choosing a partner for us but he only directs us...hope my answer helps

U Christians are fond of contradicting yourself with jargons. U reject a statement and still turnaround to accept the same statement. How does the above make sense to u.

If God has no business finding a partner for us, what is he doing directing you to a partner? Pls differentiate between directing you to a partner and finding a partner for you?
Re: Does God Choose For Us Our Life Partners? by frank317: 12:24pm On Feb 06, 2015
Sanchez01:

Sorry to say you're wrong! God can and that is IF you place your hopes on Him in getting one, rather than have a mindset of who what the lady should look like.

God always chooses for His own. He has been in the business and He is still in it. Many will claim He stopped since the days of Adam because Adam blamed God for his misfortune "The woman that thou gave to me..." Regardless, He led Isaac, Hosea and several others. True, the Sriptures says "He who finds a wife..." but that still does not imply that we must never ask Him to decide for us, hence, the prayer "let your will be done" comes into play.

Most people today already have a picture of how they would love their spouse or partner to be like and they would never allow a thing to compromise that perfect picture of they have in mind. Such persons may never find the right one because when God sends that person who would compliment them, they may overlook God's choice because they perceive it's below par. God will always choose for those who throw everything to him, particularly in this dispensation of the Holy Spirit.

Stop confusing yourself with long meaningless stories. Pls how does God chose a wife for us? Did God chose your mother for your father? If yes tell us how. If no, tell us why.
Re: Does God Choose For Us Our Life Partners? by frank317: 12:30pm On Feb 06, 2015
Sanchez01:
smiley smiley... Imagine this scenario, years back, parents would choose for their kids because it was the norm and tradition supported it. After several years, most people of marriageable age kicked against the idea of choosing for them because 'they want their maximized happiness'. While it must be noted that nothing is wrong with the latter, as a matter of fact, it's far more better than the first but could the same be said of God? Civilization and the inability to understand the way God works has caused many to be that it's only when they find that true happiness can come. God is our Father and by adoption we enjoy the full benefit of Sonship. Now imagine this, if perhaps you tell this Father to give you someone to settle with, do you think he will give you just anyone or send you someone that will make even dark days seem bright?

James states that "Every good gifts and every perfect gift is from above..." while God asserts that "I know the thoughts I have towards you; the thoughts of good and not of evil..." With these, we should know what God has in store...


Your God didn't create any perfect being.... So when you ask him for a wife he selects from the various perfect beings he created and give you someone to manage. At the end of the day you still work hard to live with that person... How is the person the God sent?

It is sometimes good for you guys to listen to yourself when u rant.

How do we differentiate a marriage directed by God and one that is not directed by God?
Re: Does God Choose For Us Our Life Partners? by timijoseph01(m): 12:31pm On Feb 06, 2015
Sanchez01:

Sorry to say you're wrong! God can and that is IF you place your hopes on Him in getting one, rather than have a mindset of who what the lady should look like.

God always chooses for His own. He has been in the business and He is still in it. Many will claim He stopped since the days of Adam because Adam blamed God for his misfortune "The woman that thou gave to me..." Regardless, He led Isaac, Hosea and several others. True, the Sriptures says "He who finds a wife..." but that still does not imply that we must never ask Him to decide for us, hence, the prayer "let your will be done" comes into play.

Most people today already have a picture of how they would love their spouse or partner to be like and they would never allow a thing to compromise that perfect picture of they have in mind. Such persons may never find the right one because when God sends that person who would compliment them, they may overlook God's choice because they perceive it's below par. God will always choose for those who throw everything to him, particularly in this dispensation of the Holy Spirit.

You should have it in mind dat revolution has occured.. Back in our fore-fathers time,, they marry wifes even when love doesnt exist n maintain a perfect relationship witout any break-up..
But now,, dat doesnt work.. If u marry any1 u dnt love, d marriage is flawed n might crash in no time..
Now u mean if God gives mie a lady i dnt av feelings for not even love,, i shud jst go ahead..?? Dnt u think dat z why marriages crashes today..??
Itz ur wife not God's..!!
Itz a lifetime decision not God will live it 4 u..!!
Re: Does God Choose For Us Our Life Partners? by frank317: 12:33pm On Feb 06, 2015
lastmessenger:

I have never heard the voice of God since I was born except the one That is in the bible. I keep wondering how those who claim to hear his voice achieve that.

