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Re: When You Are Not Sexually Compartible With Your Partner by haryomikun(m): 11:24pm On Feb 13, 2015 |
elantraceey:Dis new nairalander sef Girl, what is affecting him is psychological. It doesn't matter whether its same punny she has other girls have |
Re: When You Are Not Sexually Compartible With Your Partner by passionate88: 11:27pm On Feb 13, 2015 |
Dyt:Story!!!... Dyt, I catch you today... Why u dey talk like this na?, so size doesn't matter again? |
Re: When You Are Not Sexually Compartible With Your Partner by Dyt(f): 11:42pm On Feb 13, 2015 |
passionate88: When did size become issue? Even the man with a thumb size won't go in if not lubricated. Feelings goes a long way |
Re: When You Are Not Sexually Compartible With Your Partner by passionate88: 11:51pm On Feb 13, 2015 |
Dyt:It's not about going in... Does sixe matters? |
Re: When You Are Not Sexually Compartible With Your Partner by Dyt(f): 11:54pm On Feb 13, 2015 |
passionate88: Noooooo Doesn't mean u shldd have that of a horse n call it normal |
Re: When You Are Not Sexually Compartible With Your Partner by passionate88: 12:12am On Feb 14, 2015 |
Dyt:Ok o... Happy val sha.. |
Re: When You Are Not Sexually Compartible With Your Partner by TV01(m): 12:48am On Feb 14, 2015 |
carefreewannabe:Who has ever stressed an expensive or celebratory wedding ceremony as fundamental or even essential for marriage? Reject marriage if you choose, but please spare us the abject mewling. carefreewannabe:He'll probably die before you as is often the case , but jokes aside, if you don't know that it's the commitment to love, not a dewy-eyed feeling of being in love, that sustains a marriage. Anyway sha, you are probably saving 2 people a lot of grief by not marrying. carefreewannabe:You are funny-sad in how you look for reasons against. The commitment to serve, love and care for someone makes you take them for granted, but "commitment-free fornication"doesn't. Let me guess; "marriage is just a piece of paper?" Funnily-sad, hilariously-tragic carefreewannabe:Because the stats showing that less than 1 in 10 married couples are likely to split up (I think by the time the kids reach 5), as opposed to 4 in 10 non-married and 6 in 10 non-cohabiting, clearly show otherwise and don't please you, you'd rather go with what you like too think? You censoriously, almost religiously/legally say "you better stay together", but those who formally take this on themselves of their own volition via marriage, you deride? You are carrying something woman. Let it go, deal with it, then give utterance. This is just carping carefreewannabe:So? Many are deliriously happy - many people probably failed to graduate in your field, did that deter you at all? Or did it make you run around dissuading people from studying it? carefreewannabe:So? As above. All the reasons for this are clear. Simply avoid them. Or with your freedom, choice, education and social justice is that too much of an ask . People with non of those advantages have happy marriages. carefreewannabe:You really don't get it do you? No one "compels" anyone - it's a mutual desire. And when backed by the willingness to commit wholeheartedly. You simply don;t believe you are worthy or will find anyomne that will have that for you so defensively reject it And you certainly don't sound free - you sound bound by fear, hesitancy, and the inability to give or commit yourself fully. And most of all incapable of putting anyone else needs - including childrens - above your own. At best you sound like you don;t have the wherewithal to get the kind of man you really want - hence your predilection with soft porn . You'll make a great spinster aunt ! carefreewannabe:Actually you have nothing to give a man who understands, is worthy and desirous of marriage. carefreewannabe:Discouraging the faint-hearted or incapable is not necessarily a bad thing. If he is up for it he'll get there with or without your drivel. Angry? No Carefreewannabe, as a marriage advocate and testifier, I'm just plain sad at your utter lack of understanding and your insistence on traducing what you do not know and sound like you can't comprehend in principle or in practice. TV 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: When You Are Not Sexually Compartible With Your Partner by Dallazday(m): 12:54am On Feb 14, 2015 |
carefreewannabe:madam, E never do? |
Re: When You Are Not Sexually Compartible With Your Partner by Nobody: 6:54am On Feb 14, 2015 |
Ok incompatible for sex again? Never heard of that, OP tell me something biko make I dey learn. |
Re: When You Are Not Sexually Compartible With Your Partner by Seemyfather(m): 7:04am On Feb 14, 2015 |
