There is this guy in my hostel who I am good friends,me and my close girlfriends always hang out with him and his other friends always talking,having fun,we pretty much flirt with each other But the thing bugging rite now is everyone shows a certain dislike and interest in the two of us.Fine we hang out a lot ,flirt a lot But I know my limits when flirting with a guy.sometime last year he started making obvious that he has feelings for me and he wants us to be 2geda but I said no cos he is in an off/on relationship with his girlfriend who I know.There has been some moments of attraction between two of us,and knowing I don't wanna be with him ,I have began to keep a safe distance.What pisses me off is d way our friends in our circle act towards us,we all play 2geda,hang out a lot ,my girlfriends flirts a lot with the other guys but whenever we just get to haang out or play around,they get angry at me,make remarks about his girlfriend,accuse us sleeping 2geda.They including the guys don't feel comfortable with d two us hanging out even though we are close friends.We have really helped each other a lot and he is more like a big bro to me now.But what could be the reason for their dislike towards our friendship?I really wanna know from u guys,maybe I should stop hanging out wit him?

Yea I think u should. So ur name won't be soiled. They think ur a girlfrnd snatcher.

College drama

Keep your distance.

winnieberry:
There is this guy in my hostel who I am good friends,me and my close girlfriends always hang out with him and his other friends always talking,having fun,we pretty much flirt with each other But the thing bugging rite now is everyone shows a certain dislike and interest in the two of us.Fine we hang out a lot ,flirt a lot But I know my limits when flirting with a guy.sometime last year he started making obvious that he has feelings for me and he wants us to be 2geda but I said no cos he is in an off/on relationship with his girlfriend who I know.There has been some moments of attraction between two of us,and knowing I don't wanna be with him ,I have began to keep a safe distance.What pisses me off is d way our friends in our circle act towards us,we all play 2geda,hang out a lot ,my girlfriends flirts a lot with the other guys but whenever we just get to haang out or play around,they get angry at me,make remarks about his girlfriend,accuse us sleeping 2geda.They including the guys don't feel comfortable with d two us hanging out even though we are close friends.We have really helped each other a lot and he is more like a big bro to me now.But what could be the reason for their dislike towards our friendship?I really wanna know from u guys,maybe I should stop hanging out wit him?

Winnieberry, hmmmmm, sound funi though.

@Op, face ur studies... Stop flirting and hanging out!!! Whats ur GPA? U're not sponsored by ur parents or guardian to Flirt and Hang out... Thats why people are hating... Create a limit. I understand sometimes in college u have 2 create a mixture of social life and academics... Yea, I've been there, done that... But I didn't loose focus...
From ur write up...
Seems hanging out and flirting is more in ur schedule than academics...

Cutehector:
Yea I think u should. So ur name won't be soiled. They think ur a girlfrnd snatcher.

Very true

Mhizizzy:


Very true

buh d worst tin is dat she won't heed to my advice but she wil continue seein d guy. Some girls sha

How will u feel if a girl flirts around your bf.

The guy is in a relationship whether on or off.

I suggest u keep space with him.

Don't allow people 2 see u as a bf snatcher.

[quote author=Cutehector post=30950630 How do you know I won't. Heed your advice?Anyway all said and done I have already started keeping my distance frm him But about them thinking am d reason for his on/off relationship seems unlikely they have been dating for more than three years now and I have been in the hostel fr just a year.And the flirting is not serious at all I just like hanging out with guys a lot in my spare time as opposed to girls,I just play around with them talking,and all that.Have made it clear to him that I won't date him and all.anyways tanks fr the advice.Thinking of moving out of the hostel already.

Op dont mind these people asking you to stay away from the guy oh!

I can bet my life u are both at the making out stage, all those lamentations u raised above is perfectly described by these four words 'story for the gods'.

Mprex:
Op dont mind these people asking you to stay away from the guy oh!

So what do you propose? Have her stay close to the guy in question while the relationship with her friends dwindle because of this same guy?

Winnie, it would be wiser for you to just allow him be, irrespective of the friendship. I believe the attraction between you two is as a result of the fact that you see each other almost everyday, hence, the fondness has been interpreted into feelings. It's always disastrous. Normally, your friends should not frown at it since you're not a baby. The best they could have done was to caution you. Don't be surprised IF one of your girlfriends have gotten involved with the guy before. That could possibly be a reason why they get angry each time they see you with him. Guys are never comfortable with the "big bro" thing, particularly when they have professed or poured out their heart. I see no reason why you should flirt with him in the first place. You knew he has a girlfriend and you still enjoy doing so. It doesn't speak well and could only imply "she doesn't mind if I have a girlfriend".

Just like wristwatch stated above, whether on/off, he has a relationship and you've got to accept that fact. You just need to set things right here.

winnieberry:
[quote author=Cutehector post=30950630 How do you know I won't. Heed your advice?Anyway all said and done I have already started keeping my distance frm him But about them thinking am d reason for his on/off relationship seems unlikely they have been dating for more than three years now and I have been in the hostel fr just a year.And the flirting is not serious at all I just like hanging out with guys a lot in my spare time as opposed to girls,I just play around with them talking,and all that.Have made it clear to him that I won't date him and all.anyways tanks fr the advice.Thinking of moving out of the hostel already.

pls do. U knw say girls dem dey like to dey spoil person name. Chu chu chu chu chu na so ur matter go dey spread befor u knw it, u fit hang urself out of vex. D earlier d berra. D fact dat u like hangin around wit a lot doesn't mean u'd hang around too much u'd lose ur self worth. Happy sunday

Why don't you go and find your own bf to flirt with?

Why don't you go and find your own bf to flirt with? You are the reason why that guy is not concentrating on his relationship.