Even those who claim they heard his voice know they are lying.
Re: Does God Choose For Us Our Life Partners? by lastmessenger: 12:39pm On Feb 06, 2015
frank317:


Even those who claim they heard his voice know they are lying.
How are you sure they are lying?
Re: Does God Choose For Us Our Life Partners? by frank317: 12:48pm On Feb 06, 2015
lastmessenger:

How are you sure they are lying?

Yes I am sure because when I question such people, all I hear is subjective experience. They just felt something and claim its the voice of God. Non knows the texture of his sound, non can describe anything about it. Its all hogwash.
Re: Does God Choose For Us Our Life Partners? by Amhappy(f): 12:49pm On Feb 06, 2015
frank317:


Even those who claim they heard his voice know they are lying.


Ahhh Frank how do you know they are lying? You are a writer of fiction and should know that everything is possible. Why not try it,Ask God to speak to you.
Re: Does God Choose For Us Our Life Partners? by lastmessenger: 1:03pm On Feb 06, 2015
frank317:


Yes I am sure because when I question such people, all I hear is subjective experience. They just felt something and claim its the voice of God. Non knows the texture of his sound, non can describe anything about it. Its all hogwash.
Well I can talk of what I know. If someone claims he head from God, I will not be quick to dismiss his claims.

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Re: Does God Choose For Us Our Life Partners? by frank317: 1:03pm On Feb 06, 2015
Amhappy:



Ahhh Frank how do you know they are lying? You are a writer of fiction and should know that everything is possible. Why not try it,Ask God to speak to you.

Yes, I am a fiction writer and therefore know that the mind is capable of so many things. What if I tell you that it is God that is telling me what to write in all my stories, would you believe me?

Lol...ask God to speak with me? Ok, God speak to me!!!!

God does not speak to anyone.
Re: Does God Choose For Us Our Life Partners? by MrPresident1: 1:20pm On Feb 06, 2015
simba1:
Seriously seeking answers! Pls respond asap!

You think anything happens in this world without God's knowledge?

Yes, God chooses life partners for us.
Re: Does God Choose For Us Our Life Partners? by Aybee92(m): 1:25pm On Feb 06, 2015
frank317:


U Christians are fond of contradicting yourself with jargons. U reject a statement and still turnaround to accept the same statement. How does the above make sense to u.

If God has no business finding a partner for us, what is he doing directing you to a partner? Pls differentiate between directing you to a partner and finding a partner for you?
bros God created man and give him free will either to walk in righteousness or unrighteousness that's why Joshua said to s Israelites that I set before your life and death and he said choose life that u may live....DAT is exactly wat God does he only directs us by showin us d ryt part BT d decision of following d ryt way solely depends on d individual....hope u get me
Re: Does God Choose For Us Our Life Partners? by Aybee92(m): 1:28pm On Feb 06, 2015
lastmessenger:

I have never heard the voice of God since I was born except the one That is in the bible. I keep wondering how those who claim to hear his voice achieve that.
der r different way we here from God through his word (d bible) ,through dreams, revelation, prophecies etc
Re: Does God Choose For Us Our Life Partners? by frank317: 2:11pm On Feb 06, 2015
Aybee92:
bros God created man and give him free will either to walk in righteousness or unrighteousness that's why Joshua said to s Israelites that I set before your life and death and he said choose life that u may live....DAT is exactly wat God does he only directs us by showin us d ryt part BT d decision of following d ryt way solely depends on d individual....hope u get me

No, I don't get you.

Directing us makes no sense if the decision is still for us to make.

Let me ask you...

1. Are we capable of making the right decision?

2. If God directs us and we still don't follow his directions... Is there a possibility we might make the right choice despite not following Gods direction? I.e can we make the right choice without following God's direction?

3. Why is God's direction dependent on our decision? I.e why does Gods directions dependent on us before it can make sense? I ask because most Christian say even if we marry the wife God gave us, we still need to make the right choices before we reap the benefit of our Good wife.

4. How does God direct us?

Pls answer these four questions for me. Be on point and don't gonin circles.l

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