Grendel: Imagine, that means say you don dey cheat on her tay-tay. Imaging her telling you that if she dey do am for outside na enjoyment beyound doubt as well. What would do or say as well? I just wish say she is here to read/reading your post and comments now. |
Re: When You Are Not Sexually Compartible With Your Partner by Grendel(m): 7:27am On Feb 14, 2015 |
Seemyfather:Thanks bro. I'm sure you did not read the part where I stated she denied me of having sex with her after four good months. She forced me to play away match. |
Re: When You Are Not Sexually Compartible With Your Partner by fuckerholic(m): 7:47am On Feb 14, 2015 |
carefreewannabe: carefreewannabe..you badt |
Re: When You Are Not Sexually Compartible With Your Partner by LazyGod(m): 7:56am On Feb 14, 2015 |
These three questions are fundamental in dealing with your case: 1. Did she have any CS issue before meeting you or during delivery of your kid? 2. Has this problem been from the onset or started half way circumstantially? 3. Do you know the difference between love-making and having sex? Let's diagnose before prescribing |
Re: When You Are Not Sexually Compartible With Your Partner by Nobody: 8:40am On Feb 14, 2015 |
TV01: TV, the amount spent on the ceremony does not even matter. It's a waste of money to me whether it's cheap or expensive and it is stressful. He'll probably die before you as is often the case , but jokes aside, if you don't know that it's the commitment to love, not a dewy-eyed feeling of being in love, that sustains a marriage. Anyway sha, you are probably saving 2 people a lot of grief by not marrying. I am not a little girl TV, I know the difference between love and infatuation but I still don't get why I need a marriage certificate to consciously choose to love someone and why I should not leave if I cannot live up to this expectation. And yes, you are right, TV, I am possibly saving people from grief by not marrying instead of making promises that I am not sure I can keep in 10, 20 or 30 years. I never make promises I am not sure I can keep. You are funny-sad in how you look for reasons against. The commitment to serve, love and care for someone makes you take them for granted, but "commitment-free fornication"doesn't. Let me guess; "marriage is just a piece of paper?" Funnily-sad, hilariously-tragic It is not just a piece of paper. It is meaningful to people like you and I respect it. And it also has some advantages. Married people enjoy some privileges when it comes to taxes, for example. There are more advantages but there are also ways to profit from them without a marriage certificate. De-facto or informal marriages are also recognized in more and more countries. Because the stats showing that less than 1 in 10 married couples are likely to split up (I think by the time the kids reach 5), as opposed to 4 in 10 non-married and 6 in 10 non-cohabiting, clearly show otherwise and don't please you, you'd rather go with what you like too think? I find this interesting, it would be nice if you provided the source for the numbers. For me, the argument you put forward here that married people are less likely to split up is not an advantage per se. It also means that marriage and the cost of divorce makes people stay in unhealthy marriages, not always but often. This is one of the reasons why I don't like that idea. You censoriously, almost religiously/legally say "you better stay together", but those who formally take this on themselves of their own volition via marriage, you deride? You are carrying something woman. Let it go, deal with it, then give utterance. This is just carping They take it on themselves to stay together forever, not until their kids are able to live their own lives, that's a big difference. They also take it on themselves to do stay together no matter what, which can be unhealthy. So? Many are deliriously happy - many people probably failed to graduate in your field, did that deter you at all? Or did it make you run around dissuading people from studying it? I don't dissuade nobody from marrying. I encourage different life-styles that suit different people and their individual personalities. I am pro-choice, not pro-force. I embrace pluralistic societies. So? As above. All the reasons for this are clear. Simply avoid them. Or with your freedom, choice, education and social justice is that too much of an ask . People with non of those advantages have happy marriages. The rising number of divorces shows me that promises can be broken. The high number of unhappy marriages, there are many, shows me that too many people are unable to live up to the vows they took. I can't take such promises seriously. You really don't get it do you? No one "compels" anyone - it's a mutual desire. And when backed by the willingness to commit wholeheartedly. You simply don;t believe you are worthy or will find anyomne that will have that for you so defensively reject it They desire it today and reject it tomorrow. Yeah, right. And you certainly don't sound free - you sound bound by fear, hesitancy, and the inability to give or commit yourself fully. And most of all incapable of putting anyone else needs - including childrens - above your own. At best you sound like you don;t have the wherewithal to get the kind of man you really want - hence your predilection with soft porn . You'll make a great spinster aunt ! No, I am the only person I will ever FULLY commit to. I love myself too much to put anyone's needs above my own. That's the secret to my happiness. Even my children's needs will only be put above mine for a limited period of time. Yeah, TV, I am fat, ugly and old and men are not interested in me, that's why I talk the way I do. I am an old, desperate cargo. Moreover, I have a bad personality, I don't take corrections and I nag. Oh, and I don't know how to cook. Soft-porn is the only way I can enjoy men. Funny though, how the "soft-porn pictures" make you guys sweat and give each other advice on how to keep fit. Actually you have nothing to give a man who understands, is worthy and desirous of marriage. Exactly. Discouraging the faint-hearted or incapable is not necessarily a bad thing. If he is up for it he'll get there with or without your drivel. Ok. Angry? No Carefreewannabe, as a marriage advocate and testifier, I'm just plain sad at your utter lack of understanding and your insistence on traducing what you do not know and sound like you can't comprehend in principle or in practice. I have a lot of understanding for those who choose marriage and I respect their choice, just that it is not mine and I want people to choose for themselves, and not be forced to go for something people tell them to even though it too often turns out to be a living hell. 3 Likes |
Re: When You Are Not Sexually Compartible With Your Partner by Etizz: 10:18am On Feb 14, 2015 |
Adult Only please.... Not all girls are sex freak, since u have such kinda woman, here is what u do, during sex, make sure she gets really wet by sucking and licking all her weak points, like breast, kitten, ears, before u insert your d!ck, den wen u insert your d!ck, make sure u go slow and steady concentrate so u don't come immediately, take your time, don't hit her hard, make sure she come, when she wanna come she will be d one asking u to hit her hard, den u know what to do, ..... Trust me, she will wanna have more of u over n over again...... Don't ever make d mistake to leave or cheat on her, ...... Thanks |
Re: When You Are Not Sexually Compartible With Your Partner by pinky1974: 10:40am On Feb 14, 2015 |
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Re: When You Are Not Sexually Compartible With Your Partner by girl4rmspace(f): 10:50am On Feb 14, 2015 |
Dyt:lol , why insult him like dat na.......i think he's trying 2 say his wife is boring on bed and dsnt like sex.....which rili cud put a guy off.....especially the pains she complains about during sex........its neither his fault nor d wifes, its just an unfortunate situation. |
Re: When You Are Not Sexually Compartible With Your Partner by MyMentor: 12:08pm On Feb 14, 2015 |
If she do feels pain, den, she nids treatmnt, she is infectd. |
Re: When You Are Not Sexually Compartible With Your Partner by TV01(m): 7:47pm On Feb 14, 2015 |
carefreewannabe:This remains a non-point. Couples are free to have a registry only wedding - or even solemnize it traditionally with scarce all fuss and at minimal cost if they so choose. carefreewannabe:I demur Carefree - it's not the difference between love and infatuation, it's the difference between love and a selfless commitment carefreewannabe:If you think you can, you probably can, and if you believe you can't you probably won't - as we say in the world of coaching. How wonderful to be able to avail oneself of His grace ! Liberals using the pretext of social justice to hide their personal and moral weaknesses ! carefreewannabe:That's just it, you don't really respect it, you insidiously deride it - "meaningful to people like me", how haughty. Nope, most Western countries have removed taxed breaks/allowances for married couples. And you still don't get it if you feel that tax breaks really sway those who truly understand marriage - if they levy a tax against it sef, those with understanding will still marry ! carefreewannabe:http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2004878/Unmarried-parents-6-times-likely-split-time-child-5.html http://www.melaniephillips.com/this-is-another-blow-to-marriage http://dailysignal.com/2015/02/13/5-facts-cohabitation-may-not-know/ - barely a day old! carefreewannabe:Supposition. Co-habbing is unhealthier by all indications & more pathological in all ramifications; they tend to be more violent, poorer, and even more drugged. The truth is you simply trash marriage because you don't have the wherewithal to face it's responsibilities. I've noticed - and not always commented - on your sly digs. There was a post recently where you claimed the current number of divorces is probably equally to what would have been unhappy marriages in the past. That is outrageous - yet you ask for sources when others make axiomatic claims carefreewannabe:Utter nonsense - all the studies show that traditional marriage remains by far and away the healthiest relationship type for both women and children - dig out any factual/scientific study to the contrary. Divorce affects adult children as well. Even those long since flown the nest ! And the the commitment to stay together means they are less likely to split-up for frivolous reasons. Childbirth actually prompts splitting up amongst many co-habbing couples! carefreewannabe:More falsehood - I've asked you numerous times to expound on the benefits of your "relationship type". And feel free to do so for the "different lifestyles" you harp on about. Your focus is always on your perceived failings of marriage and why you reject it. Don't justify your relationship by deceitfully trashing marriage - sell it on it'sown merits. carefreewannabe:What has that to do with your commitment to keep any vows you make? Or the rising tide of obesity means it's inevitable you turn into a lard-ass ? carefreewannabe:Your promises, your commitment Carefree. With all your freedom, emancipation, education and choice, you are still not self-determinant? O strong woman who does not bend to societies dictates or live for anyone else - can't marry because other people sometimes fail at it? Pathetic! carefreewannabe:Infatuation - Feeling love - commitment to love. I think I missed out solipsism & narcissism ! carefreewannabe:Yet you'd marry Emmanuel Neuer at the drop of a hat - what anyone is, is relative, but it seems relative to what you desire, you are truly lacking - find your level ! carefreewannabe:Don't feel too bad - you are in good company amongst NL' assorted divorcees, burger-married, willfull single mums, pre-menopausal harridans, damaged goods, serial abuse victims, old cargoes, beta-tied slatterns and past their sell by date singles. Just thought you could do better ! carefreewannabe:Hardly - I am superbly fit - evidenced here - and we've talked exercise repeatedly prior to those pics. Keep obsessing over photoshopped gay iconography ! carefreewannabe:Not true - you are always slyly rubbishing marriage - self-evident by your refusal to acknowledge it is simply the best and most profitable male/female union. To society, the couple, their lineages and any offspring. You don't have to buy into it yourself, and nobody is forced to marry so why the campaign against it ? TV 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: When You Are Not Sexually Compartible With Your Partner by Nobody: 6:34am On Feb 15, 2015 |
TV01: And couples are free to live without a marriage certificate whether you like it or not. I demur Carefree - it's not the difference between love and infatuation, it's the difference between love and a selfless commitment I can but I don't want to. And you are not in the position to judge me. That's just it, you don't really respect it, you insidiously deride it - "meaningful to people like me", how haughty. Sorry if you have this impression. Nope, most Western countries have removed taxed breaks/allowances for married couples. And you still don't get it if you feel that tax breaks really sway those who truly understand marriage - if they levy a tax against it sef, those with understanding will still marry ! Which countries? http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2004878/Unmarried-parents-6-times-likely-split-time-child-5.html I am sure these unhealthy, poor, violent couples would have found remedy in marriage. What kind of logic is that? I've noticed - and not always commented - on your sly digs. There was a post recently where you claimed the current number of divorces is probably equally to what would have been unhappy marriages in the past. That is outrageous - yet you ask for sources when others make axiomatic claims This is what I believe. Utter nonsense - all the studies show that traditional marriage remains by far and away the healthiest relationship type for both women and children - dig out any factual/scientific study to the contrary. Divorce affects adult children as well. Even those long since flown the nest ! So do unhealthy marriages. And the the commitment to stay together means they are less likely to split-up for frivolous reasons. Childbirth actually prompts splitting up amongst many co-habbing couples! It also prompts divorce. More falsehood - I've asked you numerous times to expound on the benefits of your "relationship type". And feel free to do so for the "different lifestyles" you harp on about. Your focus is always on your perceived failings of marriage and why you reject it. Don't justify your relationship by deceitfully trashing marriage - sell it on it'sown merits. Not going to happen as long as people are made to believe fairytales about marriage. What has that to do with your commitment to keep any vows you make? Or the rising tide of obesity means it's inevitable you turn into a lard-ass ? Millions of people were naive enough to take vows they couldn't keep. Who am I to believe that it's realistic to live up to a promise for 20,30,40, 50 years? Your promises, your commitment Carefree. With all your freedom, emancipation, education and choice, you are still not self-determinant? O strong woman who does not bend to societies dictates or live for anyone else - can't marry because other people sometimes fail at it? Pathetic! Were you not the one screaming ad hominem not long ago? Let me tell you something, now that we are at it, for people who had difficulties finding a spouse marriage is an achievement. For people who have a lot of choices, it isn't. Infatuation - Feeling love - commitment to love. I think I missed out solipsism & narcissism ! I am committed to loving myself. As a Christian you should know that this is necessary to love your neighbor. Maybe if you understood that loving oneself first is necessary to love others, you would be able to meet the expectations your faith requires of you, you are far from it in my opinion. Yet you'd marry Emmanuel Neuer at the drop of a hat - what anyone is, is relative, but it seems relative to what you desire, you are truly lacking - find your level ! Are you jealous? Don't feel too bad - you are in good company amongst NL' assorted divorcees, burger-married, willfull single mums, pre-menopausal harridans, damaged goods, serial abuse victims, old cargoes, beta-tied slatterns and past their sell by date singles. Just thought you could do better ! Christians throwing stones since 1 AD. Hardly - I am superbly fit - evidenced here - and we've talked exercise repeatedly prior to those pics. Keep obsessing over photoshopped gay iconography ! It must have really hurt you guys. Sorry. Not true - you are always slyly rubbishing marriage - self-evident by your refusal to acknowledge it is simply the best and most profitable male/female union. To society, the couple, their lineages and any offspring. You don't have to buy into it yourself, and nobody is forced to marry so why the campaign against it ? I will campaign against it as long as you will feed people fairy-tales. Fair enough. |
Re: When You Are Not Sexually Compartible With Your Partner by baralatie(m): 11:16am On Feb 15, 2015 |
dasparrow:until her eyes clear well,well! every1 is entitled to a road! |
Re: When You Are Not Sexually Compartible With Your Partner by TV01(m): 9:52pm On Feb 15, 2015 |
Carefreewannabe, you are all at sea, no facts or figures, no cogent arguments, no principled positions, no real insights - just a pathological dislike of marriage dressed up as emancipation and enlightened thinking. I respond because you are dangerous not because your posts actually merit it. carefreewannabe:No one asserted to the contrary or disputed this . All I've done is champion marriage "the superior model" ! Further, this arose do to your rejecting marriage due to the cost - to which I clearly showed, that administrative costs aside, marriage costs only as much as you want it too. carefreewannabe:And you are in no position to denigrate marriage - or even speak of it with any real authority ! carefreewannabe:No one is made to believe anything. Marriage does exactly what it says on the labeling. What individual couples make of their unions rests with them. carefreewannabe:Believe what you please, countless numbers have done it and are doing it. Your lack of belief, conviction or faith in yourself or the calibre of man you can attract is your problem, not a failing of marriage. carefreewannabe:You are in no position to do any kind of telling. You suffice merely to back-bite and gainsay. And the usual poor logic - does lots of choice necessarily mean easy? Or speak to the quality of those choices vis-a-vis what one desires? carefreewannabe:Risible. Trying to be spiritual and pious at the same time - and failing at both. With the best reading, it speaks to your rejection of marriage as due to your personal failings - which I've maintained all along ! carefreewannabe:Why not campaign for "Relationships" as they are far better - especially for the emancipated and enlightened TV 2 Likes |
Re: When You Are Not Sexually Compartible With Your Partner by Ewuro4: 10:25pm On Feb 15, 2015 |
Teefee I admire your slideshows ... Thanks for shiarin |
Re: When You Are Not Sexually Compartible With Your Partner by Nobody: 11:15pm On Feb 15, 2015 |
TV01: Whatever you say, I will remind people of the fact that the choice is theirs, that there are pros and cons when it comes to marriage and MOST IMPORTANTLY that their value does not depend on marriage just because TeeFee says so. And just because you had a hard time finding a spouse, does not mean everyone does. I have no such problems and therefore getting married would be a very easy thing to do for me, no achievement at all. 1 Like |
Re: When You Are Not Sexually Compartible With Your Partner by TV01(m): 12:26am On Feb 16, 2015 |
carefreewannabe:And no one has asserted otherwise ! carefreewannabe:No one would guess there are any pro's from your posts. All you do is denigrate it, slur it and misrepresent it. Even as you utterly fail to grasp it's essence, workings or value. You have never said anything positive about it's absolute or relative - to other forms - good. If you - or anyone else wants to discuss marriage, I'm right here, but don't try and sell us this bogus "pros and cons" nonsense,when you never have a good word to say about it and are always harping on about the benefits of so called "de-facto" relationships. carefreewannabe:I make no judgements as to the value of individuals or their unions. I advocate for marriage as the best model for male/female relationships, their children and wider societal flourishing. What people want and choose is totally down to them - as is responsibility for the outcomes. If you have a better model, please expound on it. Or at least be fair and contrast marriage to other forms, instead of oscillating between making spurious assertions about it and being dismissive of it. carefreewannabe:Keep petting yourself ! As ever you demonstrate the shallowness of your thought process and understanding. Hard time finding a spouse? No CFW, I took a long time to search the matter out. I was diligent and arduous in approach - hence it took time to unearth a diamond. Not hard time finding a spouse, a long time to find one worthy of being called my spouse. Although I'm sure the difference may well be lost on you ! And having lots of people interested in "relationships" is not quite the same dear TV 2 Likes |
Re: When You Are Not Sexually Compartible With Your Partner by Bibors(m): 3:07pm On Feb 21, 2015 |
I understand the OP even when alot of people think he is sick. Many guys here experience same and never say it or will never admit it. The truth is that 1. Stolen bread is sweeter: making love to a strange woman will definitely be sweeter for you. 2. You knew from the beginning she was frigid: you only went ahead to marry her coz yiu think she will not cheat on you and that she will make a good mother. 3. You are very concerned with your cheating now coz ur conscience is pricking you. You are not alone. Many guys are in the same boat. The only way out is to keep looking unto Jesus. |
Re: When You Are Not Sexually Compartible With Your Partner by Nobody: 11:58am On Mar 18, 2015 |
Grendel: how do u cope? i dnt relly like d idea of couples staying apart. its tempting except the couple are self disciplined. the lord is ur strength |
Re: When You Are Not Sexually Compartible With Your Partner by Grendel(m): 5:04pm On Mar 18, 2015 |
ephee:My dear, I practically hate staying apart as a couple but she is not helping my condition. Taking care of her, always there for her but to give me what I want is always a problem. Don't let me lie you, it's not going to work. |
Re: When You Are Not Sexually Compartible With Your Partner by Nobody: 6:20pm On Mar 18, 2015 |
Grendel:i replyed ur pm. |
Re: When You Are Not Sexually Compartible With Your Partner by Grendel(m): 9:27pm On Mar 18, 2015 |
ephee:Haven't see your reply |
Re: When You Are Not Sexually Compartible With Your Partner by Nobody: 9:32pm On Mar 18, 2015 |
Grendel: chek again. |
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